00:00Rachel, can you talk a little bit about like Masturbation 101? Because I think for some reason,
00:04it's still really scary for a lot of women. I get it. You know, like it's not something like
00:09you said, we don't want to talk about it. But also it's like, you know, I'll give vibrators
00:12all the time to like colleagues and friends. And I'm like, did you use it? And I go to their house
00:17and it's like still in the package, right? Can you talk a little bit about that taking that first
00:22step if maybe it's not something that you tried? Sure. I love that you said that because that's
00:27what happens. We go to a party where there's vibrators. We may buy one, but we put it in a
00:30panty drawer and it stays there, right? So I think the first part about the masturbating is kind of
00:37giving yourself permission to even do so. I think so many of us grew up in environments. We're
00:42touching ourselves. We never, you know, we weren't supposed to do that. If we got caught doing it,
00:46we were traumatized about it. So giving yourself permission to touch down there and understanding
00:51that it's a healthy process, particularly for women. We know that if you're married, for example,
00:57and you happen to masturbate, then you actually have a more active sex life. And it makes sense,
01:02right? Because you're priming the pump, as I call it. It's like, you've got friction on there
01:06regularly. So then when you're sitting, you feel it. You're like, oh, sex. Yes. Whereas if you let
01:12the area go to sleep, then you're not as primed or even thinking about sex. So the first thing is to
01:19give yourself permission and know that there are a lot of benefits health-wise and relationship-wise to
01:25masturbation. And then the next piece is going to be just spread your legs open and find your
01:29pleasure areas, right? I think we're scared to touch ourselves. You know, it's kind of, we think
01:34it smells, we think it's nasty. Smell it, you know, touch it. Smell it. It smells wonderful.
01:38It's a no-her.
01:39It is.
01:40It is.
01:41Whatever you need to do.
01:43Yes. Yes. And then the next piece is getting your brain ready for it. So is that an erotic novel?
01:51Is it porn? You know, is it whatever it is that turns you on getting into that space so that you
01:57can start to feel it throb. And I tell people all the time, particularly if you're skewing a little
02:02older or you're on birth control pills and you don't feel a lot of sensation down there. Sometimes
02:07the moment you turn that vibrator on or you start, you're like, I don't feel anything.
02:11And it may take up to 45 minutes. So just take the time, relax, get comfortable, make sure that
02:18you're in an area that you're not going to feel interrupted in and just think it, do it, touch it
02:24and go for it. Turn it on. Start low and slow though.
