00:00 People need each other.
00:07 I need you and you need me.
00:09 I will fulfill your desire, you will fulfill my desire.
00:12 Let's connect.
00:15 And the day someone becomes needless, useless for you, it becomes difficult and unnecessary
00:26 to carry on with him or her, be it a person, a thing, a place, whatever.
00:38 That is a common way in which we relate to each other and that's also what is commonly
00:43 called as love.
00:45 I love you means I need you.
00:55 But there is another way of living and relating possible.
01:12 In this way, you say you are already alright.
01:20 You do not quite need someone.
01:27 Your aloneness is absolutely sufficient.
01:41 Not only is this aloneness sufficient, it is blissful.
01:52 It is blissful but you see that there are several others like you who are not living
02:00 in that bliss, who are unnecessarily punishing themselves by searching for fullness via the
02:18 other.
02:25 And then you relate not because you are needy but because you want to show to others that
02:37 there really is nobody who is needy.
02:47 At the level of society, at the level of body, obviously there would exist co-dependency.
03:01 Obviously there would be needs of one person that the other person would be able to fulfill.
03:13 Then at that level there must be social harmony and there is no shame in going to the tailor
03:25 to get your clothes stitched.
03:32 You do not start wincing in pain that in spite of all your spiritual advancement, you still
03:41 need the tailor.
03:46 It doesn't matter how spiritually advanced you are, you still need the tailor and the
03:53 doctor and the road and the train and the airplane.
04:03 We are not talking of that kind of dependence.
04:08 We are talking of inner psychological dependence.
04:15 That psychological dependence is needless and one can relate to the other without being
04:26 psychologically dependent and that relationship then is not of exploitation but of compassion.
04:35 Now you can really say that you love the other.
04:44 If the other exists in your life to serve your needs, then there can be no love.
04:56 There would be a lot of attachment, dependency, clutching, suffering.
05:19 Relate to give or relate for no purpose.
05:30 If you come across someone who is already living needlessly, then relate in fun.
05:42 Neither does he need anything nor do you.
05:45 So the two of you can happily dance for no reason whatsoever.
05:53 It's a great collaboration for nothing, for nothing or for fun.
06:02 The two of us are partners for nothing or fun.
06:13 And if you come across someone who still thinks he is needy, then relate to him in compassion
06:23 to rid him of his needless needs.
06:37 But kindly give up the impression that ever does man come to a stage where relationships
06:44 cease to exist.
06:47 Are you not always relating to the air that you breathe?
06:52 Are you not relating to the flow you sit on?
06:57 Are you not relating to the clothes you wear?
06:58 And if you're relating to the clothes you wear, how will you not relate to the tailor?
07:04 If you're relating to the floor you sit on, how will you not relate to the mason, the
07:09 builder?
07:16 Relationships are good, wonderful, provided we do not inject them with selfishness.
07:28 The great ones have all been great relators.
07:32 They related to entire humanity.
07:37 They found no divisions.
07:42 Their love, their compassion knew no boundaries.
07:49 They were in relationship with everybody.
07:56 And everybody includes animals, insects, birds, fish, even the so-called beings that are not
08:07 sentient.
08:11 Relate, relate prolifically, but relate without the inner hollow.
08:27 Do not use the other to plug in your inner hollow.
08:31 That is not love.
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