00:00Why don't you see that if you are really in love, then it is not the other's happiness
00:06that you want.
00:07It is the other's welfare that you want.
00:10And these are two extremely different things.
00:13Sometimes most of the times rather, what is really helpful to the other would not make
00:20the other happy.
00:21Why use the word other?
00:23Look at your own case.
00:24What is really helpful to you?
00:26Does it make you happy?
00:27No.
00:28Because the other makes you shiver.
00:31Now don't you want to endure that pain?
00:33Don't you know that it is important to pass through that pain?
00:37Can you avoid that pain and still be free?
00:40And if you can't be free without passing through that pain, why do you want to insulate your
00:46loved ones from that pain?
00:48Why?
00:49Let them pass through this pain and when they will pass through this pain, if you love them,
00:54you too will pass through pain.
00:56This pain will purify both of you.
