00:00Hi, I'm Emily Curl, and today I'm here with some lovely ladies from Refinery29, and we
00:05are talking about dating in 2016, specifically dating with apps, the good, the bad, and the
00:12ugly.
00:13Let's all go around, and I want you to just, just like off the bat, say how many, like,
00:18app dates that you've been on.
00:20Eight times.
00:21Oh, my God.
00:23I definitely went on at least 70 last year, 70, because I went on at least one first day
00:29the week, most weeks there were two, and there were a couple of weeks where I went three.
00:34I'm running out of men on this island, guys.
00:37The last four weeks of my life, I've definitely gone on 10 dates.
00:40I probably have been on 20 or 30 dates via app.
00:46You guys have horror stories, and let me hear the worst, the most awkward, weird guys, whoever
00:52wants to jump in.
00:53How much time do you have?
00:55Should we share with us?
00:57Everyone, please.
00:58Cheers.
00:59Cheers.
01:00Cheers.
01:00Cheers.
01:01I would get a ton of, like, hey, girl, want to meet up for a proper fuck?
01:04And I'm like, I don't think, like, no.
01:07Is tea being served?
01:08There's...
01:10I'm just interested in what an improper fuck is, actually.
01:14I went on a date once with a lovely gentleman.
01:16He was older than I was, and I believe he was a doctor, and we had one margarita, a second
01:22margarita.
01:23He asked me if I was fertile.
01:24He wanted to have babies, and I had to...
01:26Wait, this is first date?
01:27This was first date.
01:28I've never received an X-rated photo before, but have you guys received any of those pictures
01:34before, and what was, like, the case around it?
01:37I have received my fair share of dick pics on apps on pretty much every app that I have,
01:42and they come without asking for them, usually.
01:46I want all the men out there to know there is nothing sexy about a disembodied penis.
01:50Like, there is nothing good-looking about it.
01:53It looks so weird.
01:55Because the truth of the matter is, if I really wanted to see your dick, to quote Lena Dunham
01:58in Girls, I would just come over to your house and look at your dick.
02:02My favorite, though, is the dick pics that are, like, the person is, like, pushing everything
02:09down so much to make their cock look bigger, or the upward shot.
02:14And I'm always like, oh, you're a cinematographer today.
02:18Look at you.
02:19That's worse to me.
02:20Like, when they try.
02:21Yeah.
02:22Because this one, they're just like, oh, whatever.
02:23I have nothing to lose here.
02:24But when they really set the stage, or when they get their, like, dating app Spielberg on,
02:29and you're like, I didn't want any of this.
02:30And then finally, it's just the last shot.
02:32Full frontal.
02:33Full Scorsese.
02:34Ugh.
02:35What is, like, the deciding factor that makes you swipe left or right?
02:39Well, I'm, like, a big sap.
02:41So, like, if they're just, like, a nice smile or something that makes me laugh in their bio,
02:44then, like, I'm game.
02:45I think when someone's having a lot of fun, or if they have a beard and flannel on,
02:51definitely, definitely, right?
02:53If your first photo is that, like, weird V muscle thing on your hip bone.
02:59We're good.
03:00Left.
03:00Left.
03:00I swipe right for, like, people who actually give me something, because I'm not afraid
03:05to initiate conversations.
03:06Same.
03:06So, if you give me something to initiate a conversation with, I will very much swipe right.
03:11If I'm intoxicated, I'm probably going to be swiping yes.
03:15I usually say yes to a beard.
03:17I'm a beard person.
03:18I will always say no to someone whose bio, like, they spelled something wrong, or they
03:22can't make complete sentences.
03:23I'll swipe right if you're big and if you're friendly.
03:26And that's it.
03:27Big and friendly is all I need.
03:28I swipe right on that.
03:29I love that.
03:30That's nice.
03:31So, like, I would be totally cool, like, marrying someone I met on an app, dating someone I
03:35met on an app, all of that stuff.
03:37So, my question for you all is, what do you want out of apps?
03:41Apps are fun when you know what you want out of them.
03:43So, like, if you want to meet people and go for drinks, or have somebody to go to the
03:48movies with, or have somebody to have occasional romps with, if that's what you want, I think
03:52that's what apps should be.
03:54Um, yeah.
03:55I mean, I think I could meet my husband on an app.
03:57But I also don't just rely on apps in my dating life.
04:01Like, I kind of see it as a supplementary thing.
04:03We're all busy.
04:04We live in a huge city.
04:05Like, it's impossible for you to meet all these people.
04:07So, it's almost like me casting a wider net, in a way.
04:11Dating apps do something that is really unique now, where they allow people to explore, like,
04:16their sexuality, their fetishes, all these things that were so hard to explore beforehand,
04:22now you can just do at the touch of a button.
04:24Thank you so much for talking about your dating life, sharing that for the intranet.
04:29Keep swiping, everybody.
04:30Thanks for watching.
04:31We'll see you next time.
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