00:00I went on your phone to see if you had snapchat because I was like he could be
00:03sending dick pics. This was recent? No, that was probably when I was like 900 pounds
00:07pregnant being insecure because I couldn't put my shoes on.
00:13We live in a world where we often measure our self-worth by the amount of followers we have
00:18or how many likes we get. So how does this affect our romantic relationships? Is social media
00:22allowing us to connect and share our lives with the world or is it creating another level of
00:27insecurity within romantic relationships? This is how to love. Do you think that social media is
00:32helping or hurting relationships? Definitely hurting, definitely. I see my friends will let's say meet
00:39someone on the app, they're texting and then they get their Instagram, then they get their Facebook
00:44and I'll get a phone call. He liked this girl's picture at 3 42 a.m but he was supposed
00:50to text
00:51me when he got home how come and I was like how do you you shouldn't know this information. You
00:56should not know what they're doing it for. It's none of your business. Social media is a very bad
01:03thing for relationships, especially relationships that are new are very insecure or rocky to start
01:09because you have access to people who otherwise you never would have.
01:14In a certain sense it hurts, in a certain sense it hurts.
01:34Is social media ever gotten you guys in trouble with one another?
01:37Has social media ever gotten you guys in trouble with one another?
01:37There is one time when I was on a work trip and I noticed like around 2 a.m that
01:43Grandma over here
01:45had had too much of her favorite juice and was posting shirtless pics on Instagram.
01:51That's like not a big deal at all. I had just had like a nice tan, it was in the
01:55summertime and I thought it was fun.
01:58For Mother's Day, you didn't post anything on Facebook and another holiday and I was like crushed.
02:03I'm like, it's not real if you don't post it on Facebook.
02:06That hurt me, I wanted it to be official.
02:08Yeah, but I was here with you, like where it really counts.
02:12But isn't that so silly that we're living in an age where like a post on Facebook is validating to
02:17us?
02:18It's really messed up.
02:19It's the new reality.
02:21Do you like that he posts pictures of you?
02:24Yeah.
02:26Yeah.
02:27Do you make judgments about your own relationship based on relationships that you see on social media?
02:34I don't use social media platforms to justify or validate my relationship.
02:39Everybody knows we're together and it's not going to change.
02:42You guys are like a digital age relationship.
02:46It's true.
02:47Yes.
02:48It's sad but it's true.
02:49It's not sad.
02:51I mean, we are like, Tinder was like the tiny seed that started the big plant we have now.
02:56But it was the way that we knew each other existed and then we added each other on Facebook.
03:01I think we said two words to each other on Tinder and messaged her and got her number and then
03:06texted her.
03:06So it was very digital throughout the whole start.
03:10Yeah, I always say that I'm thankful that I met Brooks before the app revolution because I met him almost
03:15six years ago.
03:17Because I was reading this book, Modern Romance, everyone should read it.
03:21And it says how you're always looking for a unicorn except you're not a unicorn.
03:25That's, I think, the draw.
03:26But then I also read the benefits were that you find a much more compatible person nowadays because of the
03:31apps.
03:31It's just harder to get through because you constantly think there's something better out there.
03:36I've never dated on apps, so I don't know the ins and outs, but it sounds horrible and very superficial
03:41because you're just judging on a photo or swiping in whatever direction.
03:45You know, don't expect too much from dating out, but I think you'll find that if your expectations are low,
03:51it will surprise you.
03:52However, if you're expecting to find Prince Charming that fits every detail of your, like, love list, then you're going
03:58to be disappointed, of course.
04:00We broke up when we first got together and Brooks met someone off Grindr.
04:05That's embarrassing.
04:05Totally went on a date off Grindr.
04:07Yeah, I don't know. I wanted to try it out.
04:10Yeah, we've broken up for two weeks.
04:13It's sleazy. It's, like, not good.
04:14Yeah, it was sleazy.
04:16Yeah, well, in general.
04:19Also, there's predators out there.
04:21Yeah.
04:22There's predators.
04:23They're there to sleep with you, and that's it.
04:26Sometimes it sounds fun.
04:27Yeah.
04:30Louie said we're refinery. I like it.
04:33He showed me.
04:35He shows you Refinery29 on Instagram.
04:38Should everybody follow Refinery on Instagram?
04:41Yes.
04:42Yeah.
04:42Yeah, yes.
04:43Haha.
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