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00:00:00In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
00:00:12We ask you, Lord, to send the light of the Holy Spirit into our hearts.
00:00:16and that tonight we can continue to delve deeper into the topics that are beneficial for our family,
00:00:24especially for the pillar of the family, which are the couples.
00:00:30We ask you, Lord, to develop in them a generous heart.
00:00:34so that they may come to experience this fullness, this love that You have for them all
00:00:42and that it be through them, through these Christian families,
00:00:48how can we truly present a proposal for society,
00:00:52a proposal of love, a proposal that will show those who don't know you,
00:01:00that the Christian family is truly a perfect place to be happy.
00:01:06Virgin Mary, we continue to entrust this seminary to Your protection and shelter
00:01:12so that, in the same way as you and José, they could live a rich experience
00:01:18and full of love in her family, so it may be in all our families.
00:01:23All this, Lord, we ask through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
00:01:30Okay, so let's continue with the topic we've been developing.
00:01:36We have already seen three, we have had three moments of reflection.
00:01:41Initially, we were looking at how we transitioned from the dating stage
00:01:46towards our first years of marriage, this process of adjustment, of coupling.
00:01:54After that, we dedicated a session to talking about our children,
00:02:01of these precious stones that we need to cut.
00:02:04We saw all the problems this entails and, therefore, we saw the need.
00:02:10Above all, we arrived, just as in the first conversation,
00:02:13You will recall that we ground all our reflection
00:02:16with the idea of having a marriage where we are, above all, friends.
00:02:22A love like Jesus's, the love of a friend,
00:02:25who is capable of reaching out to us, of loving us, of forgiving us, in short.
00:02:29So, as we said with the children, our proposal was to search by all means.
00:02:34Let God's authority guide them,
00:02:40that it's not just us or our criteria,
00:02:43Because ultimately, many of these things change.
00:02:48Only God remains.
00:02:52I remember myself when I was little, or rather young,
00:02:55I had the same argument that many of you probably have.
00:03:00with their children, teenagers, young people, with some aspects of the hairstyle.
00:03:05Now there's a lot of talk about earrings and tattoos on girls.
00:03:10In short, all these kinds of things that, well, are to some extent accessories.
00:03:17The only thing I tell the guys in this regard is mostly
00:03:21Regarding the tattoo issue, because, well, you cut your hair
00:03:24And, well, if you're not using the earring anymore, then you take it off.
00:03:28But if you get a tattoo, you're stuck with it for life.
00:03:32Then you're going to struggle a lot.
00:03:33So, I tell them, try not to get involved in this.
00:03:36Because it's fashionable when you grow up; we all go through these stages.
00:03:41Those of you who are from the chocolate milk era and earlier will remember,
00:03:44In our time it was the time of the hippies, wasn't it?
00:03:47Long hair, flared trousers, girls, miniskirts,
00:03:52Hot pants, all this kind of fashion that, well, our parents criticized us for.
00:04:00And they wouldn't let us dress and do and say, and, well, that was this conflict.
00:04:05Well, today I imagine you all feel the same way.
00:04:09which we had, perhaps today with a little more pressure,
00:04:12But that's why we emphasized in our reflection the importance of it not being secondary.
00:04:20Let it not be superficial, let it not even be our own criteria,
00:04:23that these can change depending on our age
00:04:27and depending on different environmental circumstances,
00:04:31but rather that it is truly the word of God that can govern the conduct of our children.
00:04:36Last week we took another step forward, venturing into a very sensitive area,
00:04:44It's not the most important thing, I think, in married life.
00:04:49But it's a very delicate area, a very important area.
00:04:53which on many occasions, as we saw and will see in our next meeting,
00:04:59Our next meeting next week is an area that can have many complications,
00:05:07which is the affective area, the sexual area, where, well, it is necessary,
00:05:13Above all, we were saying, we should avoid selfishness, and I think that was the conclusion we reached.
00:05:22may it truly be a joyful experience for both of us,
00:05:26that it is not merely a union of bodies, but, above all, a total fusion of the person,
00:05:35That, of course, as we said at the time, a person is body and soul.
00:05:41Today it seems very important to me, I don't know if more so than our other reflections,
00:05:51But it is a very important stage, which we will review today,
00:05:57because it is the stage that we could call the normalization stage.
00:06:02We started our lives a little hectic, well,
00:06:08We went from courtship to marriage, a time of adjustment, of back and forth, of arguments,
00:06:14Yes to this, no to this, let's do it this way, let's do it this way, let's do it this way,
00:06:16The children are coming, there's an adjustment coming, the husband is in a rampant stage,
00:06:23It has to accelerate as much as possible, according to some experts on the subject.
00:06:30that a high-potential executive reaches their peak development at age 35,
00:06:36between 35 and 37 years old.
00:06:38In other words, once we reach 37 years old, almost all our other movements will be lateral.
00:06:47So it's a time when the husband, the man, really steps on the gas.
00:06:53He is strong, full of vitality, with all his knowledge,
00:06:57and then it accelerates to reach, therefore, maximum development
00:07:01and be able to achieve stability between the ages of 37 and 40.
00:07:06On the other hand, the woman already finds a certain stability in the home,
00:07:12The first child is always chaotic; the second, if he's anything like me, is going to be worse.
00:07:18But thank God there aren't many of us like that, so now with the second one,
00:07:24It's like they've already got the hang of it, before, with the first child.
00:07:29I see it with the women I visit, who are first-time mothers.
00:07:35Well, don't let the little boy get any air.
00:07:38And they're almost, what am I saying?, 100%, 1000% there,
00:07:42He breathes, if he doesn't breathe, well.
00:07:45Yes, with the fourth one, he's breathing too.
00:07:48as long as everyone is more or less there in their positions,
00:07:51Well, we can move on, right?
00:07:53Yes, of course, they can't be split, so, well, this one already has the live
00:07:58And the other one is playing with something else, well, I don't know.
00:08:02Things are stabilizing, and that's also affecting the whole marriage.
00:08:07The house is leading to stability,
00:08:10to a state that I call a state of normalization.
00:08:15However, it's like in construction.
00:08:20And that's why it's so important to review today
00:08:22What is happening in the foundations?
00:08:25Sometimes, then, everything on the surface seems to be fine.
00:08:30And yet, well, termites have gotten in.
00:08:34And so they are undermining our foundations,
00:08:38They are taking strength away from the floor.
00:08:39And we might, later on, get quite a scare.
00:08:44upon discovering that we lack the foundations
00:08:46that we believed or expected to be there.
00:08:51This normality in our marriages
00:08:54It is truly a moment of reflection
00:08:58to see if we're really okay
00:09:01or it just seems like we're doing well.
00:09:05And it's a time when sometimes, unfortunately,
00:09:09We don't give in, because it gets to us, like I said,
00:09:13still to men, to males,
00:09:17still with a lot of inertia.
00:09:19So, very immersed in their work,
00:09:21with many projects, traveling, doing many things
00:09:23To progress, try to bring the family along
00:09:26at a slightly more comfortable economic level.
00:09:31The wife, then, in this period we are talking about
00:09:35practically between 10 and 12 years after the marriage.
00:09:39She is still with young children, perhaps others,
00:09:43Today, the average is roughly between two and three children.
00:09:46So, what we normally are today,
00:09:49The couples are more or less planning
00:09:52their families toward that number.
00:09:55So, we still encounter a certain complication.
00:09:58and a lot of speed.
00:09:59A very fast-paced world, which also, well, doesn't help much today.
00:10:03schools with many systems that have been implemented
00:10:09to better train children,
00:10:12But the cost is very high, regardless of the schools
00:10:16They can be very expensive, the cost to the family,
00:10:19especially the cost that the mother has to pay,
00:10:22It's very tall.
00:10:23It's just a matter of going out on the street and running into each other.
00:10:26with a flock of vans, station wagons, all kinds.
00:10:30And, well, if someone happens to go out by mistake,
00:10:33between one thirty and two thirty,
00:10:37Most likely, he's going to have a pretty difficult time.
00:10:43All the vans were full of children,
00:10:44Desperate mothers.
00:10:46I was also mentioning this recently in a meeting,
00:10:51I had a very interesting case that I sometimes talk about.
00:10:57I came here because of Gómez Morín,
00:10:59I was heading towards Chipinque,
00:11:01It was about this time,
00:11:04around two in the afternoon.
00:11:05I took the...
00:11:06He was coming for Gómez Morín,
00:11:08I get there to the pipes,
00:11:09And you can see that as the pipes pass by,
00:11:10Well, there are a number of streets that converge there,
00:11:13There's also HIV and some flower shops,
00:11:15or I don't know what's out there.
00:11:17Well, I was coming normally, slowly,
00:11:19because I had already seen that up ahead,
00:11:20Well, the red one was already there.
00:11:22So there's no need to rush.
00:11:24When suddenly a lady with a bunch of little holes like that,
00:11:26but full of holes,
00:11:28The truck cut me off,
00:11:30But what's more, I didn't know where it came from.
00:11:34When I saw her,
00:11:35Boom!
00:11:36He crossed over to turn around there where Hawaii is.
00:11:40And so, I restrained myself
00:11:42And then, well, I let the lady pass.
00:11:46So, I'll settle in there.
00:11:50I turn to look at her, just to see what's up.
00:11:52No!
00:11:54He yelled at me.
00:11:55Everything was there, it even had air conditioning,
00:11:57Thank God,
00:11:58because otherwise,
00:11:59You will know what she told me,
00:12:01This poor lady,
00:12:02Imagine, with five crows.
00:12:03Stay here!
00:12:04No, leave the bread, leave your brother!
00:12:05You're not fighting!
00:12:06Give it this way, pencil!
00:12:07Hey!
00:12:08That's amazing, isn't it?
00:12:11So, we grabbed the family,
00:12:14on one side the husband,
00:12:15with this train still
00:12:17to achieve economic stability in the home.
00:12:20And to his wife,
00:12:21with a speed that makes him live his children
00:12:25through all these extracurricular activities
00:12:28and a series of other activities that we ourselves sometimes do
00:12:31we'll go looking for each other.
00:12:32And sometimes we don't give ourselves the time to stop,
00:12:36to slow things down for a bit
00:12:39and see how things are between us
00:12:43and also with our children.
00:12:45In other words, we got on a high-speed train
00:12:48and we have no chance to look anywhere.
00:12:51Let's move forward, forward, forward
00:12:53And this can have serious consequences.
00:12:57We need to stop, check the machine again,
00:12:59see that it has oil, that it has water,
00:13:02that the tires are properly inflated,
00:13:03that we are heading in the direction we set out to achieve 10 years ago,
00:13:06even though things have changed,
00:13:09Our goal remains unchanged.
00:13:13It's a period that I call a dangerous period,
00:13:18It's complicated, because of what I've been telling you.
00:13:22It's typical for people to say,
00:13:25No, well, everything was going really well, man.
00:13:26But they did look like a fantastic, formidable couple.
00:13:30What happened?
00:13:31No?
00:13:32And suddenly we find that they separated,
00:13:35because they no longer get along, a series of problems
00:13:38And one says, well, what happened?
00:13:41So, what is it that, apparently,
00:13:44Even with our family members, it's sad.
00:13:47I experience it quite frequently.
00:13:50This type of situation with couples,
00:13:53where the families themselves say,
00:13:55They used to look great together, but now they don't talk anymore.
00:14:01They're separating, they're having terrible fights.
00:14:04What happened?
00:14:06Well, that's one of the things that all this life produces.
00:14:10and some situations that we can bring from the past,
00:14:13things that weren't fixed at the appropriate time,
00:14:17In other words, in that transition towards marriage,
00:14:22Sometimes we create masks
00:14:25And then we put on different masks
00:14:28and we haven't yet had the ability to introduce ourselves
00:14:33with the husband, with the wife, just as we are.
00:14:37Sometimes, as I told you in our first meeting,
00:14:39We are afraid,
00:14:40We are afraid to be ourselves.
00:14:43because we're afraid of losing it
00:14:46And that's all it's doing.
00:14:49because it prolongs the agony.
00:14:53What is, is.
00:14:55I always tell them that
00:14:56You don't need to put too much frosting on the cake,
00:15:00It needs to be put on shoe polish,
00:15:02but in such a way that you get to try the cake,
00:15:04to see if you like the cake,
00:15:05because nobody lives on shoe polish,
00:15:08sooner or later
00:15:09You're going to get the cake
00:15:10And if you don't like that cake,
00:15:13Hey, I've been putting shoe polish on it my whole life.
00:15:15so you don't eat that cake,
00:15:16it can't be done.
00:15:18So, one of the things that cause failure
00:15:22It is precisely the act of making masks,
00:15:26pretending,
00:15:28just to avoid any unpleasantness,
00:15:30No, why would I move it?
00:15:32Let's leave it there
00:15:33And I know that if I say yes to this,
00:15:35that the other person will be upset,
00:15:37He's going to be upset.
00:15:39We're going to have a problem.
00:15:40And no, it's better to bring the party.
00:15:41at peace.
00:15:44This is what is known as false irenicism.
00:15:48Okay, so the first thing
00:15:49that will be affecting is
00:15:51manufacturing masks,
00:15:54to pretend,
00:15:55not having that ability
00:15:56to face the situation as it is,
00:15:59even if it gets us into a row
00:16:00the size of the world.
00:16:02We have to get involved, right?
00:16:03A second situation is
00:16:07Ignoring reality.
00:16:09As you can see, things aren't going well.
00:16:12But it's too complicated.
00:16:14and besides, no.
00:16:15we're running very fast,
00:16:17There's no time.
00:16:18And there you are,
00:16:18And the problem is getting bigger.
00:16:21You already realized,
00:16:23But you don't want to accept it.
00:16:24that you have a problem.
00:16:25No, well,
00:16:26Yes, they're just little things.
00:16:27These are adjustments,
00:16:27adjustments after eight years.
00:16:28You already have a problem there.
00:16:32that you haven't been able to,
00:16:34You haven't known,
00:16:35Or you didn't want to resolve it.
00:16:37So,
00:16:38Don't fool yourself
00:16:38with this aspect
00:16:40because ultimately,
00:16:41well,
00:16:41You're going to fail.
00:16:45There are sometimes problems
00:16:45in economic terms,
00:16:46in the education of children,
00:16:48in sexual matters,
00:16:49I mean,
00:16:49different elements
00:16:51that have not been resolved
00:16:52at the time,
00:16:53and we've been dragging them along,
00:16:54we've been dragging them along,
00:16:56and we haven't stopped them.
00:16:58And then,
00:16:59This is going to bring us
00:17:00serious consequences.
00:17:01We are leaving
00:17:02that termites
00:17:03go walking
00:17:04below our house,
00:17:06and the floor might collapse.
00:17:11Sometimes,
00:17:12as a result
00:17:12of these two situations,
00:17:14We're becoming stronger,
00:17:16without providing a solution,
00:17:18we take advantage of the fact that,
00:17:19well,
00:17:19We are still strong,
00:17:21We're still young,
00:17:22and then,
00:17:23our capacity for tolerance
00:17:24That's still quite a lot.
00:17:26And then,
00:17:27although they annoy me
00:17:27certain attitudes
00:17:28from him or her,
00:17:30although there are things
00:17:31that I don't like
00:17:32from him or her,
00:17:34well,
00:17:34I tolerate them,
00:17:35But they really bother me,
00:17:37but I've never wanted to
00:17:38face it,
00:17:38Because I say,
00:17:40Well,
00:17:40well,
00:17:40Yes, it bothers me.
00:17:41but,
00:17:41How strong are you?
00:17:43How are you, young man?
00:17:44well,
00:17:45You think that's how it's going to be
00:17:46lifetime.
00:17:47And everything has a limit.
00:17:49The thread stretches,
00:17:50the thread stretches,
00:17:51the thread stretches,
00:17:52until it bursts.
00:17:53And the bigger we get,
00:17:56We are losing much more capacity.
00:17:58of tolerance.
00:17:59When we are young,
00:18:00We are much more patient,
00:18:01much more tolerant,
00:18:03as we move forward
00:18:04in age,
00:18:05we are becoming less tolerant
00:18:07and more impatient.
00:18:09We must remember,
00:18:09siblings,
00:18:10that love is something alive.
00:18:12Love is something that needs
00:18:14of continuous attention.
00:18:17It's like a tree.
00:18:18You all stop watering the tree
00:18:22And you will see that immediately,
00:18:24a few months later,
00:18:27it begins to dry,
00:18:28It begins to lose vitality.
00:18:30Love is the same.
00:18:33People think,
00:18:34people who get married super in love
00:18:36and then he gets into a lifestyle
00:18:38like this,
00:18:40He thinks that with what he brought,
00:18:41That's how it will continue
00:18:42And he's wrong.
00:18:44We need to keep feeding it.
00:18:46continuously,
00:18:47We need to keep checking it.
00:18:49continuously
00:18:49so that this love
00:18:51not only remain,
00:18:53but let it grow.
00:18:54Because in the area of love,
00:18:57siblings,
00:18:58in the area of love,
00:18:59To stop is to go backwards.
00:19:02There's nothing left to do but move forward.
00:19:05If you stop,
00:19:07You've already backed down.
00:19:08Because life,
00:19:09age,
00:19:10Everything is moving forward.
00:19:11and you can't stop
00:19:13to keep you
00:19:14at least in status
00:19:16that you were
00:19:17when you started your marriage,
00:19:19You have to keep nurturing the love
00:19:20at least like you did at the beginning.
00:19:24Otherwise,
00:19:25You will gradually lose more ground.
00:19:27in this area
00:19:27until a time will come
00:19:29in which you will discover
00:19:30that there is little life,
00:19:32which is practically dry.
00:19:34It's a stage
00:19:35in which
00:19:36for this type of activity
00:19:38so fast
00:19:39in which they live
00:19:40the husband with the wife,
00:19:41we are losing sight of
00:19:43the we
00:19:43And it's easy again.
00:19:46fall into the you
00:19:48and in the self,
00:19:50in mine
00:19:51and mind your own business.
00:19:53Because, like this life...
00:19:54it's dragging us along
00:19:55many times
00:19:55along parallel paths,
00:19:57while I am educating
00:19:59to the children
00:19:59quickly
00:20:00and with all the problems
00:20:01of this world,
00:20:02I'm trying
00:20:03to place the family
00:20:04in an economic situation
00:20:06more relaxed,
00:20:07It turns out that it's easy
00:20:08we can begin
00:20:10to say
00:20:11I mean,
00:20:12It's that you say,
00:20:13the thing is...
00:20:13and it's being lost
00:20:14the we
00:20:15which is proper
00:20:16of the couple.
00:20:18It's not you anymore
00:20:18nor me
00:20:19but it's us.
00:20:21It's not your thing anymore.
00:20:22and mine
00:20:22but it's not our thing.
00:20:25And it's easy.
00:20:26above all
00:20:26because in this...
00:20:27in this society
00:20:29consumerist
00:20:30that is pushing us
00:20:31to go
00:20:32by acquiring
00:20:33more things
00:20:34and different elements
00:20:35Well, we're leaving.
00:20:36making people
00:20:37Where are we going?
00:20:38having already
00:20:39our own
00:20:40bank accounts,
00:20:41our own
00:20:42maintenance,
00:20:43the husband
00:20:43depending
00:20:44how are they handling it
00:20:45the economy
00:20:45well the wife
00:20:47it's doing
00:20:48your savings
00:20:49with that
00:20:49well now
00:20:50the wife too
00:20:51Well, he already works.
00:20:52then no,
00:20:53This is what I do best.
00:20:54I bought this.
00:20:55And this was for me.
00:20:56And we gradually forget
00:20:57that in the couple
00:20:59everything is us,
00:21:00It's our thing.
00:21:02It's easy then
00:21:03forget
00:21:04that we are one
00:21:06and we return
00:21:07to divide us,
00:21:08we're coming back
00:21:09to our history
00:21:10from before
00:21:11to get married.
00:21:13After some years
00:21:14accommodation
00:21:15in marriage,
00:21:16if it is not taken into account
00:21:17some elements,
00:21:19can be forgotten
00:21:20that there is nothing
00:21:21most important
00:21:22for me
00:21:23than you.
00:21:27It's more important
00:21:28well
00:21:29the family,
00:21:31No?
00:21:32It is important
00:21:33that the boys
00:21:33may have
00:21:34best schools,
00:21:35It is important
00:21:36that you can have
00:21:37Well, a better car.
00:21:38or that we can
00:21:39to have a better house.
00:21:42And it's easy,
00:21:43It's easy
00:21:43forget
00:21:44or leave it
00:21:46a little to the side
00:21:46that the only
00:21:47important
00:21:48in our marriage
00:21:49it's you.
00:21:52And upon losing
00:21:53this dimension
00:21:54of importance
00:21:55in the couple,
00:21:57everything else
00:21:58tends quickly
00:21:59to be pulverized.
00:22:01It's very important
00:22:02that we
00:22:02let's have
00:22:03always present
00:22:04the most important
00:22:06of all this
00:22:08it's you,
00:22:10my husband,
00:22:11my wife.
00:22:12Everything else,
00:22:13my beloved brothers,
00:22:14He's going to leave.
00:22:16the children
00:22:16They're going to leave
00:22:17and the only
00:22:18that will remain
00:22:19at home
00:22:20after 25,
00:22:2230 years
00:22:22of married
00:22:23It's the couple
00:22:24who is with you.
00:22:25That's all
00:22:26what they have
00:22:26And that's all.
00:22:27that is worthwhile
00:22:28really take care
00:22:30and pay close attention.
00:22:31But today
00:22:32the world
00:22:32It pushes us strongly
00:22:34along other paths
00:22:35and then
00:22:36It's easy
00:22:37lose sight of
00:22:38this
00:22:38And that's why
00:22:39we met
00:22:39with many failures
00:22:40matrimonial
00:22:41if not definitive
00:22:43in one line
00:22:43of a breakup
00:22:44divorce
00:22:45if we don't find them
00:22:46with couples
00:22:47that are no longer
00:22:49truly happy
00:22:50and that's it
00:22:51They keep walking
00:22:52because, as we shall see
00:22:53perhaps later
00:22:54there are no more
00:22:56well
00:22:57many alternatives.
00:23:00Jesus proposes to us
00:23:01in this regard
00:23:02an idea
00:23:03that
00:23:04it's worth it
00:23:06Today I'll comment.
00:23:07Jesus
00:23:07in chapter 15
00:23:09verse 5
00:23:10of San Juan
00:23:11it proposes
00:23:12a parable
00:23:13one of the most beautiful
00:23:14for me
00:23:14which is the parable
00:23:15of the vine
00:23:16in this parable
00:23:18he tells us
00:23:18in chapter 15
00:23:20verse 5
00:23:21says
00:23:21I am the vine
00:23:23You are the vine shoots
00:23:25the one who remains
00:23:27in me
00:23:28and I in it
00:23:29that one bears much fruit
00:23:30because separated
00:23:32of me
00:23:32There's nothing they can do.
00:23:34that is to say
00:23:35puts a
00:23:36an analogy
00:23:37he is
00:23:39He is the vine
00:23:40He is the trunk
00:23:41we are
00:23:42the branches
00:23:43if we resume
00:23:44what we had already
00:23:46spoken
00:23:46with
00:23:47previously
00:23:49of Saint Paul
00:23:51where Saint Paul
00:23:53makes the analogy
00:23:54Christ
00:23:54the husband
00:23:56of the church
00:23:57if this analogy
00:23:59we transferred it
00:24:00now
00:24:00to this example
00:24:01of Jesus
00:24:02well
00:24:03we would meet
00:24:04with which the husband
00:24:06it is the trunk
00:24:07and the wife
00:24:08those would be the branches
00:24:10a branch
00:24:11that is not glued
00:24:13to the trunk
00:24:13Well, it won't have
00:24:14it will not bear fruit
00:24:16It's going to dry
00:24:17but also
00:24:18a dry log
00:24:19a trunk that has no
00:24:20branches
00:24:22So what's it for?
00:24:23Well, for what it says
00:24:25Jesus specifically
00:24:26to burn
00:24:28not anymore
00:24:29not anymore
00:24:29It's no longer useful
00:24:30not at all
00:24:31the couple
00:24:32the family
00:24:33That makes sense
00:24:34to the extent
00:24:35in which it occurs
00:24:35This unit
00:24:36and this unit
00:24:38It is a unit
00:24:39transcendental
00:24:40That's why the week
00:24:41pass
00:24:42when we talked
00:24:43of the relationship
00:24:44intimate
00:24:44of the couple
00:24:45we were talking
00:24:46which was not only
00:24:47the union
00:24:48two-body
00:24:49but the union
00:24:50of two people
00:24:51which includes
00:24:52the body
00:24:52but also
00:24:53the soul
00:24:54and the spirit
00:24:54all
00:24:55merges
00:24:56at the moment
00:24:57of intimacy
00:24:57to give it
00:24:59the real
00:24:59sense
00:25:00creator
00:25:00that God
00:25:01He gave it to him
00:25:01at this moment
00:25:02is such
00:25:04this intimacy
00:25:05that we can
00:25:06easily
00:25:06to arrive at this analogy
00:25:08the branch
00:25:09It's not glued on
00:25:10with crazy glue
00:25:11is truly
00:25:13grafted
00:25:14and by
00:25:15down the branch
00:25:16circula
00:25:17completely
00:25:18when
00:25:20we're arriving
00:25:21to this stage
00:25:22of normality
00:25:23could happen
00:25:24like right now
00:25:25I was telling you
00:25:27really
00:25:29We love each other
00:25:30or simply
00:25:32we tolerate each other
00:25:33certainly
00:25:35there will be
00:25:36times
00:25:37We'll discuss it.
00:25:38next week
00:25:39There will be times
00:25:40in what
00:25:41because I have to
00:25:42tolerate
00:25:42some situations
00:25:43but this
00:25:44It shouldn't be
00:25:45the common
00:25:46This shouldn't be
00:25:47ordinary
00:25:48There will be times
00:25:49in what
00:25:50certainly
00:25:51well, some attitude
00:25:52some situation
00:25:52well it's not
00:25:54exactly
00:25:54What I would like
00:25:55what would seem to me
00:25:56etc.
00:25:57and well
00:25:58I tolerate it then
00:25:59but when
00:26:00I tolerate it all my life
00:26:01that
00:26:03It has a limit.
00:26:04that can't
00:26:05extend
00:26:06lifetime
00:26:06because my beloved brothers
00:26:09we are
00:26:10calls
00:26:11you
00:26:11my beloved brothers
00:26:12They are called
00:26:13to have a life
00:26:14full
00:26:15to be
00:26:16fully
00:26:17happy
00:26:18marriage
00:26:19It's not a prison
00:26:21It's paradise
00:26:22No
00:26:24We didn't go in
00:26:26there by force
00:26:27We made a commitment
00:26:29We'll see.
00:26:30next week
00:26:31but this commitment
00:26:32of love
00:26:33We have to go
00:26:34leading to growth
00:26:35gradual in love
00:26:36the experience
00:26:38of the bride and groom
00:26:38It should be
00:26:40nothing
00:26:41compared to the experience
00:26:42of a couple
00:26:43who is 30 years old
00:26:44married
00:26:44love
00:26:46that has been generated
00:26:47in 30 years
00:26:48with all that
00:26:49marriage
00:26:50and wealth
00:26:51that God offers
00:26:52to the spouses
00:26:54because it must have
00:26:55to the couple
00:26:56an experience
00:26:57of love
00:26:57unimaginable
00:26:59I like it a lot
00:27:01tell the boys
00:27:02on their wedding day
00:27:03tell them
00:27:04what right now
00:27:05love
00:27:06what right now
00:27:06you experience
00:27:08if you live
00:27:09according to the project
00:27:10of God
00:27:10Let me tell you
00:27:12that you don't have
00:27:13nor the little one
00:27:14imagination
00:27:15of what you can achieve
00:27:16to love your husband
00:27:17or your wife
00:27:18the moment
00:27:19of marriage
00:27:21is really
00:27:22the tip
00:27:23of an iceberg
00:27:23below
00:27:25this
00:27:26life
00:27:27a life
00:27:29which certainly
00:27:30Well, we have to do it
00:27:30emerge
00:27:31towards the surface
00:27:33but
00:27:34This is the project
00:27:36of God
00:27:37That's why saying
00:27:38well
00:27:38I can handle it
00:27:40I can handle it
00:27:41or I can stand it
00:27:42or I tolerate it
00:27:43siblings
00:27:44That's a word
00:27:45that truly
00:27:46within the Christian life
00:27:47because it's unthinkable
00:27:49happens
00:27:50because of sin
00:27:52because selfishness
00:27:53is present
00:27:54because some
00:27:54of these factors
00:27:55of those who
00:27:56I have mentioned
00:27:57no measures have been taken
00:27:58in account
00:27:59at the opportune moment
00:28:00when life
00:28:03It doesn't flow
00:28:04this way
00:28:04then the marriage
00:28:06it becomes
00:28:07in a space
00:28:08oppressor
00:28:09where there is frustration
00:28:10and anguish
00:28:11in the best
00:28:12of the cases
00:28:13indifference
00:28:14how sad
00:28:17how sad
00:28:19that an experience
00:28:20that began
00:28:20with a love
00:28:22passionate
00:28:23with a
00:28:23with a project
00:28:25of happiness
00:28:26life
00:28:26and love
00:28:26at last
00:28:2815 years old
00:28:28has become
00:28:29truly
00:28:30in a project
00:28:30oppressor
00:28:31and frustrating
00:28:32as I tell you
00:28:34well
00:28:35That doesn't feed
00:28:37And that's not it.
00:28:38the project
00:28:39of God
00:28:39for the couple
00:28:40It's sad.
00:28:44meet
00:28:44couples
00:28:45who resign themselves
00:28:46to be unhappy
00:28:47There is no other way out
00:28:49this thought
00:28:51It's a serious mistake
00:28:52It destroys us
00:28:53for whom we trust
00:28:55in God
00:28:55There is always hope.
00:28:57and hope
00:28:59it is precisely
00:29:00on returning
00:29:02to your husband
00:29:04to your wife
00:29:05to return
00:29:06to rebuild
00:29:07the we
00:29:08God has a plan.
00:29:10marvelous
00:29:11for you
00:29:12we cannot think
00:29:14in a God
00:29:14that created us
00:29:16and has not given us
00:29:18all the tools
00:29:21everything we need
00:29:22to be
00:29:23full
00:29:24and immensely happy
00:29:26to have a thought
00:29:28contrary to this
00:29:29it would be thinking
00:29:30in a God
00:29:31selfish
00:29:31it would be thinking
00:29:32in a certain
00:29:33need
00:29:34take
00:29:35some
00:29:36precautions
00:29:37and some elements
00:29:38never
00:29:39leave
00:29:40along the way
00:29:41the project
00:29:42and begin
00:29:43to build
00:29:43projects
00:29:44parallels
00:29:45when this
00:29:47happens
00:29:48It turns out that
00:29:50we no longer
00:29:51we listen
00:29:52each conversation
00:29:54when the couple
00:29:56goes
00:29:56crumbling
00:29:58in this respect
00:29:59so
00:30:00because we all know
00:30:02the important thing
00:30:02What is communication?
00:30:04but nevertheless
00:30:06now it turns out
00:30:07that communication
00:30:08It's no longer to tell us
00:30:09that we love each other
00:30:10but it is
00:30:11to fight
00:30:12to discuss
00:30:13Here it is fulfilled
00:30:16a few words
00:30:16that around
00:30:17said
00:30:17a friend of mine
00:30:20talking
00:30:21You see the
00:30:21telephone salesperson
00:30:22Communication is key.
00:30:23people
00:30:24because he said
00:30:24no no
00:30:25Talking can lead to arguments
00:30:26people
00:30:27and sometimes
00:30:29Well, it's sad.
00:30:30find out
00:30:31that
00:30:31in marriages
00:30:33where communication
00:30:34it's a
00:30:35It's a factor
00:30:36vital
00:30:36when
00:30:37It was you
00:30:38to the talks
00:30:38premarital
00:30:39well one of the elements
00:30:41further
00:30:41in which they did the most
00:30:43insistence
00:30:43the couples who gave
00:30:44retirement
00:30:46it was precisely
00:30:47the one about communication
00:30:48and it turns out that now
00:30:49Communicating is a real problem
00:30:50it's fighting
00:30:52is to discuss
00:30:52It means to disagree
00:30:53the word of God
00:30:55in it
00:30:56in Santiago
00:30:57he tells us
00:30:58James chapter 1
00:31:00verse 19
00:31:01says
00:31:02that each one
00:31:03soon
00:31:04to hear
00:31:04I'm slow to speak
00:31:06and above all
00:31:08slow to anger
00:31:10learn to listen
00:31:13siblings
00:31:13we forget
00:31:15in it
00:31:15in this world
00:31:16of communication
00:31:17we forget
00:31:18hear
00:31:19we hear
00:31:20uh-huh
00:31:21typical
00:31:24I remember
00:31:25And it's sad.
00:31:26see
00:31:26like moms
00:31:28have
00:31:28They are so right.
00:31:29They always get it right
00:31:30Good heavens
00:31:30always
00:31:33they told us
00:31:34hey
00:31:35my son
00:31:36You go to the store
00:31:37And please
00:31:37you bring
00:31:38a bag of bread
00:31:39two tomatoes
00:31:40a
00:31:41bunch of parsley
00:31:43Half an hour passed
00:31:45and then he would return
00:31:46that you entrusted to me, Mom.
00:31:48typical
00:31:51we hear
00:31:53but we didn't listen
00:31:55because it can be heard
00:31:56with all my heart
00:31:57and requires attention
00:31:59and Saint Teresa
00:32:01I would put it like this
00:32:02requires attention
00:32:03loving
00:32:04need
00:32:06listen to you
00:32:07learn to listen
00:32:10Santiago says
00:32:11but barely
00:32:13He's trying to tell you something.
00:32:14And you're already thinking
00:32:16other
00:32:16be quiet
00:32:17if you don't shut up
00:32:19I can't talk to you
00:32:20and this silence
00:32:22It's not like you're talking
00:32:23is that you're thinking
00:32:24don't think
00:32:26listen
00:32:27so that afterwards
00:32:29you can process
00:32:30This information
00:32:31because otherwise
00:32:32are you already
00:32:33turning it over in my mind
00:32:34On to other things
00:32:34or that same
00:32:35What is he telling you?
00:32:36But you're already thinking about it.
00:32:37why not
00:32:38just because
00:32:39or what will it be
00:32:39be quiet
00:32:40listen
00:32:41per se
00:32:43There's little time.
00:32:44and if that little time
00:32:46that we have
00:32:46to communicate
00:32:47we wasted it
00:32:48in discussions
00:32:49and in a series
00:32:50of allegations
00:32:51or simply
00:32:52in not putting ourselves
00:32:53attention
00:32:53well, logically
00:32:54that the relationship
00:32:56the community
00:32:57It will leave easily
00:32:58undoing
00:33:00It's normal.
00:33:02that the couple
00:33:03discuss
00:33:03We can't do that
00:33:05put
00:33:06under discussion
00:33:07to be redundant
00:33:08because
00:33:09because
00:33:09We are not the same.
00:33:10We already saw it coming
00:33:11last week
00:33:12and then
00:33:13I like red
00:33:14And he likes blue
00:33:15and well
00:33:16Well, there will be times
00:33:17that I come
00:33:18more tired
00:33:19from work
00:33:19and so
00:33:20blue
00:33:21I want to
00:33:22the eggs
00:33:22with bacon
00:33:23because there's no bacon
00:33:25Well, let's see.
00:33:25How do you do it?
00:33:26so that there is bacon
00:33:26because right now
00:33:27I want some eggs
00:33:28with bacon
00:33:29then stay
00:33:31with your eggs
00:33:31let's see
00:33:32Here you go
00:33:32and well
00:33:39So we stayed
00:33:40with our eggs
00:33:41because there were no more
00:33:44we have to look
00:33:50the solution
00:33:51siblings
00:33:52But you have to look for it
00:33:53together
00:33:54then each one
00:33:55seeks its solution
00:33:56It's normal.
00:33:58discuss
00:33:59It's something
00:33:59what will happen
00:34:00what happens
00:34:01You know it
00:34:02much better than me
00:34:03he says about it
00:34:06says Saint Paul
00:34:07an expert
00:34:08really Saint Paul
00:34:09in life
00:34:10in human life
00:34:12says Saint Paul
00:34:13if they get angry
00:34:15do not sin
00:34:16It's normal.
00:34:22sin
00:34:24is
00:34:25Are you leaving?
00:34:25and
00:34:26You'll see in a moment
00:34:30at night
00:34:30that you ask me
00:34:31You'll see
00:34:32right now
00:34:32that cries for you
00:34:32You'll see
00:34:33Here it comes
00:34:34mine
00:34:34do not sin
00:34:36we didn't get started
00:34:38OK
00:34:39Well
00:34:39Let's get started
00:34:41OK
00:34:42We're going to turn it around
00:34:43to dialogue
00:34:44We're going to try
00:34:45to find
00:34:46together
00:34:47the solution
00:34:49says
00:34:50Saint Paul
00:34:52that it doesn't get
00:34:53the sun
00:34:54about their
00:34:54eyes
00:34:56maintaining
00:34:59anger
00:34:59anger
00:34:59have
00:35:02until
00:35:04night falls
00:35:04so try
00:35:07don't get angry
00:35:08like around 6
00:35:08because of the anger
00:35:09It has to last you
00:35:10just half an hour
00:35:10whenever you feel like it
00:35:14to get angry
00:35:14and give you a good telling-off
00:35:15with the husband
00:35:16with the wife
00:35:17Do it at 8 a.m.
00:35:18So
00:35:20all the
00:35:21all morning
00:35:22And there you go
00:35:26I think this lady
00:35:27that I found
00:35:28along the way
00:35:28There's been a row
00:35:29in the morning
00:35:30with the wife
00:35:30and he was still coming
00:35:31and so everyone
00:35:32we paid the price
00:35:33And that's how you start to calm down.
00:35:36you're calming down
00:35:37and that's it
00:35:37when the sun sets
00:35:39my life
00:35:41Let's talk
00:35:43And because of that in my life
00:35:45Well, they're staying put.
00:35:46the little things in the crop
00:35:48and then it grows big
00:35:49and it ends
00:35:50to burst
00:35:51May the sun not set
00:35:54in his anger
00:35:56says
00:35:57Don't give him a chance.
00:35:59to hell with it
00:36:00the devil is going to look for
00:36:03that opportunity
00:36:04What time?
00:36:05that I'm angry
00:36:06I think one of the ideas
00:36:08is
00:36:10consider that
00:36:12are
00:36:12No
00:36:14a group
00:36:16but a team
00:36:17It happens sometimes
00:36:18that our families
00:36:19We stopped being a team
00:36:21and we are becoming
00:36:23in a group
00:36:25one of the main ideas
00:36:29that we must maintain
00:36:30the thing is
00:36:31without him
00:36:32without you
00:36:32as they say
00:36:34the topic
00:36:34of our
00:36:35of our
00:36:36reflection
00:36:38without you
00:36:38I won't succeed
00:36:40we need to convince ourselves
00:36:42we need to convince ourselves
00:36:42that necessarily
00:36:43You need it
00:36:45or you need it
00:36:46to be happy
00:36:47because the project
00:36:49of God
00:36:49It includes both of them.
00:36:51I cannot be happy
00:36:52all by myself
00:36:53not even you alone
00:36:55not even by himself
00:36:56They can do it
00:36:57I would like to read you
00:37:00a date
00:37:01very
00:37:02very beautiful
00:37:03of creation
00:37:04Genesis 2
00:37:05of the 18th
00:37:06to the 23rd
00:37:07says
00:37:09It is the second story
00:37:12of creation
00:37:12The Lord God said
00:37:15It's not good.
00:37:16that man
00:37:16be alone
00:37:18I will do it
00:37:19help
00:37:20suitable
00:37:20so
00:37:22the Lord God
00:37:22made fall
00:37:23a deep sleep
00:37:24about man
00:37:25and he fell asleep
00:37:26and God took
00:37:27one of his ribs
00:37:28and closed the meat
00:37:29in that place
00:37:30and from the rib
00:37:31that the Lord God
00:37:32had taken from the man
00:37:33formed a woman
00:37:35and took her
00:37:36with the man
00:37:37And the man said
00:37:38This one is
00:37:40bone of my bones
00:37:41and flesh of my flesh
00:37:43She will be called
00:37:44women
00:37:45because of man
00:37:46was taken
00:37:47two ideas
00:37:48very important
00:37:50It's not good.
00:37:51that man
00:37:52be alone
00:37:53There is a phrase
00:37:55that those who know me
00:37:56They've already heard me.
00:37:58a lot
00:37:58because I promote it
00:37:59a lot
00:37:59between the couples
00:38:00that I frequent
00:38:01I tell them
00:38:02when the duck
00:38:03walks without a leg
00:38:05ends up putting
00:38:06the leg
00:38:07It's not good.
00:38:10that man
00:38:11be alone
00:38:12that's why
00:38:14says
00:38:14I'm going to do it
00:38:16help
00:38:17suitable
00:38:18that is to say
00:38:18special
00:38:19God thought
00:38:22herein
00:38:23complementarity
00:38:25and this idea
00:38:26me
00:38:26It takes me
00:38:27to the idea
00:38:29of the team
00:38:29We are a team
00:38:31that is
00:38:32that is working
00:38:33that is being organized
00:38:34with a project
00:38:36we're going to be happy
00:38:38That's the project
00:38:39of a marriage
00:38:40We got married
00:38:42to be
00:38:42immensely happy
00:38:44but we need
00:38:45work
00:38:46as a team
00:38:47however
00:38:48sometimes
00:38:48that's not how it happens
00:38:49We started working
00:38:51perhaps as a team
00:38:52maybe right now
00:38:53recognize
00:38:54some of these ideas
00:38:55that I am going to propose
00:38:55but with this step
00:38:57weather
00:38:57with this wear and tear
00:38:58with this proposal
00:38:59of the world
00:39:00we're falling
00:39:01not on a team
00:39:02but in a group
00:39:04the family becomes
00:39:05in a group
00:39:06that we call family
00:39:07This is the family
00:39:08Perez
00:39:08the González family
00:39:09the Sultana family
00:39:10Mangana
00:39:10Perengana
00:39:11but it's a group
00:39:12of people
00:39:13nothing else
00:39:14I propose
00:39:15some ideas
00:39:16contrast
00:39:17within a group
00:39:18and a team
00:39:19in a group
00:39:21For example
00:39:22I don't choose it
00:39:23I enter a school
00:39:25And there I am.
00:39:26Here we are
00:39:27this group
00:39:27which we could call
00:39:28the group that is coming
00:39:29Tuesdays
00:39:30to this seminar
00:39:31none were chosen
00:39:33they arrive here
00:39:33It is not known
00:39:35most of you
00:39:36It's a group
00:39:37heterogeneous group
00:39:38with a purpose
00:39:39come and listen
00:39:40a topic
00:39:41try to reflect
00:39:43but
00:39:43no one was chosen
00:39:44here
00:39:45we came
00:39:46simply
00:39:46because that's how
00:39:47happened
00:39:48They share a space
00:39:51vital
00:39:51We are all here
00:39:52sharing this
00:39:53theater
00:39:53once we finish
00:39:54everyone leaves
00:39:55for your home
00:39:56And as the old man says
00:39:57proverb
00:39:58here
00:39:58A cup broke
00:40:00don't have
00:40:03an address
00:40:04is vegetative
00:40:05There they all are.
00:40:06liabilities
00:40:06They are listening to me
00:40:07everyone thinks
00:40:08what he wants
00:40:09discern what he wants
00:40:10It is a passive group
00:40:12vegetative
00:40:12have
00:40:14something
00:40:15in common
00:40:16or some
00:40:16characteristics
00:40:17in common
00:40:18in this case
00:40:19come and listen
00:40:20a chat
00:40:21does not exist
00:40:22the meaning
00:40:23identity
00:40:24nor of belonging
00:40:25nor of interdependence
00:40:27none of you
00:40:29has a relationship
00:40:30with the other person
00:40:31nor does it have any commitment
00:40:33with the other person
00:40:34It's a group
00:40:35They do not have a common goal
00:40:38that attracts them
00:40:40and motivate them
00:40:40to stay united
00:40:42once they are finished
00:40:43our reflections
00:40:45well
00:40:46hardly
00:40:47we will return
00:40:48to gather all
00:40:49look
00:40:50how sad
00:40:51that this happens
00:40:53at home
00:40:53that this be
00:40:55our reality
00:40:56that we live
00:40:57in our family
00:40:58with our partner
00:40:59simply
00:41:01a space
00:41:02that is shared
00:41:03home
00:41:04food
00:41:05different roles
00:41:07activities
00:41:07but the project
00:41:09common
00:41:09It's not the same
00:41:10each one
00:41:11brings its own
00:41:12projects
00:41:13the team
00:41:14It's quite
00:41:15different
00:41:15substantially
00:41:16different
00:41:17I would say
00:41:17in a team
00:41:19I choose it
00:41:20and I decide to be
00:41:21part of it
00:41:22you the day
00:41:24who got married
00:41:25that were made
00:41:26a choice
00:41:26lifelong
00:41:27I
00:41:28so-and-so
00:41:29I accept you
00:41:30to you
00:41:31mangana
00:41:31It's a choice.
00:41:33I chose you
00:41:35to you
00:41:35And it's a choice.
00:41:37Made with love
00:41:38in total freedom
00:41:39and this
00:41:41my beloved brothers
00:41:42It also has to be applied
00:41:43even the children
00:41:44the children
00:41:44they cannot live
00:41:45simply in a space
00:41:46and be part of
00:41:47of a club
00:41:48the family club
00:41:49Gonzalez
00:41:49they at some point
00:41:52of his life
00:41:52They have to choose
00:41:53for being part
00:41:54of this team
00:41:55and work
00:41:56together with the parents
00:41:57in the achievement
00:41:58of the ultimate end
00:41:59what it means to be happy
00:42:00there are in this world
00:42:03so scattered
00:42:05there is great difficulty
00:42:07in which the boys
00:42:09become this option
00:42:10and then
00:42:11easily
00:42:11they lose their identity
00:42:12of the family
00:42:13And that's why
00:42:14because we battled
00:42:15or you
00:42:16parents struggle
00:42:17so that the children
00:42:18leave
00:42:18so that they may have
00:42:19family identity
00:42:20so that they feel
00:42:21truly
00:42:22part of a team
00:42:22That's a problem
00:42:23from my parents
00:42:24That's the matter
00:42:25well from the house
00:42:26but I
00:42:27and my things
00:42:28I handle them
00:42:29completely separate
00:42:30in a team
00:42:32normally
00:42:32I am taken into account
00:42:34my opinion
00:42:35It is important
00:42:36there are none here
00:42:39Well, I am
00:42:41the head of the family
00:42:42I am the father
00:42:43and I am the mom
00:42:44no, well yes
00:42:45excellent
00:42:45You are the dad
00:42:46and the mother
00:42:46But we both can
00:42:48and we must give our opinion
00:42:49each
00:42:51with different
00:42:52if they want nuance
00:42:53with a different perspective
00:42:55at a certain moment
00:42:56even with different
00:42:57because authority
00:43:00But my opinion
00:43:01She needs to be heard
00:43:02in the doctoral thesis
00:43:05that I prepared
00:43:07about
00:43:07Mary's virginity
00:43:10one of the points
00:43:11interesting
00:43:12that I propose
00:43:13as a conclusion
00:43:15of my thesis
00:43:16a pastoral conclusion
00:43:18It is cooperation
00:43:20between Joseph and Mary
00:43:21in the thesis I propose
00:43:23the male
00:43:25I would then have
00:43:26as it is being presented
00:43:27above all
00:43:27the gospel of Matthew
00:43:28he would have
00:43:30the address
00:43:30the head
00:43:31He's the one driving.
00:43:32the family
00:43:35and well
00:43:36I don't waste time
00:43:37I'll talk to you now.
00:43:38all this speech
00:43:39but the thesis
00:43:40it focuses
00:43:41in a conviction
00:43:43of the couple
00:43:44to remain
00:43:45in a celibate state
00:43:46within their marriage
00:43:48and one of the things
00:43:50that I propose
00:43:50This decision
00:43:51It was taken as a couple.
00:43:53proposal
00:43:54I think
00:43:55by Saint Joseph
00:43:56but accepted
00:43:58shared
00:43:59participated
00:44:00by Maria
00:44:01was heard
00:44:03And she was heard
00:44:04It's not something
00:44:06that José decided
00:44:07or as it has been presented
00:44:09normally
00:44:10theology
00:44:11where Maria
00:44:12because it took
00:44:13an option
00:44:14since I was little
00:44:15And so, José
00:44:16He had no other choice.
00:44:17if I wanted
00:44:18carry out the project
00:44:19that accept
00:44:20that Mary
00:44:21well no
00:44:22not outside
00:44:22to have sex
00:44:24intimate with him
00:44:26I believe all this
00:44:28necessarily
00:44:29if they are going to be
00:44:29the couple model
00:44:31well, in a matter
00:44:32so delicate
00:44:33what is intimacy like?
00:44:34definitely
00:44:35that with love
00:44:37that Joseph had
00:44:38by Maria
00:44:39and Mary by Joseph
00:44:40and the two
00:44:41illuminated
00:44:42and penetrated
00:44:42by the grace of God
00:44:43this decision
00:44:45It must have been taken
00:44:46by both
00:44:47They both gave their opinions
00:44:49They were a team
00:44:50It had to be done.
00:44:51this work
00:44:52my opinion
00:44:53Okay
00:44:54is heard
00:44:56already
00:44:57certainly
00:44:58well, within the role
00:44:59that God has foreseen
00:45:00for man
00:45:01We'll see it right now.
00:45:02because being the head
00:45:03the driving
00:45:04the one that pushes
00:45:05well, probably
00:45:06will have to discern
00:45:07But how important!
00:45:08is sharing
00:45:09Sometimes we don't listen
00:45:11and this
00:45:11It happens very frequently
00:45:13we men
00:45:14we don't know how to listen
00:45:16We already have the idea
00:45:17We already fixed it
00:45:18first
00:45:19many times
00:45:19We're not interested.
00:45:20hear
00:45:21the wife's opinion
00:45:22Hey, I already went.
00:45:23I bought the house
00:45:24Hey, now
00:45:26I changed the car
00:45:27And this is your new car.
00:45:28I already did
00:45:29I've already decided
00:45:30already
00:45:30That's not a team
00:45:33That's not a team
00:45:36hey
00:45:37What do you think?
00:45:38Let's do this
00:45:39We changed it
00:45:40we put it
00:45:40we discern it
00:45:41between the two
00:45:42And this is what it makes me feel
00:45:44that this decision
00:45:45It belongs to both of them.
00:45:46and that the two
00:45:47we're involved
00:45:48because the two
00:45:49we went in
00:45:50the day that
00:45:50we agree to get married
00:45:51not just me
00:45:53and nothing else you
00:45:54both
00:45:56We bought a ticket
00:45:57and then
00:45:58Okay, listen to me
00:45:59Let me tell you
00:46:00my opinion
00:46:01probably
00:46:02after listening
00:46:03my opinion
00:46:04I can modify
00:46:05I can
00:46:06Well, I don't know.
00:46:07to light you up a little
00:46:08in a team
00:46:10we must be
00:46:12heard
00:46:13is taken into account
00:46:15my opinion
00:46:15in a team
00:46:17There is an address
00:46:19and an object
00:46:19in marriage
00:46:21There is no other
00:46:22be happy
00:46:23and for them
00:46:25for that
00:46:25everyone contributes their charisma
00:46:27and skills
00:46:28in order to achieve it
00:46:29This implies
00:46:31that nothing is mine anymore
00:46:32nor yours
00:46:32everything belongs to us
00:46:33if someone doesn't put it
00:46:35all
00:46:35the project fails
00:46:37we can't here
00:46:39going with half rates
00:46:40you who have
00:46:4110
00:46:42and you
00:46:4220
00:46:43put it all in
00:46:44Don't keep anything for yourself
00:46:45Hey, but
00:46:46there is no if by chance
00:46:48That possibility doesn't exist.
00:46:50We'll see.
00:46:50next week
00:46:51We have to put everything in.
00:46:53wool
00:46:54body
00:46:55charisms
00:46:56skills
00:46:57intuitions
00:46:58all
00:46:59at the service of the team
00:47:00you and I
00:47:01We are a team
00:47:03we are one
00:47:03And if you keep something
00:47:05This isn't going to work.
00:47:06You have to put everything in
00:47:08absolutely everything
00:47:10That's why today
00:47:11in this selfish culture
00:47:13says no
00:47:14This is mine
00:47:15This is my house
00:47:16This is my car
00:47:17This is my wool
00:47:17no, not this
00:47:18We'll put the rest in.
00:47:19more or less
00:47:20whatever we do
00:47:20from here on
00:47:21No
00:47:22We have to put everything in.
00:47:24and we have to risk everything
00:47:26We have to bet everything
00:47:28because
00:47:29the one who is guaranteeing
00:47:31the bet
00:47:32is God
00:47:32It cannot fail
00:47:34It failed because you didn't put it in.
00:47:36It fails because you couldn't make up your mind.
00:47:38and you wanted to retain
00:47:40something for you
00:47:41and that something
00:47:42He was always there
00:47:43needed
00:47:44to the team
00:47:44You have to put it in
00:47:46always
00:47:47all
00:47:48your charisms
00:47:49your effort
00:47:50absolutely everything
00:47:51It's a team
00:47:52That's how teams pull.
00:47:53And these are the teams.
00:47:54who are successful
00:47:55and that they manage to get ahead
00:47:57the project
00:47:57that are proposed
00:47:58It is a space
00:48:01not just about sharing
00:48:03but to enjoy
00:48:05not only
00:48:07We share the house
00:48:08We enjoyed it
00:48:10how cool
00:48:12arrive home
00:48:13that
00:48:14awesome
00:48:16arrive with my husband
00:48:17with my children
00:48:18enjoy
00:48:20the much
00:48:20the little
00:48:21that I have
00:48:21But enjoy it.
00:48:23I think
00:48:25that the race
00:48:26who is always looking
00:48:27as we saw it
00:48:28that if the hunt
00:48:29that if the friends
00:48:29whether the villa
00:48:30whether dominoes
00:48:31and he's always inventing things
00:48:32and he's always late
00:48:33is someone who doesn't enjoy
00:48:35we have to look
00:48:36Why am I not enjoying it?
00:48:38arrive early
00:48:38to my house
00:48:39sometimes we say
00:48:41it's not
00:48:41three elements
00:48:42important
00:48:43in this team
00:48:44in this family
00:48:47There must be
00:48:48some commitments
00:48:51some things
00:48:52which are important
00:48:53first
00:48:55recognize that everyone
00:48:56We are from the same
00:48:57dignity
00:48:58but with roles
00:48:59different
00:48:59different
00:49:00you are no more
00:49:02because he is a man
00:49:03nor am I more
00:49:04because she is a woman
00:49:05we are the same
00:49:07We have roles
00:49:08different
00:49:09that today
00:49:10unfortunately
00:49:11this world
00:49:12has searched
00:49:13change
00:49:14and this change
00:49:15of roles
00:49:16has brought
00:49:17serious problems
00:49:18in our society
00:49:18and above all
00:49:20in society
00:49:20conjugal
00:49:21I would like to quote them
00:49:22a text
00:49:23of the family
00:49:25and consortium
00:49:2522
00:49:26says the Pope
00:49:27of the woman
00:49:29It is important to highlight
00:49:30among all
00:49:30equality
00:49:31equality
00:49:32of dignity
00:49:33and responsibility
00:49:34with respect to man
00:49:35such equality
00:49:36find a way
00:49:37singular
00:49:38of realization
00:49:39in the donation
00:49:40of oneself
00:49:41to the other
00:49:41and of both
00:49:42to the children
00:49:43own donation
00:49:44of marriage
00:49:45and of the family
00:49:46what the same
00:49:47human reason
00:49:48intuits and recognizes
00:49:49is revealed
00:49:50in fullness
00:49:50by the word
00:49:51of God
00:49:52indeed
00:49:53the story
00:49:53of salvation
00:49:54It is a testimony
00:49:55continuous and luminous
00:49:56of dignity
00:49:57of the woman
00:49:58with this
00:50:00Well, we've come
00:50:01every time
00:50:01recovering
00:50:02more land
00:50:03of a pendulum
00:50:04that was
00:50:05well, totally
00:50:06turned
00:50:07towards a position
00:50:08where the woman
00:50:09Well, it was a zero.
00:50:11to the left
00:50:11I didn't count
00:50:12what many mothers
00:50:15they told them
00:50:16to the daughters
00:50:17my little daughter
00:50:18Well, you're already in.
00:50:19You got a bad husband
00:50:21You're going to have to put up with it.
00:50:22and you can't
00:50:23You have none
00:50:24another option
00:50:24because you
00:50:25well, the only thing
00:50:26what you're good for
00:50:27It's for making food
00:50:28for ironing
00:50:28to wash
00:50:29for everything else
00:50:30also
00:50:30but
00:50:31that sometimes
00:50:32mostly
00:50:33for everything else
00:50:34although the rest
00:50:34is not well done
00:50:35So, this
00:50:36work
00:50:37the rest
00:50:37can wait
00:50:38But that's not it.
00:50:39reality
00:50:40This is not
00:50:41nor what God
00:50:42has wanted
00:50:42as we saw
00:50:43right now in Genesis
00:50:44nor what the church
00:50:45proposes
00:50:46now in the light
00:50:47of the revelation
00:50:48another element
00:50:51important
00:50:52recognize
00:50:53the differences
00:50:54from the other
00:50:54Well, these are
00:50:56the main contribution
00:50:57to our team
00:50:58as the Pope says
00:50:59I read here
00:51:00familiaris
00:51:00Consortium 23
00:51:01the real promotion
00:51:03human of the woman
00:51:04It also requires
00:51:05that it be clearly
00:51:06recognized
00:51:06the value
00:51:07of its function
00:51:08maternal
00:51:09and family
00:51:09with respect to the others
00:51:11public functions
00:51:12and the others
00:51:13professions
00:51:14besides
00:51:15such functions
00:51:16and professions
00:51:17must be integrated
00:51:18each other
00:51:19if desired
00:51:20that evolution
00:51:20social
00:51:21and culture
00:51:22be true
00:51:23and fully
00:51:24human
00:51:25today
00:51:26in this
00:51:26motion
00:51:27feminist
00:51:29in this
00:51:29move the pendulum
00:51:30towards the other side
00:51:31because it has been loading
00:51:32increasingly
00:51:33towards the opposite side
00:51:35and then
00:51:35now the woman
00:51:36It is now entering the competition
00:51:38with the man
00:51:39now it is
00:51:41Let's see who wins more.
00:51:42Let's see who can do more
00:51:43Let's see who gets the highest.
00:51:45and although
00:51:46You don't believe it.
00:51:48It's a factor
00:51:48that affects
00:51:49many marriages
00:51:50That's why the dad says
00:51:52You need to know.
00:51:52harmonize perfectly
00:51:54and all this
00:51:55I think it's coming
00:51:56because the woman
00:51:57thinks that
00:51:58if it is not done
00:52:00in a company
00:52:00becoming
00:52:01executive
00:52:02and having
00:52:02a position of importance
00:52:04their role
00:52:05It is not valued
00:52:06And I believe that
00:52:08nobody
00:52:08truly
00:52:09nobody
00:52:10works so much
00:52:11like a mistress
00:52:12from home
00:52:12the house
00:52:14as my mom says
00:52:15He always has work
00:52:16if it's not ironing
00:52:17is washing
00:52:18and if not the windows
00:52:19And if not this
00:52:19And if not, then the other thing.
00:52:20has been lost
00:52:22a lot
00:52:22this maternal function
00:52:24this function
00:52:25of being a wife
00:52:27And as I was saying
00:52:29already in one of our
00:52:30reflections
00:52:30past
00:52:31then they arrive
00:52:32both tired
00:52:33fed up
00:52:34with limited capacity
00:52:35tolerance
00:52:36so
00:52:38logically
00:52:39makes
00:52:40the relationship
00:52:41go ahead
00:52:43much more friction
00:52:44that when
00:52:45the situation
00:52:46could be
00:52:48that the woman
00:52:48be at home
00:52:49how cool
00:52:50I imagine
00:52:51It has to be
00:52:51that you arrive home
00:52:53your wife
00:52:53it is then
00:52:54all dolled up
00:52:55graffiti
00:52:55fresh
00:52:57I mean more or less
00:52:57because already with the gorillas
00:52:59at home
00:52:59Well, not really.
00:53:00so much
00:53:01But I tell you
00:53:03I always tell them
00:53:04when I do it to them
00:53:07the presentation
00:53:08to the boys
00:53:09I often tell them
00:53:10And don't forget them
00:53:11your paintings
00:53:12because sometimes
00:53:14It would seem that
00:53:15Well, I'm already married
00:53:16And I already did the dishes.
00:53:18So now, yes.
00:53:20the little paints
00:53:21and the diet
00:53:22and the story
00:53:23well then
00:53:24He's going to
00:53:25on the other side
00:53:26my grandma used to say
00:53:28I told him so
00:53:29my mom
00:53:29I was telling you
00:53:31precisely
00:53:32regarding this
00:53:33of this
00:53:34of this stage
00:53:36of marriage
00:53:37said
00:53:37my little daughter
00:53:38when you see
00:53:40that your husband
00:53:41turn away
00:53:42stand up a little
00:53:43plus the skirt
00:53:44and open up more
00:53:45the neckline
00:53:45femininity
00:53:51I mean
00:53:52need
00:53:53keep
00:53:53this aspect
00:53:55And that's what he said.
00:53:56Look at my grandma
00:53:57in those times
00:53:58but
00:53:58with a vision
00:53:59She was not a theologian
00:54:00nor had I taken
00:54:00one of these courses
00:54:01but it was
00:54:04human wisdom
00:54:06of a woman
00:54:06who has lived
00:54:08a long time
00:54:08so
00:54:10raised them all
00:54:11my uncles
00:54:12to my mom
00:54:13and who knows
00:54:15of life
00:54:15and who knows
00:54:16that this
00:54:16It's true
00:54:17so
00:54:18I think that
00:54:19we have lost
00:54:20a lot
00:54:21has been lost
00:54:21a lot
00:54:22we have won
00:54:22in dignity
00:54:23in which the woman
00:54:24truly recover
00:54:25this dignity
00:54:26but I think
00:54:27we have lost
00:54:27our families
00:54:28have lost
00:54:28We have all lost.
00:54:30in this
00:54:31in this change
00:54:32of mindset
00:54:33of humanity
00:54:34nowadays
00:54:35finally
00:54:37we would talk
00:54:38of trust
00:54:39each
00:54:41of the members
00:54:41of the team
00:54:42trust
00:54:43in which the other
00:54:44It's going to be their part
00:54:45and in this
00:54:46then we would enter
00:54:47I touch it
00:54:48quickly
00:54:49the topic
00:54:50to commit
00:54:51or cooperate
00:54:52There are people
00:54:53who is married
00:54:54but
00:54:56does not commit
00:54:58but cooperates
00:55:00because it is the
00:55:01the easiest way
00:55:03to participate
00:55:04in a team
00:55:05Yeah man
00:55:06I cooperate
00:55:07I want to put them
00:55:09an example
00:55:10that to me
00:55:10I've always liked it
00:55:12and?
00:55:13I don't think I'll have
00:55:14What more can I say?
00:55:15regarding this
00:55:15and then everyone can decide for themselves.
00:55:17if he is cooperating
00:55:18in their marriage
00:55:19or is committed
00:55:22with the project
00:55:22of happiness
00:55:23and the project
00:55:25the example
00:55:26It's very simple.
00:55:27to do
00:55:29some eggs
00:55:30with bacon
00:55:30it is needed
00:55:33bacon
00:55:34and some eggs
00:55:35the hen
00:55:38cooperate
00:55:39with the eggs
00:55:41and the little pig
00:55:43commits
00:55:44with the bacon
00:55:45There they are
00:55:49the little eggs
00:55:50And it's still there.
00:55:52TRUE
00:55:52the little hen
00:55:53the little pig
00:55:54No
00:55:54in order to be able to
00:55:56put the bacon
00:55:57They had him
00:55:58that give neck
00:55:59it's putting it
00:56:01all
00:56:01we were saying
00:56:02a while ago
00:56:02that much
00:56:04sometimes
00:56:05marriages
00:56:06are truly
00:56:07committed
00:56:08in this project
00:56:09of happiness
00:56:10I do cooperate
00:56:11that is to say
00:56:12Well, I'm going to give
00:56:13what I have left over
00:56:14whatever I can
00:56:15but don't take me away
00:56:16this
00:56:16don't take me away
00:56:16the other thing
00:56:17I have to
00:56:17keep doing
00:56:18I have to
00:56:18continue watching
00:56:19So
00:56:20the team
00:56:21It doesn't work
00:56:22and it's going to begin
00:56:23to skate
00:56:24in this section
00:56:26what has become of his life
00:56:27It's a section
00:56:28of his life
00:56:28with sand
00:56:29with stones
00:56:30It's a section
00:56:31difficult
00:56:32of life
00:56:32of marriage
00:56:33and we need
00:56:34all the attraction
00:56:35need
00:56:37that everyone
00:56:37commit
00:56:39It's not valid here
00:56:40simply
00:56:41I will cooperate
00:56:43Not if you're going to cooperate
00:56:44This isn't going to work
00:56:45you have to
00:56:46like the pig
00:56:47you have to
00:56:49go all in
00:56:50even with his skin
00:56:52let's go
00:56:53in this regard
00:56:55very interesting
00:56:56the phrase of Saint Paul
00:56:57that sometimes
00:56:58the feminists
00:56:59well no
00:56:59No
00:57:00they don't keep reading
00:57:01the text
00:57:02And that's why
00:57:02they stay
00:57:03with a part
00:57:04says Saint Paul
00:57:05in the letter to the soldiers
00:57:06Chapter 5
00:57:07says
00:57:08handcuffs
00:57:10respect your husbands
00:57:12like Christ
00:57:13etc.
00:57:14Well
00:57:15Alright
00:57:16respect them
00:57:17and then says
00:57:18husbands
00:57:19love your wives
00:57:21like Christ
00:57:22to his church
00:57:23until death
00:57:24for them
00:57:25to the woman
00:57:28He only asks
00:57:29that respects
00:57:30to the husband
00:57:30that's all
00:57:32to the husband
00:57:34he asks
00:57:35that gives life
00:57:36by the wife
00:57:37like Christ
00:57:38He gave it for his church
00:57:39I mean
00:57:40abysmal
00:57:43the commitment
00:57:45and cannot say
00:57:48Well, me too.
00:57:48I respect you
00:57:49No
00:57:49It's your turn to die
00:57:51It's your turn to die
00:57:59because we are
00:58:04TRUE
00:58:05good guys
00:58:05we can
00:58:06Okay
00:58:07further
00:58:07go in
00:58:08one must die
00:58:10by the wife
00:58:11We need to commit
00:58:14completely
00:58:15like the pig
00:58:16another problem
00:58:18important
00:58:18what happens
00:58:19is
00:58:20the problem
00:58:21which is called
00:58:22the problem
00:58:23or the syndrome
00:58:23which is called
00:58:24the syndrome
00:58:25of uselessness
00:58:26we become
00:58:28or we do
00:58:29useless
00:58:30to the couple
00:58:31And that's going to separate us
00:58:33here the only one
00:58:34who knows how to cut
00:58:34lettuce
00:58:35it's me
00:58:35then you buy me
00:58:37lettuce
00:58:38And it can't be done
00:58:38the salad
00:58:39until it arrives
00:58:40because it's the only one
00:58:41who knows how to cut
00:58:42lettuce
00:58:42And now that I've lived
00:58:46only
00:58:47as
00:58:48understood
00:58:49to women
00:58:50That's awful!
00:58:51my trauma
00:58:53what I got out of it
00:58:55always the return
00:58:56went to iron
00:58:57What a terrible thing!
00:59:00That's it
00:59:00I don't know if they've experienced it.
00:59:04siblings
00:59:05but
00:59:05I hope that
00:59:07on the team
00:59:09have been put
00:59:10OK
00:59:10and that part
00:59:11Don't touch them too much
00:59:11do it
00:59:12Because the truth is
00:59:15there is the cocol
00:59:15hey
00:59:18that if the wrinkle
00:59:18and if the
00:59:19of this
00:59:19And it already moved.
00:59:20the iron
00:59:21And that's after I bought it.
00:59:22everything that came out
00:59:23on television
00:59:24that might work
00:59:24for ironing
00:59:25He bought everything
00:59:26No?
00:59:26With this you
00:59:27and that on the other hand
00:59:28and that the ironing board
00:59:29Same filth, brothers.
00:59:31Don't believe it
00:59:32of those rolls
00:59:32battle however you want
00:59:34it moves
00:59:34and you're left with
00:59:35the stripe
00:59:35the first pants
00:59:36They looked like this on me
00:59:37crooked
00:59:37terrible
00:59:39when I arrived
00:59:41to Dayton
00:59:41that came
00:59:42of Europe
00:59:44I had been given
00:59:45three very beautiful
00:59:47cotton shirts
00:59:48I used them
00:59:49twice
00:59:51I used it once
00:59:52I washed it
00:59:53I ironed it
00:59:54I used it again
00:59:54and I threw it away
00:59:55do not iron again
01:00:00a cotton shirt
01:00:01Christ
01:00:02What is that?
01:00:04You've barely ironed it
01:00:05a little bit
01:00:06and it's already broken
01:00:07the other
01:00:07the truth
01:00:09I don't know that.
01:00:10how to do it
01:00:11or if it can be done
01:00:12the truth
01:00:12but
01:00:13we're discovering it as we go.
01:00:17that we can
01:00:18do many things
01:00:18well there
01:00:19I had to iron.
01:00:21wash
01:00:21cook me
01:00:23I really developed
01:00:24It was in Dayton
01:00:25where I developed
01:00:26a particular taste
01:00:27through the kitchen
01:00:28I had to cook
01:00:30I started buying
01:00:30cookbooks
01:00:31I started to like it a lot
01:00:32the following times
01:00:34that I went to Italy
01:00:34I learned
01:00:35new recipes
01:00:36and really
01:00:37for me now
01:00:37cooking
01:00:38is really
01:00:39a pleasure
01:00:39I don't always have
01:00:41the time to do it
01:00:42But I enjoy it a lot
01:00:43and practically
01:00:45Well, everything that one has
01:00:46things to do in a house
01:00:47without a wife
01:00:49TRUE?
01:00:49Because I don't know that yet.
01:00:50but
01:00:50everything else
01:00:52iron
01:00:52wash
01:00:53cook
01:00:53pay the bills
01:00:56no, no, no, no
01:00:56you my life
01:00:57Give me the receipts
01:01:00I'll take them
01:01:01because
01:01:01Well
01:01:02It's limited.
01:01:03Well, no, no
01:01:03No
01:01:04I mean
01:01:06give it a chance
01:01:07What does this denote?
01:01:10when it happens
01:01:11this syndrome
01:01:11of uselessness
01:01:12is
01:01:13that there is a
01:01:14selfishness
01:01:15and a proud
01:01:15terrible
01:01:16I am the only one
01:01:17I know how to do it
01:01:18either
01:01:19there is selfishness
01:01:20No, I don't know how to do that.
01:01:21I'm not interested in doing it.
01:01:24Don't be selfish
01:01:27or don't be arrogant
01:01:28trust
01:01:30we said it was an important factor
01:01:32so
01:01:32trust him
01:01:33And trust her too
01:01:35and it can also be
01:01:38I propose
01:01:39some checkpoints
01:01:42quickly
01:01:44because we are already being
01:01:45time is running out
01:01:46I hope they can
01:01:49help them
01:01:50at this stage
01:01:51some things
01:01:53which I think
01:01:54which are
01:01:54very very provident
01:01:56make them
01:01:57first
01:01:59Watch less TV
01:02:00because?
01:02:02because this
01:02:02intensifies intimacy
01:02:04and it helps us
01:02:05to start building
01:02:07our future
01:02:08we have to look
01:02:10continuously
01:02:11excuses
01:02:11to celebrate
01:02:13So what do we celebrate now?
01:02:14Well, let's celebrate!
01:02:16that we celebrate today
01:02:17486 months
01:02:19Okay
01:02:19Well, let's celebrate!
01:02:23look for excuses
01:02:27to celebrate
01:02:27to be together
01:02:28to remember
01:02:30try to
01:02:33do things together
01:02:36and among them
01:02:36well
01:02:37try to go
01:02:38to bed
01:02:39at the same time
01:02:40sometimes one
01:02:42well, it stays
01:02:43or working
01:02:44or on television
01:02:45or this and that
01:02:45and it locks up
01:02:47that space
01:02:47which is very important
01:02:49to chat
01:02:50which is very important
01:02:51to live together
01:02:52It's a moment
01:02:53well then
01:02:54of
01:02:55We are calm
01:02:56relaxed
01:02:57look for that last one
01:02:59that final stage
01:03:00Let's say from dinner
01:03:01try to have dinner together
01:03:03and from there
01:03:04that all our activity
01:03:06until we go to bed
01:03:07Well, let it be an activity
01:03:08that we are developing
01:03:09together
01:03:11one must have
01:03:13regularly
01:03:14short honeymoons
01:03:16I tell them
01:03:18at least
01:03:19one a year
01:03:20to escape, the two of them
01:03:23the children entrust him to their care
01:03:25to the aunts
01:03:26to the uncles
01:03:26to the parents
01:03:27a couple of days
01:03:28a couple of days
01:03:31man
01:03:31if you don't have any more money
01:03:32Here you go to the dam
01:03:33from the mouth
01:03:34man
01:03:34but being together
01:03:40chat together
01:03:41It's a moment
01:03:42very important
01:03:43well planned
01:03:45well organized
01:03:46to enjoy
01:03:47all
01:03:48It is very important
01:03:50plan
01:03:51these mini moons
01:03:52honey
01:03:53because this is going to be
01:03:54rejuvenating
01:03:55motivating
01:03:56the couple's love
01:03:57you have to keep looking
01:04:01continuously
01:04:02as
01:04:03keep
01:04:04falling in love
01:04:05and passion
01:04:07Well, as I was saying
01:04:09my grandmother
01:04:10TRUE?
01:04:11my little daughter
01:04:11Well, get on a little bit
01:04:12plus the skirt
01:04:13and open up more
01:04:13the neckline
01:04:14well
01:04:15You'll get there.
01:04:16with the negligee
01:04:17and with the prillé
01:04:19and I don't know what the hell
01:04:20TRUE?
01:04:20and so
01:04:21Okay
01:04:22TRUE?
01:04:23that does not have
01:04:24to go and look for
01:04:25what is not at home
01:04:27keep
01:04:28passion
01:04:29so
01:04:32this
01:04:33oh wow
01:04:34that it is
01:04:39that he is tense
01:04:40that it is
01:04:40oh wow
01:04:41just like
01:04:43when
01:04:43We're getting married soon.
01:04:44the race
01:04:45He's just waiting
01:04:45We're getting married soon.
01:04:47Well
01:04:48So
01:04:48Keep the passion alive
01:04:50maintain the taste
01:04:51falling in love
01:04:52serenades
01:04:54he
01:04:54what's it called?
01:04:56the bouquets of flowers
01:04:57the little cards
01:04:58the wink
01:05:00the eye
01:05:01I don't know
01:05:01so many things
01:05:02that we are losing
01:05:03I was telling them
01:05:04in our first
01:05:05our first reflection
01:05:06they get married
01:05:07and it seems they put them
01:05:07chili in hand
01:05:08They don't want to hold on anymore
01:05:09so
01:05:10No
01:05:11on the contrary
01:05:13we're looking
01:05:14I tell them
01:05:15try, for example
01:05:17that they already have
01:05:18four or five years
01:05:19hey
01:05:20do you remember
01:05:21that little tree
01:05:22where we meet
01:05:23but those
01:05:24hey
01:05:27Well, let's see.
01:05:27if it's still there
01:05:28They say that remembering
01:05:39is living
01:05:39it isn't true
01:05:40all that
01:05:44maintains
01:05:45falling in love
01:05:46maintains
01:05:46passion
01:05:47I mean
01:05:48remember
01:05:49those moments
01:05:49who were
01:05:51so intense
01:05:52and that now
01:05:53we can experience them
01:05:53with much more freedom
01:05:55because we are already
01:05:55married
01:05:56on the other hand
01:05:58look for
01:05:59develop
01:06:00mutual friends
01:06:01find friends
01:06:02common
01:06:03sometimes each one
01:06:04has its own breed
01:06:05Well, that's going to separate them.
01:06:07try to go looking
01:06:08friends
01:06:09that unites them
01:06:09and much more
01:06:10and those friends
01:06:11just like you
01:06:13Christians
01:06:14couples who are
01:06:15also looking
01:06:15to establish the kingdom
01:06:17from the heavens
01:06:17through the couple
01:06:19show yourselves continuously
01:06:23love
01:06:24Don't be ashamed
01:06:27yesterday I was coming
01:06:31of the
01:06:32if yesterday I came
01:06:35I went to give a retreat
01:06:36to San Juan de los Lagos
01:06:37and ahead of me
01:06:39permission
01:06:39a car
01:06:40And there are two couples.
01:06:41one driving
01:06:42one ahead
01:06:43and another one behind
01:06:44not the ones in the back
01:06:45hands
01:06:46I had to overtake
01:06:48which
01:06:49would give 180
01:06:50because I couldn't take it anymore
01:06:51You're eating bread
01:06:52in front of the hungry
01:06:53Hey, the couple
01:06:57exchanging kisses
01:06:58of those
01:06:58Show love
01:07:03Show love
01:07:05kisses
01:07:06the caresses
01:07:07sit down
01:07:10each other
01:07:11lovers
01:07:12it doesn't have to
01:07:14decay
01:07:14it doesn't have to
01:07:15run out
01:07:16on the contrary
01:07:16It needs to be encouraged
01:07:18and it has to arrive
01:07:20to its fullness
01:07:20pray a few
01:07:23by others
01:07:24the prayer made
01:07:27in the couple
01:07:30It's time
01:07:30essential
01:07:31to reconcile
01:07:33if there has been
01:07:34any little problem
01:07:35on the day
01:07:35well at night
01:07:36within our prayer
01:07:38We held hands
01:07:39We prayed an Our Father
01:07:40a Hail Mary
01:07:41we place ourselves in the presence
01:07:42of the Lord
01:07:43And so, calmly
01:07:44before God
01:07:45who is our partner
01:07:46in this matter
01:07:47Hey, I'd like to
01:07:49I'd like to tell you about this detail.
01:07:50I didn't like it
01:07:51I felt
01:07:51But that's fine.
01:07:52God is with us
01:07:55And what I'm telling you
01:07:56It's not meant to be mean.
01:07:57but because we're going
01:07:58to search together
01:07:59how to solve
01:08:01our problems
01:08:02And we're going to do it
01:08:03in the light
01:08:04of our Lord
01:08:05make your husband
01:08:08or your wife
01:08:09a priority
01:08:11that there is no
01:08:13nothing
01:08:14apart from God
01:08:16most important
01:08:17that he
01:08:18or she
01:08:19there is nothing
01:08:19for me
01:08:21the best
01:08:22He is my husband
01:08:22for me, the best
01:08:24She is my wife
01:08:24there is no
01:08:25nothing more important
01:08:27because?
01:08:30because she
01:08:31He needs you
01:08:31because he
01:08:33He needs you
01:08:33more than your friends
01:08:35more than your boss
01:08:37at work
01:08:37more than the neighbor
01:08:38more than the godmother
01:08:39he or she
01:08:40They need you
01:08:41truly
01:08:44siblings
01:08:44And that's why
01:08:45the last note
01:08:47that I would like
01:08:47to propose to them is
01:08:48develop a sense
01:08:50acute ear
01:08:51internal
01:08:53to listen
01:08:54to the other
01:08:55who is yelling at me
01:08:56help me
01:08:57I need you
01:09:00Don't leave
01:09:02without you
01:09:03I won't succeed
01:09:04and sometimes
01:09:06We didn't hear it
01:09:07we're so involved
01:09:09in our work
01:09:10in our roles
01:09:10throughout
01:09:11on the little leaves
01:09:13that they are going to give them
01:09:13right now at the exit
01:09:14again
01:09:15I present to you
01:09:16an easy check-up
01:09:17a little task
01:09:18so that each one
01:09:19well, let it be reviewed
01:09:20which by the way
01:09:21I found out they did
01:09:22pretty good
01:09:23the task
01:09:23from last week
01:09:24so much so
01:09:26that I knew
01:09:27that there is already a family
01:09:28that is waiting
01:09:28a baby
01:09:29Some told me
01:09:32because it didn't work out for him
01:09:33Good on the first try
01:09:34They repeated it twice
01:09:35to be sure
01:09:37that there was no mistake
01:09:37So, well
01:09:39here too
01:09:39Here you go
01:09:40quickly
01:09:41I'll read them to you
01:09:42You will have them
01:09:43right now
01:09:44in his
01:09:45on the little leaves
01:09:46that we are going to give them
01:09:47How long ago
01:09:48who don't talk
01:09:49of these topics
01:09:50everything we have
01:09:50come seeing
01:09:51that they don't check
01:09:53their married life
01:09:54An interesting question.
01:09:56that would be worthwhile
01:09:57make us
01:09:57have you asked him
01:09:59to your spouse
01:10:00if truly
01:10:01is enjoying
01:10:02marriage
01:10:02with you
01:10:03ask him
01:10:08is happy
01:10:09Are you happy with me?
01:10:13Maybe he'll tell me
01:10:14that?
01:10:17but
01:10:18Better late than never
01:10:20Better late than never
01:10:21You are authentic
01:10:23you still need
01:10:24masks
01:10:24with your spouse
01:10:25You can now
01:10:26be
01:10:26as yourself
01:10:28marriage
01:10:30It's a burden
01:10:31for you
01:10:31or truly
01:10:32It is a space
01:10:33where
01:10:33you discover
01:10:35daily
01:10:35happiness
01:10:36How much do they handle
01:10:38among you
01:10:39the we
01:10:39And what about us?
01:10:41How much do you say
01:10:42not my car
01:10:43This measures
01:10:44my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, your, your, your, your, your, your, your, or how much is ours and we, how much do we control these two elements,
01:10:57Is he or she the source of your happiness? I mean, is it from him, or are you getting it from where—from work, from your children? Are you happy in your marriage?
01:11:07Well, no, because you are
01:11:09but because I have my children whom I adore
01:11:12or I'm happy because...
01:11:14I'm having a great time
01:11:15but not because of you
01:11:17when they talk
01:11:20build or destroy
01:11:22the solutions are proposed by
01:11:25both or only
01:11:27The signal usually comes
01:11:30I put it in quotation marks, right?
01:11:31Do you remember when I told you to just open your eyes?
01:11:34I told you
01:11:34It's over, the signal has arrived
01:11:37That's the way
01:11:38And be careful not to go that way
01:11:41because there are going to be problems
01:11:42days go by when they're angry
01:11:45They get into a row
01:11:46And two, three, four days go by and I don't talk to you
01:11:49And I won't even tell you about it.
01:11:51And every time I see
01:11:52I don't stick my tongue out at you because
01:11:54They see us but
01:11:57I have plenty of desire
01:11:59They might say that in their relationship
01:12:01Are they a group or are they truly
01:12:04One team, they're both there, alright
01:12:05that is to say
01:12:06They put everything into it.
01:12:07all
01:12:08or everyone is keeping to themselves
01:12:10around there
01:12:11a little bit
01:12:12because of that
01:12:13when one fulfills
01:12:17with the roles assigned by God
01:12:19or by both
01:12:20They do it
01:12:22for your convenience
01:12:23or truly to please
01:12:26and finally
01:12:29has done
01:12:31I've made of it
01:12:32or of him
01:12:33a useless
01:12:34I'm the one who says here
01:12:38management
01:12:38do
01:12:39I think that
01:12:40solve
01:12:41Give us some answers
01:12:43from this
01:12:43can help
01:12:45right now
01:12:45to the termite
01:12:48don't undermine
01:12:50our foundations
01:12:51and how we will see it
01:12:53next week
01:12:53suddenly
01:12:54to be surprised
01:12:55that the floor
01:12:56It's falling apart
01:12:58always remember
01:12:59that without you
01:13:00I won't succeed
01:13:02Thank you all
01:13:03let them pass
01:13:03Good evening
01:13:04until next week
01:13:05Thank you!
01:13:35Thank you!