00:00 This is Blue.
00:02 She fell in love with JB.
00:06 I had to marry him.
00:07 Okay.
00:09 I stand by my decision saying I had to marry him.
00:12 Yes, I had to marry him.
00:14 ♪♪
00:17 I am Blue, and I married my husband over the phone.
00:21 People judge my relationship because my husband's in prison.
00:25 I met my husband February 2022.
00:30 My friend was talking to somebody in his pod,
00:33 and he kept hearing my voice over the phone.
00:35 And he's like, "Who is that?"
00:37 After some convincing,
00:39 they talked us into getting to know each other.
00:43 I didn't grow up as a little girl and be like,
00:45 "Oh, I want to be with an inmate.
00:47 Like, that sounds so cool."
00:48 The stereotypes that come with it,
00:51 I believed all of them.
00:53 So when they introduced us, I was not for it.
00:56 And I ended up falling in love.
01:00 [ Laughs ]
01:02 As a bigger woman, I was still very self-conscious
01:05 about putting myself out there.
01:07 So I made sure I sent him a picture of every angle.
01:12 I let him know my weight, my height.
01:16 And his response back to me was, "You're beautiful.
01:20 I don't care what size you are."
01:22 And, "Let me see some more of them angles,
01:24 'cause you look good."
01:26 Our first meeting was --
01:29 I thought it was gonna be awkward.
01:31 It was the complete opposite.
01:33 I just locked eyes with him for, like, five minutes,
01:35 it seems like.
01:37 And even not touching him, I could feel him.
01:41 So I grabbed the phone, and he's like, "Hi, beautiful."
01:45 And I instantly just started crying,
01:46 because the man that I've been in love with for the last year,
01:51 the person that I call my best friend,
01:54 is, like, finally in front of me.
01:56 And I fell in love with him all over again
01:59 for the first time at our first visit.
02:02 Me and my husband got married in secret.
02:05 I think my biggest regret when getting married
02:08 was the fact that my parents weren't there.
02:10 I told them over the phone,
02:11 because I was scared of looking them in the eye
02:15 and seeing the disappointment in my dad's face.
02:18 We got married by proxy.
02:21 We did our ceremony over the phone.
02:23 So he called in, we spoke, we did the ceremony,
02:27 we said our own vows, and then, um, voila, we were married.
02:34 There was no exchanging of rings or anything,
02:36 but he did get me a ring, which is the one I have on my hand.
02:42 So my mom's gonna be coming over
02:44 to talk about me and JB's relationship.
02:48 Me and my mother got into a fight really bad one time.
02:52 And she said, well, at least I didn't have to go to prison
02:56 to find someone to love me.
03:00 And that hurt like hell.
03:03 How did you feel when you first found out
03:06 it was Jaden, JB, and he was in prison?
03:11 I told you from the beginning that I supported you,
03:16 but I didn't recommend you date somebody that was in prison,
03:20 especially somebody that still had some time to do.
03:26 But now that you know JB and you've gotten to know him,
03:30 are you -- like, do you still have the same concerns
03:33 that you did before?
03:35 Yes.
03:36 I mean, I'm happy that y'all were --
03:39 y'all are still talking, and you --
03:42 you didn't have to get married.
03:44 I mean, he's a good guy. He's a great guy.
03:47 Well, why did you have to get married?
03:48 Why couldn't you wait for him to get out to get married?
03:52 I had to marry him.
03:53 Okay.
03:55 I stand by my decision saying I had to marry him.
03:58 Yes, I had to marry him.
04:01 He was sentenced to 30 years at the age of 17, turning 18.
04:05 He's done 11 so far.
04:08 He has to do 15 in order to be eligible for parole,
04:11 which is gonna be February 2028.
04:15 If that is denied,
04:16 then every six months after that, he comes up.
04:20 So there's no telling how much time he has left.
04:22 ♪♪
04:25 I'm going to phone JB.
04:29 I talk to him multiple times a day, every day.
04:32 An inmate at [bleep] Unit.
04:35 This call is being recorded and is subject to monitoring.
04:38 Hi, honey.
04:39 Hey, beautiful.
04:41 So, my love, what are your plans
04:46 for when you come home to me, for when you get out of prison?
04:49 I don't know.
04:51 I'm going to have my own business until then.
04:55 I'ma spoil you that.
04:58 How many babies are we having?
05:00 We're gonna chill after three.
05:01 We're gonna chill after three?
05:04 You know, get reproof, figure some things out.
05:08 [ Laughs ]
05:09 Baby, how do you think we maintain our relationship so well?
05:13 No matter how, what the problem is,
05:15 we find a way to overcome it
05:17 because we know each other so well.
05:21 You know what I'm saying?
05:22 Mm-hmm.
05:24 You know I'm proud of you, right,
05:25 and everything that you've done and you continue to do?
05:29 I get the normal stereotypes.
05:32 He's using you for the money.
05:35 You have no self-respect.
05:37 You're delusional.
05:38 And I'm not naive to the stereotypes.
05:42 I think that the only reason I get the criticism that I do
05:46 is because I'm a bigger woman,
05:47 because I've seen other prison wives,
05:50 and if they're skinnier, prettier,
05:55 more societally attractive, they're considered ride-or-die.
05:59 But because they see me,
06:01 I'm automatically considered dumb and stupid.
06:05 This is probably the first handwritten letter he sent me.
06:10 "I wake up next to this beautiful woman
06:12 I'm proud to call my wife.
06:14 We fall asleep in each other's arms again,
06:16 but when I wake up, she's out of my embrace
06:19 and sleeping with her back towards me.
06:21 I'm just blessed to have such a wonderful
06:23 and amazing woman to call my wife,
06:25 and I'm always gonna be here.
06:26 I already got my mind made up,
06:28 but it's best for me to have you a part of my life."
06:33 And then he rambles off into something
06:35 that I can't speak about.
06:38 Our relationship dynamic is dom-sub.
06:41 Our rules, like, we don't ever discuss our arguments
06:44 with anybody but each other.
06:46 We don't argue in public,
06:47 'cause that's our number-one boundary.
06:49 We never call each other out our-- each other's names.
06:53 We never go to sleep mad.
06:57 Um...
06:59 And we let each other talk.
07:01 If there's no mutual respect, it's not gonna work.
07:05 Do I love you?
07:11 I don't remember saying that.
07:13 No, I'm just playing.
07:15 I'm just playing, I'm just playing, I'm just playing.
07:18 I love you bunches. I love you bunches.
07:23 Him going to prison probably saved his life.
07:27 So I firmly believe me meeting him in prison
07:30 was probably the right thing for us.
07:33 Being a prison wife is not easy.
07:36 Being a prison wife is not for the weak.
07:39 If you want to hate on it and you want to talk about it, do it.
07:43 But it takes a strong, strong person
07:47 to deal with this lifestyle.
07:49 But at the same time, as long as it's with him,
07:53 I'd do it all over again, and I'd do it again,
07:56 just because it's him.
07:58 I ain't doing this sh-- again for nobody else but him.
08:02 Uno, dos, tres.
08:04 [music]
08:06 [silence]
08:09 [silence]
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