WHY YOU ARE OVERWEIGHT!

Name: WHY YOU ARE OVERWEIGHT!
Uploaded: 2023-08-20T20:36:37+00:00
Duration: 33 min 23 s
Channel: Stefan Molyneux

00:00 Good morning, good morning. 20th of August 2023. This is the Freedomain subscriber

00:04 Live stream freedomain.locals.com

00:08 If you want to join in these we're gonna do one question for everyone and then we'll go subscriber

00:13 right

00:16 Let's see here

00:18 Somebody says

00:21 Hey Steph, the girl I'm dating had two Covid shots to go on a cruise when I asked her if she would get more

00:27 She said no

00:29 But then later admitted she would in certain circumstances traveling to see parents if they were sick

00:34 Due to how to the jab can affect fertility and health. I'm not inclined to marry her

00:39 She also said she'd want kids faxed, but I couldn't but I wouldn't

00:43 No placebo controlled studies on vaccines hence. No way of showing they're safe. Are my concerns reasonable?

00:49 Well, I can't speak to your medical concerns because of course I'm not a doctor

00:55 talk to enlightened doctorist and do sensible research. I can't speak to the the medical concerns, but

01:03 Oh, let's see

01:05 How awake and alert is everyone? What is the one thing?

01:09 What is the one thing that I can talk about that she said what is the one thing

01:20 What is the one thing that I can talk about that this woman said

01:25 Should I read it again

01:30 Her choice to go on the cruise, no, that's not philosophical

01:33 This is hey Steph the girl I'm dating had two Covid shots to go on a cruise when I asked her she'd get more

01:39 She said no

01:39 But then later admitted she would in certain circumstances traveling to see parents if sick

01:43 Due to how the jab can affect fertility and health blah blah blah blah blah. What's that one thing?

01:48 That I could talk about she lied. Yeah. Yeah, she lied. She said she wouldn't and then she said it went pressed, right?

01:56 Hit me with a why if you've ever been I hate to say sort of a liar like it was just

02:04 Everybody tells little lies from time to time and so on right?

02:07 So

02:11 Hit me with a why if you've ever been in a relationship with somebody who has no particular conscience about lying

02:18 Hit me with a why if you've ever been in a relationship

02:20 With somebody who had other than the media who has no particular conscience about lying

02:25 What a ride, eh, what a ride what a ride

02:32 A

02:39 Romantic no familial. Yes, so all but one of you have said yes

02:45 Cheddar man has never been in a relationship with anybody who has no particular conscience about lying

02:51 Wow good for you, man. That's that's fantastic. I yeah, I tip my hat. I tip my hat to you

02:57 Alright so for those of you who are listening and watching you think he mistyped wait you think he's lying

03:05 Oh my god

03:05 The circle is complete inception has closed off and the man is now lying to us and it's comfortable doing so about being in a relationship

03:12 And it's comfortable doing so about being in a relationship with people who are comfortable with lying

03:16 The snake has eaten its own tail and the carbon atom is discovered. All right

03:21 So what has been well, what's the result tell me lies tell me sweet little lies. Yeah. Yeah

03:29 We was in one relationship with a liar he passed off your philosophy as his own to look intelligent without giving you credit

03:40 Oh, yeah, you know what? That's I'm sure that's something that happens

03:43 If it's any consolation I pass off the muses of philosophy

03:50 Got his hand stuck at my butt and makes my brain work. So, all right

03:55 You started losing touch with reality. Yeah. Yeah, the lies never stop. It's a nightmare to get to the truth on anything

04:02 Well, you certainly expect them to lie again to you. I

04:09 Mean I'm with house a little bit like everybody lies from time to time. I actually don't have any particular issue with lying as

04:15 a skill to develop

04:18 That there are times in your life when you're going to have to

04:21 lie

04:24 And

04:28 I don't I don't have any particular issue with

04:32 lying as a skill to develop I

04:38 Mean

04:40 Let me sort of give give you an example right lying lying can be lying can serve morality, right?

04:45 so if if somebody steals

04:49 your bike and then you see it for sale and

04:53 You go arrange to see to come and to come over and see the bike

04:57 To get the address where your bike is and then you just go and take it back

05:01 You're lying to the person right because you're saying I just want to come and see the bike

05:05 Where is it and then you go and take it back, right?

05:08 So in that right because you don't owe that person the truth because that person has stolen your bike, right?

05:14 So

05:21 yeah, I mean it it's a it's a skill that that is not the end of the world to to be in

05:26 Possession of and as I've always sort of talked about morality is a relationship morality is a relationship

05:32 So you owe moral considerations to those who are honorable, right?

05:37 Now if you're in a relationship

05:39 with somebody who lies

05:42 And a person who lies not a liar again that sort of right

05:46 Somebody says I was mistaken I realized now I've been in a romantic relationship in which she lied to me my bad now

05:55 That's not what I said, right? Does anybody hate to be like, mr. Nag first thing in the morning?

06:00 Sorry, I had a wild sleep last night. I slept for like I don't know nine hours or something

06:05 That's why

06:06 That's why my voice is super Barry White chill relaxed

06:09 But I didn't say a relative you have been in a relationship

06:13 With someone who lied. Yeah, somebody who doesn't have an issue with lying somebody who doesn't have a particular conscience about lying

06:19 somebody who can lie

06:22 lying is just a

06:24 Reasonable strategy to get what you want no matter what right no matter if you've been honorable and there's no right

06:30 It's just well, you know when you if you ever had a this is sort of old-school, I guess

06:35 you have a bunch of keys and

06:37 They're all kind of the same and

06:40 You just like when I used to work as a

06:44 Oh, I ever talked about this one. I used to work as an office cleaner

06:49 When I was in my mid-teens, yeah, we talked about this. I

06:52 Used to work as an office cleaner as one of my three jobs I cleaned a travel agents

06:59 I cleaned a doctor's office and I think it was a dentist's office

07:04 as well and

07:06 I remember I would just put on my headphones

07:09 I was really into the police and the Beatles and so I'd listen to music while I just cleaned

07:15 The offices are vacuumed and and dusted and all of that

07:18 I remember there was this list of everything that I was supposed to do as well like dust the floorboards

07:22 I guess I never did any of that stuff. I just never did but

07:26 Of course, I had a bunch of keys, right?

07:28 This is those this is long before punch cards and all of that

07:31 So I had a bunch of keys and the keys all looked the same and so I would test the I would test the keys

07:36 empty I would go in empty the garbage and

07:38 Wipe down everything and dust things in vacuum and just clean the offices, right?

07:42 And I had a bunch of keys

07:45 To all the different places I was cleaning it was all in the Don Mills mall back of the day and

07:49 So I would go and I would just try the keys out right it wasn't a moral thing

07:56 It's just well which key fits in like that

07:57 Some of them went in and didn't turn and you know, you jiggle a little bit and of course

08:01 Is this the window repair where you lied about having the skills?

08:04 No, that's not the window repair, but I did lie about having it wasn't window repair. It was a

08:10 It was screen doors to repair screen doors. I said, oh, yeah, I've had experience with that

08:17 You you look for the little weasel words, right? It's like yeah, I've broken a screen door. I

08:22 Tried to repair it didn't know what I was doing. So I've had some experience with that

08:26 But

08:28 Yeah, I don't feel bad about that because I was a good worker and

08:32 It took me about 10 minutes to learn how to fix a screen door. So no biggie

08:37 So

08:40 So I just tried tried the different locks and tried the different keys in the different locks right and and for some people

08:46 Lying or telling the truth is just like okay. Well, does this just lying get me just telling the truth get it what I want

08:52 No, okay. Well, maybe lying will get me what I want

08:55 And it had no more conscience than me trying different keys in in the locks

09:00 Right. There's no particular issue, right?

09:04 It's funny, you know, even though even though I'm talking about lying is okay into some circumstances

09:14 I still felt a little bit of a ding when somebody says oh, is this the window repair?

09:17 But you lied about having the skills of all the immorality that I face as a child to focus on that. It's kind of funny

09:23 right

09:25 All right

09:27 Somebody says group of friends had a couple that broke up and the girl started dating somebody else in secret kept it from everybody

09:34 But it destroyed the group no sense of what they were sacrificing

09:37 Relationships by hiding it they got their relationship

09:41 right

09:44 Right

09:46 Hit me with a why if you've ever started a relationship on cheating

09:54 either

09:56 You cheated with the girl or she cheated with you

09:58 Hell no, but no it's not not not wildly uncommon

10:04 It's not wildly uncommon. I just again, you know one person. Yes

10:09 This is not a big judgment thing. I mean, we're all Lord of the Flies lost souls trying to invent morality on the fly

10:18 Yes, I have the girl broke up her with her boyfriend to be with me

10:23 Right, you know again, there's some technicalities around that like if you didn't if she knew you were waiting it's not quite breaking up

10:31 Only casual yeah, yeah

10:37 So, you know that and I actually know I knew it knew I knew a couple

10:44 She was pregnant

10:47 Believe it or not when they first started trying to get together and they ended up as far as I know they got married

10:52 like later on wild

10:54 Wow

10:56 so

10:58 With regards to the original question, right?

11:01 My issue again since I I can't

11:07 Or I suppose won't talk about the medical stuff

11:12 I have no expertise to give you any medical advice and wouldn't in a million years dream of going beyond my expertise

11:18 But

11:21 When pressed right, would you ever?

11:25 Take another booster

11:28 No

11:30 Are you sure? What about this? Well, oh, yeah. Well, then it was okay. So then that's somebody just trying on different

11:36 They're just trying out different keys in the lock

11:38 Like oh, I'll say I'll say yes, I won't get another right and then but if pressed I'll switch

11:46 Okay, but if but if but if and so on right so that's my particular concern. What is her commitment to telling the truth?

11:52 What is her commitment to telling the truth

11:59 And

12:05 What are her standards for telling the truth

12:07 You know, I mean telling the truth is one of these interesting things right because

12:14 You know, you guys don't want to hear about how my bowels are working, right? I mean, why would you write?

12:19 Irrelevant, it's you know, it's it's unimportant. It's it's you know, not not the most elevated subject in the world

12:25 So am I I'm withholding information because I didn't tell you how my bowels worked like, you know

12:32 What I mean like so telling the truth is sort of it's relevant. It's important. The person has earned it and so on

12:37 Yeah, perfect. Honesty doesn't mean anything

12:40 We know you got a thumbs up from the colonoscopy, sorry, I just misread that I read we know you got a thumb up the

12:47 colonoscopy I'm like I

12:49 Think they went a little deeper than that. I'm pretty sure they checked out my retina from the inside. But

12:54 Yeah, well, I mean, but that was that was a funny story

12:57 And also that's just something that I would want to remind people might be worthwhile looking into particularly if you're over a certain age

13:08 Somebody says I was talking to a girl who was giving me the signals asked if she was in a relationship

13:12 She said yes seeing it in real life was bizarre. Yeah, so that's an amoral monkey-brancher, right? She's like

13:19 I'll flirt with guys and if there is a guy who's better higher state of something or other right?

13:27 then

13:31 She'll jump to that guy

13:35 But then of course because she'll jump to you

13:37 She'll jump from you anyone who would cheat with you will cheat on you and so on right so

13:41 So that would be my issue

13:43 So I would as far as marriage goes

13:53 I I I personally would view say something around the vaccine, right?

14:03 I

14:05 Should to cover chance to go on a cruise

14:08 So what that means is that she's very septa she's very susceptible to the argument from authority, right?

14:17 Isn't that?

14:19 Really the big issue that happened with the vaccines that people people say it's safe and effective right so it's safe and effective

14:30 And now there's a new variant coming out of Canada they might lock down again in the fall

14:34 Well, of course they will right I mean because it worked last time and that's the price of everyone complying right so

14:43 She's susceptible to the argument from authority

14:46 So and for what right to go on a cruise, right

14:56 And it's a wild thing to that people are just saying well now you need more more boosters and it's coming back

15:02 And of course, it's just wild

15:04 It's wild that nobody's talking about that this was never talked about before

15:11 Nobody nobody is ever nobody's ever talking about how this was never talked about before

15:18 Get your vaccines you move on you're done

15:22 It's how we end the pandemic it's gonna get rid of Kovac it's gonna right restore us to the way things were

15:27 That was the promise, right? I mean am I alone and I'm not alone in remembering that do you remember that that was?

15:33 That was what everybody was told and that was the promise hit me with a why if you remember that

15:37 Yeah, and now that's not what's happening at all and nobody's talking about it

15:47 Nobody's talking about it

15:49 Nobody's talking about it

15:56 Yeah, two weeks to stop the spread and slow the spread

15:58 Yeah, nobody's nobody's talking about that. I

16:01 Mean it's kind of like an asylum, isn't it? It's kind of like living in an asylum

16:06 What happened yesterday doesn't exist

16:11 Somebody says

16:17 My parents would lie a lot

16:19 I would lie about usually small things and would get punished for it

16:22 But I have never seen my parents get in trouble for lies as a kid. I would have to explain myself

16:27 As answer I would have to explain myself as answer why I had oh as to why I had lied

16:34 But was never able or encouraged to challenge their lies or ask why they had lied just more punishment for talking back

16:42 Yeah, I mean those who can lie to you without repercussions it's a mark of hierarchy, right

16:47 It's a mark of hierarchy

16:51 So the girl that you're dating with she took over chance because she is susceptible to the argument from authority, okay

16:59 so

17:02 Are you her authority?

17:10 So if somebody's susceptible to the argument from authority

17:13 Are you her authority as her husband or as her wife?

17:20 Right

17:23 See, here's the thing man

17:25 You want to know what is really the why the relationships break? Yeah, right, but why the relationships break up?

17:31 I can tell you this right now

17:33 Okay, hit me with a number. I want to know how relevant this is. We'll do this then we'll go donor

17:39 How many breakups have you had just just give me a number how many breakups have you had over the course of your life I

17:45 Mean including small relationships short relationships, and I also count one-night stands

17:50 All right, we got from zero I guess either you're still with or no

18:01 No didn't date couple of zeros couple of ones couple of twos four to fives

18:05 for 15

18:09 To

18:11 10 4 4 5 to 10 5 to 10. I'm still married to my first crush. Congratulations to one

18:17 Right

18:24 So hit me with a wife you'd like to know why breakups happen

18:27 This is also going to be how you stay in your relationship. Why do breakups happen?

18:36 Okay, so let's say you get married to this woman who's susceptible to the argument from authority and yet you're not the authority

18:42 So she says if she gets married to you

18:46 She says to love to honor to obey as both the man does to the wife to love to honor obey

18:51 No one else before you it's a monogamous relationship. I'm devoted to you. You're devoted to me

18:56 There's just two of us and we're committed to each other, right?

19:00 That's roughly the marriage vows. Hit me with an M if those were in the approximation of your idea of the marriage vows

19:07 I just want to make sure we're on the same page when we start

19:09 Okay now

19:16 If you get married to Sally from the alley if you get married to Sally and

19:25 Sally

19:27 Obeys authorities, but you are not her authority. Is she committed to you?

19:32 How many people are in the relationship?

19:36 Yeah, so when you get married you say that the other person

19:47 You are with you are in a monogamous relationship with that other person

19:51 Not that other person and Tony Fauci

19:57 Not that other person and

19:59 The local newscaster not the other person and the UN the World Health Organization

20:04 whatever not the other person and

20:07 Her mother not the other person and her friends who are divorcing

20:11 Two people in the relationship devoted to each other

20:18 So if you have a woman Sally she's susceptible to the argument from authority

20:27 and

20:29 You're not her authority. I'm not saying you should be I'm just saying that if she's susceptible to the argument from authority

20:34 And she says you are my guiding star the person

20:37 I want the man I want to have children with the man I trust with my life my future my finances my womb my offspring

20:42 My retirement then you are her authority just as your wife should be your authority

20:47 I mean you may divvy up certain areas where you have authority, but my wife absolutely rules me in certain areas happily submit to that

20:55 That

20:57 Tickles the brain a bit, right?

21:00 So if Sally

21:05 Takes her orders from Anthony Fauci you're not in the monogamous relationship

21:12 Do you follow if you have someone outside the relationship that overrides the person in the relationship you're cheating

21:24 You're cheating

21:26 Why do relationships break up

21:30 Because they're crowded

21:34 They're crowded by all the people that the people in the relationship defer to who aren't their partner you follow

21:43 Right

21:48 So you got Bob and Sally

21:53 Sally says I

21:55 want to do X and Bob says

21:58 Don't do X and here's why

22:01 Now you can have absolute debates about

22:08 The morals the reason the evidence absolutely you don't just say yes to someone because right

22:14 But you submit in in this order

22:21 Virtue

22:23 Reason

22:25 Evidence each other and that's it in

22:28 Relationships you submit to virtue reason evidence each other and that's it. There's nothing else

22:32 Do you see what I mean

22:42 Like in your relationship

22:47 between your dentist and

22:49 Your cousin who's not a dentist in your like let's say your cousin is a garbage picker right or garbageman

22:54 In your relationship between your dentist and your cousin. Who do you defer to?

22:58 your dentist

23:01 Assuming that you've had a good dental relationship and right

23:06 This is true alpha male talk no, it's just it's it's you could say it's alpha male talk and all of that

23:17 I'm I'm not sure exactly what that means

23:19 But I will say that it's the only way that organization the only way that a relationship can be rationally organized

23:25 Because you're going to have conflicts in a relationship. You're gonna have different ideas of what needs to be done

23:30 No, it's not boundaries its commitment

23:36 Its commitment

23:43 To love someone is to respect his or her judgment

23:48 And you can't but we love virtue right now virtue is not saying

23:57 It's not saying in your marital vows I love treasure I submit I obey I defer whatever it is

24:06 Right to to you to virtue to we we hold no others before us. It's a monogamous relationship

24:11 So a monogamous relationship means you work out your issues with no reference to outside people

24:18 And no reference to outside people

24:22 Somebody says Steph I heard just something yesterday from a psychologist relationships don't split up when the drugs are being used they split up when

24:36 someone gets sober

24:38 It's one of these that's a deepity it's pseudo clever

24:41 Absolutely relationships split up when drugs are being used. Yeah drug addicts split up all the time

24:47 Matters of mechanical aptitude the man may be the expert a wise man defers to his wife for home decor. Yeah

25:00 Can't say I know many people in relationships like this now, what do you mean like this?

25:05 You mean absolutely like monogamous to each other

25:07 Yeah

25:09 Yeah, well that's but that's what monogamy is right I mean that the vows are important I don't know be people say these vows

25:16 And and I worked with my wife on her own wedding vows because we just this is the most solemn promise you're ever gonna make

25:23 except to your own soul

25:26 Woman says my husband decided where we live and I decide what the house looks like

25:31 Right

25:35 Right

25:37 So

25:39 If you're in a monogamous relationship, it means that you decide things within the relationship without reference to outside parties I

25:48 Understand your spouse is your first authority

25:54 Well, no, but that's not that's not what I was saying. Right virtue is your first authority and then reason and then evidence and

26:01 then each other

26:06 So if you're if your husband tells you to do something immoral you don't defer to him

26:11 Right because your first responsibility is to morality

26:15 If your husband tells you to do something that goes against reason

26:20 You don't do it

26:24 Now in serving morality you are serving your spouse you understand that

26:31 Because you in you can only love someone who's moral if you're moral so in acting in a moral manner

26:37 You are preserving your bond with your spouse you are you are preserving your spouse's ability to love you by acting in a moral manner

26:46 Morality requires rationality. So if you act in an anti-rational manner, you are harming you are betraying your spouse because the love and the bond is essential

26:57 The couple I am close to are completely governed by their own parents that's cheating

27:01 That's absolutely cheating and it's really one of the worst forms of cheating because it's hard to detect

27:04 Yeah, like, you know the traditional thing where you know

27:10 You the husband and the wife have a fight and the wife runs off to her mother and the mother

27:15 Sympathizes and says how bad the husband is that's cheating. It's absolutely cheating and it's one of the worst and most destructive forms of cheating that there is

27:22 Where do your children fit in

27:27 I'm not sure what you mean

27:29 You don't defer to your children because your children are new to the world and their brains are very small right so

27:36 Hey Steph, I'm wondering if there is a difference between respecting your partner's judgment and trusting your partner's judgment

27:42 My friend Cheterman

27:51 You are not wondering that you are trying to

27:56 atom split

27:58 When we're talking broad strokes

28:00 Yeah, you are because we're talking about some very important things here and now you're splitting the atom

28:07 respecting and trusting and so on right and

28:10 Earlier, we had confusion about and it's not a hostile thing at all

28:15 I'm just sort of pointing it out that there are times where you sort of open your heart and mind and listen

28:19 And maybe you agree with or you don't but if you just immediately say oh, but what about this and what about that?

28:24 I'm like just listen first

28:26 Just listen

28:28 Don't have to agree or anything, but just listen to the big

28:32 Meaty deep powerful world-spanning life-saving argument. Just listen. Just listen rather than jumping in with nitpicking. This is a big suggestion

28:41 You can't get anywhere in life if you are listening to some big powerful argument, which this is right

28:47 I'm talking about how to stay together with someone for the rest of your life

28:52 What about this and what about that? Huh? What is yeah, right?

28:56 I'm telling you it's a terrible habit. I understand that habit. Lord knows I have it. I

29:01 Absolutely have it. I totally understand but you want to avoid the big picture by zooming in right?

29:08 like you understand if there's a big picture like there's something horrifying and

29:13 You zoom in you don't get have to see you don't have to deal with the big picture

29:21 Hit me with a why if

29:23 You have deferred to people

29:25 Outside of your relationship. I have I mean, oh not not currently but in the past

29:31 Hit me with a why if you've deferred to people outside of your relationship

29:35 I believe you Taylor

29:43 Yeah

29:46 You

29:48 Right

29:52 In the past in what capacity

29:56 My ex did it constantly with her family who hated my guts

30:02 You super chat question earlier I have copied that that was the question about weight loss, is that right?

30:08 Yes, I'm sorry I should have met mentioned that my apologies

30:15 Yes to gather reading reason and evidence. No, you're not deferring if you're gathering reason and evidence

30:19 You're not deferring to your partner

30:20 Like you don't want two people just in this circular enslavement of I'll do what you can't resolve disputes if you both have a disagreement

30:25 And you both decide to defer to each other, right?

30:27 If one of you says I want to move to Scotland and one who says I want to move to Dubai and you both defer

30:32 To each other you don't get anywhere. So there has to be some external standard, right?

30:35 But a crowded relationship will not survive

30:44 The commitment to the moral the reasonable and the evident

30:46 Doesn't leave room to fight about much with your partner. Well, yeah, this is my wife and my wife and I don't fight

30:53 We don't fight

30:56 We've never fought. I mean we've had our disagreements

30:59 But we don't fight no, I'm not lucky I'm not lucky I can't I

31:11 Can do 50 sit-ups I can do a hundred push-ups. You're just very lucky. It's like no, I'm not

31:16 No now why is why is okay, let's well we'll continue this on but this is a

31:25 Supporter only podcast from here on in we'll get into we'll get into it even deeper

31:30 What you are is triggering well, no, it's it's

31:37 You have the standard, you know, you know how many people are out there who says oh man relationships are tough and

31:42 They work and it's like no. No, they're not

31:45 Relationship is where you come for love

31:48 recharging acceptance

31:51 affection

31:53 happiness

31:55 Support that's what like I already have a job. I don't need a relationship as a part-time job. I already have a job

32:01 Yeah relationships are not tough

32:06 That's everyone around you help. Yeah

32:08 Yeah, yeah, we'll get to the weight loss thing it was it's a great question

32:16 so yeah with the woman who's a

32:19 she she lies and and you just have to

32:22 and the reason you do reason above evidence is

32:26 because

32:29 Evidence is painful, right?

32:33 Right evidence is painful. The reason you stop drinking is drinking is bad for you

32:37 right and

32:39 There's reasons for that that you understand medically you don't wait until

32:44 Your liver is half dead and then say well the evidence is that drinking is like you evidence is right

32:52 I'm helpless good women don't exist. Yeah

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32:59 Alright

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