00:00 I thought I'd answer this question. Obviously it isn't a daft question at all.
00:05 Somebody is asking how I bring mine and my husband's children into the world.
00:10 Obviously my husband passed away four months ago but he preserved his sperm
00:17 before he went into hospital because we were a bit concerned about the impact
00:23 that the surgery and the medication might have on him because he was waiting
00:27 for a heart transplant and you have to be on high levels of antirejection medication.
00:31 We were already trying for a baby before he went into hospital.
00:34 So even if he came out of hospital it would give us the freedom to go and have a child
00:40 even if he wasn't in a position to with his medication.
00:44 We did obviously cross the idea that something might happen to him
00:50 so we signed all that relevant paperwork but that wasn't the reason that we preserved it.
00:54 So yeah I am starting my IVF journey which is so exciting and also look at my hoodie.
01:01 How cute is this? This is me and Luke on our honeymoon and it says there'll always be space in my heart
01:07 which was his entrance song to his funeral and it's like one of our favourite songs.
01:13 How special, I absolutely love it.
01:15 So legally I own the sperm. Now he's passed away that is because of the paperwork he filled out
01:22 to make that happen. So when he went to freeze his sperm
01:28 he filled out lots of paperwork about what happens.
01:31 If something was to happen to you, obviously death being one of them.
01:36 Also if he became like mentally incapacitated and couldn't make your own decisions.
01:40 In both of those cases he signed over to myself and gave permission for me to turn his sperm into embryos
01:49 and to also freeze them and to use them to bring children into the world.
01:53 There was also a section where he got to choose whether he wanted to be listed on the birth certificate
01:59 if I was to go ahead and, before pregnant, bring a child into the world and he took yes to that
02:07 which is just so nice because as a family that means he is biologically their parent
02:14 and also still legally their parent even though he's passed away.
02:18 Something so small is actually so significant to us.
02:23 So yeah it's really nice and I did actually get really paranoid about this after he passed away.
02:31 So I rang the clinic just to talk through it all and they were so reassuring and so kind.
02:37 I hope that answers the question.
