00:00I want to see, for black women, I want to see us experience healthy love without having
00:06to experience hurt first.
00:08I define cheating as anything that doesn't have to do with me.
00:11Anything you don't want your partner to know.
00:13You're not playing fair.
00:14Physical or emotional, any kind of intimacy with another person.
00:18I think that people cheat because they're selfish.
00:20What I have isn't enough, and I think it's also people thinking they're not enough.
00:24Because they're afraid of what it looks like to be committed.
00:27I think it's always a matter of searching for something, it seems.
00:31I don't think there's any good reasons to cheat.
00:33Yeah, there are reasons.
00:34Are there good ones?
00:34No.
00:35Really, if you loved me, you wouldn't cheat on me.
00:37Period.
00:38I think cheating really affects the black family because it becomes a cycle.
00:41You see your mom get cheated on.
00:43You see your grandma say to take them back.
00:45You know, he's a good man.
00:48Everyone cheats.
00:49And it kind of reinforces this negative behavior.
00:51My whole thing is breaking generational curses.
00:53They stayed because some of them were stay-at-home moms.
00:57They didn't have incomes of their own.
00:59They felt like they had to do it for their family.
01:00They felt like they had to be there in the house.
01:03But what I will say is that the black woman is the most disrespected woman in America,
01:07and it shows.
01:09Hashtag black women don't cheat.
01:11No, no.
01:12I've cheated before in a relationship, and I have been cheated on.
01:15I have come very close to cheating.
01:18I've definitely cheated.
01:21So I have cheated on someone.
01:23It was about eight years ago.
01:24I have never cheated.
01:25I've never been tempted to cheat.
01:27What you do to me is not going to make me do that back to you.
01:29I got very close, and I just couldn't bring myself to do it.
01:34But that doesn't make me weak.
01:36That doesn't mean that I'm not, like, a boss, independent chick.
01:41I went to the bathroom, and I came back, and I looked over, and they were kissing.
01:44I'm, like, an investigator, so, like, whenever something's going on, I'm, like, on top of it.
01:50I've caught, like, hair in the bed, just sloppy things, like them leaving things there.
01:55Someone I was dating was axed out by this girl, and I definitely, like, went on the date.
01:59I pulled up with them.
02:00Everyone was telling me that he was cheating on me.
02:02I didn't believe it until I actually went down to visit him, stumbled upon his laptop,
02:07and I just did what I did.
02:09My advice for black women that have been hurt in the past by cheating is it's going to be okay.
02:14Definitely get into therapy.
02:16Definitely get into some sort of physical activity.
02:20Go out with your friends.
02:22Listen to the warning signs.
02:24When someone shows you who they are, girl, believe it. Believe it.
02:28I no longer go through people's MySpace.
02:30Yeah, I used to go back on MySpace.
02:33Facebook, Instagram, I don't go through texts anymore.
02:35I feel like if you're in a relationship and you're doing that,
02:37it's obviously a sign that you shouldn't be with that person.
02:40So if someone cheated on me now, I would just walk away.
02:42It definitely needs to be a conversation so you can establish, like, boundaries and understanding.
02:48I don't want to help you cheat.
02:49I don't want to be next to someone that is cheating.
02:52When my friends make jokes about, you know, you know, oh, well, I'm seeing this person or whatever.
02:57You know, I'm always kind of like, but why when you can just break up with them?
03:01It takes a lot of strength to walk away from stuff.
03:03Even if it's you walking away from doing things that have made you cheat.
03:08Black women deserve everything.
03:11Kings.
03:12Rings.
03:14Deeds.
03:15Hello.
03:17What did you think?
03:19Ah!
03:19Hi.
03:21I'm like.
03:21I meet.
03:21You don't speak free.
03:21Did I talk to a behaviour.
03:21I find all of them really geeky to have to go through.
03:21I'm kind ofdimension.
