00:01all right there were some that were sent in dealing with ohio state so i'm saving those
00:04for when john is back oh okay stony people need advice you're just the guy we're turning to oh
00:12that's right the oldest guy in the building you can send them in dear john jansen at gmail.com
00:17we do them every week this week we got topics on wasting food kids birthday parties and grandkids
00:25okay we start with wasting food all right dear stony my wife is taking one of those glp1 shots
00:31to lose weight and i'm supportive the issue is when we go out to eat she has like three bites
00:36and then says she's full it's fine we can always take it as leftovers one problem she doesn't ever
00:42eat leftovers the food waste not to mention the cost is driving me crazy how do i handle it we
00:48don't eat all the same food so it's not just eat her stuff well you have to order probably if
00:55you can
00:55like half stuff like see if you have a some of the smallest portions like if you're going to a
01:01steakhouse instead of getting a you know 12 to 16 ounce new york strip go for the the six ounce
01:08filet
01:09that's what some of my friends have done who are on the glp they just eat less and they don't
01:16have
01:16that problem so that's what i would tell her to do just smaller portions when we order because i'm
01:23sick of paying for garbage but restaurants don't do a lot of small portions these days well you could
01:29maybe find an app like an appetizer instead of a full meal order and some of them do have really
01:34good appetizers and they're not as large as a full meal right or um see if they have see if
01:40there's
01:40something every once in a while that uh your husband could share ideally it's something you
01:46both eat because then he can take some of it to go exactly um i agree with you sony smaller
01:53portions
01:53maybe uh order a couple sides or do you know i i typically always get a salad with salmon and
01:59you
01:59can get literally a side salad which is very small with a full filet of salmon and it it's not
02:06that
02:06expensive and then if you have a little bit of leftovers you it's the salmon you're not going to
02:12bring home the lettuce but right i mean you could but most likely you'll eat that so you have friends
02:16that are on these how noticeable is it the appetite change for them look all right full disclosure i've
02:22taken it for a little bit okay i've lost some weight it helps but it hasn't my appetite is still
02:29somewhat similar than it was before so i think a lot of it is psychological but no i'm not a
02:34friend
02:34one of my friends my best friend basically he's lost like 70 pounds and he will go to dinner like
02:40and he just won't eat he's just not hungry right you're hungry but you're getting full fast so you
02:46only you take a couple bites and then you realize well i am full now does he make the adjustment
02:52like
02:52just orders less when he goes yeah okay yeah all right number two kid's birthday dear stony my son
02:58turned six recently and we hosted a pool party for him it was from noon till three he had friends
03:03come
03:04over and pizza was eaten and everyone had a great time right after i hosted a party with all my
03:09friends it was easier to just clean clean and prep the house once and i had prepared for both parties
03:16together there were coolers with booze at the kids party stored behind our backyard bar but it wasn't
03:22out and nothing was consumed until the second party crew started showing up so i had a few friends come
03:27over about 15 minutes early and i told them there were drinks and they could help themselves a little
03:33before three the parents of one of my son's friends came to pick him up and they were clearly appalled
03:39that there was alcohol she told us she would never have allowed her son to come over with that being
03:44present and had assumed that it was a dry party since it was a kid's birthday i tried explaining it
03:50was a
03:50dry party that we were hosting back-to-back parties and the first drink was cracked just a few minutes
03:55ago
03:55i hadn't consumed anything yet but she wasn't having any of my explanation who's in the wrong
04:02um she's in the wrong uh the person who was coming to pick up her kid uh because if she
04:08you told her
04:10the truth so she should have dealt with it just because there was alcohol there for a kid's six
04:15six birthday party at the end doesn't mean the six-year-old's going to be drinking alcohol
04:19or the or the parents are going to be drinking alcohol then you know if you if you like if
04:24you know
04:24the person she she was honest i i don't think she did anything wrong yeah i i i do agree
04:32with you
04:32stoney but i also when i first heard this i instantly thought well man you couldn't have separated them a
04:39little bit for like why not start your adult party maybe an hour after like probably would have been
04:46better when you have kids that don't belong to you or aren't your relatives like your your brother's
04:51kids or your cut like nieces and nephews there you have strangers kids basically at your house
04:56i wouldn't want to show up to a birthday party where i just drop my kid off and i see
05:01someone that i
05:01don't know consuming alcohol i think i would be a little taken aback i do think if the adult told
05:06me
05:06the parent told me oh this is what's going on i'd say okay thanks for telling me i understand
05:11but why not just separate the parties further why have them literally back to back i get that but i
05:16wouldn't have gotten that upset unless there was somebody there who was just when i hammered
05:21i don't have kids so like maybe i'm just completely out to lunch if someone's having
05:28one beer right not playing beer pong there's not some drunk fest a day i can't have a beer on
05:33the
05:33couch watching football while the kids are there of course and it's not maybe a big deal but i think
05:39because the mom wasn't there she dropped her son off at this home i don't know how well she knows
05:45these people it could just be a friend from school she's she doesn't know the parents that well
05:49i do i would be a little taken aback if i didn't know them well and i went to pick
05:54up my kid and
05:54there was people drinking alcohol i didn't know again not a big deal but i if you didn't know them
06:01well though you wouldn't leave them there right it depends how big that's a big thing for me if i
06:07don't know the people well i'm sticking around for a while when does that start happening where you
06:11like this this kid was six so clearly probably in like kindergarten having birthday parties normally
06:17parents stick around obviously things are a lot different than when i was a kid there's water
06:21involved swimming and all that and they don't aren't good swimmers i'm sticking around that's valid
06:26that's you said pool party right yeah that part's valid yeah so i don't know but i remember going to
06:31dead parties when i was a little kid my parents would drop me off and that would be it oh
06:35me too but
06:36not not at six i don't think well it's not a big deal just be transparent with the parents let
06:42everyone know what's going on you didn't do anything wrong no last one grandkids dear stoney the other
06:49night me and my dad got into an argument and i need advice on how to approach the conversation
06:53moving forward i'm 24 years young and i don't want kids in all honesty you got to be in a
06:59relationship
07:00which with modern dating now i don't know i haven't been in a relationship in over two years
07:04he says i'm not on social media anymore i deleted every account the new year i don't really go out
07:09to drink so i'm not meeting as many people regardless beyond that kids aren't very appealing
07:14to me i value my independence not to mention the cost of raising a family is outrageous when i tell
07:19my dad all this he gives me a hard time and says i have to pass on the lineage i'm
07:23his only son
07:24really laying on the guilt trip how do i talk about this with him just the way you wrote to
07:31to john and
07:32me exactly hey listen dad here's the deal i'm not in a relationship if something happens fine i don't
07:39want kids it's a it's too expensive i look i love our name and things like that and i get
07:44it it would
07:45upset you but it's not happening i have to be happy and kids unfortunately for you but for me
07:53they don't make me happy and that that's just the way it is yeah the dad needs to back off
07:58the kid
07:58he's only 24 years old right and you know what dad in this crazy freaking world where we live in
08:04i don't
08:04really want kids to be subject to what's going on in the world right now and for me the more
08:10somebody
08:10would badger me about it like when are you gonna have kids you should have kids we want pass on
08:14the
08:14name did that happen a lot um no but we definitely heard it i mean we were much older when
08:19we decided to
08:20have kids so we did hear it a little bit but that almost like made me not like that don't
08:25don't keep badgering me yeah like it's almost going to make it worse the dad just he said what
08:30he wanted to say the son needs to say hey because you did change because originally you didn't want
08:34kids now you're definitely not changing yeah we don't plan on having kids that's fine so what if
08:39your father said that that should have actually been for you you know i look i mean you're your own
08:43person you have to be comfortable with your own choices and not everybody's going to agree with you
08:46you'd hope your dad who loves you would get over it yeah and i'm sure people say you could change
08:52your mind because some people don't but yes he's 24 he could i mean what if he meets the person
08:56and
08:56and circumstances are different yes or there's a mistake made and you know to have the kid and
09:01you know you might still keep the kid you know hopefully i just had a follow-up question because
09:07he said i'm his only son does that imply that well that's why he wanted the lineage to be passed
09:13on
09:13you have daughters do you feel like your lineage isn't being passed on no like what are we like
09:18the roman gladiators like who are you to have some lineage that needs to be passed down with your son
09:22never well that is a good point though because there'll be no other stone because my sister got
09:27married so her kids are not stone the name dies with you yeah exactly it could be used as a
09:32middle
09:32name i mean like i have yes my my nephew my sister's son is his middle name is stone yeah
09:38so it could
09:39in some ways still be kind of passed on so you don't care about the cost of name legacy i
09:45have
09:45a brother i suppose he could have a kid you think he will probably not so what if kelsey change
09:50her
09:50mind how have you thought about how you might handle that conversation no i haven't i think she's
09:56more adamant than i am so i would be really stunned she's pretty young though she's got lots of time
10:03when that the maternal gene kicks in sometimes don't put this in my head this isn't about me
10:11this is deer stoney fantasy football no it's 97 one
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