00:00If God said to love yourself, and masturbation is loving yourself, then God said to masturbate.
00:07Self-pleasure, masturbation, orgasms, oh my!
00:10At some point in their life, everyone masturbates.
00:13Right?
00:14I masturbate.
00:15I masturbate.
00:16I'd like to masturbate.
00:17I am 110,000% for masturbating.
00:22I feel amazing about masturbation.
00:25It's great.
00:26I masturbate.
00:28Confession, I've been masturbating since I was four years old, literally humping things in preschool.
00:34But I have no shame about it at all.
00:37Apparently, others don't feel the same way.
00:39It was pretty taboo around the house.
00:41I think my mom may have caught on when she heard some noises coming from my room.
00:47I don't even think me and my girlfriends in high school really spoke about it.
00:50I think we need another name for it, and that's why people are so afraid of it, because it's just
00:54a weird word in general.
00:55I went to Catholic school growing up.
00:57The teacher told us that every time you touch yourself, God is watching.
01:02You go, do you masturbate?
01:04Do you know what that is?
01:05And I was like, ugh, mom, that's gross.
01:07Like, why are you talking to me about this?
01:10I ended up having a conversation with my mom about it.
01:13Oh yeah, you're masturbating.
01:15I think it was in third grade.
01:16It's very mature for my age.
01:19Horribly awkward to have to talk to your mom about your masturbation habit.
01:23And then she, like, brought up specific websites.
01:25I'm like, well, that's unnecessary.
01:26Probably came up in a game like, never have I ever, when someone said, never have I ever masturbated.
01:32And finally, one person said they did.
01:34And that curtain kind of was just unveiled.
01:36And we were all, like, we all kind of have always been doing it.
01:40Researchers found that in porn, only 18.3% of women, compared to 78% of men, are shown having
01:47an orgasm.
01:47We've seen such a terrible representation of female sexuality in media, in porn, in day-to-day acquaintances with friends
01:56and family.
01:57The idea that women, like, can have pleasure is, like, a relatively new thing in general.
02:04You either get your Sex in the City vixen, nymphomaniac, or you get the stereotype of the prudish woman,
02:11when in reality, sexuality is so much more multifaceted.
02:15There's a ton of dudes masturbating in films.
02:19Like, you think of, like, American Pie, that's iconic.
02:21I can only remember a couple films where female masturbation is even shown.
02:25And, like, of that, maybe one or two where it's seen as pleasurable.
02:29We're still very used to thinking of women as sexual objects, not as agents of their own sexuality.
02:35There's a lot of stigma around masturbation, even more so than sex.
02:39So some people feel a little nervous telling their partners how they like to be touched.
02:42If you don't know what your body likes, what your body doesn't like, how it feels when it's time for
02:48that, like, boom orgasm,
02:50like, if you don't know, how is anybody else going to know?
02:53If you know what you like, you're able to communicate that to your partner and you just have a far
02:57more open and fun relationship.
03:01I think it's really important, too, about discovering yourself as a person.
03:05Finding people who you can talk to about it and basically, like, to communicate with, that can make it a
03:11lot less scary.
03:13Masturbation scientifically makes you less aggressive, more productive, because it releases endorphins, which make you happy.
03:19And we want that now, don't we?
03:21You go from being an animal to a person again is the best way I can describe a male orgasm.
03:27I think I do it for sanity purposes.
03:28You know, there's always that moment of clarity right after you're done, like a hard reset.
03:32Nice little bath.
03:33Maybe some candles if you're an aromatic person.
03:36I don't really use any other accoutrement except for my mind and my fingers.
03:42Make sure you have lube and just get down to it and get it done.
03:45That's really about it.
03:46It's really about giving women power over their own bodies and the ability to know that that pleasure can come
03:53from within themselves
03:54and they don't have to be dependent on a partner or, you know, a man to have that.
03:59In a way, masturbation is a type of sex.
04:02It's an intimate experience and you should take time for yourself.
04:05So don't feel weird about it.
04:07Happy rubbing and we'll see you next time.
