00:00 I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex
00:02 and that does not sum up polyamory.
00:05 It's so much more than that.
00:06 We're just kind of a big, crazy family.
00:08 So we're in a polyamorous quad.
00:17 That polyamory in general,
00:19 meaning we have multiple partners,
00:20 our quad is closed.
00:22 So Sean is my husband and then Tyler's my partner as well.
00:26 And then Tyler and Alicia are married
00:29 and Alicia is Sean's partner as well.
00:31 For Tay and I, we've been married since 2017.
00:34 Had a really great marriage.
00:35 Everything was going great.
00:36 Just felt the need to explore and have a little fun.
00:39 Wasn't looking for anything relationship-wise.
00:42 Just wanted to explore certain things
00:44 from a physical standpoint with other people.
00:46 Alicia and I were married since 2012
00:48 and we were just kind of seeking out
00:51 some extra-curricular fun.
00:53 Like Sean said, it was just meant to be a physical thing
00:55 for us to kind of casual.
00:57 Happened to match with these guys on a digital app.
01:00 We had talked online for a little while,
01:03 decided to meet at an event in Portland,
01:05 hung out and had pretty good chemistry.
01:08 It was pretty easy, pretty comfortable
01:10 to be around each other.
01:11 - I think it was a lot of what if conversations
01:13 in the beginning.
01:14 Like what if there was feelings
01:15 and then what if we wanted to spend more time together
01:17 and then what if we wanted to live together
01:19 and those what ifs just turned into real life conversations
01:22 really quickly.
01:23 - It was a really beautiful thing to realize
01:25 that it doesn't take away from our own relationship
01:27 to have the other experimental person just ask you.
01:29 - I'd never heard of the term polyamory
01:31 before we were in a polyamorous relationship.
01:33 So the idea that you could love more than one person
01:36 had never crossed my mind before.
01:37 - Tyler and I had two previous children together
01:40 before we met Sean and Taya.
01:42 And then after we have been together,
01:44 I birthed Barrett and then Taya,
01:46 we birthed Garver.
01:48 So the little boys are only seven months apart.
01:50 - From a biological standpoint,
01:52 the older two kids don't know right now.
01:53 - I know that I'm the biological father
01:56 of the younger two boys biologically.
01:58 I'm not sure because we didn't really make an effort
02:01 to regulate that and determine beforehand
02:03 who was gonna father the child.
02:04 But moving on from that,
02:05 I would say that our children all have two fathers.
02:08 - Not knowing the biology of the two younger kids
02:11 is not important to us because we parent together.
02:14 It doesn't matter to us.
02:16 It's never mattered to us.
02:16 The kids see us all as parents.
02:18 And so it's never been a,
02:19 as of right now, it has never been a thing.
02:21 Not to say that it won't be when the kids are older
02:23 and we would never hide that from anyone.
02:25 - Most of the time that we spend together is as a quad.
02:28 All kids are in bed by about eight o'clock at night.
02:30 So it gives one hour for all the adults
02:33 to kind of unwind and watch a show together,
02:36 the four of us as a quad.
02:37 And then at nine, we go to our own separate bedrooms.
02:40 So one night Tyler and I will be together,
02:43 Sean and Taya will be together.
02:44 And then the next night, Sean and I will be together
02:46 and Taya and Tyler will be together.
02:48 - It's been really fun to share our family
02:52 and our family photos.
02:53 And honestly, just how normal we are.
02:57 We're just kind of a big, crazy family.
02:59 And I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex
03:02 and it's not, that does not sum up polyamory.
03:05 It's so much more than that.
03:07 And our relationships physically
03:10 aren't unlike anybody else's,
03:12 except for the fact that there are,
03:14 we have one additional partner than most people do.
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