00:00 loneliness fundamentally means add something to me make something sit next
00:17 to me affix something to me glue me to something superimpose something on me
00:37 magnify me I think without that addition without that amplification I'm
01:00 not okay I'm not good enough it's not as if it is something that specifically
01:07 happens to you when you are 26 you are born with this feeling again go back to
01:23 the infant does not see her mother for two hours and starts wailing is that not
01:32 loneliness and it's not something sexual as you might be misled into believing
01:46 being a 26 year old it says that even if you are just 26 days old you still
01:55 require the warmth of a human body next to you otherwise you know you start
02:01 that's what is born loneliness and dependency and it will continue may you
02:17 live till 126 you will find that loneliness still haunts you the same
02:24 kind of loneliness that you experienced when you were 26 days old you getting
02:35 so the disease is deeper than we think we feel oh it's about a young person
02:47 probably looking for a friend or a mate no no no it's an existential problem we
02:59 are lonely because we exist we are dependent why because we exist how to
03:16 challenge this problem then then you have to exist in a different way
03:23 altogether right now what exists is the body identified and socially identified
03:34 ego that's what is born thankfully thankfully an alternative exists the
03:52 option to live not as the ego but as something beyond the ego exists and if
04:01 that option does not exist then life is absurd then as the absurdists would say
04:12 or rather question I mean why live at all is life worth it and surely life is
04:22 not worth living if there is no possibility of freedom from the ego
04:30 right if there is no possibility of freedom from the ego then every passing
04:44 day is just another 24-hour experience in servility and anxiety no and slavery
04:59 and depression right and not only are you experiencing that frustration today
05:22 you know very well that this frustration is your fate for all days to come then
05:35 as many have said and done suicide appears the best option if life offers
05:48 no possibility of liberation from the pain called ego then why live at all but
06:01 as we said thankfully that possibility is very much there only when you
06:09 exercise that possibility is freedom from dependency and loneliness possible
06:18 and that's a deeper exercise the the shallow way is to fight loneliness
06:26 through distraction and if you distract yourself in a thousand ways then you can
06:37 keep loneliness at bay at least for a certain time you could go to a beer bar
06:50 and spend a few hours with your friends and you are no more lonely are you
06:56 lonely in that duration you're not hmm or you could watch the highlights of the
07:08 last World Cup soccer pretending that you do not know the scoreline oh my god
07:22 who's going to win you could do a thousand other cute and stupid things
07:35 to keep you busy that's a shallow way of
07:46 negotiating with loneliness dependency etc and I'm talking of them in the same
07:53 breath they are much the same thing the real way is to know that as long as we
08:04 continue to feed our false sense of self we are condemning ourselves to more and
08:17 more loneliness more and more dependency and we are necessitating therefore more
08:24 and more of antidepressant material an antidepressant is not merely a pill an
08:37 antidepressant is much more like a visit to the shopping mall
08:50 hmm or waiting for the Friday release that's an antidepressant clinically only
09:02 a small proportion of people are depressed existentially we are all born
09:08 to born depressed so there are some who have been diagnosed with depression and
09:26 there are some who are asymptomatically depressed but depressed we all are
09:34 without doubt except for the liberated ones we all are depressed in some cases
09:44 depression has shown up erupted in full ferocity in other cases depression is
09:53 lying latent hidden waiting for the right time to raise its fangs so Nikita
10:10 I would invite you to come to Vidant I'll invite you to go to all the
10:27 fundamental spiritual scriptures
10:33 hmm
10:35 come to Kapil Rishi come to Kaladri she come to Christian and you are born in a
11:00 Jain family come to Kund Kund come to Mahavir to Parshunath they all are there
11:16 for you they were people with a lot of love and they have ensured that their
11:30 bodily absence does not enfeeble their mission they have left behind rich and
11:50 voluminous scriptures and accounts questions and teachings and there is a
12:10 higher pleasure in being with them once you develop the taste of being with a
12:25 Christian or a Mahavir you will forget
12:36 all this loneliness and dependency business
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