00:00 I know when I started out trying to build my success,
00:02 I used to wonder, what's the it factor?
00:06 And do I have the it factor?
00:08 Three things, three things.
00:11 Courage, confidence, choices.
00:15 The three Cs, write 'em down.
00:17 How many times have you heard the word confidence,
00:20 confidence, confidence, but you don't get to the confidence
00:23 until you push through the courage.
00:25 Courage is required.
00:29 And then we're gonna build the confidence,
00:31 the confidence that comes from that.
00:34 You have to have courage, confidence,
00:37 and therefore you're gonna have choices.
00:39 I'm a person who grew up, and I'm still dyslexic.
00:45 I grew up in a fabulous house.
00:47 My parents were 62 years married.
00:49 I'm the third of four girls.
00:50 Amazing readers, I mean, they can read like this.
00:53 (imitates reading)
00:55 I mean, they can read.
00:57 And then there's me.
00:59 There are three pigs.
01:00 Child, that's enough for night.
01:03 Oh my God.
01:05 And so I worked really hard.
01:06 My mother was one of those mothers that stayed up
01:08 night after night after night.
01:09 Every night she would be like this,
01:10 "Come on, Gloria, you can get this, come on."
01:13 Read.
01:14 Oh my God, it didn't happen like that.
01:18 I truly had to do the extra.
01:20 I had to go out and get the tutoring,
01:21 and everybody was teasing me.
01:22 I'm just telling you, I had to push through, why?
01:25 Because I valued education.
01:26 What happened because of that?
01:28 Courage came the confidence.
01:30 And because of the confidence that came,
01:32 came the choices of the education.
01:35 And because of choices of the education,
01:37 when I called my mom and I said,
01:39 "Mom, I got into Harvard, Harvard."
01:43 She said, "You did?"
01:45 She was so shocked because of it.
01:50 Here's what I want to tell you though.
01:53 I'm the product of domestic violence.
01:55 10 years in domestic violence.
01:59 When I was dealing with domestic violence,
02:01 I was also Harvard Business School graduate.
02:04 I was also a superstar in my career.
02:07 I was also blowing it out of the water.
02:09 10 years.
02:11 When you look at me, you see a smart,
02:14 successful, powerful woman who stayed
02:17 in domestic violence for a long time.
02:20 Here's what I want to tell you about my path.
02:23 I didn't have the courage to leave for myself.
02:27 And then when I had the children,
02:29 I valued their life so much so that when the word came to me
02:33 that if you don't get out of there,
02:35 it's going to happen for them.
02:37 But it was a hard decision.
02:39 And once I made the decision,
02:40 everything became easy for me after that.
02:44 The confidence that came up,
02:46 because of that confidence, I had choices.
02:49 I am telling you, it shows over and over and over again.
02:54 Confidence is the it factor.
02:58 Your it will grow with your courage
03:01 because you have to have the choices
03:04 to create your best self.
03:07 Think about every time you hear somebody use the word fear.
03:10 Think about every time you use the word fear
03:14 and think about the examples that are all around you.
03:16 What decision have you been unwilling to make?
03:20 What conversation have you been unwilling to make?
03:27 What phone call have you been unwilling to make?
03:33 What goal have you been unwilling to set?
03:38 Where are you unwilling to find the courage
03:44 to jump up there, to drive your confidence
03:48 to yet another level?
03:51 When I run my race, I have to have the courage
03:54 to tell people, I'm not going to stand next to you
03:56 because you're moving too slow.
03:58 You're going too slow and you want me to wait for you.
04:02 Eagles will fly alone, but it doesn't have to be lonely.
04:08 Are you feeling me?
04:10 I'm telling you something.
04:11 That's why I would told you,
04:12 when you choose to be loud about it,
04:15 you have a lot of courage.
04:16 Ask yourself, where are you willing to go?
04:20 (upbeat music)
04:22 (upbeat music)
04:25 (upbeat music)
04:28 (upbeat music)
04:30 (upbeat music)
04:33 you
04:35 [BLANK_AUDIO]
