00:00I went on your phone to see if you had snapchat because I was like he could be
00:03sending dick pics that was probably when I was like 900 pounds pregnant
00:07being insecure because I couldn't put my shoes on we live in a world where we
00:14often measure our self-worth by the amount of followers we have or how many
00:18likes we get so how does this affect our romantic relationships is social media
00:22allowing us to connect and share our lives with the world or is it creating
00:26another level of insecurity within romantic relationships this is how to
00:30love do you think that social media is helping or hurting relationships definitely
00:34hurting definitely I see my friends will let's say meet someone on the app they're
00:40texting and then they get their Instagram then they get their Facebook and I'll
00:45get a phone call he liked this girl's picture at 3 42 a.m. but he was supposed
00:50to text me when he got home how come and I was like how do you you shouldn't know
00:54this information you should not know what they're doing it for it it's none of
00:59your business social media is a very bad thing for relationships especially
01:06relationships that are new are very insecure or rocky to start because you
01:10have access to people who otherwise you never would have in un certo senso
01:34have social media ever gotten you guys in trouble with one another there was one
01:38time when I was on a work trip and I noticed like around 2 a.m. that grandma over here
01:45had
01:45had too much of her favorite juice and was posting shirtless pics on Instagram
01:51that's like not a big deal at all I had just had like a nice tan it was in the
01:55summertime and I thought it was fun for Mother's Day you didn't post anything on
02:00Facebook and another holiday and I was like crushed I'm like it's not real if
02:05you don't post it on Facebook that hurt me I wanted it to be official here with
02:10you like where it really counts but isn't that so silly that we're living in
02:14an age where like a post on Facebook is more real validating to us it's really
02:18messed up the new reality do you like that he posts pictures of you yeah do you
02:28make judgments about your own relationship based on relationships that
02:33you see on social media I don't use social media platforms to justify or
02:38validate my relationship everybody knows we're together and it's not going to
02:42change you guys are like a digital age relationship it's true yes it's sad but
02:48it's true it's not sad I mean we are like tinder was like the tiny seed that
02:53started right the big plant we have now but it was the way that we knew each other
02:58existed and then we added each other on Facebook I think we said two words to each
03:02other on tinder and messaged her and got her number and then texted her so it
03:07was very digital yeah throughout the whole start yeah I always say that I'm
03:11thankful and I met Brooks before the app revolution because I met him almost six
03:15years ago because I was reading this book modern romance everyone should read it
03:21and it says how like you're always looking for a unicorn except you are not a
03:24unicorn that's I think the draw but then I also read the benefits were that you
03:28find a much more compatible person nowadays because of the apps it's just
03:32harder to get through because you constantly think there's something
03:34better out there I don't I never dated on apps so I don't know ins and outs but
03:39it sounds horrible and very superficial because if you're just judging on a
03:43photo or you know swiping whatever direction you know don't expect too much
03:47from the dating app and I think you'll find that if your expectations are low it
03:51will surprise you however if you're expecting to find Prince Charming that fits
03:55every detail of your like love list yeah then you're gonna be disappointed of
03:59course we broke up when we first got together and Brooks met someone off
04:03Grindr there totally went on a date on Grindr yeah I don't know I wanted to try it
04:09out yeah broken up for two weeks it's sleazy it's like not good yeah it was
04:15sleazy yeah well in general also there's predators out there yeah there's
04:22predators they are there to sleep with you and that's it sometimes it sounds fun
04:27yeah Louie say we're refinery I like it she he show me he shows you we're fine
04:36yeah 29 ovens yeah should everybody follow refinery on Instagram yes yeah
04:42yes
