00:04you can't look to TV to really learn about motherhood it's more of an experience it is
00:09messier it's louder there's a lot more whisper yelling at your kids in the store and sweaty
00:15bodies stuck to you all the time you know I took it on head first let's go we began the
00:21process of
00:22adopting Xavi in February 2013 we have an open adoption with Xavi's birth family to me it's
00:28always about respecting his birth mother's rights one of my biggest fears is that I won't always have
00:34all the answers that he'll need I say do you know how lucky you are that you have two moms
00:37that love
00:38you so much Ava was diagnosed with autism right after her second birthday Ava and I communicate
00:45through emotion without any words and I think that's just really magical I started writing about
00:52being a plus-size woman and the journey to liking yourself being so messy and hard I'm teaching
00:57them how to look at a woman and what they consider to be traits that are beautiful and strong I
01:05own a
01:06small business I'm an entrepreneur and I'm a mom you become a mom and you have less time so you
01:12become
01:12more efficient you learn how to delegate how to prioritize they are the skills that are transferable
01:18to working life I'm a wardrobe stylist I mostly work with athletes my mom was a big big influence on
01:27me
01:27growing up when I was in elementary school and my mom would come to pick me up with like men's
01:34shoes
01:34on and I used to be completely upset and then you know it's a trend now she was a trendsetter
01:42I think
01:43you can read a hundred books on motherhood and none of them will prepare you for what's about to be
01:48handed to you people say there are rules to being a mom but I don't think there are by exposing
01:53them
01:53to different cultures I think they are growing up global citizens as long as we're together we're home
