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Philosopher Stefan Molyneux digs into the joy of rage and shows how useful anger can protect you from the dead who still live in your mind. He also looks at what used to restrain women versus what happens now, and takes calls on family wounds and dating.

0:00:00 Sunday Morning Philosophy Begins
0:02:39 What Restrains Women?
0:04:19 Lindsay Clancy and Female Sympathy
0:08:00 What Constrains Men?
0:12:11 The Old Limits on Women
0:17:14 State Power and Female Freedom
0:21:34 Consequences and Moral Discipline
0:25:13 Rewarding Irresponsibility
0:30:05 Sympathy as Incentive
0:33:46 Brain Differences and Leadership
0:36:19 Female Consensus and Men
0:38:56 Negotiating Household Authority
0:44:15 Women and the Left
0:47:48 Family Healing Update
0:50:48 Confronting a Dead Father
1:02:18 Anger as Protection
1:16:15 Manipulation and Integrity
1:19:58 Passive Aggression Problems
1:24:41 Dating After Recovery

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Transcript
00:00:00Well, hello, hello, hello. Good morning, good morning, everybody. Welcome to Sunday Morning
00:00:05Philosophy with Stéphane Molyneux. Let's get ready to ramble.
00:00:15So, I've been thinking. As befits a philosopher, may not be a huge shock, but boy, in the brain
00:00:25has been thinking, and one of the things that I've been thinking about, happy to take your
00:00:31calls, of course, this morning, questions, comments, issues, challenges, problems. There's
00:00:34a fellow on X who has been nipping at my heels about UPB, and boy, there's almost nothing
00:00:44I like more, at least online, than talking about UPB and ethics. That is a glorious time,
00:00:51so hopefully he will drop by today. And this argument, which is, I say, everyone I've
00:00:59debated UPB with has accepted the argument. And he says, your friend, Mike Cernovich, doesn't
00:01:08believe in objective ethics or secular ethics or something like that. And, of course, I
00:01:19mean, I would not, I think, Mike Cernovich is a nice colleague. He's not a friend. We
00:01:24don't, we don't chat. We haven't talked in probably six years. So, you know, good guy
00:01:31and interesting guy, very provocative thinker and a great sympathy for the hellscape of his
00:01:36childhood, but he's not a friend. We don't, we don't, we haven't talked in more than half
00:01:40a decade. Ever since the deplatforming, I think people, and I'm not complaining, but
00:01:45they've been kind of, kind of edgy to talk to me, which no particular complaint is just
00:01:53a fact. But even if you were a friend, I have not debated him. I have not gone through
00:02:00step-by-step in UPB with him. So, the claim that everyone I've talked about with UPB in,
00:02:07right, has to accept, has accepted the premises, doesn't include people who, A, aren't friends,
00:02:14and B, I've never gone step-by-step through UPB with. But it was a nice try. It was a
00:02:20nice
00:02:20try. So, just wanted to mention as well, don't forget World War Debate. World War Debate,
00:02:25Nashville, 12th of September. Use the promo code S-T-E-F-A-N for some discount in your tickets.
00:02:36I hope that you will join in with that. So, what restrains women? Other than fur handcuffs,
00:02:43what is it that restrains women? Because that does seem to be one of the big challenges of
00:02:50the modern world, is women's florid emotionalism. One dare even use the term hysteria, which of course
00:03:00comes from the Greek word for womb. One might say that women's emotionality, and again, not all women,
00:03:09but, you know, a lot, women's emotionality, women's impulsivity, women's outgroup preferences
00:03:15in the modern world, women's higher compliance and enforcement rates for COVID, lockdowns and so
00:03:24on, and women's a bit more herd instinct, susceptibility to propaganda, and inability.
00:03:33Inability. Ooh, that's a big one. It's a big one. The first time I met a woman who was
00:03:41fine admitting that she's at fault or can be at fault, well, I wiped her up.
00:03:51Almost a quarter century ago, yes, I wiped her up because that's a beautiful and wonderful
00:03:57and great thing. You can't be in a relationship with someone who can't admit that they're wrong
00:04:02because then you're just in a relationship with their narcissism. Narcissists cannot admit
00:04:09to any standard higher than their own preferences in the moment. So what restrains women? Let's
00:04:17get back to that. But first and foremost, let us take a call. We shall return. Call us,
00:04:24get priority. Good morning. How are you doing? Not too bad. Yourself? I'm well, thanks. So the
00:04:31question about female restraint and this case, the unfortunate case of the woman that killed her
00:04:39three children, it had me thinking about a debate that I was watching with Phyllis Slafly and she was
00:04:49on a show, I think it was called In the Firing Line or something like that with William F. Buckley.
00:04:53It
00:04:53was talking about equality. And she said something that just got my attention. She said that when it
00:05:00comes to women and the things that we want and we need, we have ways of getting the things that
00:05:08we
00:05:08want. And it just stuck in my mind when she said that. And when you think about in the past,
00:05:15women
00:05:15couldn't vote and then all of a sudden they could vote. And prior to the 1870s, if a man and
00:05:23a woman
00:05:24got divorced, men got custody of the children. And then by the 1870s, the courts adopted a doctrine
00:05:31called the tender years doctrine, where basically all of a sudden women got custody of children.
00:05:36In the 1970s, it was changed to the best interest of the child. But, you know, with this case,
00:05:43with this woman, and you have some women that are out here advocating and having a lot of sympathy
00:05:50for her. And I'm hearing that there's a chance that this woman might actually, she might get off
00:05:56because they might blame it on all the meds that she was on that was caused her to do what
00:05:59she did.
00:06:00I'm just wondering if you're thinking, is it possible that the Phyllis Slafly doctrine,
00:06:07whatever it is she meant, it's happening slowly in real time yet again, where the women are advocating
00:06:15for a woman who killed her children to somehow not be held responsible. And we actually might
00:06:22allow it to happen. Like, what is this? Is there something that's going on? Some sort of invisible
00:06:28hand that powers women to sort of get the things that they want?
00:06:33Invisible hand jobs, you mean? So I don't know that we're going to allow anything to happen
00:06:39in the Lindsay Clancy trial. I mean, of course, there are a lot of women who are blaming the husband.
00:06:43There are a lot of women who are blaming the system, as if a woman whose husband makes,
00:06:50you know, between three and $400,000 a year who works from home, she had a nanny, she had
00:06:55her mother, she had massive amounts of support. So we can't really say that she was, you know,
00:07:04isolated in a rural area, and her husband went off hunting for three months in the winter,
00:07:08or it's like she had, she was surrounded by support. But yeah, we're not going to let or allow
00:07:12anything to happen. The jury's going to do what it's going to do. And of course,
00:07:16this is not doing very well to people's perception of what it's like to have women
00:07:21on a jury, right? Because if women are openly sympathizing, and the fact that there are some
00:07:27crazy women who sympathize with Lindsay Clancy, well, the problem is that there's not this massive
00:07:36schism or tear in the female community with women saying, I can't be friends with someone
00:07:40who sympathizes with this, like that there is a certain amount of, you know, there's always a
00:07:44small minority of very loud, very crazy people. How does a society deal with them? Men deal with
00:07:51them, well, used to deal with them through violence and ostracism, and women used to deal with them
00:07:56through reputational destruction and ostracism, but it's not really happening now. So let me ask you
00:08:02this, turn it back. So what restrained women throughout almost all of human evolution up until
00:08:10the pill, the welfare state, all this kind of stuff? So what was it that restrained women in
00:08:15the past? We understand with men, like, let's just contrast this for women who may not know.
00:08:20So let's start with this. What restrains or constrains men?
00:08:26What restrains women? What restrains men?
00:08:29Let's start with men, because it's easier to, you're a man, I'm a man. So when we were kids,
00:08:33if we ran our mouth, if we insulted some guy's mother, if we pushed him, what would restrain
00:08:40us? What would the consequences be?
00:08:43The fist of another man?
00:08:45Yeah, violence.
00:08:45To insult people.
00:08:46Violence restrains men. Violence restrains men. And this is as true now as it
00:08:54was in the past. Bullying, violence, and so on. That is what restrains men. And that
00:09:01has always been the case. That will always be the case. Every man, when he's out and about,
00:09:06has a little subroutine running, which is scanning for potential threats and dangers, particularly
00:09:11in the new multicultural paradise we find ourselves in. People are looking for, I mean,
00:09:16men do this, right? Dangers, concerns, worries. And men, you know, say we have free speech.
00:09:23Well, sure, yeah. But male free speech is restrained by violence. And every man knows
00:09:29this to the point where if you have a friend named Bob, and Bob goes into some biker gar,
00:09:34a biker bar, goes up to the biggest guy he knows, and says his mother was a hoa, then
00:09:40Bob is going to get punched. And how much sympathy will Bob's friends have for him?
00:09:48Hello. Are you with me, brother?
00:09:50Yeah, I'm here. I'm here.
00:09:51You've got to keep listening to the conversation. Otherwise, I feel like I'm talking to myself.
00:09:56Yeah, sorry about that. You kind of blanked out for a second. Did you ask a question if
00:10:00you could repeat it?
00:10:01Okay, don't worry about it. So if a friend of yours goes and insults some big guy and calls
00:10:09his mother a hoa, the big guy is probably going to punch him, and you're not going to
00:10:12have any sympathy for Bob, even though Bob says, hey, man, I have free speech. It's like,
00:10:15yeah, but there's going to be consequences if you go around insulting. So men are restrained
00:10:21and constrained by violence. Men are also constrained by female rejection. So if you do things that
00:10:31women don't like, then that's the end of your lineage, right? That's the end of your gene
00:10:37pool. If you do things that women don't like, then if you're too weird or creepy or whatever,
00:10:43if you do things that women don't like, then women won't mate with you. So men are constrained
00:10:48by violence and a lack of access to sex. Is there anything else major that I'm missing?
00:10:54Well, I think those are the main two.
00:10:58Okay. Are women beaten up if they run their math in the modern world?
00:11:03No.
00:11:04And neither should they be, of course, right? I mean, it's a violation of the non-aggression
00:11:08principle, but don't hit girls, women. I mean, there's some catfights that go on in trailer parks
00:11:14and so on, some hair pulling and slapping and so on. But male violence has the potential to be
00:11:20wounding, maiming, or deadly. So it's a little bit different from some hair pulling.
00:11:25So women are not restrained by violence. Now, are women restrained by the fact that they just can't
00:11:34get access to sex?
00:11:36No.
00:11:37Not at all, right? I mean, you see these weird potato-shaped polycules floating around on the
00:11:42internet, although it might make you and I gag ourselves with a spoon from time to time.
00:11:47Clearly, almost every woman is able to have sex pretty much whenever she wants. And so women are
00:11:56not restrained by violence. And women in the modern world are not restrained by male rejection,
00:12:04by male ostracism, by a lack of access to sex. Does that make sense so far?
00:12:10Perfect sense.
00:12:11So then the question is, what changed? So let's go back, you know, 500 years, 1,000 years,
00:12:17could be 10,000 years, whatever, right? So what restrains women or what restrained women in the
00:12:23past? And by restraint, I simply mean having some order and self-restraint. It's not talking about
00:12:28any sort of physical restraint. Obviously, we know that. So what constrained women, let's say
00:12:32constrained is probably better, what constrained women in the past?
00:12:36I would say in the past, and maybe present day, maybe not so much, but just reputational
00:12:43destruction, destroying their support system, undermining them, that sort of thing, constrained
00:12:48women. And also, they needed men. They needed men that needed their resources so they could be cut off.
00:12:54Right. So a woman who did not have a man was in danger, right? Was in danger, obviously,
00:13:03perhaps from other men, from starvation, from predators, from just a lack of ability to
00:13:11build a log cabin and provide shelter and, you know, go and get water and hunt boars and stuff
00:13:16like that. So a woman would be short on resources without a man. And that certainly is part of it.
00:13:23What else constrained women in our evolution?
00:13:27Children.
00:13:28That's right.
00:13:29Having children.
00:13:29Yeah, pregnancy is the big one. So in the past, there was no birth control. And of course,
00:13:35I'm not sure that people really understood the moon cycle, the sort of family planning that's
00:13:40espoused by some Catholics and so on. Natural avoidance of childbirth and so on. Sorry,
00:13:46natural avoidance of pregnancy. So in the past, women want sex, men want sex. And in the past,
00:13:53the products of sex was a baby. And what happened to women who got pregnant outside of wedlock or to
00:14:01a man who wouldn't marry them?
00:14:04A life of poverty and distress.
00:14:08Right. Right. Right. So a life of poverty and distress, perhaps not even survival.
00:14:16And although she would reproduce, right? So let's say that she gets pregnant out of wedlock. Let's say
00:14:21she's somehow able to find a way to survive, usually with the resources of her parents.
00:14:27Well, what happens to her offspring in general if she's a single mother in the past, not in the present,
00:14:34but in the past. Well, her offspring, some may not survive. Some may grow up and they might be
00:14:45a problem to society, which would cause blowback on her as well.
00:14:50Yeah. So usually if a woman had a child outside of wedlock and it was identified as her child,
00:14:56like the parents didn't step in and say, we had an oopsie, late-see baby,
00:14:59then the child of the woman would grow up outside of social norms, rejected and isolated. And therefore,
00:15:10the odds of that child successfully reproducing within societal norms went down considerably. So
00:15:16it just delayed the end of the bloodline by one generation for a woman to have a child outside
00:15:25of wedlock. And so women were constrained by their need for men, their need for resources,
00:15:33and by pregnancy. Pregnancy was the big constraint on women in the past. Women could not control their
00:15:42own pregnancies and they absolutely needed a man to provide for them and their children. I mean,
00:15:49you could say that, well, if she was a princess or, I mean, we're talking about sort of the vast
00:15:53majority
00:15:54of women that sort of determines the general genetic drifts. So men are constrained by violence and
00:16:01female rejection. Women are constrained by, I mean, fundamentally by childbirth, but also by
00:16:07being smaller and weaker and unable to defend themselves, even against natural elements or
00:16:11natural predators, even if we say it's not some Genghis Khan-style invasion. So men are constrained
00:16:20by violence and sexual rejection from women. Are those still a factor for men today?
00:16:27Yes.
00:16:27Sure. Yeah, they are. I mean, men can still beat each other up. And you say, well, there's laws against
00:16:32it
00:16:32and so on. Sure. But there's also, you know, if you get into some bar fight and you lose and
00:16:38then you
00:16:39press charges, I mean, that may be fine legally and it may be even fine morally, but men will kind
00:16:45of
00:16:45look at you as a species of female cat. Is that fair to say?
00:16:50Pretty much, yeah.
00:16:52Because running to a stronger male to protect you from another male is considered very subservient,
00:16:59low caste beta behavior. So men are still constrained by violence. Are men still constrained by female
00:17:07rejection? Yes.
00:17:09Yeah, of course, right? I mean, there's a whole incel thing and I get all of that. So men are
00:17:12still constrained by female rejection. So those limits on male behavior have maintained themselves
00:17:18into the modern world. Now let's look at the other two. Are women constrained by needing a man
00:17:24to protect and provide?
00:17:26Not so much. You have child support, alimony, you have welfare, all those different things,
00:17:33those options for women.
00:17:34Sure. Yeah. Women are not constrained by the need for a male provider because, why? Because
00:17:41they run to the state to extract resources from men and give to them, right?
00:17:46Right.
00:17:47So they run to the state. So they run to an alpha, so to speak, the government is the ultimate
00:17:53alpha. So they run to the alpha to get their resources and what do they need to provide
00:17:58in return?
00:18:00What do they need to provide in return? I guess votes.
00:18:03Yeah, votes and a certain amount of enforcement of government power. And the way that women
00:18:09enforce government power at the moment is by rejecting men who want smaller government.
00:18:16Like you've heard that in America, the number one turnoff for women is supposed to be MAGA,
00:18:20you're right, which has to do with smaller government and the objective rule of law.
00:18:23So women bond with the state, get their resources from the state, and therefore are no longer
00:18:31constrained by the need for males to provide resources because the government forces the
00:18:36men to provide resources. And of course, once a woman becomes a – it's a harem situation.
00:18:42The politicians are like the Genghis Khan, so to speak, and the women, particularly the single
00:18:48women who overwhelmingly vote for the hard left, the single women are in a harem. And thus,
00:18:54they use the man, the prince, the Genghis Khan, they use his power and the power of his
00:19:00minions to extract resources from men and provide it to them. And in return, they have great loyalty
00:19:06to the ruler, to the Genghis Khan. And of course, any man who says the Genghis Khan or the ruler's
00:19:13power should be diminished is their enemy because that's how they're getting their resources.
00:19:16So they will attack and roll their eyes and so on, right? So women have a bondage to the
00:19:23alpha of the state, and therefore, they do not need a man to provide and protect. Now,
00:19:28what about pregnancy? What's the status of that?
00:19:31Well, I mean, pregnancy, I mean, right now, women have fought. They have the right to maintain
00:19:38decisions over their bodies so they can have abortions if they want.
00:19:42Yes. So women can terminate pregnancies if they happen to get pregnant with a man who they do not
00:19:50want as a provider. Now, they may not want him as a provider because he's a drug addict or unstable
00:19:54or violent or whatever it is. He may just leave them if he ghosts them or whatever. Or if he
00:20:02is
00:20:03not someone that they are very drawn to, maybe he's more beta, maybe he's nicer, right? So there's
00:20:10been no time in history when women have been nicer to men, and it seems that a lot of women
00:20:14hold men in contempt for being nice to them and so on. And I understand that because a man who's
00:20:17too nice can't go out and win resources in the battle of men. Male against male that
00:20:21characterized most of her evolution. So women can terminate pregnancies at will so they don't
00:20:27have the constraint of pregnancy. And what if they decide to go through and have the baby?
00:20:32What happens then? If there's not a provider?
00:20:35They can turn to the state.
00:20:37Well, they will.
00:20:37Or in very, they will turn to the state and in very, very few, but it happens in some unfortunate
00:20:43cases, they can pin the baby on another man.
00:20:46They can pin the baby on another man. I don't know if people know this, but in France, it's
00:20:50actually illegal to get a DNA test, to get a paternity test without the permission of the
00:20:56woman. The concern being that in France, everyone's a giant marsh pit of sleeping around as a whole,
00:21:00and therefore French society would collapse if paternity tests were allowed. So yeah, so
00:21:07women are no longer, and women of course are not constrained by sexual rejection because
00:21:12a woman, pretty much any woman, can get sex pretty much any time, particularly in some
00:21:20of the modern tinder age. So they're not constrained by the need for a provider protector. They're not
00:21:26constrained by pregnancy. They're not constrained by the fear of violence as a whole. And so women's
00:21:36behavior is running riot and rampant because you can't really have practical virtue without
00:21:45consequences. You cannot have, and this is really important, like everybody knows this kind of deep
00:21:50down, you cannot have practical virtue without negative consequences, right? Because we are
00:21:59carrot and stick. All creatures have evolved as carrot and stick. And so imagine, of course, if you went to
00:22:07school, and there's some classes most people like, like I happen to like English and art, and I love
00:22:12gym, yeah, I love to exercise and moving around and sports and stuff. So there were some classes that
00:22:17I really liked, history I really liked. So there are some classes I liked and some classes I didn't
00:22:21particularly like. In particular, I didn't like abstract mathematics. So if we were in school as kids,
00:22:29and we knew we were going to get an A no matter what, what would happen? What would we do?
00:22:35We wouldn't study. We wouldn't work hard.
00:22:37I mean, we'd goof off in the back of a class, we'd make spitballs, we'd write notes, we'd draw rude
00:22:44things in the textbooks, if they even have those things anymore, probably just iPads. But yeah,
00:22:48if there were no negative consequences, then we would have no discipline. If there were no negative
00:22:54consequences to smoking, how many smokers would quit? If there were no negative consequences to
00:22:59drinking or being a rampant alcoholic, how many people would quit, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:23:03And if there were no negative consequences for not exercising, people wouldn't exercise. I mean,
00:23:09they might do it for sports and fun and so on, but they wouldn't do it for health. I mean,
00:23:13if there were no negative consequences for being overweight, how many people would die, blah, blah,
00:23:17blah, right? So we guide ourselves by rewards and consequences. And of course, for some people,
00:23:24that is internalized, right? If I do good, if I'm an honest Boy Scout and tell the truth, I feel
00:23:28good
00:23:28about myself. If I lie and cheat and steal or am dishonest or lazy or irresponsible, I'll have a
00:23:34conscience. I feel bad about myself and so on. But that's certainly not everyone. And even that's
00:23:38kind of inconsistent. So we need external rewards and punishments, not necessarily imposed by human
00:23:45beings, but imposed by consequences, imposed by consequences. So men have evolved to not want to
00:23:52raise other men's children. Obviously, like for obvious genetic and biological and Darwinian reasons,
00:23:57men have evolved to not want to raise other men's children. And the only men who will want to raise
00:24:02other men's children are men who are so desperate for sexuality that they will be literally cut and
00:24:09pour their resources into another man's children. Now, I saw that you, and so if a woman has a child,
00:24:15that's a huge negative, unless it's the man's child, which is why women should choose men who stick
00:24:19around and had to in the past. So when we have evolved with external constraints, consequential
00:24:27constraints, when those constraints are taken away, it's like, there was this movie I saw when I was a
00:24:36kid called The Dam Busters, which was about these sort of skipping cylindrical bombs that the British
00:24:42developed to destroy dams in Axis-occupied countries. And like, it skipped along, and then
00:24:49it went to the bottom, and it sank down to the bottom of the dam, and then it exploded, and
00:24:52burst
00:24:53the dam. So the consequences are the dam, and the passions are the giant reservoir. And when the dam
00:24:59gets broken, when the dam gets busted, tear down the wall, then the passions flow wild, unconstrained.
00:25:08We could say free, but it's an incredibly destructive force. So throughout history, men and women were
00:25:15constrained by a variety of mechanisms we've talked about, and in the modern world for women, those
00:25:19mechanisms have been taken away. And women's behavior is now not just consequence-free. It's one thing to
00:25:28have consequence-free. But imagine how many people would smoke if smoking not only was not bad for you,
00:25:36but made you better at running, made you better, made your lungs healthier and better, then everybody
00:25:42who was an athlete would smoke like a chimney because it would make their lungs stronger, healthier,
00:25:46and better, like in this imaginary scenario, right? So, yeah, so not only are women not suffering negative
00:25:54consequences for irresponsibility, they're massively rewarded to a level that we can't even conceive of
00:26:00as men. So I did the show many years ago called The Welfare Cliff and, or some people call it
00:26:05The
00:26:05Welfare Trap, which is a single woman with two children can get the equivalent of $80,000 to $100,000
00:26:11worth of government benefits. And those government benefits and the comfort that she lives in would
00:26:17be unimaginable even to the kings and queens of 100 years ago. Antibiotics, air conditioning,
00:26:24central heating, central heating, cars, roads, food delivery, fridges, ice boxes, stoves, laundry,
00:26:33you name it. I don't have to go through the whole list, right? So women who are irresponsible live
00:26:39better than the kings and queens of a century ago. And so not only have negative consequences being
00:26:46taken away, but rewards so staggering, it would seem like some paradise to people in the past
00:26:56have been given. And of course, in the past, well, and of course, if a man breaks a contract,
00:27:03let's say a man signs a contract for a million dollars, and then says, ah, you know what, I'm not,
00:27:11I'm not really happy with this contract. I don't really like this contract. And I'm going to walk
00:27:16away. What happens? Ah, well, that's a problem. I mean, if he doesn't honor the contract, there's
00:27:22consequences for not honoring the contract. Yeah, he's going to get sued. He's going to get,
00:27:26he's going to, right, it's going to be damages and all that kind of stuff, right? So a woman,
00:27:31and again, I know that men leave marriages too, and I get all of that, but men leave marriages under
00:27:35the threat of alimony, child support, and SAID, these allegations that occur in divorces that I
00:27:42talked about on Wednesday. So men leave marriages under great clouds of punishment, recrimination,
00:27:50and danger. When women leave marriages, well, the courts are on their side, they get custody,
00:27:57they get alimony, they get child support, they get welfare, they get all kinds of benefits.
00:28:02So it would be like a man who has a contract for a million dollars, and if he walks away
00:28:06from the
00:28:06contract, he gets two million dollars. Well, that would be pretty hard to keep a contract. I mean,
00:28:12some men would keep the contract out of an internalized set of ethics, but those people
00:28:16would be very rare, maybe five to 10% of the population. Or some people might keep the contract
00:28:22because of religious reasons, injunctions, thou shalt not steal. But most people, if you pay them two
00:28:28million dollars to break a one million dollar contract, they will take the two million dollars
00:28:33and go on their merry way. So not only have negative consequences been taken away from women,
00:28:40for the most part, but women are rewarded for absolutely appalling behavior, like there was a
00:28:48book, The Scarlet Letter, Nathaniel Hawthorne, I think it was, which is, you know, a woman who cheats
00:28:54on the man, this is an Anna Karenina thing, a woman who cheats on a man is treated sympathetically.
00:29:00It's treated sympathetically. Now, of course, if you treat women sympathetically, you make a lot
00:29:05of money, right? If you treat women, say, oh, you know, but you were lonely, you were isolated. He
00:29:10was cold. There was a book by Judy Blume when I was a teenager called Wifey about a woman who
00:29:18slept with a man outside of marriage because her husband was kind of cold. I remember there was a
00:29:22scene where the husband says, well, I'm going to tell you that I love you on your wedding day. I'm
00:29:26never going to tell you again because it's already implicit. And she married him anyway, and then
00:29:30she's surprised that he's kind of cold. In the movie or the book Jaws by Peter Benchley, there's the
00:29:36wife of Chief Brody has an affair with her high school sweetheart who became a marine biologist or
00:29:43something like that and all of that. And I mean, her husband is, I remember there's a scene where he's
00:29:50rubbing her belly, moving a little further up to her boobs. And she says, well, it already took my
00:29:54sleeping pills, but you can go ahead if you want. And then he says, well, I'm not very big on
00:29:58screwing
00:29:58corpses. And then she says, well, that was uncalled for. And, you know, there's sort of conflict that
00:30:02happens in these kinds of situations. But if you treat misbehaving women sympathetically, you can make
00:30:09a lot of money. And women have a seemingly bottomless desire for billionaire vampires and werewolves
00:30:15and orcs and bulls, strangely enough, and also for sympathy for their misdeeds, right? So you have
00:30:23some woman who's done something wrong, and she puts sad music and she cries on TikTok and all the other
00:30:28women storm in to give her support and love and blah, blah, blah. So female ostracism has been destroyed
00:30:37and incentives have been placed there to reward women for bad decisions, bad behavior. The most important
00:30:44decision a woman makes is who she allows to impregnate her. The most important decision a man
00:30:50makes is who he chooses to marry. And all of those restraints have been taken away. Now, when human
00:30:57beings as a whole have evolved with external restraints, then when those external restraints are
00:31:03taken away, behavior spreads in an uncontrolled fashion and tends to take down society. So I think some
00:31:09of the highest obesity rates in America are among the black population. And of course, in the original
00:31:15scenario in Africa and other places, food was very constrained. Food was very restrained. And then when
00:31:22they come to a place where food is abundant, they don't necessarily have developed in whatever fashion
00:31:29that would have happened. You know, like you eat as much as you can in a scarce food environment. And
00:31:35that
00:31:35changes when you go from a food desert to a food jungle, so to speak, that changes a lot. And
00:31:39you
00:31:39can sort of see the effects on obesity and type one diabetes and type two diabetes and things like
00:31:45that. So yeah, I would sort of argue that women and their behavior have broken free of historical
00:31:53constraints and are now not just no longer punished, but incentivized massively, like massively to a degree
00:31:59that we can't even consider or imagine. And a life without restraint, you know, it's kind of something
00:32:06that we all dream of. Imagine if I had a billion dollars, like imagine if I, you know, had had,
00:32:12you
00:32:13know, I had a PhD and I had Arnold Schwarzenegger's body and I had this and I had that. Now
00:32:19imagine,
00:32:19and we all love to imagine a life without restraint. That's what superhero shows and movies are all
00:32:24about. And we love that idea of a life without. It is kind of a toddler mentality for the most
00:32:29part,
00:32:30right? So toddlers are like, I'm the king of the universe. I'm a Tyrannosaurus Rex. I can fly. I'm the
00:32:35fastest. Look at me run. And you know, this kind of acute phase of toddlerhood and I have no problem
00:32:39with it in toddlers. But a life without constraints, a life without feedback, it's kind of like, it's kind of
00:32:47like wishing for a life without any physical pain. Like that's actually really bad for you because you can't
00:32:51tell if you're hurt. You know, some bee stings you on the back, you don't even feel it. And you
00:32:56don't
00:32:56get that kind of constant feedback of, oh, I twisted my back a little. I should probably give it a
00:33:01massage and take it easy on that. Or, you know, you twist your ankle, you go, right? So a life
00:33:06without pain, we can sort of dream of a life without pain, but it's kind of hell in a way.
00:33:10And a life
00:33:11without that kind of feedback is something that people dream of. I want to be Superman and fly and
00:33:16people can, bullets will fly off my chest, right? And, and yet when people get those lives,
00:33:23they tend to lose their minds because our minds are developed to be constrained by positive and
00:33:27negative feedback. Our entire evolution was designed for these kinds of constraints.
00:33:33And when you take these constraints away or counter signal them by incentivization,
00:33:38people lose their freaking minds. They literally lose their minds. And I think a lot of that's going
00:33:43on. So sorry for the long speech. I'm happy to get your thoughts.
00:33:47Well, I mean, it makes a lot of sense what you're saying. It makes me also think
00:33:56a couple of years ago, I wrote in on Locals and I was kind of fooling around a little bit.
00:34:02And in
00:34:02your book, The Art of the Argument, there was a statement that said that the dorsal medial segment
00:34:10of the prefrontal cortex for men and women are different. And because of that women,
00:34:16they cannot take criticism as much as men can. And so I wrote in and I said, well, if that's
00:34:23the
00:34:23case, you know, I was fooling around and, you know, should women be in positions of leadership and
00:34:29things of that nature? And you said, you know, you don't care about that stuff. You know, you just,
00:34:32you know, you only care about freedom, but I'm pretty sure I didn't say I don't care about that
00:34:39stuff. Well, well, well, you said that basically, well, you know, there was a while ago, but you
00:34:43said pretty much you, you really, you prioritize freedom, you know? So women should be free to be
00:34:50in positions of power and no one should compel men or anyone else to put women in positions of power.
00:34:57So women, you know, if people say, well, repeal the 19th, it's like, well, it's the government as
00:35:02a whole is the problem, right? And it's like saying that the women shouldn't be allowed to
00:35:06own slaves. It's like, well, how about, you know, slavery as a whole, slavery is a principle. So
00:35:11the argument, like women shouldn't be allowed to be in positions of power would indicate that
00:35:15there would be some external force preventing them from being in positions of power, which I would
00:35:20disagree with. I think that's probably what I meant, but sorry, go ahead.
00:35:22Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, but basically there was a literal anatomical difference in the brains between
00:35:32men and women, which caused women to think differently. So a lot of your explanation just
00:35:40now is primarily it's, it's incentives and consequences. Is it possible? Or do you think
00:35:46that there is a anatomical difference, another difference somewhere in the brain where women
00:35:53have this sort of self-centered, self-focused thinking? So when you have a situation like
00:36:01this, where a woman kills her children, rather than looking at just the consequences, they just,
00:36:07something happens where they just, they just want to protect the women and just, they just
00:36:12side with the woman, irregardless to the fact that three children were killed.
00:36:16It's just, they just can't help themselves.
00:36:19Well, women, of course, fear ostracism from other women for very obvious reasons that women
00:36:25need other women to help them raise their kids, particularly in her evolution. So it used
00:36:29to be, of course, balanced women's slightly greater levels of conformity to social consensus.
00:36:37It used to be balanced because women needed to please their friends, but women a little bit
00:36:42more also needed to please their husbands, just as husbands needed to please their wives and so
00:36:46on. And so the husband factor, the male factor has been taken away through, again, all the sort of
00:36:56aforementioned status things that we were talking about. And also, you know, hyperfemininity,
00:37:03sorry, hyperfeminism, toxic masculinity, all men are bastards, all men are bad, blah, blah, blah.
00:37:07They're turning women against men. That means that women don't have the consequentialist mindset
00:37:14of men to help shape good decisions. And listen, men need the minds of women to help shape good
00:37:20decisions as well. So I'm just talking, this is sort of mutual, but women used to get a lot more
00:37:29feedback from the male mind. And that helped balance the sort of witchy hive mind consensus
00:37:36of often dysfunctional females. And this, of course, is very much codified into Christianity and
00:37:42most religions, which is that the man is the head of the household, the man has a special
00:37:47authority, the man is to the household as God is to the man, and so on. And the idea there
00:37:53is that
00:37:54God transmits the rules to men, and men make sure that people follow the rules in the household.
00:38:01And that is sort of how society has evolved, and the most successful societies, or at least the ones
00:38:07who are expanding the most, are the ones following those particular patterns. And so male feedback on
00:38:16women used to balance female feedback on women. And I have a scene in my novel, The Future, where
00:38:25the husband is talking to his wife, and his wife is saying, oh, my, my friend Annie is getting
00:38:32divorced. And he's like, cut her off. And she's like, what, what, what, what, wait? And he's like,
00:38:36no, no, cut her off, cut her off. That rot's going to spread. She's going to try and take down
00:38:40our
00:38:41marriage unconsciously or whatever. It may not be that she's mean, but that's, that's what's going to
00:38:45happen for sure. And she's like, oh, but she needs to be supported, this, that, and the other. He's
00:38:48like, it's a rot. It's a rot. It's going to spread to us. If Annie had a communicable disease, you
00:38:53wouldn't invite her over to come cough on the children, would you? Right? So, so that's an
00:38:58example of sort of the male precision and the male, I mean, women might call it autistic, but it's like,
00:39:04these are the consequences and we can't afford them. And that's a man trying to affect his authority
00:39:11on a woman. And of course, women try to affect their authority on men all the time. And that's
00:39:15not necessarily a terrible thing. It can be helpful. It can be good. And you know, my wife says, use
00:39:20a
00:39:21coaster. I mean, she's right. She's right. You know, it's nice to use a coaster. It's better to use a
00:39:26coaster. She's correct in that. And, but when men try to exercise any authority over women in the modern
00:39:34world, what do women say? Chauvinists, the oppression of women, the patriarchy, that sort
00:39:40of thing. He's so controlling. Yeah. Controlling. He's controlling. And to my mind, of course,
00:39:48if the man is saying, look, you have to strap a GPS tracker to your bra and I need to
00:39:54know where you
00:39:54are every moment, of course, that would be kind of historical and stalky and weak and insecure and
00:39:59kind of pathetic and definitely wrong. But if a woman is saying, if a man is saying, I don't think,
00:40:06like, so if you're a man, you're in this constant subterranean battle with women about home
00:40:13improvements if you're married, right? So women seem to have this thing where they buy a house
00:40:19with a kitchen and they hate the kitchen. It's a sort of fairly constant feature of women that I've
00:40:25known. And there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes the house needs to be improved.
00:40:29Right. So sometimes the woman is right. And sometimes if the woman wants to drop a lot of
00:40:33money on refinishing the kitchen, the man is like, but it works. You know, the fridge works,
00:40:39the freezer works, the stove works, like the taps work. It's like, yes, but the backsplash is like,
00:40:45I don't eat the backsplash. I don't cook on the backsplash. I don't care about the backsplash.
00:40:49Now, again, sometimes women are right. You know, when my wife got pregnant, we were living in a
00:40:56condo. And when my wife got pregnant, she said, we need a house. And I was like, well, I mean,
00:41:01the condo was really nice. But I'm like, okay. And it turned out she was right. So she had.
00:41:07So women can influence men. And that often is a good thing. But there needs to be a balance between
00:41:13these two things. So sometimes men need to influence women. Right. And of course, the entire purpose of
00:41:21modern leftist indoctrination is to say that anytime a man tries to influence a woman or anytime a man
00:41:30says no, or I don't think we should, or I don't see the point or all of that. Right. You
00:41:36know, I'd like a
00:41:37new couch. Because unfortunately, my wife is not very tall. And frankly, we bought the couch to fit her. And
00:41:47I
00:41:48end up, if we're watching something on TV, lying on the floor, because the couch is kind of small. And
00:41:54so, you
00:41:54know, I say, we need a new couch. And my wife says, well, then we got to redecorate the whole
00:41:58room. Oh, boy. And I'm
00:42:00like, wait, what? Because when I was a kid, like when I was in my 20s, a teenage 20, I've
00:42:06been sort of
00:42:07making my own household decisions since I was like 15. You know, if I need a new couch, I'd go
00:42:14to
00:42:14Goodwill, or I'd even go garbage picking, and I'd get a new couch. And would I care if it matched
00:42:19the
00:42:19drapes? I would not. I would not. So, you know, so I want a new couch. But apparently, we have
00:42:26to
00:42:27redo everything. And listen, here's the thing. Sorry, go ahead.
00:42:30So, do you think that, you know, do you think that's a cunning tactic? And I'm not saying anything,
00:42:36I'm just saying jokingly, is that a way to basically get a new living room?
00:42:41It could well be.
00:42:42You know, just, you know.
00:42:44It could well be. But here's the thing. I know she's going to be right. Like, if we get some
00:42:48couch
00:42:49that doesn't match everything else, then I don't particularly care about it. But if we do,
00:42:55redo other things, and that's not imminent, right? I'll rather lie on the floor. But if we do other
00:43:01things to make everything match, then I'm going to walk into the room, and I'm going to say,
00:43:07this is really nice. So, she's right, and I'm right. Right? So, that's just a negotiation. And
00:43:14it's, you know, we kind of joke about it. It's kind of funny, and so on, right? So, in order
00:43:18to not
00:43:19lie on the floor, we need new drapes. And I get all of that, right? So, it's just a kind
00:43:27of funny discussion that we have, and it's obviously not tense or personal or anything
00:43:31like that. So, male authority. This is like male preferences, right? So, women are allowed
00:43:37to have preferences. This is kind of an old trope, right? So, women are allowed to have
00:43:40preferences, you know, six foot six, six figures, six inches, six pack, you know, that kind of stuff.
00:43:46Women are allowed to have preferences. But if a man says, I won't date an obese woman,
00:43:52what do women say? Pig. Yeah, fat phobic, or whatever it is, right? Or if a man has
00:44:00preferences, then that's bad, right? If a woman have preferences, that's good. If a man has
00:44:06preferences, that's bad. In other words, if a man tries to exercise any authority over who
00:44:11he sleeps with, then that's bad. So, women have simply opened up a portal to the reward
00:44:21of bad decisions, also called the government, and the behavior is to some degree unhinged.
00:44:28And this, of course, is why women are hyper-leftists. Like, if you ever want to talk about the radicalization
00:44:35of any group in society, you would have to talk about the radicalization of women over
00:44:39the past 10 to 15 years. Women have always been slightly left. Now, I mean, they're basically
00:44:45communists as a whole, and it's pretty wild. And so, there has been this massive radicalization,
00:44:53which, of course, is natural. The women in Genghis Khan's harem are very pro-Genghis Khan.
00:44:59And if anyone says, I don't think Genghis Khan should have a harem, then all the harem dwellers
00:45:05in Genghis Khan's Kublai Khan are going to get mad, because you're attacking the source of their
00:45:11decisions. And, of course, should I get my way or rational, moral people get their way and the
00:45:16welfare state would end tomorrow, women would completely freak out. Who's going to feed my kids?
00:45:21My kids need braces. I can't get a job. I have three kids, three different fathers, blah,
00:45:27blah, blah, blah. And women would completely freak out. Now, that freak out would last about
00:45:31a week, and then they'd figure something out. I've talked before, like the single women
00:45:35with a bunch of kids, they would all get together and live in a big house. Some of them would
00:45:39work,
00:45:40some of them would take care of everyone's kids, and they would lower their standards and try and
00:45:43get a man, and so on. So, it would be solved because Hannibal got – there was a cartoon I
00:45:52saw
00:45:52when I was a kid. It was a business meeting where the numbers were all going down, sales were all
00:45:55going down, profits were going down. And one businessman said to the other – I said to
00:45:59the whole group, now Hannibal got elephants through the Alps. With that in mind, someone
00:46:06think of something. And I always sort of remembered that. It's sort of a – it was one of these
00:46:11little foundational things to the giant house I call my life, which is, yeah, people do impossible
00:46:17things. People do crazy things. People can survive floods and famines and earthquakes and so on.
00:46:26And then these aren't even violent things, right? So, people will figure – they'll figure it out.
00:46:31People, they go kicking and screaming to necessity being the mother of invention. They hate it,
00:46:39they hate it, they hate it. And then they're like, okay, fine, I'll just fix it. I'll just solve it.
00:46:43And I'll just figure it out. And so, yeah, if Genghis Khan no longer has a harem, then all
00:46:48the harem dwellers will kind of freak out, panic, get enraged, and so on. And then they'll
00:46:54just eventually shut up and figure it out, because that's what human beings do.
00:46:58Okay. All right.
00:46:59All right. Is there anything else you wanted to mention? It's great questions. Thank you.
00:47:02No, nothing. It's just kind of funny. Just all the examples that you gave and the example
00:47:09of the sofa just makes me think about – you know, sometimes women will say, for example,
00:47:14they'll say, well, my husband thinks that he's in charge, but actually, I'm the one that's really
00:47:18in charge. I let him think that he's in charge. And, you know, it's interesting what's happening.
00:47:23There's an old Greek saying that the husband is the head of the household,
00:47:26but the woman is the neck and can turn the head any way she wants, right?
00:47:29Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That summarizes it. Okay. Well, thanks again.
00:47:34I appreciate it. Thank you for a great set of questions. And we have – and actually how
00:47:39it tied into – see, it's a good thing I didn't do that speech, and then it turned out
00:47:42that you had the same questions anyway. That's the kind of genius hosting that is going on here.
00:47:48All right. Jeffy Jeff. Questions, comments, issues, challenges, problems. What's on your mind?
00:47:54Hey, good morning.
00:47:56Good morning.
00:47:57We spoke a few months ago in June. We did a before and after call where I confronted my mother
00:48:04on some things. And so, yeah, I just wanted to check in on that with you. And then I did
00:48:09have
00:48:10a question kind of regarding that process as well.
00:48:12Welcome back. I remember. Nice to chat with you. And yeah, love to hear.
00:48:17Yeah, thanks. Well, yeah, the first thing you said was, you know, you promised or assured me that,
00:48:22you know, my relationships were going to change for the better. And I sort of immediately noticed
00:48:27that I just had a much better relationship with myself. And that was huge.
00:48:35And then, yeah, and I just, you know, we talked about my addiction issues, and I got back with a
00:48:44support
00:48:44system. I was plugged into a support system. I left, and now I'm back. And now I have that support
00:48:51system in place. And it's like, you know, everyone was very welcoming and happy to see me. And it was
00:48:56a wonderful thing. And I feel, you know, at home there.
00:49:00Now, did you go through the dip? So relationships will change for the better. But it's like when
00:49:05you quit alcoholism, then all of your alcoholic friends stop being your friends, because they want
00:49:11to keep drinking, and they don't want to be around a teetotaler. So you end up with better
00:49:14relationships in the long run. But there's kind of a dip for most people.
00:49:18Yeah, well, there was just an awareness. I just, you know, just living my life thinking
00:49:23someone was going to come knock on the door and save me. And I kind of have that tether
00:49:27to my family as well, and, you know, wanting their approval and their love and stuff. And
00:49:31once that was removed, I realized, like, just how alone I truly was, and just how
00:49:40just not okay with it I was. I guess I was in denial of it, you know. But there was
00:49:46a dip. There was,
00:49:46I guess, a dark night of the soul, so to speak. And, you know, things got a little worse,
00:49:52I'd say, before they got better.
00:49:54And that's how you know it's working.
00:49:56Yeah, absolutely. So yeah, I've got that support system in place. And I just feel I have a mission.
00:50:03It's just the mission to go out there and have a family and, you know, clean up the mess of
00:50:09my
00:50:09past, get my money right, get in shape. You know, I'm not getting in shape for me, I'm getting in
00:50:13shape for my kids. And, you know, I feel like they're already out there. I just got to catch up
00:50:18to
00:50:18them.
00:50:18Well, and your wife, right? So your wife-to-be, you want to stay in shape for her so that
00:50:22she
00:50:22keeps wanting to bang you like a gong and keep the pair bonding going with an endless supply of
00:50:27conveyor belt orgasms. But sorry, go ahead.
00:50:30Absolutely. No, yeah. And that's, you know, getting in shape would definitely make me hotter
00:50:34out there in the world, for sure. But yeah, so there's just things are just coming into place
00:50:41with that. So I just wanted to share that and say thank you for your help.
00:50:44You're very welcome and congratulations. I love these updates. So what else is going on?
00:50:48Oh, just, I just had a question, you know, I confronted my mother and that played out the
00:50:53way it was supposed to did. And, you know, my father died when I was 17. And, you know,
00:50:59I've heard you mention, I've been listening to you a lot. And every podcast, I get something
00:51:04really profound out of it. And one thing was that you said that clarity brings certainty.
00:51:10And, you know, since he's passed away, he's been, he's been dead for 22 years. And there's
00:51:17always this kind of desire I had to confront him. Mainly, I was just carrying around this
00:51:25anger and rage towards him and just wanted to, you know, confront him. But my mainly saying
00:51:29F you. But no, that's not productive. But yeah, so sorry, what do you mean by dead?
00:51:36I mean, is it? Yeah, that's a good question.
00:51:40I mean, the dead live in our heads.
00:51:43Yeah.
00:51:44They never die until we die. And then they live in our children's heads. And they slowly
00:51:48fade out over maybe 10 generations. So we are functionally immortal in our behaviors, especially
00:51:54in our families and in our children. So the dead live in dry eyes. That was the name of a
00:51:59poetry book I wrote when I was a teenager, that if you refuse to mourn, they never go away.
00:52:04And if you refuse to get angry, they never go away. So yeah, your dad is still there.
00:52:08That's why I was trying to understand what you mean. Like if you said F you to your dad
00:52:11in your head or something like that, how is that not productive?
00:52:16I guess because it's like, I guess carrying around this belief that it was something I
00:52:21could let go of or resolve or, you know, move forward, like all these vague kind of abstract
00:52:27things you hear in like self-help world and stuff like that. But no, I see what you're saying.
00:52:32And sorry, but the reason you would get angry at your father in your head, which is, you
00:52:37know, most people live with the parents in their head for like half their lives, right?
00:52:41So, or maybe a little less, maybe a little more because the parents die, but they're still
00:52:46active in your head. So the reason why you would get angry at the father in your head
00:52:49is to signal to your system that you were free and things were different and you could
00:52:53now get angry. If you couldn't get angry as a kid, then you can get angry as an adult.
00:52:56It signals to your unconscious that you're now in a safe place and you can afford to get
00:53:00angry. And the other thing too, is it practices your anger immune system response to people like
00:53:06your father because, you know, everyone's out there sniffing for scars. They can pickpocket
00:53:12everyone out there on the planet, just about, with the exception of us, but everyone on the planet
00:53:18is out there sniffing, right? So if you're fatherless, then people will try to exploit you by
00:53:24pretending to be your father. And if you face a lot of rejection over the course of your life,
00:53:29then people will manipulate you by love bombing you and approving of you, sort of how cults
00:53:35work and so on. And so the way that you protect yourself from people finger banging and pickpocketing
00:53:43your emotional scars is you get angry. Because if you are able to get angry at the father in
00:53:49your head, whatever negative things he did, then that anger is now activated against people
00:53:55in the future who will sniff that out in you and try and exploit you based on it. So getting
00:54:00mad at the father in your head is analogous to a vaccine, right? Stepping aside all the vaccine
00:54:07controversies, it is practicing on something that's safe to protect you from something that's
00:54:13dangerous. And so getting mad at the father in your head activates your anger against negative,
00:54:20destructive, abusive, or exploited behavior. And that way, when it comes along to you in your real
00:54:26life or in your children's life or in your wife's life going forward, then the anger is there to
00:54:31protect you, which means people will sniff that out and not even bother.
00:54:35Hmm. Wow.
00:54:38Yeah, that makes sense. Because yeah, the question I had, and maybe you think there's some value to it
00:54:47still, even after, after all that was, uh, like, you know, is, is it like, is it even possible to
00:54:54confront my father? Like, can I write a letter? Let me ask you this. What did your father say about
00:55:02you that there's empirical evidence for in your life at the moment? So an example would be, uh, if your
00:55:10father said, yeah, kid, nobody's ever going to love you. Okay. And then let's say you live a life
00:55:16where nobody loves you. That would be some sort of evidence. Or if your father said, ah, you're
00:55:20never going to succeed at anything, right? And it turns out, lo and behold, you have a tough time
00:55:25succeeding at things. So what is it that your father said to you or about you as a kid for
00:55:30which there's, and there may be nothing, but, but that there's empirical evidence for in your life
00:55:33today? Um, well, there are two things came to mind. One, one, I, I got in some trouble in eighth
00:55:41grade, uh, with the law and, uh, just doing something stupid with my friends. And, um,
00:55:47he was talking to my mother on the phone and they were already divorced. And, uh, he was like,
00:55:51I just, you know, mutter, not even mutter. He said it, I was sitting right there. Uh, he said,
00:55:57Oh, I should have had a vasectomy when I was 12. And so I carried that with me as I
00:56:03was just,
00:56:04I was worthless and didn't deserve to exist. And, but as far as I would say, I would say that
00:56:09I
00:56:09carried with that up, up until recently. I no longer. Oh, hang on. So how many siblings do
00:56:14you have, if any? I have an older sister and a younger sister. So he had a deep thirst to
00:56:21annihilate his entire family. That's what it sounds like. Well, that's what it is. If he got a vasectomy
00:56:27at the age of 12, then he would never have had any children. So he's wishing to annihilate
00:56:35retroactively his entire family. Because of course, if he had a vasectomy and your mother
00:56:40wanted kids, I assume, then your mother wouldn't have married him. So he'd have had no wife and
00:56:43no kids. He would have annihilated his entire family and he would have annihilated his entire
00:56:48lineage, his entire gene pool. Yeah. And I've, I've been on that path.
00:56:53So that's a kind of murderous rage when you wish people non-existence that comes from a murderous
00:57:01place. You know, people who say, I wish I'd never been born are coming from a kind of self-deletion
00:57:07place, as the phrase goes. And people who wish other people didn't exist, never existed, wouldn't
00:57:12exist. I wish I had taken steps to prevent my children from ever existing. That is a huge
00:57:20danger. That's like, you know, there's this meme of that skeptical, frightened looking kid.
00:57:25And it's like, when your mother professes sympathy for Lindsay Clancy. And it's like,
00:57:28oh, I'm in danger. Oh, what's this? I mean, it's dark comedy, man. But there was this
00:57:33meme of this girl. She must have been, I don't know, eight or nine. And she was shooting a
00:57:38machine gun, right? And somebody was like, when would a child ever need this? And it's
00:57:44like, I don't know, maybe if mommy has postpartum depression. So there is a certain amount of
00:57:50family annihilation that comes out of that. When somebody who raised you wishes you never existed,
00:57:56they're saying there's no bond. In fact, I'd rather you weren't here. So there's kind
00:58:00of like a negative bond.
00:58:03Yeah.
00:58:04Anybody whose death you would celebrate is somebody you have murderous feelings towards. So if
00:58:10there's some guy in the neighborhood and there's these thugs who keep taking a thousand bucks
00:58:13a month from him as shakedown money and so on, if, you know, if the thugs are coming up
00:58:19to collect the thousand dollars and they get hit by a bus and killed, how does he feel?
00:58:24Probably not great.
00:58:26I think pretty great. I would, I mean, maybe, maybe it's a little shocking, but if the guys
00:58:31who are stealing from his children's mouths get hit by a bus, I don't think he's going
00:58:36to be mourning too much.
00:58:38Oh, I'm sorry. I misheard you. Yeah, totally. My apologies.
00:58:41A little surprise there. I mean, he may be a little shocked at seeing it or whatever, but
00:58:44it's like, I think he'll go back and he say, he say to his wife, the most amazing thing
00:58:47just happened today. Remember those thugs that came to take all our money or if the crime
00:58:52boss or like, let's say that there was a whole crime meeting and it got hit by an asteroid
00:58:56and now nobody was ever going to steal from him again for the foreseeable future. I think
00:59:00he'd be like, well, that's great. You know, if, uh, if, if you're in a battle and, and some
00:59:07guy is about to stab you in the chest with his bayonet and then he gets hit with a
00:59:13bullet, how do you feel?
00:59:15Probably pretty relieved and lucky.
00:59:18Thank you, flying lead deliverance angel, right?
00:59:21That's, uh, I'm sorry.
00:59:22It's okay.
00:59:23Oh, I was going to say, I, I recall vividly when I found out he passed away, the first
00:59:28thing I felt was relief and then, uh, guilt flooded that because I was just like, oh,
00:59:33how dare you feel that way about your dad? But yeah, no, that's what it was.
00:59:36Oh, the guy who wanted me dead died.
00:59:38Right. Yeah.
00:59:39This is like the guy in the fox, uh, in the foxhole with the bayonetting, whatever.
00:59:43Right. I mean, if, if the guy's running towards you, you know, and you're out of bullets and
00:59:49he's, he's, he's reloading and then he has a heart attack or an aneurysm, aren't you like,
00:59:54well, I now believe in the God of war because I prayed for salvation and lo it came in the
01:00:00form
01:00:00of a ruptured blood vessel to the brain or some cardiac event. So, yeah. So the guy who wished
01:00:07for your death and the death of your siblings that you, cause yeah, if you, if you wish somebody
01:00:12had never been born, then you want them dead. Like that's just to me, it's sort of, it's
01:00:17almost, um, it's not even, uh, it's not even inductive reasoning. That's just deductive
01:00:22reasoning. I wish you did not exist. It's the same as wishing you dead. So that's a dangerous
01:00:29place to be as a kid.
01:00:31Yeah.
01:00:31Right. And there's a lot of trauma coming out of this Lindsay Clancy case because there's
01:00:36a lot, there are a lot of people who've been raised with parents in this case, a father,
01:00:42but often it's the mother, mother spend more time with the kids in general. Uh, I regret
01:00:47having kids. I wish I'd never become a mother. I wish you'd never been born. I wish I had a
01:00:51completely different life. You kids are in the way of a better life. I wish I wasn't stuck
01:00:55here with you kids. Like the wishing for something that was not motherhood is the wishing for the
01:01:01non-existence of children. And Lindsay Clancy may just be a more extreme case of that, but
01:01:06it is, uh, I mean, I think there was, I was reading this report and I thought it's true, but
01:01:10there was a report that Lindsay Clancy had in a book collection when good mothers have bad
01:01:14thoughts. And it was like, you know, 90% of mothers have hostile thoughts towards their
01:01:19babies and toddlers. And it's like, I, I mean, I certainly experienced that as a kid myself,
01:01:26but I don't really know mothers who are like that. And, uh, you know, certainly my, my wife and I
01:01:34were
01:01:34absolutely delighted to have a child and took enormous joy in her existence. And the idea of
01:01:40having, you know, deletion thoughts to a child is, I mean, I get it, but you know, my mother went
01:01:47through a war. And so the fact that she was kind of messed up is not beyond the pale, but
01:01:52sort of
01:01:52relatively privileged women. It's a, yeah. So there's a lot of parents who have very destructive
01:02:01thoughts towards their children. And even if it's not physically destructive, they try to destroy
01:02:06their personalities through extreme escalations in punishment and extreme escalations in punishment
01:02:12tend to erase the personality, which is why everyone in prison seems kind of the same.
01:02:18Hmm. Okay. So yeah, as far as dealing with your dad, uh, I don't know. I don't know. I mean,
01:02:23that's really the job for a therapist or you can do sentences exercises from Nathaniel Brandon or John
01:02:28Gray or other people. You can read books about it, but, uh, you know, let the, uh, you know, what's
01:02:34the, uh, that line from, Oh, let the hate flow through you. You know, this thing from, I think it's
01:02:39from some Star Wars movie or something like that. Yes. Come over to the dark side. And it's like, no,
01:02:44no, no, no. Hatred is a good thing. Hatred, anger is a good thing. Even rage can be a good
01:02:49thing as
01:02:50long as it's just right. I mean, if, if there's some guy who's, who's beating up on your kids,
01:02:54you're going to feel blind rage and you're going to do whatever you can to stop him. And that's just
01:03:00and right and fair, you know, feeling if a woman says, no, I don't want to go out with you.
01:03:04And you
01:03:04feel blind rage and want to hurt her. That's petty and unjust and vicious and wrong and all of that.
01:03:08And she'd never act on any of that kind of stuff. But the idea that, you know, hate has no
01:03:12home here.
01:03:12And it's like, Oh, so do you hate the people who have hate? Okay, then you're just part of them,
01:03:15right? So this idea that negative emotions are negative, sorry, this is a little circular,
01:03:23a little tautological there. So negative emotions are somehow bad automatically. Well,
01:03:28that comes from Christianity, right? That there are good emotions that come from God and there
01:03:32are bad emotions that come from the devil and blah, blah, blah, blah, right? And this was sort of
01:03:37the famous line from an old movie Wall Street with Michael Douglas, Charlie Sheen and a really
01:03:42bad white-hipped Daryl Hanner. I'm still traumatized by her in a scuba gear on the beach where he
01:03:48says the character Gordon Gekko, he's deep Gekko. It's very subtle. He's cold-blooded.
01:03:55And he says, you know, greed, for want of a better word, is good. Greed cuts through. It
01:04:02clarifies. It captures greed for whatever. Truth, virtue, beauty, art, right? So greed is good. We
01:04:09see greed is bad, right? As if people in power aren't greedy for more power, right? So we have,
01:04:14in general, in society, divided emotions into good and bad. Productive, unproductive. From God,
01:04:23from the devil. But really, if you just look at it through this particular lens, it all comes into
01:04:29focus. The emotions that are harmful to abusive power are considered negative. The emotions that
01:04:40are positive or helpful for abusive power are good. They're praised. So to take sort of a slave-owning
01:04:50society, if the slave is compliant and happy and positive, that's good. If the slave is enraged,
01:05:00resentful, and angry, that's inconvenient to the slave owner because he wants happy, compliant slaves.
01:05:07So emotions are called good or bad by how well or poorly they serve those with unjust power over you.
01:05:18So if people have unjust power over you, that's going to provoke anger, right? It's going to provoke
01:05:23anger. And then, of course, what they do with people in power right now are far left. So they call
01:05:27anger at what's going on in society far-right rage, right? And so emotions that are bad for people in
01:05:40power or threaten their power or are considered dangerous by those in power, those emotions are
01:05:44called bad, pathological. They're pathologized. And those emotions that are helpful to those in power
01:05:51are called good. So when a government in power wants continuity, then patriotism is good. When there's
01:05:59another power structure waiting in the wings, like communism or something like that, then a love of
01:06:05country is bad because they want you to switch to them, right? So then they have to undermine everything
01:06:09and everyone's on stolen land and white whale oppression and slavery, right? They have to destroy
01:06:15your love of country because they want you to, like in the same way, someone who wants to sleep with
01:06:20a
01:06:20married woman has to destroy her love of her husband in order to gain power over her sexual access to
01:06:25her
01:06:25and so on. So yeah, just be careful when you're looking at your emotions. Just make sure that
01:06:31they all evolve for a reason. And people in power will always tell you that your anger is wrong
01:06:41unless it's anger at their enemies, right? So the enemies of communists tend to be white males and so
01:06:48hating white males is good, right? And so on, right? But hating those who vote for the left or having
01:06:55problems with those who vote for the left is always bad. It's just tribalism. So your father
01:07:00doubtlessly said that your anger against him was wrong or bad. Is that, I mean, I could be wrong,
01:07:07but is that a fair approximation? Yeah. And I have an example of that, but, uh, I just, yeah,
01:07:13there's something I recall very vividly of, of that, um, occurring for sure. Yeah, go ahead.
01:07:19Oh, um, so I know I told you in our call, like, you know, he, you helped me see him
01:07:25as kind of a
01:07:25professional scam artist and, you know, there was an injury at birth, there's malpractice and, uh,
01:07:30there was a trust and he got into the trust, uh, and to put a down payment on the house
01:07:35and never
01:07:36made it payments on it. And so like, essentially I had a lien on the house and, uh, I found
01:07:41out about
01:07:42this. And one time there was something about, uh, folding laundry. Like I didn't take the clothes out
01:07:47of the dryer quick enough or something to his timeline. And I just said, well, why don't you fold
01:07:52them? And he just got up and like, you know, for being a big guy, he moves pretty quickly, uh,
01:07:58uh,
01:07:59and just got in my face and, and like, this is my house. And this is the disregarding about that
01:08:06fact. And that he was also on disability while being able to go salmon fishing three times a week.
01:08:13So, uh, yeah, I just remember that vividly of just, uh, apparently I'm not allowed to,
01:08:18to kind of challenge him on these things. So, yeah.
01:08:21Yeah. And it's interesting too, that he said, this is my house.
01:08:26Yeah.
01:08:26That's interesting. So what did that mean to you as a kid?
01:08:29Uh, it was, it was just, uh, I mean, with hindsight at the time I, I, I, I wanted to
01:08:38say,
01:08:39well, no, it's not, not really. Uh, you know, I, I have a lien on the house and then, you
01:08:44know,
01:08:45the government's paying for the rest of it because he was like a veteran or something. And, uh,
01:08:49uh, so I was just like, it's, no, it's not. And it's, it's really not. But I, I just
01:08:54didn't cause I didn't want to face his wrath even more because that's all it was going to be.
01:08:59And I was always very careful with, you know, my wife will occasionally joke, you know, I want to,
01:09:04I want to fix up my kitchen. I'm like, uh, you know, it's technically ours, but always with
01:09:09my daughter, we never said it's, it's my house or it's our house meeting my wife and I. Because
01:09:15when you say to a kid, as your father did, it is my house. Then he's saying, you have no
01:09:22right to
01:09:22be here. You know, even if you were paying rent, right. And somebody said, this is my house. I'm
01:09:28like, well, it's your house. Sure. But I have the right to the room cause I'm paying rent.
01:09:32So it's saying to your kids that they have no right to be there or that that right can be
01:09:38revoked
01:09:39at any time, depending on the pleasure of the host, so to speak, that it's his house. But of
01:09:46course he bought the house because he had kids and therefore the kids have the right to be there
01:09:51because the house is only being inhabited because of kids. Cause bachelors don't tend to buy big
01:09:55houses or medium sized houses even. So yeah, it's just when you say to a kid, this is my house.
01:10:01What you're saying is you have no right to be here. You have no, I have no obligation
01:10:06to keep you here and you are a barely tolerated spinster aunt.
01:10:13So yes. So your anger would be inconvenient to your father.
01:10:17Very much so.
01:10:18Anger would be inconvenient. So, so now you have the perception that anger is useless.
01:10:25Now I agree with you when you were a kid, not only was anger useless, but it was counterproductive.
01:10:31Because as you say, like your supposedly disabled salmon fishing addict father moved like
01:10:38Mikhail Berishnikov when it came to being aggressive towards his son. So broke and moved like flash
01:10:46Quicksilver if he needed you like Nadia Karmanici, right? So not to overflow the conversation with
01:10:52Russian names, but your father could move quickly. So your anger against your father was not only
01:11:00useless but counterproductive because he might assault you in ways that were dangerous, right?
01:11:06No, no child can risk an assault by a parent any more than I would go up and, you know,
01:11:13give a purple
01:11:13nipple twist to Mike Tyson, right? I mean, maybe he'd find it funny. Maybe he'd clock me and I'd be
01:11:19brain dead, right? So no child, particularly with a large father, no child can afford an assault by a
01:11:26parent. And it's true that even when you're little, even if your mother is slight, my mother was like
01:11:31barely 100 pounds. But when I was very little, I still couldn't afford, you know, she was just like
01:11:36this big giant praying mantis of ninja doom, right? So I couldn't afford to risk my mother's wrath when
01:11:43I was little. Of course, once I got into my teenage years, I could just hold her hands and prevent
01:11:47her
01:11:47from hitting me and all of that. But when I was little, so no child can afford an assault from
01:11:52the
01:11:52parent because you don't know when it's going to end and you can't take that risk, right? So
01:11:57for you, your anger had to be suppressed when you were a kid because you were in a situation of
01:12:02potentially dangerous or mortal potential attack or grievous bodily injury, right? I mean, so
01:12:12your anger, you had to say anger is useless. Anger is dangerous. Anger is bad. And that's how you
01:12:17signal to your body that you're in a state of slavery or enslavement. And that's fine and
01:12:23natural and healthy. And it's a good survival instinct. But if you continue to say to yourself
01:12:29that anger is useless, and again, I understand like, well, I can't confront my father. He's 22
01:12:33years dead. I get all of that. But that doesn't mean he's not alive in your head. And it doesn't
01:12:38mean his dominion over you has ended. You know, I last took an English course. Oh, gosh, what would
01:12:44it be? I guess early 20s. Early 20s. I went to theater school, then I switched to history. So
01:12:51I last took an English course almost 40 years ago. Does that mean I no longer speak English and can't
01:12:57read English? Right. Right? I learned English almost 60 years ago. And I learned how to walk
01:13:06almost 60 years ago. Does that mean I don't know how to walk, right? The habits stay, the brain
01:13:11patterns stay and still need to be confronted. In fact, sometimes it can be even more important
01:13:15to confront them after the person has died. Because the patterns are there without external
01:13:22reinforcement. So it's been entirely internalized, which means the confrontation
01:13:26may be even higher because now it's not going to change, right? The person in your head is always
01:13:31frozen in time. So let's say through some miracle, my mother got some head injury or hit by
01:13:38lightning that turned her into some wonderful angelic person, right? But I'm not in touch
01:13:42with her and haven't spoken to her in like 25 plus years. So my mother in my head is frozen
01:13:49in time from the last time I talked to her. And if she's changed to the interim, for better
01:13:55or for worse, I'm not impacted by that. So it's really important to challenge the people
01:14:01in your head. Because let's say your father was still alive today, it's either he'd have
01:14:07gotten worse, in which case you would have had confirmation of how bad he was, or he would
01:14:12have gotten better, in which case there may be some reconciliation. I doubt the latter,
01:14:15but whatever. Let's say it's theoretically possible. But because he's frozen in time as
01:14:19the angry, scowling, abusive dominator of your childhood, you really need to confront him
01:14:26because he's not being adjusted by any facts post-death. And how you do it, you just feel
01:14:34the feelings. You feel anger towards your father, let it flow through you. Do not fight the feelings.
01:14:39Say, oh, this is scary. I get it. Yeah, liberty is scary. And when you're in a safe place,
01:14:45right, everybody knows the kid who slips on the tiles at a swimming pool and they seem to smack
01:14:53their head and they're fine. They don't say anything. And then they get to their parents'
01:14:59arms and they burst into tears. Right? So it's when you're safe that the feelings come.
01:15:04It's when you're safe that the feelings come. And you are not safe until the feelings come.
01:15:09Until you can feel anger towards your father and not fight it and not say it's useless or pointless
01:15:13or negative or bad or wrong. That's how you signal to your entire system that you're safe,
01:15:19is you allow the feelings that were banned before to come out now.
01:15:24Wow. Thank you.
01:15:26Sorry for any side quest, but...
01:15:28No, no.
01:15:29Yeah, please go ahead.
01:15:30Yeah, I appreciate that. You had mentioned a name I wrote down, Nathaniel Brandt,
01:15:33but you mentioned like a book or a process or something right before that.
01:15:36Yeah, John Gray. I think it's G-R-A-Y. I think he's another psychologist,
01:15:40but he's got some pretty good workbooks, sentence completion books, and so on that can be
01:15:44very helpful for sort of illuminating this stuff. Nathaniel Brandt did a lot of sort of
01:15:47sentence completion work, and you can do those on pen and paper.
01:15:52You know, when I think about my father, I feel, and then you just, you say, or you,
01:15:55whatever, is going to be said.
01:15:58Nice.
01:15:59And so, yeah, so you can do all of that sort of stuff.
01:16:02And yeah, just the important thing is, though, you know, you feel the wall to your
01:16:05feelings coming down, just lift it up.
01:16:07Awesome. Yeah.
01:16:08And you had said this, but I had the thought today, this morning, that was just like,
01:16:12yeah, I feel anger, but it's productive.
01:16:16It's extremely productive right now, but I don't think.
01:16:19Well, you need it for the future.
01:16:20You can't fix your father in the past, but you can prevent anyone like your father from
01:16:26coming back in your life, and the way you do that is anger.
01:16:31And I'll give you sort of a brief example from my own life to sort of reinforce it with
01:16:34some empirical data.
01:16:35So, as you may have heard, there are a large number of influencers who get contacted by
01:16:43various groups and are either cajoled or threatened or bribed into promoting or denying certain
01:16:51narratives, right?
01:16:52So, there are some people who were contacted and offered money to promote vaccines, safe and
01:16:57effective.
01:16:57And there's tons of things where people are contacted and threatened or bribed in order
01:17:04to have them promote.
01:17:05I don't know if you've ever heard of anything like this, but it seems to be a bit more common
01:17:10than people think.
01:17:10Have you heard of that kind of stuff?
01:17:12Yeah, absolutely.
01:17:14Okay.
01:17:16Now, how many people do you think, and I was one of the biggest influencers in the world
01:17:19there for, you know, quite a few years, how many people have contacted me and attempted
01:17:25to get me to adjust my narrative based on threats or bribes?
01:17:29I would say little to none.
01:17:33Yeah, zero.
01:17:33Okay.
01:17:34I feel very left out of the party.
01:17:36Yeah, right?
01:17:37There's a big party for corrupt people, and I'm just not invited.
01:17:40So, why do you think nobody contacted me to get me to adjust my narrative based on threats
01:17:49or bribes?
01:17:52Probably because you communicate through your actions and words that you're not susceptible
01:17:59to that because you're, like, you know, integrity and authentic and try to be honest.
01:18:06Well, I would assume it's because I'm angry.
01:18:08I mean, I would say I'm sort of foundationally angry, but I have no problem with anger.
01:18:12I think anger is very healthy.
01:18:13And, of course, I have a commitment to principles over profit.
01:18:17You know, what does it mean?
01:18:19What does it gain a man if he wins the whole world but loses his soul, right?
01:18:23It's a very powerful statement from the Bible.
01:18:25And so, one of the reasons that corrupt people are not in my life is because corrupt people
01:18:32are not in my life.
01:18:33Like, I know that that sounds kind of circular, but all of the corrupt people from my past
01:18:37are no longer in my life because I may try to talk to them about it and their flaws and
01:18:42so on.
01:18:42I'm almost happy to hear about my flaws as well.
01:18:43And so, because I don't have corrupt people in my life, corrupt people can't come into
01:18:48my life.
01:18:50And so, I don't get threatened and bribed because I've dealt with all the corrupt people and
01:18:57they know there's no angle, right?
01:19:00So, if you have one corrupt person in your life, the corrupt people around you will say,
01:19:04oh, okay, so he's not on principle.
01:19:07He's not against corruption on principle.
01:19:10And so, we'll find a way in.
01:19:12We'll find a way to bully or bribe or manipulate or control or cajole or whatever it is, right?
01:19:17So, and that's why I got de-platformed because I was not susceptible to manipulation and therefore
01:19:25I had to be erased or 15 years of my life had to be kind of murdered.
01:19:29And that's just the price you pay for integrity.
01:19:32It's definitely well worth it.
01:19:34So, the reason that you need to get angry at your dad, in my humble opinion, is A, because
01:19:38it's honest, you already are, and B, to protect you from people like your father going forward
01:19:42because when you have all of that behind you, then you are beyond the control of manipulators
01:19:48once you've got angry enough at being manipulated because your immune system will kick in and
01:19:53say, well, this person's trying to manipulate me, manipulate me.
01:19:57I mean, I'll tell you something I'm still susceptible to and I rack my brains about this from time
01:20:02to time.
01:20:03I'm susceptible to passive aggression.
01:20:05You know, people who just kind of throw their sideways jabs in, in an attempt to sort of needle
01:20:09and provoke.
01:20:10And so, I still have, you know, it's a, philosophy never ends, right?
01:20:14Self-knowledge never ends.
01:20:15And so, I still have some susceptibility to passive aggression.
01:20:21And so, I still have to work on that.
01:20:24It just means I have, and one of the reasons why passive aggression is so tough to deal with
01:20:29is normally the way that you deal with manipulation is with anger.
01:20:34However, passive aggression is under the radar provocation, or at least it's under the radar
01:20:39for most people, at least consciously.
01:20:42And so, if you get really angry at someone who's passive aggressive, what do they always say?
01:20:49Like, I was just joking, or I was just kidding, or I didn't mean it, or, you know, they'd probably
01:20:53deflect.
01:20:54No, that's not passive, sorry, that's very nice, but it's not passive aggressive enough.
01:20:58What they generally do is they say, whoa, whoa, whoa, where did that come from?
01:21:03Did you get intrigued over there, bro?
01:21:04I'm just, I'm just making some comments, just making an argument.
01:21:07Where's all this anger coming from?
01:21:09This is ridiculous, right?
01:21:11And so, now, if somebody punched you and you got angry at them, everybody would understand,
01:21:16right?
01:21:17But the passive aggressive stuff flies under a lot of people's radar, particularly if it's
01:21:20well done.
01:21:21So, it can be tough to get angry at someone who's passive aggressive, and of course, also
01:21:25in the age of internet clipping, right?
01:21:27Internet clipping has done a bit of a headshot to everyone's sort of calculations in these
01:21:32areas.
01:21:32Because what people do is they will clip you getting angry and say, well, look, Steph got
01:21:40triggered.
01:21:41Just because somebody disagreed with him, Steph got triggered and angry.
01:21:44The mask came off.
01:21:46This is the real Steph.
01:21:47You know, that kind of stuff, right?
01:21:48And so, the clipping thing, so they will, of course, they won't show all the passive
01:21:52aggressive stuff that came beforehand, and they'll simply show you, you know, so-and-so
01:21:59disagreed with Steph, and he just blew up.
01:22:01You know, this is like, so then that's a challenge.
01:22:04So, dealing with the passive aggressive stuff is tough.
01:22:07If you ignore it completely, then everyone gets that you've been lowered in the hierarchy
01:22:12because the person has been taking jabs at you.
01:22:14If you take jabs back, the other person can call you out on it.
01:22:19And then if you say, well, I'm only doing it because you're doing it, right, then that's
01:22:22a problem, too.
01:22:24And so, it's a tricky one.
01:22:26It's a tricky one to deal with.
01:22:27But it sounds like your father's aggression was pretty on the nose or up front, and therefore,
01:22:33getting angry is going to protect you from your susceptibility to people like your dad
01:22:37going forward.
01:22:38Sorry, go ahead.
01:22:39Oh, no, that was great.
01:22:43Yeah, that helps me a lot.
01:22:44And yeah, I will be, my insurance kicks in in September, and I'll be going into therapy
01:22:49with a guy I've worked with in the past.
01:22:52And another thing I'm looking forward to working with him is that he has a family.
01:22:58He has a marriage.
01:22:58He has a child.
01:22:59And it's just, it's important for me to be around people.
01:23:03You know, even though I'm paying him, it's still like, you know, I feel that has an influence,
01:23:07and hopefully, it's something he's open to talking about.
01:23:09So, I think it would be really, really good to get that sort of knowledge.
01:23:16And that's great.
01:23:17See how.
01:23:18And then, lastly, in the last call, you were talking about the guy punching the guy at
01:23:23the bar, and you said the word whore.
01:23:24Were you doing a Ralphie Mae impression when you said that word?
01:23:27No, it's just a way.
01:23:29I don't know if the, I don't know.
01:23:32Like, I see other people.
01:23:33This is why you say grape and PDF and essay.
01:23:36And so, I don't know if the algorithm kicks you down.
01:23:38So, I thought if I said, hoa, that the AI transcriptions would have some challenges.
01:23:44I don't know.
01:23:44I just, I don't know if it's real or not.
01:23:46It's probably long past the point of no return for me anyway.
01:23:49But I do throw this stuff in from time to time.
01:23:51But no, that's not an impression of anyone in particular, except maybe somebody from Boston
01:23:55who's currently having a seizure.
01:23:57Okay.
01:23:57No, it's a character from The Sopranos.
01:23:59And it's one of, like, the funniest things of that whole show is the way he said that word.
01:24:02But anyways.
01:24:03Oh, yeah.
01:24:05No, yeah.
01:24:05I just thought it was amusing.
01:24:07So, thank you.
01:24:08But yeah.
01:24:08I, yeah.
01:24:09I have another question about childhood stuff.
01:24:11But I'll save it for the next call.
01:24:12I'll make a note of it and save it.
01:24:14Yeah.
01:24:15I just, I just checked my.
01:24:16Go on to someone else.
01:24:17Like, it's a.
01:24:19Yeah.
01:24:19I just, I just checked my watch here.
01:24:21It's like an hour and a half show.
01:24:22Like, it literally flies by.
01:24:23Like, in this dizzying kaleidoscopic 2001 LSD trip of rapid compressed insight.
01:24:29So, yeah.
01:24:30Okay.
01:24:30Well, I really, I appreciate that.
01:24:32Great.
01:24:32Great to hear.
01:24:33And, you know, massive kudos, bows and admiration for what it is that you're doing.
01:24:39That is absolutely fantastic.
01:24:40And are you single at the moment?
01:24:43I am.
01:24:43Yeah.
01:24:44But, yeah, I've, I've, I've been out in the world and I've, I'm more comfortable talking
01:24:49to women and, you know, using like filtering as, you know, instead of just, oh, she looks
01:24:55hot.
01:24:55Is it like how, what kind of mother would she be?
01:24:57Okay.
01:24:58And are you taking applications at the moment?
01:25:03Uh, I got back on like online dating, but it's just, it's just a dumpster fire.
01:25:09All right.
01:25:09So if I were to, you can tell me yes or no to this.
01:25:13If I were to say, if there are any interested ladies who are curious to get in touch and
01:25:18chat with a guy who's got lots of self-knowledge, is philosophically principled and is going
01:25:22to therapy, they could email support at freedomain.com support at freedomain.com and we could get
01:25:30them in touch with you, which of course would be utterly up to you as to whether you responded
01:25:34or not.
01:25:34Would that be something that would be okay for you?
01:25:37Uh, yeah, absolutely.
01:25:39And I appreciate the, uh, the, the, uh, offer.
01:25:42Yeah.
01:25:43He's got more abs than the entire movie 300 put together.
01:25:46So it's very, very impressive.
01:25:48So, all right.
01:25:49So, uh, ladies, if you're interested, support at freedomain.com, watch reference, give,
01:25:54give me a name.
01:25:56That's not your name.
01:25:57Like regarding Chad Uber jaw or like what would, uh, give me a name that they can reference.
01:26:05Uh, that's a good question.
01:26:07Um, I don't, you're putting me on the spot here.
01:26:11Uh, okay.
01:26:13This is an audition.
01:26:14You've got to think fast because we've got a lot of intelligent ladies who want to talk
01:26:17to you.
01:26:17Yeah, no, absolutely.
01:26:20Uh, we're going to call you Mr. Flash.
01:26:24There we go.
01:26:24Okay.
01:26:25So regarding Mr. Flash.
01:26:27Now this doesn't mean that he's going to open a dirty raincoat near you.
01:26:30Oh, I mean, maybe if, if that's consensual, but, uh, Mr. Flash.
01:26:34So, uh, support at freedomain.com.
01:26:36If you'd be interested, it doesn't necessarily mean you're going to have a relationship, but
01:26:40if you'd like to chat or chat with someone who's, you know, obviously going through the
01:26:44process with great speed and agility.
01:26:46But yeah, so you can email support at freedomain.com and say regarding Mr. Flash, and we will put
01:26:52them in touch with you and if you want, you can take it from there.
01:26:55This, you know, doesn't have to be romantic.
01:26:56It could just be somebody who likes the cut of your jib and wants to be a friend or something
01:27:01like that.
01:27:01Because yeah, we've got to, we've got to work to join people together in the community
01:27:04more.
01:27:04I think that's, that's on me more than anyone else.
01:27:06So yeah, if you want to get in touch with this caller, support at freedomain.com, Mr.
01:27:11Flash, and we will forward this to you.
01:27:13Absolutely.
01:27:14And if it leads to wedding bells, your invitation's in the mail for sure.
01:27:17I appreciate that.
01:27:18I appreciate that.
01:27:18Good to be out and about.
01:27:19All right.
01:27:20Well, thanks everyone.
01:27:21I appreciate that.
01:27:22Freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show.
01:27:24We really would appreciate that enormously.
01:27:26Thank you for the greatest life in the known universe and the most productive philosophy
01:27:30conversation the world will ever see.
01:27:34Because after this, therefore, because of this, is a principle that holds true.
01:27:38I have a good deal to say in that, but so do you, the lovely audience and listenership.
01:27:45So, wordwordebate.com.
01:27:46Don't forget to get your tickets for September 12th.
01:27:49Shop.freedomain.com for your merch.
01:27:50www.peacefulparenting.com for your book.
01:27:52Freedomain.com slash books for all of the other books.
01:27:55And you should listen to my novel, The Present.
01:27:58There's something in there that was actually directly related to Lindsay Clancy, which is
01:28:01very interesting.
01:28:02I'll do something about that this week.
01:28:04All right.
01:28:05Lots of love, my friends.
01:28:06Sticker.

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