00:00I called my boyfriend poor, is there any point in continuing the relationship?
00:03I typically dated engineers, lawyers, doctors, pharmacists, etc. and this was my first time
00:08dating a blue-collar worker slash someone who made under 50k, this is one of his insecurities.
00:12He is a handyman who was fixing my toilet and sink when we met and I found his personally
00:15funny and down-to-earth and that's what attracted me to him.
00:17We dated for almost a year but ultimately our lifestyles were quite different and we
00:20see things differently.
00:21He has pointed out a few times he wanted me to cook more, wipe down glass shower door
00:24after showering, emptying the dishwasher, etc. in general, I'm lacking in doing household
00:28chores.
00:28I am perfectly able to clean up after myself and make healthy food that doesn't require
00:32much skills, I just prefer to not do them.
00:34He bought one of those magnetic chore charts and put it on the fridge.
00:37He assigned me to clean the bathroom toilets once a week, deep clean the tub every two weeks,
00:40wash the bedsheet once every two weeks, etc.
00:42His own chores are there as well, it's divided as one-third on me and two-thirds on him.
00:46I told him I refuse to do any more chores than minimal cleaning up after myself since I don't
00:49technically live with him, I do stay over five nights a week simply because he lives closer
00:52to both of our work.
00:53He says it's to prepare when we move in together.
00:55I told him flat out, I'm not doing most of those chores and I'll be having a housekeeper
00:58coming in twice a week to maintain the home after we move in, as I currently have a housekeeper
01:011-2x per week at my almost vacant apartment anyways.
01:04He thinks that's a giant waste of money.
01:06I told him housegoers is a giant waste of time and that time is the real currency, not
01:09money.
01:09We argued about this for hours and I even pull out some number for him where hiring someone
01:12saves us both money and time.
01:14It ended up with me calling him poor, specifically I said you have a poor man's mentality, which
01:17is why you'll just always be poor, and he got extremely offended because he has
01:20always been sensitive about how much he makes compared to me, my friends, and my exes.
01:23Of course he's mad at me, but I'm also wondering if this relationship is worth continuing because
01:27we don't see eye to eye on money slash currency slash time.
01:30Is this something we can overcome?
01:32Edit.
01:32I sat down and ran numbers for him.
01:34Ike why he can't wrap his head around it.
01:36E.
01:361 hour work equals $300 1 hour housekeeper equals $30.
01:40If I work 2 hours, I get $600, I hire for 10 hours housekeeping for $300.
01:44Now I gained 8 hours of freedom and $300 extra.
01:47His answer, it's a waste of money.
01:49You could have saved $300 by not hiring a housekeeper.
01:51And FYI only one of my relationship ended poorly.
01:54The rest were incompatibilities, e-relocation, kids.
