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00:06:13and open your heart and we will learn how to help our children, especially when they are

00:06:23adolescent, we need to support them, we need to help them, we need to help them,

00:06:31the mother-in-law doesn't work for them to keep their children, so today the mother-in-law

00:06:35has to do so much that we need to invest in our children's help.

00:06:40We need to help them to help them, because we don't have to help them, we don't have to

00:06:46discuss them, we don't have to sit with them, and I thought that the mother-in-law

00:06:51will be very important to educate them. And this is the topic of today, please,

00:06:57I will give a disclaimer that if someone feels bad, he will not give it to us today,

00:07:01but it is very important in our master's work. Please, mother-in-law, learn, learn

00:07:08and then apply to your children. Good morning Pakistan.

00:07:20Welcome, welcome back, Good morning Pakistan.

00:07:51Welcome back, Good morning, Good morning.

00:07:52to educate parents, to explain parents, to tell parents how to do this work, this is

00:08:01very necessary.

00:08:02And understand, this is a topic of today.

00:08:04If your children are keeping a step in your life in such a part where we have kept a step

00:08:13in your life.

00:08:14And if anyone comes to that, no one can't handle those hormones.

00:08:22So, for our discussion, the experts in this topic are Sanna Khan, who is a parent coach

00:08:30and a psychotherapist.

00:08:32As-salamu alaykum Sanna.

00:08:33Welcome to the show.

00:08:35And with Dr. Duresh Sherwar, who is a pediatrician.

00:08:40As-salamu alaykum.

00:08:41As-salamu alaykum.

00:08:41Alhamdulillah.

00:08:42And then we are with Ali Balagamwala.

00:08:46And then we are with Rabia Rezwan, as mother, as educationist.

00:08:52As-salamu alaykum.

00:08:53Wa alaykum as-salamu alaykum.

00:08:53How are you?

00:08:54Alhamdulillah.

00:08:55How are you?

00:08:56Two daughters and one daughter.

00:08:57Okay.

00:08:59And have you been through this process of parents?

00:09:04What are your age groups?

00:09:06My big daughter is 18 years old.

00:09:08Okay.

00:09:09Mashallah.

00:09:09Then she is 15 years old.

00:09:11And she is 12 years old.

00:09:13Okay.

00:09:14And now she is a teenager.

00:09:17Yes.

00:09:18Yes.

00:09:19So yes.

00:09:21So yes.

00:09:51So obviously, you are very careful.

00:09:53So you are always thinking about it.

00:09:54You are not thinking about it.

00:09:55So you are thinking about it when you are gonna go to teenagers?

00:09:58Yes.

00:09:59As a mother, yes.

00:10:01In fact, in pre-teen, I started to prepare them for pre-teen.

00:10:06Especially, I remember my big son.

00:10:09I started to talk about puberty very early.

00:10:14And one thing that I would say is that

00:10:19I would never have any female uncomfortable in your presence.

00:10:27This is something that I would say,

00:10:32that if a woman in the presence of a woman

00:10:36feels uncomfortable in your presence,

00:10:39then you will fail.

00:10:41What I believe.

00:10:42This is a very initial stage.

00:10:45How do you feel directly?

00:10:47How did you explain it?

00:10:51Because many mothers don't talk to girls.

00:10:55No, they don't talk to girls.

00:10:57They don't know many things.

00:11:00When they go down or hit the puberty,

00:11:04they don't know much detail.

00:11:08I don't know the details.

00:11:09I don't know the story of the situation.

00:11:12I don't know the story of the situation.

00:11:13I don't know the story of the situation.

00:11:13But the story of the situation,

00:11:15I think you need to be very clearly

00:11:17to discuss yourself with your children.

00:11:20You close yourself.

00:11:22You share your experiences,

00:11:23not only dictate what I believe.

00:11:26This is something that you preach.

00:11:28That means you take your experiences,

00:11:31set examples and tell them.

00:11:33It is something that I can do.

00:11:34It is something that my life had.

00:11:37It is something that we should do.

00:11:38It is something that I have made.

00:11:38Yes, exactly.

00:11:39If I give examples,

00:11:41there are good examples,

00:11:42there are bad examples.

00:11:43The same examples that I can tell would,

00:11:45do and don't think are.

00:11:46Do's and don't think are.

00:11:47What could they happen on a thing?

00:11:49Do or don't think do.

00:11:51More or not.

00:11:52Dictatorship does not work like that.

00:11:54We've seen it, we've seen it, we've seen it.

00:11:56It's also my personal experiences.

00:11:59But if you understand all these things,

00:12:03you're catering with each other.

00:12:05So what age do we need to talk a little bit about?

00:12:12In my opinion, I have three daughters.

00:12:15I have 17, 12 and 5 years old.

00:12:18I was thinking of being a daughter.

00:12:20Now I think that the daughter is a big responsibility.

00:12:26You've also explained and experienced the role modeling.

00:12:32I think that this is the most important thing.

00:12:34Naturally, if you look at it,

00:12:36the prefrontal cortex, the logic, the rationality,

00:12:40is developed naturally.

00:12:42Now you can't go against that nature.

00:12:45If you've heard about it,

00:12:47girls are more mature.

00:12:48Basically, science knows that your prefrontal cortex

00:12:53is developing a long time.

00:12:55So the logic, the right, and the wrong thing

00:12:58takes a lot of time.

00:13:00I don't think anyone wants to learn the wrong things

00:13:03or understand.

00:13:05Every parent is best in their capacity.

00:13:07But actually, boys go through three stages.

00:13:11If you look at the first zero to six years,

00:13:12you need a son like sisters,

00:13:13you know her daughter's diabetes.

00:13:15With a daughter or daughter's age,

00:13:16you have children with any mother.

00:13:21Every day she is a mother

00:13:24or she has daddy

00:13:27or father,

00:13:30someone who has had a job around her to

00:13:32most care.onaise

00:13:43So that he feels that this male person is interested in me or this person is interested in me.

00:13:50Now I can understand that there are separations or divorces or you know,

00:13:55the differences are increasing. Having said that,

00:13:59they also know where they have to supply.

00:14:04If they don't get in the house, then they learn their friends.

00:14:08Because boys are supposed to be in packs.

00:14:11They like to be in groups.

00:14:14They call a friend and call a friend on the phone for a long time.

00:14:19If a child is a very excessive time on the phone,

00:14:22or is not able to socialize, then there is something serious.

00:14:25Maybe you need to take help, maybe you need to take support.

00:14:28Because a girl wants to pack.

00:14:31After that, when a child is growing from 14 years old,

00:14:34then she needs a role model.

00:14:36Which is an ideal role model.

00:14:38Whether he is a mentor, whether he is a child,

00:14:40whether he is a friend, whether he is a friend,

00:14:42whether he is a coach, whether he is a teacher,

00:14:44whether he is a teacher,

00:14:46whether he is a teacher,

00:14:46so that the child can be the right brain,

00:14:50rather than just the children we provide.

00:14:53So I think if we can understand the basics,

00:14:55you can understand this.

00:14:56Because, you know,

00:14:58there are three children,

00:14:59they have three different personalities.

00:15:00For example,

00:15:03I work with teenagers,

00:15:06and it has been more than ten years,

00:15:08that I work with teenagers.

00:15:10If you look at teenagers,

00:15:12generally,

00:15:14boys,

00:15:14generally,

00:15:15you see,

00:15:16in the first time,

00:15:17you barely see that there are very rare women

00:15:20who have had addictions,

00:15:22or substance abuse.

00:15:24Now, boys are so common,

00:15:26boys are so common.

00:15:28Now, girls are not coming.

00:15:29But you see,

00:15:29in the first time,

00:15:30the core reason,

00:15:31when we have done researches,

00:15:33and I know that,

00:15:33girls are not allowed

00:15:35to show their vulnerability.

00:15:38That we are sad,

00:15:39we are depressed,

00:15:39we are disappointed.

00:15:41So,

00:15:42what happens with any addiction?

00:15:45What happens with any addiction?

00:15:46The inhibitions,

00:15:46the guards,

00:15:48and then you can be yourself.

00:15:51So, those addictions help

00:15:52show their vulnerability,

00:15:54whether it is sadness,

00:15:55or anger,

00:15:56or fear.

00:15:57If we say,

00:15:59children,

00:16:00that no,

00:16:02people can also be hurt,

00:16:03that the crying is okay,

00:16:05you can feel disappointed in life,

00:16:07and the emotions,

00:16:08God made emotions.

00:16:10These emotions,

00:16:10All those emotions are made by God.

00:16:13They feel a blessing from them.

00:16:16They feel very big.

00:16:17Many children who are on the spectrum,

00:16:19are not feeling the emotions.

00:16:21You can't feel the emotions.

00:16:21So, think that emotions are so great.

00:16:23If we give children a house,

00:16:25have no money, or knowledge or education. But it's a place where the child can actually grow.

00:16:33You can't stop the growth, this is a process, it will go out. But if we facilitate the growth

00:16:41and start supporting the children, then the middle of the problem is going to end.

00:16:46So, if I ask that, like a husband doesn't know how to develop a relationship with children,

00:16:57so that they can talk with their own.

00:17:00The parents don't come, they don't come into parenting.

00:17:07They become a parent, they become a parent, they become a parent.

00:17:08They become a parent, they become a parent.

00:17:10They become a parent, they become a parent, they become a parent.

00:17:15Now, what do I do?

00:17:16I do a lot of time.

00:17:17I don't know how to handle the situation.

00:17:20So, what do people come to the show, what do people do?

00:17:25The important thing is that we need to understand what is adolescence and what is puberty.

00:17:31As we have told you, there is a growth in the child's childhood.

00:17:36We talk about the first thousand days,

00:17:38that means preconception, second birth, and then another thousand days,

00:17:43which is the second life.

00:17:44That's why we say that early child development is very important.

00:17:47In which there is holistic development,

00:17:48the growth of child's child, emotional, emotional, and social bonding.

00:17:52Now, when the age of adolescence, which we usually talk about as a world health organization,

00:17:59which sets the whole world's age,

00:18:02then the age of 10 to 19.

00:18:04In that, there are four things that are very changes.

00:18:07One is rapid growth.

00:18:08The body mass is very quickly.

00:18:10In the home, they say that the child is very quickly.

00:18:13There are hormonal changes.

00:18:15You can see that the child is very angry and shows that the child is very angry.

00:18:23Actually, the emotions, the hormones start to work together.

00:18:27Growth hormones, females, females also start to work together.

00:18:32Children start to work together.

00:18:33Now, when it comes to adolescence,

00:18:35the age of puberty is also hit.

00:18:37Now, when the age of puberty is hit,

00:18:38the age of puberty is about 9-14 years old.

00:18:45The age of puberty is about 12-16 years old.

00:18:49The typical age of puberty is because of the emotions and hormones,

00:18:53the thinking process is very different.

00:18:57For example, the child follows a role model.

00:19:01The role models of puberty are the best person in the world.

00:19:07When the child goes to school,

00:19:09the child becomes their own circle,

00:19:11their own community.

00:19:12They compare their friends with their parents,

00:19:15their teachers.

00:19:17You can see that when the child goes to school,

00:19:20their teachers are always the best.

00:19:22A teacher will always become a role model.

00:19:25They don't get angry.

00:19:26They talk very well.

00:19:28They understand everything.

00:19:29Now, what role of mothers should be the most important role in our society?

00:19:34The most important role in our society is lacking.

00:19:36We are not afraid of discussing ourselves.

00:19:40I will talk to you, you will talk to them,

00:19:43but I will not talk to my children.

00:19:45Or, my children will find a second source.

00:19:48They can be a teacher,

00:19:49they can be a douche,

00:19:50but they don't have parents.

00:19:52Unfortunately,

00:19:53we don't have discussion as a family talks.

00:19:55It doesn't happen to us.

00:19:57Our children have mothers come to us.

00:19:59They say the puberty is hit.

00:20:00What do you do?

00:20:01So, your children do not have counseling,

00:20:03how do you know your child is going to be a child?

00:20:05After all,

00:20:06the children come to us,

00:20:08their frustrations show us.

00:20:09They show them,

00:20:10because they don't have discussion.

00:20:12If you have a healthy mood, you can control emotions and bad emotions.

00:20:18God has made a happy and a bad mood.

00:20:19The mood of the mood is in the mood of the mood of the mood.

00:20:25The mood of the mood is in the mood of the mood.

00:20:28So you have to balance balance.

00:20:30When you are in adolescence and puberty,

00:20:34you have to release anger hormones and dopamine.

00:20:38The most important thing is that children identify their body.

00:20:42What is the shape of the body?

00:20:44What are the changes?

00:20:46We all know that there are specific changes in girls and boys.

00:20:50They are feeling the same.

00:20:52Parents don't tell us that this will happen or that we are going through.

00:20:55Rabia told us that we are feeling the same.

00:20:59If they know the mood of the mood of the child,

00:21:00children are feeling the same.

00:21:02If we are more than aware of the mood of the mood of the child,

00:21:05when children are feeling the same with the mood of the mood of the child,

00:21:06we should discuss the mood of the mood of the mood of the child.

00:21:09What will there be even more?

00:21:10How will there be hormonal changes?

00:21:12We should think parents should be the first person

00:21:15to discuss the mood of the child's emotions and every problem

00:21:18and every frustration.

00:21:20This will be whatever you will teach them to be properly.

00:21:23The hormones will start suffering.

00:21:25But how do you cater it in a positive way?

00:21:28Now, as little children, we have a lot of stories in books.

00:21:33Good touch, bad touch, so that God doesn't do anything like that.

00:21:38So now we have started reading books through the children.

00:21:42Now these children are big.

00:21:44There is something like this.

00:21:47Now we can treat them as a child.

00:21:50We can treat them as a child.

00:21:54I want to teach them how to connect, how to talk.

00:22:01Now, as you go to school, you are giving guidance to children.

00:22:06So today, you give a workshop for the parents.

00:22:09Look, the thing is that the rest of the guests have said that one thing is your communication channel.

00:22:20When the child is able to express it easily with you, it is what it is.

00:22:26Not that you say, man, I don't have time.

00:22:28Go, go, go, go.

00:22:29So most of our lives are so busy.

00:22:32That the communication channel is closed.

00:22:35When the parents are closed with the parents,

00:22:38So next day, when they come to school,

00:22:40their peers or their mentors are developed.

00:22:46Now we have to see this as parents also,

00:22:48that who is being a mentor?

00:22:50Right?

00:22:51Who is being associated with them?

00:22:54Basically, you are the sum of five people around you.

00:22:57The average of five people around you.

00:23:00It is very necessary.

00:23:02Where is your daily input from?

00:23:05When you are in, the output will go out.

00:23:09Right?

00:23:09So the thing is,

00:23:11if you want to send the child to the school,

00:23:15who is sending the school?

00:23:17It doesn't have a choice for you.

00:23:19But who is associated with that school?

00:23:22He has guidelines.

00:23:23Look,

00:23:24people will meet you.

00:23:26They will meet you.

00:23:27They will meet you.

00:23:28These things,

00:23:29all the highlights.

00:23:31As Sana said,

00:23:32these stages are coming,

00:23:35and they need stages.

00:23:37So,

00:23:37you are meeting them with their mentors.

00:23:40Right?

00:23:40How are your friends?

00:23:42This is necessary.

00:23:44For example,

00:23:46I was doing a young adult who was drinking.

00:23:50And he said,

00:23:51But,

00:23:52Ali,

00:23:53my best friend is my father.

00:23:56So,

00:23:57why are they making me?

00:24:00When they can tolerate them in their circle?

00:24:04Why?

00:24:05So,

00:24:05you have to see,

00:24:06how many people are associated with your children.

00:24:10Because,

00:24:11the same communication channels,

00:24:13they say,

00:24:14Father,

00:24:15some friend,

00:24:16some friend,

00:24:17some coach,

00:24:17some teacher,

00:24:19who are they?

00:24:23Who are they?

00:24:24They say,

00:24:25action speaks louder than words.

00:24:27You are preaching something,

00:24:29but you don't follow it alone.

00:24:30You don't follow it for the children.

00:24:31They will go over their mouth.

00:24:33Because,

00:24:34you are setting an example for them.

00:24:36They say,

00:24:47it's not only on a mother.

00:24:49It's also on fathers.

00:24:50They keep their children in their own way,

00:24:53from the parents,

00:24:55from the parents,

00:24:56from the parents,

00:24:56from their own,

00:24:59from their own,

00:25:00from their own.

00:25:01So,

00:25:02that's a very important thing.

00:25:04It's not only to say,

00:25:05to speak,

00:25:06to teach,

00:25:07to teach,

00:25:08to teach,

00:25:09to teach,

00:25:11to teach,

00:25:11to teach.

00:25:12It's not going to be a problem.

00:25:14The child is in an automatic situation.

00:25:18Yes,

00:25:19it's time for me.

00:25:20After 6 months,

00:25:21my dad will give a lecture.

00:25:22Listen for a minute.

00:25:23Let's go.

00:25:24It's a very important question.

00:25:25I'm going to break,

00:25:26but we will get the answer after this.

00:25:29As they say,

00:25:30that father is a role model.

00:25:32For example,

00:25:33that father is not right.

00:25:35Okay?

00:25:36So,

00:25:36how will this circle

00:25:37break?

00:25:38Now,

00:25:39the mother is from a good home,

00:25:40the father is not good.

00:25:42The mother wants to give her

00:25:43good education.

00:25:45But,

00:25:45in front of her,

00:25:46the role model,

00:25:47who is the father,

00:25:48is not a woman.

00:25:49She drinks,

00:25:50she drinks,

00:25:51she drinks,

00:25:53but the mother wants to give her

00:25:55good education.

00:25:56Now,

00:25:57what will she do?

00:25:57Now,

00:25:58it's a brilliant question.

00:26:00After a short break,

00:26:01we will get the answer.

00:26:04Good morning,

00:26:05Pakistan.

00:26:11Welcome,

00:26:12Welcome back.

00:26:13Good morning,

00:26:13Pakistan.

00:26:14Yes.

00:26:14So,

00:26:15my question is,

00:26:17that if,

00:26:17as you said,

00:26:19that if,

00:26:20role model,

00:26:21father is,

00:26:22and,

00:26:23especially,

00:26:23the children,

00:26:24the children,

00:26:25they are doing

00:26:26the training,

00:26:26they are doing

00:26:30so,

00:26:30if,

00:26:32the father's

00:26:33training not so good,

00:26:34and the mother wants to

00:26:36do the best,

00:26:38then,

00:26:38as the mother,

00:26:40first,

00:26:40the mother,

00:26:41then,

00:26:42what will she do?

00:26:44What will she do?

00:26:45What will she do?

00:26:45Who will she do?

00:26:49That,

00:26:50you know,

00:26:50I have five,

00:26:51six boys in my house.

00:26:53We cannot do anything

00:26:54because,

00:26:55we cannot do anything

00:26:56we cannot do anything

00:26:57but,

00:26:57we can understand it

00:26:59and,

00:27:00we should not understand it.

00:27:02Remember that,

00:27:03male ego is also a thing.

00:27:05And,

00:27:06to protect it,

00:27:07it is also a woman's work.

00:27:08You can say that,

00:27:09you are guilty,

00:27:10rejection,

00:27:11it is because of you.

00:27:12It's a central role that

00:27:13she has to tell us,

00:27:14it's a cycle.

00:27:16However,

00:27:17you do it for you,

00:27:18if you want to do it.

00:27:18If you want to guide yourself,

00:27:19the child's job,

00:27:20the child's job,

00:27:21the child's work,

00:27:22then,

00:27:22if you want to make it

00:27:25and get it

00:27:26,

00:27:27He is also a child.

00:27:34But the thing is,

00:27:35it is not given that

00:27:36that you want to make it

00:27:38as a самого

00:27:39that if your mom looks like this, it can be very bad.

00:27:45It doesn't look bad at the parents.

00:27:48But if you have a specific person to tell us,

00:27:51like we talked about breaking down,

00:27:53or like a behavior,

00:27:55or that they have anger issues,

00:27:57or they are crying, or they are crying,

00:27:59or they are crying,

00:28:00or they are crying.

00:28:00Or they are crying.

00:28:05Yes, it is.

00:28:05You are your parents.

00:28:07They have some other habits.

00:28:08They behave like this.

00:28:11But they are not being treated like this.

00:28:12They are not doing anything.

00:28:13Don't do normalize your home.

00:28:16Please, please.

00:28:17Please, please.

00:28:18Please tell them first.

00:28:19If your father is like, then mother says,

00:28:23that you must tell the child that this is wrong.

00:28:27And I want you not to do this.

00:28:29You do not do this.

00:28:31Because in the beginning of the school,

00:28:32you observe everything.

00:28:34If this is wrong, then I will tell you how to tell you.

00:28:37And you can tell them that they are the age.

00:28:41But in your age,

00:28:42I will tell you that the father is saying that you are upset.

00:28:47That is not a good thing.

00:28:49That is not a good thing.

00:28:50That is not a good thing.

00:28:51That is not a bad thing.

00:28:52But you will not do that.

00:28:54I want you to do that.

00:28:56And that will be the same thing.

00:28:59Because you will be the same thing.

00:29:01You are the same thing.

00:29:01The scene is on the face.

00:29:03It is on the face.

00:29:05You are the same thing.

00:29:13but there are many things in our homes that are not going to follow Islam and the mother wants to

00:29:22do a good treatment of the child.

00:29:25So how will the child save drugs, alcohol, when she sees that they are consuming?

00:29:32I would like to add something that you have said to the child that the mother is doing this, it

00:29:39is not a good way.

00:29:41They should not do this without raising the finger.

00:29:44But at the same time, it is important that they should not do this, so what should we do?

00:29:49I feel like in our culture, specifically in Asian culture, it is a very common thing that we just tell

00:29:55children what to do.

00:29:56But we do not say what to do.

00:29:58Don't jump on the sofa, don't jump on the sofa, don't jump on the sofa.

00:30:02But we do not say that you have to jump on the ground, jump on the garden, jump on the

00:30:06trampoline.

00:30:08So when we say that children do not do this,

00:30:10then you know that unconscious mind doesn't know the word.

00:30:14They don't understand that they do it.

00:30:17You see, when we say that children do not do it, they do not do it.

00:30:21Because they do not know the solution.

00:30:24Specifically with boys, they do not know the solution.

00:30:26And they do not know the solution.

00:30:29If they tell them that they will be angry, heartbreak, bad time, and anger,

00:30:35you will be able to regulate and behave.

00:30:40Exactly.

00:30:40What should you do?

00:30:41What should you do?

00:30:42What are your strategies?

00:30:42What should I do?

00:30:43What should I do?

00:30:44What is your gestionate of your feeling?

00:30:49How should I do that?

00:31:06What should I do?

00:31:09What should I do so?

00:31:10What's your mind?

00:31:11through different story books that you have talked about

00:31:16different content

00:31:18and how many examples of Islamic history

00:31:24everything is there

00:31:26everything is there

00:31:28and then reflection

00:31:31if you have seen drama or such

00:31:35what opinion is

00:31:38what reflection is

00:31:39when children express themselves

00:31:42that it's a safe place to be able to say

00:31:46it's not like this

00:31:47because unfortunately

00:31:50we say that

00:31:53life is wrong

00:31:54life is wrong

00:31:56because today

00:31:57our children have access

00:31:59to all the content

00:32:02that we have

00:32:04in our age

00:32:05they get to see

00:32:05and they get to see

00:32:06things

00:32:07today

00:32:08we give them

00:32:09very easy access

00:32:41but today

00:32:41we give them

00:32:41right

00:32:49we give them

00:33:11that

00:33:11the age

00:33:11is

00:33:11that

00:33:11curiosity

00:33:11exactly

00:33:12don't have to be

00:33:12sorry

00:33:13don't have to be

00:33:14sorry

00:33:40don't have to be

00:34:09no

00:34:11you

00:34:13you

00:34:14you

00:34:39have to set

00:34:41that

00:34:41you

00:34:42you

00:34:51you

00:34:52you

00:34:53you

00:35:04you

00:35:06and the way I was doing that, it's not right.

00:35:09If they're throwing matters, or they're angry,

00:35:12or they're abuse of domestic help,

00:35:16it's not right.

00:35:17So, we'll tell them to please the children.

00:35:18But ask them.

00:35:19When I have problems,

00:35:21and I have any problem in my home,

00:35:24I say that if you're doing that,

00:35:26then they don't have a wrong way,

00:35:27this is not the right way.

00:35:29I'm also doing that thing.

00:35:30I've done it before.

00:35:32But when I've done it,

00:35:34I've done it wrong.

00:35:35and we will grow and grow together.

00:35:40Because then things will change for you.

00:35:43It's a way of saying it.

00:35:45If you have violated your husband,

00:35:50then you think that your father is like this.

00:35:55But with the father, there is also a power.

00:35:58A child is in our lives and shows that

00:36:02there are many things from power.

00:36:05If the father has power,

00:36:07they will play the power and get them.

00:36:09So why do I change it?

00:36:12Some of them have power.

00:36:13Actually, we are saying that

00:36:15there are many families.

00:36:16There are many families.

00:36:17It is great.

00:36:20It is never all black and never all white.

00:36:23Black and white,

00:36:23we often say, why is this happening today?

00:36:27Because this is the issue.

00:36:28It is not necessary.

00:36:29I, as a person,

00:36:33in every situation,

00:36:33smartly behave.

00:36:35I can handle it.

00:36:36It is also a problem.

00:36:37The very good couple

00:36:38is to know that

00:36:40this situation will be my mother.

00:36:43This situation will be my mother.

00:36:45Then you can see that

00:36:47my father will often say,

00:36:48I have to go with my friends.

00:36:51First, ask your mother.

00:36:53They put the ball in her coat.

00:36:56Then the mother,

00:36:57because of their friends,

00:36:58there is awareness that

00:36:59their family is like,

00:37:01the mother knows their father,

00:37:02everyone knows their father.

00:37:04So the mother will decide

00:37:04the better.

00:37:05So the father,

00:37:06that's why the mother

00:37:07gave it to her.

00:37:08Because the father doesn't know

00:37:09that the family

00:37:09doesn't know that

00:37:10they don't know that

00:37:13they don't know.

00:37:18Reasoning doesn't know.

00:37:19Reasoning doesn't know

00:37:20you don't know.

00:37:20Reasoning doesn't know

00:37:20logic.

00:37:21Today's child is logic.

00:37:22Today's child is logic.

00:37:24Today's child is logic.

00:37:24He asks the order

00:37:26after following.

00:37:27If this is wrong,

00:37:29then you have to know

00:37:30positive strategies

00:37:31and also to know.

00:37:32Okay,

00:37:33as we have,

00:37:34when our friends

00:37:35were sitting in a company

00:37:36in our family,

00:37:38we had to know

00:37:39that this is not right.

00:37:41This is not right.

00:37:42This is not right.

00:37:43They were not right.

00:37:43They were able to learn

00:37:45and then we were able

00:37:47to not get it.

00:37:49We had to listen

00:37:49on a lot of times.

00:37:51But today

00:37:51we can't say this.

00:37:52our children.

00:37:53Because it was important

00:37:54to communicate

00:37:56with children

00:37:57that we don't do this.

00:37:59But you know

00:38:00the generation

00:38:01we can't talk at them.

00:38:03You have to talk with them.

00:38:05And the difference

00:38:05is that if we

00:38:06are like dictating

00:38:07in the old age

00:38:08of dictatorship

00:38:09and

00:38:10speaking

00:38:13we don't learn

00:38:14from our parents,

00:38:16we don't learn

00:38:16from our parents.

00:38:17We also learn

00:38:19that we don't really

00:38:20fall down.

00:38:21That's right.

00:38:22That's the way

00:38:22the child of today

00:38:23will not learn from our

00:38:24lectures.

00:38:26Talk through

00:38:27the situation

00:38:28which means

00:38:29that if there is

00:38:29a problem

00:38:30that the child

00:38:31is angry

00:38:32or someone

00:38:33has done something,

00:38:34or something

00:38:34wrong,

00:38:35tell us

00:38:36how to handle

00:38:37how to handle

00:38:37rather than

00:38:39because the moment

00:38:40you give an instant solution

00:38:42that the child

00:38:44feels like

00:38:44I am not good enough.

00:38:46The child

00:38:46feels like

00:38:47there is no capacity

00:38:48or capacity

00:38:49and there is no

00:38:50capacity

00:38:50and there is

00:38:51a dependency

00:38:51to develop

00:38:52rather than

00:38:53that they can understand

00:38:54that I can also

00:38:55brainstorm

00:38:56and there are

00:38:5710 strategies.

00:38:58There are so many resources.

00:39:00Ask questions.

00:39:01Ask good quality.

00:39:03Ask questions.

00:39:06There are

00:39:07many ways

00:39:08that we can

00:39:10do

00:39:11that

00:39:11that we can

00:39:12do

00:39:12and we can

00:39:13If we can

00:39:13do it,

00:39:16then what can we do?

00:39:17What can we do?

00:39:18What are the hopes?

00:39:18Is the situation around?

00:39:20I have a very important question.

00:39:23I have seen a lot of questions.

00:39:26I have seen a lot of questions.

00:39:30I have seen a lot of questions.

00:39:33There is a lot of

00:39:33that we want to know,

00:39:33do some of us.

00:39:33love of people

00:39:33who help us?

00:39:34We look good.

00:39:37There are huge are not

00:39:39people from this world

00:39:41that we are

00:39:42here.

00:39:43There are a lot of

00:39:44other struggles.

00:39:46There are a lot of

00:39:47double dents.

00:39:53There are a lot of

00:39:55total and

00:39:56more people

00:39:56can find

00:39:57people and

00:39:57others like

00:39:57they can

00:39:59be

00:40:00or certain age starts to happen.

00:40:05Now, mother-in-law, how do they know how to help them

00:40:09or how to explain the girls?

00:40:11The most important thing is that your friends circle, it counts a lot.

00:40:18If your child is coming out, where are you going,

00:40:20how long you are going to go and sit with them.

00:40:24It's a specific circle in which children are comfortable with their friends,

00:40:28their routine cycles are set.

00:40:31We all know that mothers and fathers,

00:40:34we all know that the children are going out for 2 hours.

00:40:38Now, after 2 hours,

00:40:40you can ask where you went,

00:40:43who was with you,

00:40:45what did you do?

00:40:46Because when you ask them,

00:40:49there will be no answer.

00:40:51Now, there are people who were there,

00:40:54but in groups,

00:40:56every child is not bad.

00:40:57But if the group is wrong,

00:40:58then the child is also bad.

00:41:00Because they have to be cool.

00:41:02Exactly.

00:41:04To single out someone,

00:41:06they feel like you have a social death.

00:41:09Yes.

00:41:09So, it's very important to blend in.

00:41:13How do you blend in?

00:41:14Now, if everyone is throwing numbers,

00:41:17they say,

00:41:18I'm going to go ahead and do it.

00:41:22And then,

00:41:23when they're going to showmanship,

00:41:25I'm going to do better,

00:41:26I'm going to do better,

00:41:27I'm going to do better or worse.

00:41:29Right?

00:41:31It goes on to the point where they say,

00:41:48I'm going to do better.

00:42:02Yes.

00:42:02Exactly.

00:42:02With the group,

00:42:04I'm going to do better.

00:42:06Because,

00:42:06this group,

00:42:07I have done a lot of work.

00:42:11Now,

00:42:12I'm very disappointed,

00:42:13saying,

00:42:13to understand this person,

00:42:15and then,

00:42:15this work has been made.

00:42:18There are people who ask a number

00:42:20from what they say for men.

00:42:21They say,

00:42:22to whom they feel uncomfortable.

00:42:25comfortable feeling.

00:42:26This is the fact that I don't want to cross the boundaries of someone's personal boundaries.

00:42:31So my question is that my 16-year-old daughter is going to treat her in a way that my

00:42:37daughter

00:42:38will leave this job and her feeling that this is not just a reward.

00:42:43Don't do this work.

00:42:44This is wrong.

00:42:45This is not going to cross the boundaries of someone's personal boundaries.

00:42:48I'm saying that my father and her husband have to say this to the child.

00:42:56The child has to say that the child has to say that the child has to say that the child

00:43:01has to say that.

00:43:02No one has to answer their question.

00:43:06The first thing is that I am saying that shame.

00:43:11When we carry shame, the problem will increase.

00:43:18But when you go to a safe place and ask someone to support,

00:43:22that this problem is coming, tell me a solution.

00:43:24Because there is no solution for everything.

00:43:26You want to be a therapist, you want to be a doctor, you want to be a specialist.

00:43:31Any behavior that is unresourceful or is wrong or is inappropriate,

00:43:36is just looking at you.

00:43:39It's the tip of the iceberg.

00:43:40Under the iceberg, there is an unmet need.

00:43:44That's why they are looking at behavior.

00:43:47That they are hurting, they are taking care of, they are taking care of,

00:43:49they are taking care of, they are taking care of.

00:43:52Under the iceberg, there is an unmet need.

00:43:55And that unmet need comes from three places.

00:43:58Need for being loved, need for being valued and need to belong.

00:44:02If you, as you can support the iceberg, the amount you will do,

00:44:09you will lose.

00:44:10The amount of damage you will lose.

00:44:12The amount of damage you will keep, the amount of shame you will do.

00:44:17The amount of shame you will do.

00:44:28The amount of failure is because of your fault.

00:44:29The root cause of the problem is always three.

00:44:32If you think that if you don't listen to a waiter,

00:44:36and if you're triggered, you're angry,

00:44:38then you'll see what's in those three things.

00:44:41I'm not being valued.

00:44:42I'm not being valued.

00:44:44Innately, if you see,

00:44:46many times when the attraction,

00:44:48the attraction to each other,

00:44:50to keep their paths,

00:44:51or to exchange numbers,

00:44:53it's mostly coming from the need of being loved.

00:44:56It means that in the first six or seven years,

00:44:59the child wanted a child from a mother,

00:45:02physical touch, hugs, kisses,

00:45:04the intimacy patterns are established in the first 40 days.

00:45:10So the child who wanted a woman,

00:45:13who wanted a child,

00:45:15who was pregnant, twins,

00:45:17who didn't want her to be able to be given.

00:45:20She didn't want her to be given.

00:45:21She didn't get the need for the child.

00:45:24She didn't get the need for the child.

00:45:25Now, if you work on the need,

00:45:29I guarantee you that behavior will be finished.

00:45:32But if you attack on the behavior,

00:45:34people are not their behaviors.

00:45:37People are much,

00:45:38all the disasters don't make them.

00:45:39If you work on the behaviors,

00:45:43you'll probably work for a little while,

00:45:45but they'll come back.

00:45:48Like cancer,

00:45:49when you don't leave it,

00:45:50it'll be relapsed.

00:45:52So please check your child's requirements.

00:45:57It's very easy to check your child's requirements.

00:45:59The need for love is high.

00:46:01Belonging is high.

00:46:01As you said, fitting in.

00:46:03The problem of fitting in is only when they think,

00:46:05we don't belong to the system.

00:46:06My mother is very religious.

00:46:08I'm very cool.

00:46:09So you won't come to school.

00:46:11If you don't come to school,

00:46:11you wear shoes,

00:46:12you wear shoes,

00:46:13you don't come to school.

00:46:14So clearly,

00:46:15you have signs that

00:46:16he has fear of belonging,

00:46:18that I do not belong to the system.

00:46:20There are thousands of strategies for working.

00:46:21If you feel that,

00:46:23if you feel that,

00:46:23that the opposite gender is attracted to you,

00:46:27you need of love,

00:46:28you need to fulfill your needs.

00:46:30There are 50 ways.

00:46:31If you feel that,

00:46:32there are 50 ways.

00:46:34If you feel that,

00:46:34there are many ways.

00:46:36I feel that,

00:46:38I feel like this is 16-year-old girl.

00:46:41I have a conversation with my son.

00:46:44I also have a conversation with my son.

00:46:46So this is what we are talking about

00:46:48as you said,

00:46:50talk to your son about it.

00:46:52what is the need for validation?

00:46:54Do you feel that you are valuable

00:46:56when you have two girlfriends?

00:46:59What are you looking for?

00:47:00Let's talk about it.

00:47:02And when you say this,

00:47:04I will tell you,

00:47:05that a 60% problem

00:47:06is the solution

00:47:07at the same time.

00:47:09Because if you listen to your story,

00:47:10you have to answer it

00:47:11or retaliate it.

00:47:12You have to absorb it.

00:47:13Because you have to say,

00:47:15you have to punish it,

00:47:16you have to push it,

00:47:17and you have to take a new strategy

00:47:19and your body was also shocked.

00:47:20What happened to your mother?

00:47:21They always say,

00:47:23what happened to them?

00:47:23What happened to them?

00:47:24So talk to them,

00:47:25I'm tired,

00:47:26I don't understand

00:47:26how to work with you.

00:47:28I will help you.

00:47:29Tell us what the solution is.

00:47:31I am ready to do it.

00:47:32Let's do it together.

00:47:33So I want my support.

00:47:34What can we do?

00:47:35Help.

00:47:36Go with the therapist.

00:47:38With 500 rupees.

00:47:39With free therapist.

00:47:41With 50,000 rupees.

00:47:42The therapist is available.

00:47:44If someone says,

00:47:45there is no resources

00:47:46or we cannot afford it,

00:47:48that's not true anymore.

00:47:50There are thousands of resources

00:47:50where you connect

00:47:51and reach out.

00:47:53They will support you.

00:47:54There are parent coaches

00:47:55and guides.

00:47:56So please help.

00:47:58Do not attack the root cause.

00:48:00Do not attack the behavior.

00:48:02And the most important thing

00:48:03is that if the mother

00:48:04sits with the daughter

00:48:06and the daughter

00:48:06just discuss it.

00:48:07You approach the girls.

00:48:09It is better

00:48:10and we approach it.

00:48:12Look,

00:48:13the need is

00:48:13in the adolescent

00:48:14and opposite sex

00:48:16and attraction.

00:48:17This is very normal.

00:48:18We don't talk about it.

00:48:20Asana said,

00:48:21it is possible.

00:48:22He said,

00:48:22my house is very good.

00:48:24It feels like

00:48:25I can't do this at home.

00:48:27I can't do this at home.

00:48:28I can't do this at home.

00:48:29I can't do this at home.

00:48:33so I can't do this at home.

00:48:35I can't do this at home.

00:48:35That would be possible.

00:48:36I can't do this at home.

00:48:38your feelings and emotions

00:48:40and things

00:48:40from that perspective.

00:48:42If this person has said

00:48:42me and you,

00:48:44you are looking for the solution.

00:48:46What is your desire?

00:48:47What kind of problems

00:48:48you are about?

00:48:49Then we will continue

00:48:51this at home.

00:48:51Good morning Pakistan.

00:48:59welcome welcome by good morning pakistan

00:49:25we will ask you as a doctor, what is the game of hormones?

00:49:31when the puberty hit or the age of adolescence, there is a very specific hormone

00:49:36in our brain is a pituitary gland which releases all hormones

00:49:41there is a growth hormone which releases spurt growth

00:49:44which increases body mass of children

00:49:48there is a hormone called testosterone which increases the growth and development

00:49:55there is estrogen and progesterone which increases ovaries and uterus

00:50:01when this hormone releases, there are mood swings for children

00:50:07in which we have tantrums

00:50:09increase energy, they have more excitement as compared to childhood

00:50:16you have more excitement

00:50:19yes, if you want to keep the cup here, it will be angry

00:50:21or why you wear a dress today, it will be angry

00:50:25or why you wear a dress today, it will be angry

00:50:25or why you don't have a button, it will be angry

00:50:29or why you don't have a button, it will be angry

00:50:29so the mother has discussed it

00:50:31so first of all, let's see where the hormone surge comes from

00:50:34and you have to cater that hormone surge

00:50:36you have to cater to your body

00:50:37and how will it be?

00:50:39it will be a lifestyle

00:50:39modification of lifestyle is very important

00:50:42first of all, let's say our diet

00:50:44our diet is like this

00:50:45you have to eat junks, sugar intake

00:50:48the sugar intake is a lot more

00:50:50the sugar intake is a lot more

00:50:51the sugar spike

00:50:51and it will hyper

00:50:53and you will hyper

00:50:55and you will get angry

00:50:55so how do you control it?

00:50:57how do you frustrate the sugar?

00:50:59whatever your emotions

00:51:00the emotions will spark

00:51:01you will also be angry

00:51:03you will naturally you have to control it

00:51:06with the health of the sugar spike

00:51:07you will get to control it

00:51:08you have to control it

00:51:09with the healthy foods

00:51:09you need to control it

00:51:12food foods

00:51:12too the food has become important

00:51:14yes, the healthy foods

00:51:17take it with fruits

00:51:18all will get good soil

00:51:19even if the junk foods

00:51:22your kids will draw a trend

00:51:23their coffee is a lot

00:51:24the dairy items

00:51:26All of these are processed food and sugar items.

00:51:30You increase your sugar spikes and ultimately your tantrum mood swings.

00:51:34In that way, you have a healthy lifestyle.

00:51:39Usually, after 12 to 13 years,

00:51:42each child needs a healthy physical activity on a daily basis.

00:51:49Like many girls go to gym,

00:51:51football,

00:51:56paddling, swimming,

00:51:58many things.

00:51:59What is it that it can be utilized in positive energy?

00:52:02The energy will be distributed, channelized.

00:52:06Because of this healthy lifestyle and diet,

00:52:09it will be secreted by dopamine.

00:52:12It will give a positive impact on the thought process,

00:52:16emotional regulation,

00:52:18hormone search,

00:52:19everything will give a positive impact.

00:52:21And the most important thing in the last,

00:52:23is sleep habits.

00:52:24That is also our Gen Z.

00:52:26We were early risers.

00:52:28Children go to sleep at night and sleep at night.

00:52:30That's why your hormones,

00:52:32melatonin,

00:52:33which is a good sleep and mood,

00:52:36will be secreted at night.

00:52:37It will be secreted at night.

00:52:39That's why we always say that

00:52:40you have to sleep at night at night.

00:52:43So,

00:52:44the release of melatonin will be proper.

00:52:46Because,

00:52:46when children go to deep sleep,

00:52:48the growth hormone will also be released.

00:52:49And the melatonin will also be released.

00:52:52Melatonin will give you peace.

00:52:54As we sleep at night,

00:52:55when you sleep at night at night,

00:52:59you sleep at night at night,

00:52:59you don't sleep at night at night,

00:53:00you don't sleep at night at night.

00:53:01So,

00:53:01melatonin's secretion is in your early hours.

00:53:05If you don't sleep at night,

00:53:07then the secretion will stop.

00:53:08So,

00:53:08children,

00:53:09you see,

00:53:09you're sleeping at night,

00:53:10screen time.

00:53:11And what happens when you touch the screen?

00:53:14After every five seconds,

00:53:15you release hormones.

00:53:17So,

00:53:18it will hyper-stimulate you.

00:53:21So,

00:53:21when you sleep at night,

00:53:22you don't sleep at night,

00:53:23you have to release stress hormones.

00:53:25So,

00:53:26your emotions are increased.

00:53:28all these things are connected.

00:53:30It's very connected.

00:53:31It's very connected.

00:53:32And,

00:53:32when you talk about sleep,

00:53:35most of the clients come to us,

00:53:37they don't have any age.

00:53:38It doesn't matter if they are teenage,

00:53:4050 or 70 years old.

00:53:42If their sleep pattern is off,

00:53:44then,

00:53:45our body-challery,

00:53:46pituitary gland,

00:53:47is a part of the nervous system.

00:53:50Right?

00:53:50We have to regulate that nervous system.

00:53:54When the nervous system is not regulated,

00:53:56then,

00:53:56your spikes will increase.

00:53:58It will increase,

00:53:59depression will increase,

00:54:01mood swings will increase,

00:54:02anxiety will increase.

00:54:03Everything will increase.

00:54:04Why?

00:54:04Because your regulation is off.

00:54:07So,

00:54:07if you don't sleep,

00:54:09then,

00:54:09do it yourself.

00:54:11You change your sleep pattern for 8 days.

00:54:13You will automatically change your sleep pattern.

00:54:17Because of the fact that,

00:54:18your body will not handle that.

00:54:21So,

00:54:22I want to point out one thing,

00:54:23when the call came out,

00:54:24many parents are delusional.

00:54:27They say,

00:54:27that our house is good,

00:54:28but our son is like this.

00:54:30No.

00:54:30So,

00:54:33no.

00:54:35No.

00:54:36No.

00:54:38No.

00:54:39No.

00:54:42No.

00:54:49No.

00:54:52No.

00:54:53No.

00:55:05No.

00:55:06No.

00:55:17No.

00:55:18No.

00:55:19No.

00:55:21No.

00:55:23No.

00:55:28No.

00:55:34No.

00:55:36No.

00:55:37No.

00:55:39No.

00:55:43No.

00:55:44I need to set boundaries. If I'm a parent and I'm angry,

00:55:48if I'm a misbehaved, you can accept it.

00:55:51Okay, I laughed at you, but what was it?

00:55:54If you did this, I laughed at it.

00:55:58If you don't do this and you don't have any positive action,

00:56:01for example, if you jump on the sofa,

00:56:06then I am embarrassed.

00:56:08If you don't jump on the sofa and slide outside,

00:56:12then it will be easy.

00:56:13We don't have any positive factors.

00:56:17I want to add a little perspective.

00:56:19I think that at that time,

00:56:21you have to take accountability.

00:56:23If I'm angry, it's my fault.

00:56:25It's your fault.

00:56:26That's also a kind of blame-shifting.

00:56:28A child learns that if I'm angry,

00:56:31then it's me.

00:56:32Rather than saying that I'm angry, I'm wrong.

00:56:36That's it.

00:56:36My reactions are not.

00:56:38Because if we take accountability,

00:56:42if we don't do role models,

00:56:43then the child will not learn.

00:56:45Parenting doesn't come with a manual.

00:56:47If you say that as a doctor or a professional,

00:56:51sometimes we're really overburdened.

00:56:54We're really tired.

00:56:55We're really exhausted.

00:56:57We're really exhausted.

00:57:08We're really exhausted.

00:57:15And if I'm angry,

00:57:17then I'm angry.

00:57:18So, the child's thought that I was wrong.

00:57:20I was wrong.

00:57:20But the reason of the reason is I didn't.

00:57:22The reason of the cause is this, this, this, this.

00:57:24So, that's the behavior or action.

00:57:27Even if we improve or not,

00:57:28we're not just a child's thoughts.

00:57:29It's not a child's thought that it's a positive action.

00:57:30It's like,

00:57:30I'm angry.

00:57:31sometimes,

00:57:31it's like,

00:57:33the fear of parents and fear,

00:57:35also keeps the child's thoughts on the bad.

00:57:39So that balance is a little bit difficult in today's time.

00:57:44Yes, because when we say fathers specifically,

00:57:47that you don't want to hurt,

00:57:49I think that if a parent with a child,

00:57:53there is no fear, actually.

00:57:55You can see, we are scared and out of respect.

00:57:58We are scared until a certain age,

00:58:00but where we are adults,

00:58:02we have autonomy, we have power,

00:58:04we have two ways.

00:58:06Some people are scared,

00:58:07and some people are out of respect.

00:58:09You can see that a lot of times,

00:58:12you don't want to be scared.

00:58:14You don't want to be scared.

00:58:16Some people want to be scared.

00:58:18Some people want to be scared.

00:58:19Some people want to be scared.

00:58:20So I think that fear is very temporary.

00:58:23And respect,

00:58:25when you don't give a child,

00:58:27you don't get respect.

00:58:28And respecting who they are,

00:58:31respect means very vague.

00:58:33Your respect will be different.

00:58:34Your respect will be different.

00:58:36So these boundaries,

00:58:38first,

00:58:39first,

00:58:41tell us that this is a rule.

00:58:43Tell us that this is a rule.

00:58:44Tell us that this is a rule.

00:58:44Tell us that our expectations,

00:58:45in our culture,

00:58:46which I think is the biggest problem.

00:58:49And I am talking about myself too,

00:58:51because I have a problem.

00:58:53Tell us how to do it.

00:58:55No.

00:58:56Tell us.

00:58:57Tell us.

00:58:58If the child doesn't do it,

00:58:59then tell us.

00:59:00I remember that I had told you.

00:59:01Now,

00:59:02you do it.

00:59:03I have a problem.

00:59:04Tell us what you can do.

00:59:06Tell us what you can do.

00:59:08Why did I ask?

00:59:09Why did I ask?

00:59:10Why did I ask?

00:59:11Why is the most low quality question?

00:59:13Why did I ask?

00:59:14Because there is no answer.

00:59:15So I was doing it.

00:59:16Now tell us what to do here.

00:59:19What to do next?

00:59:20What to do next?

00:59:21Because specifically,

00:59:22boys are looking out for solutions.

00:59:24And you can see the boys,

00:59:26how bad they feel when my mother says,

00:59:28you do it.

00:59:29Don't give identities.

00:59:31Don't put labels on the child.

00:59:33The child can change.

00:59:35You know,

00:59:35a fully mature brain,

00:59:37after 25 years,

00:59:38is a fully mature, developed brain.

00:59:41The child can change.

00:59:41When we teach at the age of 17,

00:59:4316,

00:59:44we are all underdeveloped brains.

00:59:47We choose ourselves.

00:59:48Well,

00:59:48to send to school,

00:59:49it is our choice.

00:59:50Our child didn't say it.

00:59:51But we say,

00:59:52now you must not do it.

00:59:54What do I do?

00:59:55So have your expectations.

00:59:56When my child says,

00:59:57my mother,

00:59:58my child's mother and my child,

00:59:59I say,

01:00:00this is our house.

01:00:02These are our house.

01:00:04When you grow,

01:00:05take our house.

01:00:06Take our own house.

01:00:07Take our own house.

01:00:08And that is going to be your house. But until we are here, these are our rules.

01:00:14We can negotiate, talk about them, but you can't undo them.

01:00:19And see, wherever we are not disciplined, children will be wild.

01:00:24In today's parenting, the biggest problem is that we give freedom, we become friends or parents.

01:00:31No, you don't have to be a friend. Stay the parent.

01:00:34Your role, father-in-law, is my friend. I didn't get my mom's experience.

01:00:42Why didn't you push me? Why didn't you push me? I was a child. Please, father-in-law.

01:00:47I understand my children. When it happens, I give a lot of lectures.

01:00:51When I go to the morning show, my children say that they will start their gifts.

01:00:55So I said, see, this will be your benefit.

01:00:56Tomorrow, you will tell me that I was a child, you didn't stop me.

01:00:59And the other thing is that every house should be set of rules and set of boundaries.

01:01:06Those boundaries you set first.

01:01:08Those rules you tell your children.

01:01:10Then if you break boundaries and rules,

01:01:12then you have to fix them.

01:01:15We have to go directly to commandership and dictatorship.

01:01:18Or they will tell you that if you want to do it,

01:01:21and if you don't do it, then it will fall down.

01:01:22There is no way to the beach.

01:01:23Okay, now I'm going to the next caller.

01:01:26Let's see.

01:01:26What are the questions?

01:01:27Yes.

01:01:29Assalamualaikum.

01:01:30My name is Saima.

01:01:31My daughter is 17 years old.

01:01:34I want to explain that with her.

01:01:35I want to explain that with her.

01:01:36But she's not my daughter.

01:01:38My daughter is a little bit.

01:01:41She doesn't say anything.

01:01:42But it's good that our daughter is the most small house.

01:01:44We keep her very love.

01:01:46And our daughter is a little toxic.

01:01:50My husband is toxic.

01:01:51I saw a little pictures from my daughter.

01:01:52I saw her share with her.

01:01:55And I'm very worried that I can't share my husband with my husband.

01:02:01And I don't think about this problem.

01:02:03Because my daughter is ready to listen to my daughter.

01:02:06And I'm very worried about

01:02:08what the problem is going to happen.

01:02:10So I want to ask you to give me a message

01:02:12that I can't escape the problem.

01:02:17What is important?

01:02:18Red flags in this world are the most important thing.

01:02:20My mom said that my house is toxic.

01:02:22That's the most important thing.

01:02:23One child said that

01:02:25we have said that the most little child is the most important thing.

01:02:27I'm sorry.

01:02:28I'm going to cut you a little bit.

01:02:29I'm going to break on you.

01:02:30We'll come back to this question.

01:02:32Good morning Pakistan.

01:02:40Good morning Pakistan.

01:02:40Welcome back.

01:02:41Good morning Pakistan.

01:02:42My first question is that

01:02:44the children have seen their pictures.

01:02:48They send their pictures.

01:02:50They send their pictures.

01:02:50Then there are many more details.

01:02:52They are blackmailing them.

01:02:54The children's pictures and videos are viral.

01:02:58So how do they explain the children?

01:02:59How do they explain the children?

01:03:01How do they explain the children?

01:03:01So first of all, I think that

01:03:04it comes from self-worth.

01:03:06If you look at children,

01:03:08you think as a parent,

01:03:10you think that

01:03:11I'm going to validate my children

01:03:12when I'm going to my child.

01:03:14When they take a good number,

01:03:16they just do it.

01:03:17Or they do it.

01:03:19Or they do it.

01:03:20Or they do it.

01:03:20They do it.

01:03:21If the child has a finger tips

01:03:23that

01:03:23I am only appreciated

01:03:25when I give numbers

01:03:26or when I give my mother

01:03:27or I give my mother

01:03:28then the children are seeking validation.

01:03:32They send their pictures

01:03:33so that

01:03:34they show the next attraction

01:03:35and the child feels

01:03:37their ego

01:03:38and their worth

01:03:39that I am good enough.

01:03:41I am wanted.

01:03:42Every child,

01:03:43every human,

01:03:44every adult

01:03:45we all have a need.

01:03:47The need for significance

01:03:48is very high.

01:03:49We all need.

01:03:51No one,

01:03:51no one,

01:03:52no one,

01:03:54this is the world.

01:03:56And when the children

01:03:58don't get the significance

01:03:58of their children

01:04:00or they don't give them

01:04:02a lot,

01:04:04they don't give them

01:04:04because their brain

01:04:05will fall.

01:04:06Because they will fall

01:04:06in the head.

01:04:07No, that's not true.

01:04:09You celebrate your children

01:04:10once again.

01:04:11You celebrate your children

01:04:12once again.

01:04:13So that their self-worth

01:04:15is so good.

01:04:16Look,

01:04:17the self-worth is equal to

01:04:18the money that they make.

01:04:19Now,

01:04:20that's changing.

01:04:21But also,

01:04:22the women's self-worth

01:04:22is the same as

01:04:23as people like them.

01:04:25How do they look?

01:04:26How do they look?

01:04:27How cute are they?

01:04:29How cute are they?

01:04:30How cute are they?

01:04:30Change the children

01:04:31and tell them

01:04:32that you are worthy.

01:04:33You have a lot of qualities.

01:04:35How do you do this?

01:04:36We do it.

01:04:37We just don't have to do it.

01:04:39We do it.

01:04:39We have to do it.

01:04:39We look like love.

01:04:40We look like hair.

01:04:41We look like hair.

01:04:42The hair looks like hair.

01:04:43We look like hair.

01:04:43What is it?

01:04:44What is the quality?

01:04:45What is your self-worth?

01:04:47The child's self-worth is better to develop from the parents.

01:04:51It's worthy.

01:04:53It's not necessary to be important.

01:04:55It's important to be a stranger.

01:04:59And then they take such decisions.

01:05:01It's done.

01:05:02These pictures are also sent.

01:05:05We were talking about the break.

01:05:07People often ask that you love me.

01:05:11If you have so much trust, do that.

01:05:13Emotional manipulation.

01:05:14See, that's emotional manipulation.

01:05:17The person who wants this thing,

01:05:20doesn't keep long-term intention with you.

01:05:23He will say,

01:05:24I have asked you.

01:05:27If someone else wants you to give it,

01:05:29then what's your worth?

01:05:30That's a test.

01:05:32If you can easily provide this thing,

01:05:36then you can do it.

01:05:37What will happen tomorrow?

01:05:39I don't know where I was reading

01:05:44and I think the other thing is that

01:05:45It's the best thing.

01:05:47The best thing is that

01:05:48you're going to be able to get the best

01:05:50and get the best.

01:05:51So, I feel like

01:05:53you need to make a person who's having it.

01:05:59And keep it up.

01:06:02things that are directly locked into a

01:06:11disability and attention.

01:06:14It shows where is she and where is she?

01:06:19She wants to be aware of the mother's relationship.

01:06:23She wants to see that the mother has been disrespected,

01:06:28they have no worth, they are just making food machines in their house

01:06:33or they have no value in their opinion

01:06:35so this is by generation

01:06:38and I have said that I can't tell anyone

01:06:41so it's obvious that this will be seen

01:06:44if a strong mother of a baby

01:06:49who stands for rights

01:06:50who stand for rights

01:06:52so if the mother of a child

01:06:56we will do our own reflection and evaluate ourselves

01:07:01what I set the example of this

01:07:04so the standards are so high

01:07:08as you say, as the girls have hormones

01:07:10but as the girls also have these things

01:07:14so we can see them

01:07:17what we need to do

01:07:19and what we need to do

01:07:20and how do they channelize their emotions

01:07:25because you know that monthly cycles

01:07:27will start a routine

01:07:28and hit the puberty

01:07:29so there will be more healthy diet

01:07:31which will have iron intake

01:07:33which will have meat

01:07:35which will need to be routine

01:07:36as the mother has talked about

01:07:38so the child's two things are lacking

01:07:40one is the education

01:07:41it should also be good

01:07:42and also the fact that

01:07:44first eight years of their life

01:07:45that the child's personality

01:07:46will need a strong personality

01:07:48and confident personality

01:07:50that the body of a person

01:07:51and the body of a person

01:07:52that the parents can focus on

01:07:54their growth and their development

01:07:55and their emotional things

01:07:57that they can improve

01:07:58and improve

01:07:58and the child's understanding

01:07:59If you want to share your thoughts with someone or someone,

01:08:03then you feel so low that if you want to show this,

01:08:07it will be my confidence.

01:08:09This is self-confidence by diet.

01:08:11If you have a good thing in diet,

01:08:13there will be protein, carbs, healthy fats,

01:08:16so that the child's moods make positive thinking

01:08:19that you can become confident.

01:08:22This boosts a lot.

01:08:23We don't focus on the education and communication

01:08:27and then when the child goes forward,

01:08:31then Elie Bajasan said

01:08:32that this is an emotional or behavioural issue.

01:08:36But this issue is the root cause

01:08:38that we have to treat ourselves by discussion.

01:08:43No, I have a question to you.

01:08:45How did the child's hormones

01:08:46say that you are playing your hormones?

01:08:53How do you play them?

01:08:54How do you control your hormones?

01:08:58How do you control your will power?

01:09:00How do you play them?

01:09:02How do you play them?

01:09:03It's often like that,

01:09:04when you eat some hormones,

01:09:05you have to spike your hormones.

01:09:07You said sugar,

01:09:09but you have to eat them.

01:09:10No, we might drastically increase your hormones.

01:09:14Sometimes we use a lot of Ayurvedic foods,

01:09:15you eat the hungry foods,

01:09:16and the food that runs away from yogurt,

01:09:20you eat the milk,

01:09:23and you eat the honey,

01:09:24and you eat the milk.

01:09:24And it increases the food that feeds the milk.

01:09:29And it increases the time,

01:09:30and you get a healthy milk and the food.

01:09:39so the ovaries are not mature.

01:09:45There are multiple follicles, which you call polycystic ovaries.

01:09:49In this way, the hormones are broken by insulin resistance.

01:09:52What do you do with insulin resistance?

01:09:54You will also break the cycles,

01:09:56you will also break the weight,

01:09:58you will also break the mood swings,

01:09:59and you will also break the anger and temperament.

01:10:03I want to add on three things.

01:10:04I want to add on one thing.

01:10:08One thing is that relationship with the mother,

01:10:12which Rabia said,

01:10:13that relationship with the father is also very important.

01:10:16Especially girls.

01:10:17Yes, girls.

01:10:18What love is for the father.

01:10:21Because that is also a balance.

01:10:24If it is not approachability in the house,

01:10:28it will learn more about that.

01:10:32It is one thing that we have seen,

01:10:35that children who don't get married,

01:10:39who crave,

01:10:40they will attract very quickly.

01:10:43Please, please.

01:10:44That is a very good thing.

01:10:45Because exactly the root cause is,

01:10:47that in the early years,

01:10:49the mother's relationship with the father,

01:10:50the father's relationship with the father,

01:10:53is very important.

01:10:54Because the supply that is reduced,

01:10:56will outsource it.

01:10:57And the other thing is,

01:10:59that the mother is very stubborn.

01:11:01I don't understand.

01:11:03I'm going to give a solution.

01:11:04What do I do?

01:11:05People are stubborn.

01:11:06People look very bad.

01:11:07But if you look at it,

01:11:08they have a head on their shoulders.

01:11:09That means,

01:11:10that their decision making is very good.

01:11:12Instead of saying it,

01:11:13a weakness,

01:11:14that my daughter is a weakness.

01:11:16If you think that this is the strength of her,

01:11:19then if you give it a logical reason,

01:11:21then you have done it.

01:11:22I understand.

01:11:23They are saying that the father is toxic.

01:11:25If you don't know,

01:11:26that relationship has never been built.

01:11:28So,

01:11:28those needs,

01:11:30the unmet needs,

01:11:31again,

01:11:32under the iceberg,

01:11:33they are fathers.

01:11:34They are outsourced to others.

01:11:36Basically,

01:11:37they are doing attention.

01:11:39They are not getting attention from the father.

01:11:41They are not getting attention from the father.

01:11:41One man.

01:11:42They are both.

01:11:43Because opposite gender attracts

01:11:46bodily changes.

01:11:47You see,

01:11:48at a certain age,

01:11:49as you were talking about nutrition,

01:11:51I am not a nutritionist.

01:11:52But,

01:11:53as I have studied teenagers,

01:11:55that when their bodily desires develop,

01:11:58in adolescence,

01:11:58after pre-puberty,

01:12:00or puberty hit,

01:12:01you see,

01:12:02they have sudden cravings.

01:12:03Like a pregnant woman.

01:12:05They have sudden cravings.

01:12:06They have sudden cravings.

01:12:06They are eating ramen.

01:12:06It's the nature of food.

01:12:07I think it's like

01:12:09eating ramen.

01:12:10I think that everything is mamaya in navigation,

01:12:11makes me feel free to do a balance.

01:12:13Because actually,

01:12:14the body sensation and desire is fulfilling

01:12:17the form of human love,

01:12:18and by the vet of ramen,

01:12:20and with any food,

01:12:23and with any food,

01:12:24it's worth it.

01:12:25Or you say,

01:12:27let's play a game.

01:12:29If you have to channelize it, there are better ways that the cravings are going to be fulfilled.

01:12:35There won't be any loss. The rest of the week is eating.

01:12:38If the ovulation days and girls in that days, if children have cravings,

01:12:45please don't discipline them at that time.

01:12:48If they eat something healthy or something,

01:12:51there won't be any loss because it will be a healthy source.

01:12:56We don't know about these things. We don't know about these things.

01:12:58We are going to eat children.

01:12:59What are you eating? What are you eating?

01:13:02Look at your skin.

01:13:04Eat it and eat it.

01:13:05If you have so big, you have acne.

01:13:09Who will you marry?

01:13:10Yes, yes.

01:13:11Now it's automatic.

01:13:14You don't have to marry me.

01:13:15You have to find me where I am.

01:13:17You have to make your validation for that.

01:13:21Yes.

01:13:22The one is just the one.

01:13:25The only thing is others.

01:13:26Because we have no fasting.

01:13:28We are not having a good.

01:13:29We don't have to buy anything.

01:13:31We have to make your husband.

01:13:32This is the one who likes it.

01:13:33Who will marry me?

01:13:36Who will marry you?

01:13:37Which is good for the parents of the family.

01:13:38Just say that you are poor, learn, and learn who will bring your relationship?

01:13:41So the color has broken.

01:13:42What do you want to go to the other house?

01:13:55So validation and attention, if you give a child a little bit of cravings, or play a little bit of

01:14:02sports or games,

01:14:03then you can talk about the problems that you asked, because it is strong headed.

01:14:09You tell the cravings that it is deficient.

01:14:13Yes, exactly.

01:14:15That is Pika.

01:14:16If your body has deficient, iron, vitamin D, zinc,

01:14:21then you find natural outsourced.

01:14:23When children start eating water, paint, papers, and furniture,

01:14:29this is their natural craving towards a deficiency.

01:14:32But after that, if they are eating water, then what is the deficiency?

01:14:37As I know, there are bodily sensations and desires that children don't know.

01:14:46But if their body is designed to express their thoughts.

01:14:49Like girls are eating food.

01:14:51As I said, your energy demand increases.

01:14:55When they are eating food, when they are eating food,

01:14:58they actually regulate your hormones.

01:15:02They are telling you something that you need.

01:15:04But the brain doesn't have to channelize what you need.

01:15:08For example, if you have healthy fruits, dry fruits,

01:15:11you can get good protein, calcium, etc.

01:15:14For iron, you can use dates.

01:15:16In the diet, there are fiber fruits or leafy fruits.

01:15:19If they are eating food, they are good.

01:15:21If we are talking about females,

01:15:22then the cycles are good.

01:15:24Evolution, pre-evolutional.

01:15:25The mood swings are natural,

01:15:28but they are controlled.

01:15:29After a break, let's see.

01:15:31Good morning Pakistan.

01:15:38Welcome, welcome back.

01:15:40Good morning Pakistan.

01:15:41Now we are going to the next question.

01:15:43This is the last segment.

01:15:45We have covered all things that we wanted to tell.

01:15:49One thing is that the kids in our home,

01:15:53teenage kids,

01:15:55most of the kids in our home,

01:15:57who are female,

01:15:58who are out of night suits,

01:16:00who are out of night suits,

01:16:01who are out of night suits,

01:16:04who are out of night suits,

01:16:04who should control the parents a little bit.

01:16:06They should be dressed up.

01:16:08They should be dressed up.

01:16:09Or if children work at home,

01:16:11they should be used to work at home.

01:16:11So they should be used to support them.

01:16:14This is the entitlement.

01:16:16For children,

01:16:18who have privileges,

01:16:20who are given up to you.

01:16:21You are on top of the other side.

01:16:23So when the children have no problem,

01:16:26they don't have to do it.

01:16:28This is the entitlement.

01:16:30Look, male entitlement,

01:16:31I have gone through 47 years of it.

01:16:33Alhamdulillah.

01:16:35They have learned that

01:16:36that is not going to happen.

01:16:37But,

01:16:38I have two boys.

01:16:39I have two boys.

01:16:40And I tell them,

01:16:41you are going somewhere,

01:16:43your house is okay.

01:16:44But,

01:16:45he is coming somewhere else.

01:16:46Right?

01:16:48He is feeling uncomfortable.

01:16:49He is not saying

01:16:50how to wear clothes.

01:16:51Right?

01:16:52So you have to,

01:16:53you know,

01:16:54to learn something.

01:16:56Go around and wear your face.

01:16:58Right?

01:17:00A daughter can also,

01:17:02know how to wear clothes.

01:17:03Are you going to wear them?

01:17:04What are you doing here?

01:17:05What are you doing here?

01:17:08No.

01:17:10No.

01:17:11No.

01:17:12No.

01:17:12We are learning women, but you can also see that if we all are working with women and women,

01:17:19your body language, your eyes.

01:17:23It was a good thing.

01:17:25During the break, you tell me that a woman is the one who feels comfortable in the presence of women,

01:17:33not that they are uncomfortable.

01:17:35They avoid you, or they say, I will not go there.

01:17:39Or I want to go from here.

01:17:41I will tell you that a woman is in a family,

01:17:49who is uncomfortable.

01:17:51They don't talk about their hands.

01:17:55When they grow older, they grow older.

01:18:01They grow older.

01:18:02They grow older.

01:18:03They grow older.

01:18:04They don't give them good.

01:18:08I have a personal experience.

01:18:11I have given them a lot of things.

01:18:16I have given them a lot of things.

01:18:18If they are not comfortable with any older,

01:18:21don't sit down.

01:18:23Don't get out.

01:18:24Don't get out of the way.

01:18:25If they are older, you don't give them.

01:18:28Don't get out of the way.

01:18:30If you are not comfortable, it's okay.

01:18:32Don't get out of the way.

01:18:33Respect, but boundary set.

01:18:35Absolutely.

01:18:36Because if you don't have boundary in your house,

01:18:38then when you have something wrong with it,

01:18:43then you don't have to boundary set.

01:18:45And I think it's high time,

01:18:46you have to learn something to our children,

01:18:47that we have forgotten our children.

01:18:51And high time, we have to learn something to our children.

01:18:53High time, we have to learn something to our children.

01:18:54No, no, no.

01:18:55No, Sana, tell me.

01:18:57No, no, no.

01:18:59There are two things.

01:19:00Sana will add on to that.

01:19:01I know that.

01:19:01I wanted to add on.

01:19:03There are two things.

01:19:04One, we have to learn the definition of masculinity.

01:19:09Masculinity does not mean dominance.

01:19:12Masculinity means responsibility.

01:19:14My responsibility is to have a wife,

01:19:19mother, mother,

01:19:21you know,

01:19:23provide.

01:19:24Like I said in break,

01:19:26to make a chokidari.

01:19:27Right?

01:19:28Protector and provider are not.

01:19:30Provider is not.

01:19:31You are not the controller,

01:19:33you are the protector,

01:19:34you are the provider.

01:19:36You don't have to say,

01:19:37I am a man and my family.

01:19:39Okay,

01:19:40we have to be in our older generation.

01:19:42We will bring a break.

01:19:44As mothers,

01:19:45all of you have that,

01:19:47that our child,

01:19:48when she is born,

01:19:50we have to have high-bichara syndrome,

01:19:52in the circle of friends,

01:19:55we have to say,

01:19:56that our brother is high-bichara.

01:19:58My mother is my son.

01:20:01That's why,

01:20:02that's why,

01:20:02as you said,

01:20:03that my mother is a...

01:20:04It's a last segment,

01:20:05so I have to keep a composed.

01:20:07Okay.

01:20:07I'm going to the next question.

01:20:09Okay, sure.

01:20:10Yes.

01:20:11Sorry,

01:20:12you have to complete it.

01:20:13I have to add on,

01:20:14that,

01:20:14as you talked about masculine energy,

01:20:16that the two men are masculine and feminine.

01:20:18The beauty is that you can get your feminine,

01:20:21to the surface of the surface.

01:20:22Which means that the soft part is,

01:20:25the feminine part is,

01:20:26the feminine part is,

01:20:27the feminine part is,

01:20:28if you can get it,

01:20:29as you can become soft,

01:20:31caring,

01:20:31gentle,

01:20:32kind,

01:20:33empathetic,

01:20:33that is true masculinity.

01:20:35Where you can balance both,

01:20:37rather than just being an aggressor,

01:20:39or just being an aggressive person.

01:20:41And we see that,

01:20:42in the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

01:20:43Yes.

01:20:44My next question,

01:20:45please.

01:20:47My name is Tabassum,

01:20:49and my son is 16 years old.

01:20:51Today,

01:20:52I have been told by some months,

01:20:53my husband's sister's friend,

01:20:54and I have been told by some kids,

01:20:55some kids,

01:20:56and their behavior,

01:20:57they have been very changed,

01:20:58and they have made such things,

01:21:00and they have to make such things,

01:21:01and it doesn't really have to be used to it.

01:21:03And I'm scared that,

01:21:03that some kids,

01:21:05they have to take a wrong decision,

01:21:07and that they don't have to take it.

01:21:07I'm just going to ask you,

01:21:09that I am going to ask you,

01:21:11or to explain them,

01:21:12and to make them decide,

01:21:13and to make them decisions.

01:21:14What do I do?

01:21:15You tell me,

01:21:15I've heard a lot of this talk about parents' parents' parents,

01:21:21that they don't have friends with their parents,

01:21:26they don't have friends with their parents,

01:21:30they don't learn things in their life,

01:21:32but they don't learn more things.

01:21:33So what's the truth?

01:21:36As they said,

01:21:37what's the parents' parents want to be friends with their parents?

01:21:41This is a sign.

01:21:42Where the child has their age,

01:21:44they want to be older,

01:21:48they want to be older.

01:21:50Probably in the house,

01:21:51when children don't have autonomy,

01:21:53they don't have to treat their parents.

01:21:57Especially this male need.

01:21:59And after 10 years,

01:22:01they are responsible.

01:22:03Any thing in their family,

01:22:06or their needs,

01:22:07they think they are in control,

01:22:10they are treated like a man,

01:22:11they are treated like an adult.

01:22:13When they are in the house,

01:22:14again, their supply is reduced,

01:22:16how do they outsource them?

01:22:18Because they are sitting in the big boys,

01:22:19so that they can feel great.

01:22:21If you see,

01:22:21the children have to shave quickly.

01:22:23My face is coming,

01:22:24so that I can die.

01:22:26So this transition,

01:22:27this age,

01:22:29the puberty age,

01:22:30they go towards the big boys.

01:22:33So again,

01:22:33they see,

01:22:34whether they have a healthy role model in their life,

01:22:37someone who has a healthy role model,

01:22:40who will not get out-source.

01:22:42Sometimes they will lose.

01:22:45Sometimes they will lose.

01:22:45But sometimes they will get good.

01:22:47That's right.

01:22:50But one thing that starts in childhood,

01:22:52the story of clients,

01:22:54when the dad and dad are doing what they are doing,

01:22:57they say,

01:22:57they don't want to be big,

01:22:59do it.

01:22:59Actually, the problem is there.

01:23:01Every big one,

01:23:02every time it is a bad thing.

01:23:04Do it.

01:23:05But the children say,

01:23:06if you don't want your heart,

01:23:07then tell me why not want it.

01:23:08Don't do it right now.

01:23:09Don't do it right now.

01:23:10Don't do it right now.

01:23:11You see,

01:23:12in our society,

01:23:13the victims of rape victims,

01:23:15they cannot stand in their power,

01:23:17because they are big.

01:23:18They are intimidating.

01:23:19We have learned from children,

01:23:21that if they are big,

01:23:22don't say anything.

01:23:23They are big,

01:23:23do it.

01:23:25But do it.

01:23:26If you don't want your heart,

01:23:27say,

01:23:27I'm sorry,

01:23:28I don't want my heart.

01:23:29That's it.

01:23:30That's it.

01:23:30Harassment is the one who has power.

01:23:32Of course.

01:23:33Or gain power.

01:23:35Right?

01:23:35So,

01:23:36it is very important

01:23:36to understand that

01:23:38power or authority

01:23:41does not automatically

01:23:42give you entitlement

01:23:43to do certain things.

01:23:45Right?

01:23:46So,

01:23:46it is very important.

01:23:47And,

01:23:48the other thing to add,

01:23:50is that

01:23:50when a child

01:23:51is openly

01:23:52communicating with you

01:23:54and you are not doing

01:23:55shut down,

01:23:55you are not doing

01:23:55that.

01:23:56So,

01:23:58our program

01:23:59basic

01:24:00is

01:24:03communication.

01:24:05If you have

01:24:06and your child's

01:24:08communication gap

01:24:09is not

01:24:09one

01:24:11or

01:24:12ten thousand

01:24:13things

01:24:13that you have

01:24:14to do

01:24:16in front of

01:24:19you have

01:24:21and you will

01:24:21good

01:24:22things

01:24:23that you

01:24:25will

01:24:26basically

01:24:26work.

01:24:28And,

01:24:28this is

01:24:29overnight

01:24:29not

01:24:30possible.

01:24:31You will

01:24:33you will

01:24:34and

01:24:36you will

01:24:47develop.

01:24:49you will

01:24:49the

01:24:49therapist's

01:24:49help.

01:24:52There is no

01:24:54correction

01:24:54without connection.

01:24:57Connect to

01:24:57correct.

01:24:58If you

01:24:58connect

01:24:59then you will

01:25:03So,

01:25:04this was our

01:25:04program.

01:25:05I hope

01:25:06that

01:25:07maybe

01:25:07you have

01:25:08a chance

01:25:09to solve

01:25:10today's program.

01:25:12Good morning

01:25:12Pakistan.

01:25:13I love it.

Good Morning Pakistan | Parenting With New Challenges Special Show | 10 September 2026

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