00:00If you want to have a great love life, then it's going to be important to know how to act naturally
00:03and be yourself on a first date. And if you're already a confident guy, this is not a question
00:06to you because you don't have to act, you just be. But for many guys, this is a sticking point
00:11because as soon as the nerves come up, the confident personality just gets up and leaves.
00:15So I'm going to cover some strategies to help you act more naturally and feel more confident
00:19on your first dates so you can be yourself. I'm Eddie Ballard, I'm a dating coach and the owner
00:22of conquering1.com and I've been coaching men since 2011 to build their confidence and meet
00:26the kind of woman they want. So let's jump into it.
00:30So the question about how to act on a first date is a little bit tricky because the answer
00:37is always going to be, be yourself. And that's true, but it's also terrible advice. The reason
00:42being that if you are a confident guy, you're going to walk into your date, you're not going
00:46to act, you're going to be who you are. Your natural personality is going to come out automatically,
00:50you don't have to do anything about it, and you're not going to be self-conscious, instead
00:53you're going to be focused on your date. And let's just call this you mode. And you mode
00:56is basically being yourself. But it takes on a whole new meaning when you're not confident.
01:01The you, when you're around your friends, is going to be a completely different guy than
01:04the you around your date who you're nervous around. So the real key here is to get enough
01:08experience so that when you go on first dates, it's nothing new, it's nothing special, it's
01:12just something you do. This is a regular occurrence. And that way you'll always bring the confident
01:16you with you. But until that happens, until you get that experience so you can be more confident
01:20on your first dates, there are a few things you can do to act more naturally and be yourself
01:24on your first dates. Here's some simple mindsets and tricks to act more naturally and be confident
01:29on your first dates. Number one is act like your ideal man. Now I understand this is a bit of a
01:32contradiction. This is not being you. But hey, in reality, the you is not going to, you know,
01:37the you you want to be is not going to come out on your first date because you're too nervous.
01:40So emulate someone. Emulate someone you respect. It can be, you know, a celebrity. It doesn't matter
01:45or somebody you actually know in real life. But emulate the cool they exhibit or their attitudes.
01:49So you can take a little bit of that on your first date. Number two, act out a confident
01:52guy's body language. The chances are if you're nervous, you're not going to be exhibiting a lot
01:55of confident body language. But pay attention to things like putting your hands in your pockets,
01:59right? Take your hands out. Keep your head up. Keep your chin up. Don't look at the ground.
02:03Don't roll your shoulders forward or breathe shallow, right? These all these kind of things
02:06would be really important because they're going to communicate a lot to the girl you're with.
02:10But they're also going to be communicating to your own brain, telling yourself how confident
02:14you are. You can instantly make yourself feel more confident just by standing straight or sitting tall.
02:19Number three, be calm, cool, and collected. Remember these three words when you're a date
02:22and you start getting nervous and you start fidgeting or screwing up in some kind of other way.
02:26Just remember, hey, be calm, cool, and collected. You got to coach yourself. You got to tell yourself
02:30to shut the fuck up and get on track. Otherwise, everything will fall apart. You need something
02:35that's going to anchor yourself to being the more confident you. Number four is take your attention
02:38off of yourself and focus on your date because, hey, you're there to make a connection. So focus on
02:42her and stop being so self-conscious and thinking about yourself. It's going to make the whole date much
02:46smoother. And with some time and practice and getting out on a lot more dates, you'll naturally
02:50start being able to act naturally and be yourself. For more first date info, check out the link in
02:55the description or the comment section below. Until next time, conquer and win.
