00:01I think it's important to keep cultural traditions alive.
00:08Being sort of British African, we wanted something that combined both cultures together.
00:15That we wanted to have Anglo-African fusion because that's what we are,
00:20but also for our little boy as well, you know, he's a mixture of the two cultures.
00:28If I sort of think about what Sean's mum has said to me, she said,
00:32I love, you know, African culture, you know, I'm getting to experience, you know, African culture
00:37and combining it with the British culture is just amazing.
00:44There's a lot of value with appreciating what different people bring to each other
00:50and there's a lot of fun about it.
00:55Having our son and other people understand that, you know, no culture is better than each other,
01:00it's about understanding both sides and respecting both sides.
01:04What touched me was that Sean accepted extended family,
01:11which we coming from Africa, you know, we're very unique in our extended family
01:18because coming from Africa, there's always this cultural background,
01:23but they blended in well together.
01:25Yes, I totally agree with that.
01:28It's very different and it's been really interesting learning about the, you know, my day's culture.
01:34The bit that I'm going to be most nervous about is the speeches
01:38because I know that I'm going to feel quite emotional on the day.
01:43My sons are my best men and seeing them doing the speeches.
01:49Yeah.
01:56I'm a practicing Christian and so it was important that I spoke to the vicar and it was done in
02:04church.
02:06We are going with a harp and flute player because it would be something quite sentimental.
02:12Lots of bright colors, burnt orange and purple,
02:16some prints that really gives that African-ness.
02:34Just looking at my baby daughter in white, I just couldn't imagine.
02:41The love in their eyes, it was just out of this world.
02:46The elusive nature of love itself means that today is a gift.
02:51Love is what we've come here to witness today.
02:54Love are these two.
02:57You may kiss the bride.
03:06Where I'm originally from in Sierra Leone, it's all about music, it's all about dancing
03:10and drumming is a significant part of that.
03:14There's also dancing in.
03:17Dancing in would be very important.
03:25Media wants it done in a certain way, so I would ask Sean,
03:28for you to enter the hall, you have to at least dance or something.
03:31And it's like, no, I'm just going to show you right now.
03:34Just moonwalking or something.
03:35And it's like, nope, I'm just going to come in.
03:36I'm like, come on, man, you just have to move.
03:38Walk with me here.
03:40There you go!
03:44Lots of music, lots of dancing, lots of African food is going to also be really important.
03:52There's a particular suite we have in Sierra Leone called Granat Cake.
03:57And basically it's peanuts.
03:59We've got a lady who knows how to make huge sculptures out of it.
04:03Sean and I saw it and we were like, wow, this is just absolutely spot on.
04:09Grown up with significant people in our lives, Sean's dad and my brother,
04:14and they've passed away.
04:16One of the things we are going to have at the wedding
04:18is remembering those individuals who are quite close to us.
04:29Within Sierra Leonean culture, you also have godparents that will be guardians of your marriage.
04:35The idea is they're the individuals who look after your marriage
04:39and if you ever have an argument, you know, they're the person that would be supporters.
04:46We've gone with two godmothers.
04:48They're both my aunt and they both love Sean,
04:52so I don't think I will ever be supported.
04:55They'll be supporting him.
04:56No, I was quite happy with the choice of good parents.
05:02I want you to take this water, drink, give to your husband to drink,
05:08and I pray that peace will always be in your marriage.
05:17What they tend to do in Sierra Leone is something called giving of water.
05:23Both mothers would give water to the bride and groom and, you know, give them their blessing.
05:27Every single day you make me into a very different person
05:31and I like the person that I am moving to.
05:46The way that your family has embraced us,
05:50you know, this real sort of community feel
05:52and openness of feelings and emotions,
05:56it's not really a very English way of doing things.
06:00I hope they appreciate the introduction or reintroduction of Africa.
06:06You do tend to see a lot of negative in the media
06:09and just to see a different feel of the fusion that we're trying to create.
06:14It's just been brilliant.
06:15I hope they'll change the term.
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