00:14Welcome brother, welcome sister to this third part that we are resuming,
00:22We want to remind you that we are sharing this reflection with you about growing together.
00:32And as we have seen in previous topics, we want to remind you, firstly, that...
00:39that we talked about the importance of seeing each other as the we, and he, she, she, he
00:50It will transform, it will create a new entity that will be that person that you are.
00:58The two of us together, him, us, and in that part we talked about the importance of giving each other space, of being
01:05somehow not to lose their individuality, but to work with each other, in a
01:12a very close and intimate relationship and to give each other space.
01:16In the second part we talked about love, about commitment, about how this part of
01:25Love is something that must be practiced every day, a continuous sacrifice in the
01:33You know, those little things around the house, those little things that can be, well, how we
01:41We see, how we look at each other, how we treat each other, how we talk to each other, if on the other hand also
01:47Things are lent to us so we can do the cleaning and so that one of us can help the other.
01:55While one person cooks, the other takes care of washing the dishes, that sort of thing.
02:00Things that are part of everyday life are vital, they are important to be able to demonstrate it.
02:07That love, that love of friends. No one has greater love than the one who lays down his life for his friends.
02:14And remember that your best friend will be, from now on, from that moment on in the
02:23that you consecrate your love to God through the sacrament of marriage, because then that
02:29Your friend is precisely your spouse, he and she. Let's now move on to this last point.
02:39Reflection, this last part that we want to share with you and we are going to take the quote from the book
02:47From Ecclesiastes chapter 4 verse 12, and it says, "One may be overpowered, but two can overcome one."
02:59It's durable, and the three-strand rope doesn't break easily. Let me ask you something,
03:10Your future husband, wife, your parents, work, friends, your tastes and hobbies, what place
03:20What do they occupy in relation to God? Do you prefer God over your interests, your tastes, pleasure,
03:29Self-satisfaction, pride, your reputation? Human relationships that are corrupted by it
03:38Selfishness and individualism drag us away from God and sooner or later can lead us to the
03:47unhappiness. With all this, we want you to realize that a couple who puts their partner at the center of their life
03:55And from her marriage to Jesus is like that three-stranded cord that Ecclesiastes speaks of, and it will always be
04:04filled with the light of the Holy Spirit, and this will result in you having the ability to
04:12Accepting their mistakes and having the strength to correct them without looking for someone to blame will help them through His light.
04:22to instruct other family members with charity. This will make them true builders of their own lives.
04:29Love. As we've already said, being a husband or wife is an art, and it's an art you have to keep perfecting.
04:38every day. If you want to have a healthy and loving marriage, each of you will need
04:47to develop attributes and characteristics similar to those of God so that they can truly have a
04:55a prosperous marriage where they live connected and happy. And to be able to ignore the attributes of God.
05:02You must turn to the word of the Lord. We have given you here three quotes or three pieces of advice from Him.
05:12God's word is full of advice, recommendations, and guidance for married life.
05:22Things that God wants us to do and experience. And this doesn't happen simply by attending Mass.
05:32Sundays. If that's something you're going to start doing, it's going to be a practice.
05:40what is going to
05:41to ensure that you can apply these tips we're talking about. This is achieved with a
05:50A continuous search to know what God wants for you, as a couple and individually. This
05:59This implies that you have a circle around which you are precisely seeking to know what God
06:08He wants for you, knowing Him through His word, knowing Him through the moments or of
06:16the situations you experience day by day, getting to know it through other people you also have to
06:22gradually building things up around you, because maybe, well, probably nowadays those people who are
06:30around you, because they may not be able to give you or guarantee what we are talking about.
06:38Then it will be necessary for you to reach out, for you to look for where you can have a relationship with
06:45more people who can help you get to know God, to get to know that part of
06:53That cord, that third part, is what God has prepared for you. So, how would Jesus do it?
07:00With you, always assume the best of your partner. Sometimes when there is little communication between the
07:06In a relationship, misunderstandings arise, and there is a tendency to assume things that may not have happened or that
07:15They'll seem worse than they were. If something your partner does bothers you, wait a little while.
07:23Then, already with
07:24Stay calm, try to figure out what motivated them to take that action. You might discover that your
07:33couple
07:33I intended to contribute something positive, not negative, and you did something wrong.
07:42interpretation of what she did. That happens very commonly, especially to women, who think
07:49It's different from how men think. So always give him that chance before taking matters into your own hands.
08:01What you think happened and better dialogue in the first place. It's a great opportunity to get into this
08:08knowledge and really knowing what motivated your partner to do or say any situation or comment.
08:18And if at that moment there is a difference that leads to an argument or that leads to offense, well, as
08:30we were saying
08:30Just a moment ago. Find a quiet moment, maybe take some time for silence. Don't let things escalate.
08:41because
08:41There are some of us who sometimes have, as they say, a shorter fuse than others, and probably
08:50If we continue to dwell on the differences or the arguments, we could end up arguing and shouting.
08:58to offenses. Something that has happened to us. Something that, with such a long period of time as the one that
09:05we have lived,
09:06These are situations we've all experienced. But when you have God in the middle of it all, when God is part of that rope...
09:15Things are different with the person you're with, the one you're trying to pull into your marriage. That's where the importance of...
09:21meet him
09:22And that is the importance of discovering, in addition to what we have heard in his word, other ways,
09:29other ways, other instructions that God gives us to make our marriage better.
09:35Therefore, I urge you, learn to forgive one another. Marriage is based on love and on
09:44forgiveness.
09:46Neither of them is perfect, and problems will come and bad things will happen. But it will be easier.
09:55Forgive if you see your partner through God's eyes, because God loves him too.
10:03Thus, with its flaws.
10:05Everyone makes mistakes, but we must be able to forgive and move on. Remember this.
10:15Remember this especially the next time you need someone to forgive you.
10:21We are human, and in our humanity all this can be very complicated, and that is where God comes in.
10:29that intervene. I can tell you that if God weren't in the middle of our relationship, if God didn't
10:37had been in the middle of our relationship all these years, because perhaps one of these
10:43differences, one of these disputes, one of these arguments could have ended in a way
10:50serious with things like what we most likely see in some couple within our family or within
10:59of our close friends, where, because they do not know God and because they live that life without anything to guide them,
11:07He needs to guide them, to lead them, because they end up destroying that long-standing relationship. I think that
11:14We all know someone who, whether married for many years or just a few years,
11:21after a disagreement, an argument, unfortunately without God in the middle,
11:27They end up making decisions that are critical or catastrophic, not only for themselves but also for others.
11:33couples, but also for their families. And above all, so that this can be achieved and a way
11:42A concrete and efficient way to achieve all of that is to pray together. Find a moment to
11:50Pray together. Ask God constantly to continue blessing your union, because without a doubt that union
12:00Marriage is the perfect place to be happy, it is the perfect place to reach holiness.
12:12Remember, you are meant to grow together and make this "us" grow throughout your lives.
12:21And these three tips we've given you will allow you to achieve your life project together.
12:30Will you leave your father and mother and become one flesh? The greatest love is to lay down your life for your children.
12:36life for the
12:37friend, in this case by the spouse, and the three-stranded cord is hard to break.
12:43You don't need to memorize the quote or learn where you find it in your
12:52Bible. If you do, great, congratulations. But what you really need to remember are these little things.
12:59Phrases. The "we," giving one's life, and the three-stranded rope. The "we," giving one's life, and the rope
13:12of three
13:12Threads. These are concepts that God gives you to help you achieve the purpose of your married life, and that
13:21may they reach old age together, may they also reach eternity together.
13:27We want
13:29Congratulations!
13:30Because you're making an important decision, because each of you is investing a special amount of time.
13:38to learn, to know, and to see how to guarantee the happiness of your married life.
13:48Which, as we said, is not easy. But when you have God in your life, you have complete assurance.
13:57that you can achieve it day by day.
14:02You, individually, in your spiritual life, seek God first. And secondly, there He is.
14:13You will have him by your side.
14:15You will have someone who will be your partner, with whom you will be making a contract, an infinite contract, in
14:26the measure you put God in the middle of your life.
14:30We want to say a prayer for you, for all of you, so that what you are starting may bear much fruit.
14:41Above all, that you persevere, that
14:45continue day by day
14:47with enthusiasm,
14:48Hoping that what we have shared with you today will encourage you
14:53that
14:54the rest of the training you're going to have, that you're going to experience,
14:59Well, let it fill you with enthusiasm,
15:01fill you with strength, fill you
15:02of that Holy Spirit that we need.
15:05Let us pray for a moment.
15:07And thank you for being with us.
15:10Lord God, our Father,
15:13We bless you and praise you, because you are good, because you are great,
15:17Because you have destined, Lord, this time, this moment,
15:20so that these brothers of ours can hear you.
15:25Listening to you, then, through these instruments
15:29insignificant, humble, who, well, who are only that, an instrument, a means.
15:34We ask you, Lord, that what our brothers have heard may be
15:38exactly what they need
15:40to train, to grow, to have that foundation they need
15:46to have a fulfilling life
15:48in their married life, in this relationship they are about to begin.
15:53Pour out your Holy Spirit upon each of them, Lord,
15:57and give them the gifts, charisms, and abilities they need
16:01so that your marriage may be fulfilling and happy,
16:06and that this life project they are now about to begin,
16:09May you always bless him and be the strength that sustains him.
16:14Most Holy Mary, Our Mother, you are always in the middle too.
16:20You're always there listening, you're always there willing.
16:25to bring your children closer to Jesus.
16:30We ask you especially, Holy Mother,
16:33protection for these brothers of ours,
16:36so that you too may always be there, ready to cover them with your mantle,
16:40that you intercede for them, and that accompaniment is also provided.
16:44that they need in order to be able to draw near to you, Jesus,
16:49who live and reign forever and ever.
16:52Amen.
16:53Thank you so much for joining us, thank you so much for listening,
16:57Thank you for seeing us, and we invite you to be happy.
17:00that they may always have God at the center of their lives.
17:04That's the best guarantee that they'll reach eternity together.
17:08and that they will see their families, their children, their grandchildren, happy.
17:12God bless them.
17:14Congratulations and blessings.
