00:00Ada for not telling my wife that I knew she cheated a decade ago and not wanting to stop
00:04cheating? About a decade ago, my friend discovered my 43M wife 43F with another man in a bar being
00:10lovey-dovey. He informed me about it and showed me the photos. I wanted to confront her but my
00:15friend told me to prepare for divorce before doing anything. I booked an appointment and
00:19even drew papers. But I never served her. My confidence was in the toilet and I decided to
00:24find another woman first before divorcing her, which I am now being told has a name,
00:28its is called monkey branching. When I started my own affair I decided to end the marriage after
00:33Christmas. Then it became New Year. My next deadline was after kids' birthdays, but I never pulled the
00:38trigger. I realized that I like my life. I get to have fun with other women while not worrying about
00:43relationship things with them. I have a steady GF for past 4 years who knows about my wife.
00:48Initially I don't think my wife even noticed that I was having an affair, most likely because she was
00:53busy with hers. Then it became new normal that I will be gone with my buddy on hikes and stuff.
00:57My friend always covered for me, but his wife found out few months ago and told my wife.
01:02My wife confronted me and I just told her I knew about her affair and I even have a photo.
01:06She was shocked and then started crying. I thought she will get off my back after that but no.
01:11She told me that affair was a mistake and she got carried away and stopped it.
01:15I told her I don't really care to know about her affair. She asked me to go to couples therapy
01:19which I refused. She has started individual therapy. Her therapist is feeding her mind with rubbish.
01:24She came and told me that I need to cut off my GF and work on our marriage. She said she has made
01:30a mistake but she is creating boundaries for herself and I should respect them. I said fine
01:34I will cut off things with GF. I obviously was not gonna cut off my GF just because my wife told me
01:40to, but I decided to keep things down low but she caught me again. I guess she has become very vigilant.
01:45She gave me an ultimatum. I said fine. She didn't believe me and she was not wrong. She asked me what
01:51I want in exchange and I told her that I like my life. I am not gonna change it one bit and
01:55definitely not because she wants me to. I like spending time with my GF and I will continue to
02:00do so as long as I want. I just want her to be a wife that she has been for past decade and don't
02:04come in my way. She asked me what I will do if she comes in my way. I said I will just go around her.
02:10She said I can't keep punishing her for one mistake and I didn't say anything in return.
02:14I am not really punishing her. She is punishing herself. All she has to do is enjoy her life like
02:19she did for the past decade. Turn a blind eye and not care. I don't even mind if she gets a side
02:24piece for herself. As long as she is good domestic partner I am not gonna leave her and definitely not
02:29till the kids are out of the house. I am not doing anything she hasn't done so I don't see why she is
02:34so upset.
