00:00I like them old.
00:01Not that old.
00:02It's like a history lesson, but then you get to have sex.
00:07When it comes to dating, everyone has their preferences.
00:10Whether it's physical attributes or personality types.
00:13But what about age?
00:14Does age really matter when it comes to dating?
00:17Let's find out.
00:19I typically like to date within my age range.
00:21I prefer to date people my age or a few years older.
00:25My boyfriend is six years younger than me.
00:28I'm engaged now and we're both 30.
00:30I like to date people who are about 10 years older than me.
00:34I typically date guys who are five years older than me.
00:37I like to date women that are like 10 to 15 years older.
00:41Like they do their taxes but not well.
00:43So how do you determine what the appropriate age is to date a partner?
00:46I think there's something to be said about dating someone who's kind of living in the
00:50same experiences that you're living in and who's kind of in the same phase of life as you.
00:54I have a clear indication of what I want my life to be.
00:57That might intimidate a man who's not 100% ready to figure out what his life is.
01:02I was up one time with a 25 year old till 3 in the morning and I was exhausted watching
01:06YouTube videos.
01:07I don't have time for this.
01:08I just feel like people are people, you know, like what does the age really matter?
01:12According to the well-documented age differential effect, across 37 cultures, men prefer to date
01:18younger women and women prefer to date older men.
01:21I tend to get along with older men just because they've lived like a lot more life than you
01:26so they have a lot to offer and a lot to teach you.
01:29Early graying hair doesn't kill.
01:31I love that.
01:31Idris Elba.
01:32Have you guys seen his beard?
01:34Oh my god.
01:35I'm looking for someone who's mature and interesting and has life experience but you kind of have
01:39to wonder like what are they looking for in a younger girl.
01:42When you're an older man dating a younger woman you also have expectations for that younger
01:47woman to bring out in you this younger man, this exciting person.
01:52There's a lot of stigma around males dating younger women and like using them as trophies.
01:58For example, in the book Lolita, it's fetishizing this younger woman who's this ideal perfection
02:04of sort of virginal, pure beauty.
02:08And when you think of it that way, it is so creepy.
02:12So growing up people always told me to date older because that means more mature.
02:16But does age and maturity really have a correlation?
02:19I don't know, you're gonna have to ask a scientist on why men mature later.
02:22I don't got the answer to that.
02:23Here are some of the pros of dating someone who's older.
02:26They have their shit together.
02:28With age comes life experience and I mean there's no getting around that.
02:31If you're gonna be with somebody older, they obviously have a lot more life that they've
02:35lived.
02:35I don't think that maturity correlates directly with age because I've definitely known guys
02:41who are older who are not very mature.
02:43Just because they're older does not mean they're more mature and have their shit together.
02:47Cradle robber, boy toy, cougar, gerbil.
02:51These are all stereotypical names for people that date significantly outside of their age range.
02:56But why is there such a negative connotation to it?
02:58We have this idea of what love is supposed to look like.
03:02The man is supposed to be older and the woman's supposed to be younger but not too much older
03:06and not too much younger.
03:07When you see an older gentleman with a younger guy you automatically think like oh he must
03:12have money or oh yeah he's using that guy for sex.
03:16You automatically go to a judgmental place.
03:18So I'm married to somebody who's 13 years older than me.
03:21I'm 23 and he's 36.
03:23The gold digger reference never really occurred to me.
03:25We were kind of in a similar place of life and I think it was like an intention of like
03:29we love each other rather than me being like oh he's got financial gain and that's what
03:35I need.
03:36So my mom dated someone who was five years older than me and he was I think like 18 years
03:43younger than my mom.
03:44It was weird at first but it definitely made me realize that like people can love each
03:48other like across bigger groups of age.
03:52Why is it that when women date younger or older there's a stigma attached to it?
03:56So I think there's a huge double standard because it's like yeah if men do it it's not a big
04:00deal if women do it it's like excuse me who do you think you are.
04:03I don't really like the cougar stereotype but in the back of my mind I'm thinking about
04:07it and I don't want to be that person.
04:09I think it comes from this idea that you know the man should be the one taking care of the
04:12woman.
04:13Kourtney Kardashian's boyfriend he's 25 and they're having a grand time so I don't
04:17think there should be a stigma.
04:18I dated a 38 year old fresh out of college it was probably like the first time I was truly
04:22authentic in a relationship.
04:23The way women get treated is if they're like trying to hunt down I think that's kind of
04:27trash.
04:28I think that comes from people viewing women in only like a maternal view.
04:32For some reason you know me dating a guy 15 years older than me was no big deal.
04:39Me dating someone six years younger than me like pump the brakes this is not a good idea.
04:45What I found was these older men were still single for a reason.
04:49They were immature they were selfish and they drank like prohibition had just ended.
04:54I think society really truly believes that younger men cannot possibly be mature enough to handle
05:02a relationship which is kind of ridiculous because younger men haven't been jaded and
05:08they haven't been hurt and they're open to being with someone.
05:13My advice to people who want to date outside of their age range is to just not care what
05:17other people think about you.
05:19You have to own that you guys have an age difference but you have good intentions and you love each
05:24other.
05:24Don't overthink it too much just go with how you feel unless it is actually wrong.
05:30If you feel like you're with someone that you are an equal with I think that's the most
05:35important.
05:36Do what makes you happy and if you love someone who cares how old they are.
05:39Know your worth ladies and add tax to it.
05:41Just focus on the person that you're in the relationship with have fun and do you.
05:46Don't worry about what other people think as long as it's consensual and legal.
05:50Beautiful.
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