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Tobly McSmith's Love Letter
Tobly tells himself that he does not love himself, but he will. Once he learns the word "transgender" and grows to accept it. He promises himself that he will go on to do incredible things, and that everything will be difficult but ok.

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00:00I don't know, scared?
00:03Dear little Tobli, you don't love yourself yet, but trust me when I tell you that you will someday.
00:09So this is my valentine to you, because I love you, and I need you to know that no matter
00:13how scared and confused you are now, it will all make sense one day.
00:18You won't hear the word transgender until college, and you won't fully understand what it means until you move to
00:24New York City.
00:25You'll fight against it for so many years, but you will, little by little, move towards it, and once you
00:31embrace it, you will dive headfirst, even though it's terrifying, into a journey that will someday complete you as a
00:37person.
00:39And for this, people will call you brave and strong, but most times you will not feel brave and strong.
00:45You'll be scared as hell, and you will think that brave and strong people don't get scared, but that's not
00:50true.
00:51Brave and strong people do what they need to do, no matter how scared they are, and that's what people
00:57will see in you, and you will make them brave and strong, too.
01:02You're going to achieve so many amazing things, things I can't even tell you about, because you won't believe me.
01:08Every step you make, and every time you fall, and you will fall, it will make you the person you
01:14are today.
01:15So keep moving forward, even when it's hard, and remember to keep getting up.
01:21I can't make you love yourself right now, and I wouldn't stop you from making the mistakes you will make.
01:27But I can tell you that on the other side, you will breathe deeply.
01:31You will let go of the weight of the world that you carry on your shoulders.
01:35You will stop worrying so much, and you will be free and happy, and you will love yourself.
01:42There will be a time in your life that you'll want to wear an asymmetrical haircut and only cowboy boots.
01:48No matter what, resist this temptation.
01:50It does not go well.
01:52Love, Tabli.
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