00:01My daughter is 20 years old, but she started seeing a 50-year-old man.
00:07Your daughter is 20 years old, and she's starting seeing a 50-year-old man.
00:13I don't know. I mean, I think that thing of, like, if people are of age, she's a grown-up,
00:20okay?
00:21Yeah, I know it kills you, but your job as a father has changed, hasn't it?
00:28And it's difficult to make that transition.
00:29It's difficult to let your kids go, because you want your kids to struggle, but you don't want them to
00:35suffer.
00:35You want them to get bruises, not scars.
00:38And you're a dad, and to you, she'll always be a little girl.
00:42But there's different stages of being a dad, aren't there?
00:44There's the first 12 years, you direct, and then the next sort of 10 years, you advise, and then after
00:51that, you discuss.
00:53And I think you're on the discussion end of things, right?
00:58It's tough, though, isn't it?
00:59It's a tough thing. I feel for you, man.
01:02But it's a conversation now, and something's gone wrong along the way.
01:08She's clearly got daddy issues.
01:15Wait, is she here?
01:19She's not here.
01:20No, she's...
01:27Well, it's a weird thing, though, isn't it, with the sexes.
01:31I've got a theory with my friend Will Storr.
01:33We've been talking about this recently.
01:34We're saying, look, women are sex objects.
01:37Not everyone, you know what I mean, like, broad brush.
01:40Women are sex objects, and men are success objects.
01:43Why are older men attractive to young women?
01:46It's not just the money.
01:47They're not gold diggers.
01:48It's the competence.
01:49Women like competence.
01:50They don't find boys attractive.
01:51They find men attractive.
01:53And she's just gone, oh, he could take care of me.
01:56Maybe you took great care of her, and she's looking for someone to replace you in her life.
02:00And if it works, it works.
02:02And if not, you've just got to be there for her, no matter what mistakes she makes.
02:06You're there for shelter.
02:08And then I can go and find him and sort it out.
02:10Yeah.
02:12Well, if something goes wrong, maybe.
02:13But it's that thing, you're there for shelter.
02:15That's what a parent's job is, isn't it?
02:16It's a financial and emotional and physical shelter.
02:20You're there to provide shelter.
02:21She'll always have a room in your house if anything goes wrong.
02:24Just be there for her.
02:25Come rain or shine.
02:26You'll be fine, man.
02:28Good luck.
