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In this candid interview, the well-known clinical psychologist, psychoanalytic therapist, spiritual counselor and author, Pulkit Sharma delves deeply into why parenting generation alpha (Gen alpha) children feels so difficult as he responds to the questions brought up by Pondicherry-based entrepreneur and popular content creator, Aryavrat Vardaan (founder Goodman Pondy).
Pulkit Sharma begins with his own experiences as a father and then focuses on different parenting styles, parental guilt, AI and digital companions, the clash between the dreams, abusive parenting and the huge generational divide. He summarizes the time-tested principles of successful parenting and the ways to navigate current challenges smoothly.
#parenting #parentingtips #genalpha #pulkitsharmaclinicalpsychologist
#authorpulkit
Pulkit Sharma begins with his own experiences as a father and then focuses on different parenting styles, parental guilt, AI and digital companions, the clash between the dreams, abusive parenting and the huge generational divide. He summarizes the time-tested principles of successful parenting and the ways to navigate current challenges smoothly.
#parenting #parentingtips #genalpha #pulkitsharmaclinicalpsychologist
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00:00:01There was a time when parenting meant
00:00:03did not do
00:00:04give me a blow
00:00:05Ice cream at the wedding
00:00:06give me a blow
00:00:07took the neighbor's girl for a ride
00:00:09Double whammy
00:00:10Now you just look at
00:00:11Perinting the Less Like Tate Talk
00:00:13Son, express yourself
00:00:14Son, follow your dreams
00:00:16Son, you are unique like a snowflake
00:00:19If you show me this much love
00:00:21Then the child will not remain like a Sanoi Mushi Babush.
00:00:24There was a time when
00:00:25where respect was compulsory
00:00:28affection was optional
00:00:29And now respect is optional
00:00:32affection compulsory
00:00:33and dreams
00:00:34Parents' dreams versus children's dreams
00:00:36Every life has the same script.
00:00:38On one side is the drone parent
00:00:40those who control
00:00:41always walking together
00:00:43I don't even let you breathe, friend
00:00:44And on the one hand, free range parent
00:00:46Son, move around, dance, sing
00:00:49If you want to jump into the ditch, jump, do whatever you have to do.
00:00:52but the truth
00:00:53all parents like data plans
00:00:55whether overuse or underuse
00:00:57Lifetime subscription
00:00:59the big question is
00:01:00What is the true spirit of parenting today?
00:01:04control, friendship, guilt, freedom
00:01:07or just damage control
00:01:08sir I can joke about this all day
00:01:10but seriously
00:01:11What should be the true spirit of parenting?
00:01:14kill or love
00:01:15control or freedom
00:01:17respect or Instagram likes
00:01:19And I have come to you to find out this.
00:01:21So let's take this dal, rice and masala and make khichdi.
00:01:24We will also make Khichdi
00:01:26And in this fake dark comedy, we will also light a torch of your psychology.
00:01:30noise, noise, noise
00:01:31thank you for being on this podcast with me
00:01:33we are going to talk about parenting in depth
00:01:36Sir my first question is
00:01:37Because you are a parent yourself.
00:01:39What is your parenting inspiration?
00:01:41What I mean to say is, did you learn parenting from trials or did you learn it by reading your own psychology books?
00:01:47Subsequently, there is a lot of printing in Christianity books and it is very difficult to understand it.
00:01:57I listened to my passion in it
00:02:06When people come to us, they definitely talk about their children.
00:02:11I listened to them complain about what was missing in their parenting,
00:02:16What should have been, which was not,
00:02:20Or was it something that shouldn't have happened at all and there was a lot of it
00:02:24And hearing this, I felt his pen very deeply.
00:02:56So when I listened to them and when I wrote them, I
00:03:00It was always the case that the day I become a parent, the day I become a father
00:03:05No matter how much I have to work on myself, Hina
00:03:08As a person, as a parent, I definitely will
00:03:11But I mean, don't let your child face that thing.
00:03:17This thing was very much for me
00:03:19And when my daughter was born I always kept this thing in mind
00:03:25and my life mostly after her has been you know prioritizing her
00:03:30you know she is my top priority
00:03:31and I am saying that I am not saying that I have been a big sacrifice, a big sacrifice
00:03:36but it came very naturally and I am like very happy, I derive a lot of joy out of it
00:03:42you know being with her, you know seeing her grow up, seeing her develop, it gives me immense joy
00:03:47so this is very natural, I never felt like that
00:03:50the day she was born, I came into this role very swiftly and I started enjoying it like anything
00:03:59you accepted the new character that your life gave you, isn't it?
00:04:04from a son, so long to a father
00:04:07to a father
00:04:08how does that transition remain?
00:04:11now it happens, or it takes time?
00:04:13look at me, it happened a lot of times
00:04:17and I will tell you, I will tell you the day she was born
00:04:20I remember that day today
00:04:22that by nature, I am very peaceful in nature
00:04:25I am like very peaceful in my mind
00:04:26it was in my mind that my child will be a big peace
00:04:29well disciplined, well behaved
00:04:31you will go tick out my child
00:04:32you know
00:04:32so when she was born
00:04:34and I am like
00:04:35you know
00:04:36you are going to go to the hospital
00:04:37you are going to cut your chest
00:04:38you are going to pay the bills
00:04:39you are going to pay the bills
00:04:40you are going to pay the bills
00:04:40you are going to pay the bills
00:04:42you are going to say
00:04:42oh like you know
00:04:43you become a father
00:04:44you know
00:04:45you have a wonderful daughter
00:04:46so I'm just going to run and see her
00:04:48and I can't tell you
00:04:50that I have seen her first time
00:04:51like a newborn child
00:04:52is like
00:04:52so tiny
00:04:54so soft
00:04:55so delicate
00:04:57that
00:04:57I wanted to pick her up
00:05:00I wanted to love her
00:05:01you know
00:05:01I wanted to touch her
00:05:02and I was very scared
00:05:03because I was very scared
00:05:04because I felt like
00:05:05I am not hurt by my hands
00:05:09so I still remember
00:05:10I took this index finger
00:05:11and I just stroked her
00:05:13you know
00:05:13that was the first touch
00:05:14I gave her
00:05:14and
00:05:17she was very active
00:05:18she was kicking her hands
00:05:20kicking her feet
00:05:21she grabbed my finger very tightly
00:05:25and that was my life
00:05:27I would say
00:05:28most powerful experience
00:05:29I have never felt
00:05:30so many goosebumps
00:05:32you know
00:05:32so that
00:05:34that is the connection
00:05:35that
00:05:35you know
00:05:36the way
00:05:37she grabbed my finger
00:05:38and I was like
00:05:39that
00:05:39yes
00:05:39now here is someone
00:05:40and now it's not about me
00:05:42so much
00:05:43it's about her
00:05:44you know
00:05:44so that was very
00:05:45for me
00:05:46automatically
00:05:48transition
00:05:49and this is very touching
00:05:50I can feel your emotion
00:05:52a little bit
00:05:54but
00:05:54yes
00:05:54the dialogue of the picture
00:05:55is coming out
00:05:56from the touch of the child
00:05:57that is Vicky Donner
00:06:01your child is coming out
00:06:02right
00:06:03parenting on its own
00:06:04has an experience
00:06:05like
00:06:06this is a life changing experience
00:06:07like
00:06:07you can say
00:06:07you were a child
00:06:08and now
00:06:09you have a father
00:06:11or mother
00:06:12after that
00:06:13it starts
00:06:13so
00:06:14there are some formulas
00:06:18that
00:06:18you can adopt
00:06:19mother or father
00:06:20or mother
00:06:21you can adopt
00:06:22absolutely
00:06:23people often say
00:06:24that
00:06:24today
00:06:24there is a lot of change
00:06:26in every decade
00:06:28every decade
00:06:28every decade
00:06:29times change
00:06:31times change
00:06:31and some
00:06:31things change
00:06:33but
00:06:33parenting
00:06:34core fundamentals
00:06:36like
00:06:37the song
00:06:38that
00:06:38100 years ago
00:06:39I loved you
00:06:39today
00:06:40and tomorrow
00:06:41will be the same
00:06:42fundamentals
00:06:43today
00:06:43will be the same
00:06:44tomorrow
00:06:44and tomorrow
00:06:44will be the same
00:06:44same
00:06:44as a parent
00:06:47who will keep
00:06:47the fundamentals
00:06:49and not just keep
00:06:51the fundamentals
00:06:51that is the key
00:06:55to successful parenting
00:06:56that is the key
00:07:01that
00:07:01understanding
00:07:02we all fail
00:07:05in understanding
00:07:06from all
00:07:07this
00:07:07is
00:07:08that parents
00:07:09have a lot
00:07:10awareness
00:07:11do you know
00:07:12who is understanding
00:07:12is deaf
00:07:13I would have liked to live
00:07:15yeah
00:07:16I have seen
00:07:16that
00:07:17I am the higher
00:07:18will understand
00:07:2010, 20, 30
00:07:21and you will understand
00:07:22until that age
00:07:22you will understand
00:07:23This is not because the child is angry or has less understanding or is
00:07:30Your thinking is too much, your understanding is too much, your thinking is too much, your understanding is too much, thinking is too much
00:07:46So you start understanding the child from your perspective, from his perspective, and start seeing the world through his eyes.
00:07:55does
00:07:55And most parents, I am not saying that parents, look every parent wants only good for their child.
00:08:02Is
00:08:02There's no parent who would want me to be a child but I can't figure out how to keep my perspective.
00:08:08Hand and how to explain it to him
00:08:10You know it becomes, very very very very very very very very I know, that life becomes this world
00:08:17You know, I have seen a lot of cases like that, when parents say that I had a pain in
00:08:24my life and that becomes a point of argument
00:08:27Because parents say that it wasn't like that, you are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong,
00:08:34you are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong
00:08:36So understanding is the core, you understand, you don't think about it, it's not a court of law, it's not
00:08:43a court of law, who is wrong, who is wrong
00:08:44If you are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong, you
00:08:47are wrong, you are wrong, you are wrong
00:08:49And because parents are older, you need to understand them first
00:08:52So the first fundamental is our understanding
00:08:56The second fundamental is very big
00:08:59Uniqueness
00:09:01Every child has a uniqueness
00:09:04So parenting
00:09:05Not comparing
00:09:08Parenting is not just not comparing, it is about celebrating that uniqueness
00:09:13That you should say as a kid that is an instinct
00:09:17That I should say is that my child is like this, my kid is a littleIST
00:09:20My child is a kid glad I am young, my dad should be anything
00:09:24My child is a difficult Lesslak
00:09:25My child is so high inkaset
00:09:28My child is this
00:09:28My child is sleeping
00:09:29So
00:09:30in all the same
00:09:31If we get to one in our needs of our expectations
00:09:33And our likes and dislikes
00:09:36What a uniqueness
00:09:39We are Islam
00:09:43Like factor
00:09:43This inkushion also caused the development of unexplained illness in children and the development of unexplained illness in children.
00:09:49Now the pros are suffering, people are suffering if you get a child from this, in this hurry then
00:10:06In the beginning this is good
00:10:13I don't like fights and quarrels, if you get into any quarrel, I feel like settling the matter quickly, I don't want to get into any trouble.
00:10:19I want to
00:10:20I want to fight against what I want, I want to fight against what I want, I am not ahead in the world
00:10:46Puri Raho Na Prache Us The
00:10:50The big diva in the vanan shir chan chema, who is a big diva in the tapasya sup lna a jawaaj barite
00:10:56Cad Dhi.
00:10:57Whatever the reicht me pale, izha karikit logzunshan which they know you have.
00:11:15So if you need it more, you will need it.
00:11:21The third fundamental of parenting is also a very important fundamental.
00:11:24Stop preaching that mother and father are not saints and gurus.
00:11:29Often we do not decide how the child should be, how he should live his life, every parent depends on him.
00:11:37Can do long long long iscors.
00:11:39Iscorus or not effective You are an example or a role model of what you want your child to do
00:11:46Or not, you should be such a role model.
00:11:49When it says that you are having a dream or not, it is also a dance or not, it is a phone call.
00:11:54Which may not be right to see, but you yourself were busy writing phony letters the whole day.
00:11:58. Adikhai Tainal Sab达 Andshegs
00:12:03Three fundamentals as you subscribing to the article
00:12:07Pela like abla poyla pranula par aa bhal understandings
00:12:21First Paula Paula for Prashusdgs
00:12:25Real lips. If there is such a long partition, then we keep using it.
00:12:31You are being asked to rune yourselves.
00:12:39This is no one.
00:12:41Ask why you have to do the work
00:12:43This is to be done.
00:12:46Upranthi Close Pravachchhan Paraandhe Dhie
00:12:52Whoever is a saint or Mahatma, he likes to do it.
00:12:55Often parents give too much knowledge to their children so that they can live their life in such a way.
00:13:01This should be done This should not be done This is wrong This is right
00:13:06But they don't implement those things themselves.
00:13:09So the thing is that whatever you want to make the child
00:13:13The things you want to include in it
00:13:16These are all things you have to bring within yourself first.
00:13:22You have told your child to get angry but you are crying and shouting at home.
00:13:37If you sit by yourself with your phone
00:13:41Games are called WhatsApp, so you cannot tell your child to do this or that on his screen time.
00:13:50If you want your child to exercise, do it yourself and involve him with you.
00:13:55And these are very important things you have to do from the beginning.
00:14:09This child will be put up for raising, people stay stuck there
00:14:26Your point is correct regarding this baby, I am living in a consumer market and I am not in any other market.
00:14:34serial number
00:14:35Such a big python will teach us big monsters that 70 are 12 sections indicate right
00:14:43Take it up to 80-90-100
00:14:46But understand how big these works are.
00:14:49But your entire future generation will be ruined.
00:14:51Because the work of a parent has to be done by the parent only, no one else can do it.
00:14:55And Parenting Needs Time
00:14:57And this big motion listening time
00:15:01That for a month the lover will see the film of his parents in Europe.
00:15:06You will take these two trips in a year for eight days, as there is no replacement for the work done.
00:15:13So, I think parents, in this whole environment where there's so much workaholism, you're doing the right thing, you're doing the right thing.
00:15:19We are doing it, planning our future, planning the future of our children, it is not easy, to do so much out of all this.
00:15:30It is necessary, so that we can give so much time here, it is not right, I mean...
00:15:36so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so,
00:15:44so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so,
00:15:51so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so
00:16:31No matter how far the world progresses, these are the three basic formulas
00:16:32And it must have been difficult for you too and you probably drank them from all our other holes.
00:16:37This is why Feskar must be having problems.
00:16:40would be used to doing
00:16:42Ja mentika to break and understand
00:16:44Entering into the printing process
00:16:53Dr.1 was a very
00:17:01Mar huma krepko mar laaijaagda kiya aa
00:17:09I stole the press and gave it to you. I am looking for such a change in the next 20-30 years.
00:17:14oh brother, I downloaded that app
00:17:25Which generation of Ids do you think will be more helier? One, it seems to be in our culture, in Indian culture.
00:17:33If you are very much in the habit of glorifying the past, then the old times were Ramrajya, they had a very good time.
00:17:39and we killed
00:17:41It's good that everything is fine, if you don't get beaten today then it's not good, people are fine if you look very carefully.
00:17:49I think every phase, every period of time has its own unique problems, so with my hijab
00:17:55So the past was good because whatever beatings were given
00:18:10It was good that I used to go and he would become so alienated that he would not be able to speak openly.
00:18:16Sometimes he was sad, worried, distressed, depressed, the child was very scared, he should talk to his parents.
00:18:23And we know because all those kids who...
00:18:36I am not afraid of my parents, more of a relationship like equality is developing but today's children are also equal.
00:18:44He is alone because he is not afraid but there is no one, mother or father, in his work, in his life.
00:18:51The poor guy is so busy with his mother.
00:18:57I am planning for the future of the child, so many baby's hey baby's bass gadgets are a cry, it is right but
00:19:04He can also ask Zed, what should I do when I am depressed, I am miya rahe Muruna Arya, please love me
00:19:12Os Loki some some some ash
00:19:32There's probably a trifecta going on for kids to be less emotional.
00:19:38I don't think that he is less emotional, I think his emotions are locked up, he is very emotional, but because
00:19:43There is no one to listen, no one to understand, no one to tell, so emotions become very locked.
00:19:48Used to be
00:19:48over the years this locking up has been happening
00:19:53In the meantime, the express will have to be out somewhere.
00:19:56absolutely, locking up big, I'll tell you, 2-3 big problematic expressions
00:20:02Firstly, it is an expression of aggression.
00:20:04that when people lock things up for a long time
00:20:07Then suddenly after teenage he becomes very violent.
00:20:10There is that expression
00:20:12The second expression is that
00:20:16Turn to addictions when there is a lot of emotional pain.
00:20:19So people like this
00:20:23that this jaundice, this khalia
00:20:25If you become numb, he will be given anesthesia.
00:20:28Short Term Relief
00:20:30Shout Term Thing Blocks Der Pen
00:20:32And the third is that
00:20:34Depression always be on your side
00:20:36being depressed
00:20:37not to mind not to mind
00:20:39Even if life goes well, you still don't feel happy.
00:20:42not focusing
00:20:43So there are many problems with locking.
00:20:45I don't think it's a good idea
00:20:47and I think if we protect our future generations
00:20:49to normalize
00:20:52I don't even want to make it very great.
00:20:54If you want to make it normal then this is a very boring trend.
00:20:57This means that the parents will have to take time out.
00:20:59Parents are also worried about how to pass the time in this entire culture, after all that has happened in the country.
00:21:04Singapore shift, US shift, Australia shifts
00:21:07People are working in 3-4 shifts.
00:21:09So many big people say that you are big, big, work for six days.
00:21:13Sath day kam karo sunday vi aur office azogo
00:21:15We want future generations to be like this as stop thup thup
00:21:20I forgot to mention earlier, this is some kind of a comparison between how things were and how things are.
00:21:25or can be
00:21:28Parenting, old school, parenting, new school
00:21:31So now, you should download in new school, you should download all this, but then you have to give time
00:21:38Second question, comparing the old school and the new school
00:21:41Back then, respect was compulsory and affection was optional
00:21:46Right
00:21:46That you have to respect elders
00:21:49That's what we have to do
00:21:51If no love is given to you or not, it's up to them
00:21:55So, this was also a big emphasis that if anyone is meeting at home, go home, go home
00:22:00I grew up with this bear chewing ritual, that I was afraid of it
00:22:07And in my teenage, I started responding to my father that I will not touch the feet in front of
00:22:12the man, he wants me to touch the feet off
00:22:18So, what did he do?
00:22:20He should touch his feet off
00:22:21He should touch his feet off
00:22:22So, it was a little bit of a laugh
00:22:25So, one day, I told him that I will not touch his feet off the man, I will not touch
00:22:29his feet off the man
00:22:30So, he felt awkward, that felt awkward, after that he stopped telling me to touch the feet off the man
00:22:35After that, it was not like that, it was awkward
00:22:37So, this is my story
00:22:40I also have a story
00:22:41I didn't have any problems with the feet off the man, it was good
00:22:44It was good for the people to touch the feet of the man, it was great
00:22:47So, it was good for me to touch the feet of the man, it was good for me
00:22:51So, it was good for me to touch the feet of the man, it was good for me
00:22:51Now, I remember that, when we went to a wedding or party, there was another child that came out
00:22:58And there was a lot of people who said, Dandvat Namaskar, Sashhtangpura
00:23:03And he was like, I remember that, my father said, how good the feet off the man, I said, this
00:23:10will not be possible
00:23:12I said, this will not be possible, that will not be possible
00:23:15I said, this will not be possible
00:23:19So, that was my story
00:23:21There was a time when respect was compulsory and affection was optional
00:23:25But now, respect is optional, but affection is compulsory
00:23:29So, how did this change happen?
00:23:31This change, look, according to my opinion, the way our Indian society evolved, the way it evolved
00:23:40Now, I think, 150 years ago, it was a full blown patriarchy
00:23:47So, the father is the head of the family.
00:23:51And the women of the house, they control the children
00:23:56They control the children, the ones who are working in the house
00:23:58They control the children
00:24:01And, in fact, the patriarch was the same
00:24:04The caste system, the higher caste, the lower caste control
00:24:07So, it was a lot about who will rule and who will control
00:24:10Power game
00:24:11Power game, it was a lot of a lot of a lot of a lot of a lot of a
00:24:12a lot of people
00:24:12I think, then, as we were independent education
00:24:15The main change was that we had to give a gift from feminism
00:24:19The women who were oppressed in so many years
00:24:22When those people came and said that we are oppressed
00:24:26And we have to stop the oppression
00:24:28So, when feminism came, I think that feminism came
00:24:31Along with all the marginalized groups
00:24:35They were talking about
00:24:36All the oppressed groups
00:24:38They were talking about
00:24:38And, in fact, the children are also coming
00:24:40To treat the children with compassion and equality
00:24:43So, for this reason, I think we really need to be thankful to feminism.
00:24:47Although, today, many men say that feminism is extremely extreme
00:24:52And it has gone to a very extreme level
00:24:55I mean, in some aspects, that is true in some cases.
00:24:58But, I think that we need to acknowledge that the changes in feminism
00:25:02In our society
00:25:04Especially for the kids
00:25:05Especially for the kids
00:25:06No, if feminism doesn't come, I think that the children are oppressed
00:25:10Oppressed
00:25:10Of course
00:25:11Of course
00:25:13Of course
00:25:14Of course
00:25:16Of course
00:25:16Of course
00:25:16The first notion was that they would have to give a gift from the kids
00:25:18In the hostel
00:25:19Of course
00:25:20Or the children would have to give a blank slate
00:25:21The children would have to feed them
00:25:22They would have to feed them
00:25:23This concept was not the same
00:25:25So, feminism was the reason
00:25:27Of course
00:25:27Of course
00:25:28Of course
00:25:28So, affection is more important
00:25:29Respect is not
00:25:30Affection
00:25:31Affection is mandatory
00:25:34Today, children say that affection is mandatory
00:25:36You know
00:25:37You need to show respect to my emotions
00:25:39Absolutely
00:25:39It's important
00:25:40I also need respect for my emotions
00:25:44No, part of my work is about
00:25:47Again, bringing back the inner child
00:25:49What I generally do on the streets
00:25:51And engagement with the people
00:25:53Is in a manner where
00:25:55You shouldn't be
00:25:57As a kid or as a grown-up
00:25:59You shouldn't be ambitious about what people think about you
00:26:02And now we are seeing
00:26:03Very young age
00:26:04Kids are very conscious of what other people perceive of them
00:26:09Absolutely
00:26:09So, if I am giving my brain space
00:26:11To other people's brain
00:26:14Where will I grow?
00:26:15Right
00:26:16Because
00:26:16To grow
00:26:17You need that independent zone
00:26:20Where you can be who you are
00:26:22Yes
00:26:22No, you are
00:26:23No, you are
00:26:23Just like you are
00:26:24Yes
00:26:24You can become
00:26:25Yes
00:26:26But this is interesting
00:26:27Stemming out of this
00:26:28If someone has a tattoo
00:26:30If someone has a tattoo
00:26:30Yes
00:26:32Yes
00:26:32That's what
00:26:33I am seeing
00:26:33Footballers
00:26:34Yes
00:26:34It's a normal thing
00:26:36Yes
00:26:36It's a normal thing
00:26:38How can they do it?
00:26:39If they are thinking about it
00:26:40They are thinking about it
00:26:41Why do they have a tattoo?
00:26:43I think
00:26:43If they are thinking about it
00:26:45I think
00:26:46One of the things
00:26:47That can be resolved
00:26:49that is communication
00:26:50I think
00:26:51My parents
00:26:52To communicate
00:26:54And
00:26:54To also
00:26:55To also
00:26:55To try to help
00:26:57Keep on communicating
00:26:59Keep trying to explain
00:27:00Trying to explain
00:27:01Yeah, I think
00:27:02That's very important
00:27:03that you know
00:27:04In human relations
00:27:05Sometimes
00:27:06We don't have to understand
00:27:07One time
00:27:08We don't have to understand
00:27:09The other time
00:27:09We don't have to understand
00:27:10The other time
00:27:11We don't have to understand
00:27:13So I think
00:27:13any relationship
00:27:14any relationship
00:27:15any relationship
00:27:15any relationship
00:27:16There is no relationship
00:27:18No
00:27:18You should always
00:27:19Keep those communication channels open
00:27:22You should always communicate
00:27:23That thing is
00:27:24In a flow
00:27:25Because communication
00:27:26Is a thing
00:27:27that is healthy
00:27:28That makes things
00:27:29And there is a broken
00:27:30To keep them
00:27:32And the broken
00:27:33To keep them
00:27:33That can be a new hope
00:27:36So there is a lot of
00:27:37Role of communication
00:27:39And when you communicate
00:27:40And I say
00:27:42Don't blame
00:27:42We communicate
00:27:44And it starts with a blame
00:27:47Do you know how great you are?
00:27:49Do you know how much I endured?
00:27:51And brother, let the other person also think about how much he suffered.
00:27:55He is the one who sits down with the scales
00:27:59That's the only benefit, my pen weighs so many kilos
00:28:02And your pen weighs only a few grams.
00:28:04that is a very bad way of communicating
00:28:07right so if you are planning to get a tattoo done
00:28:09please consider liking the video
00:28:11before you get into that activity
00:28:13and also do not forget to subscribe the channel
00:28:15that you are watching right now
00:28:16this is mandatory
00:28:17liking, subscribing
00:28:22so sir now I have the third and last question
00:28:24in this comparison between the old
00:28:26and the new school of parenting
00:28:28what happened now?
00:28:29a lot of people tell me
00:28:30I think you might also be aware of this
00:28:33disciplining the child
00:28:35gets you in the territory of
00:28:37feeling guilty about
00:28:39okay I told you to be in a certain manner
00:28:41so my question is
00:28:43why do modern parents
00:28:45feel
00:28:47guilty when they are disciplining their child
00:28:49today's parents when children are disciplining
00:28:51they know somewhere
00:28:53at the back of their mind
00:28:54that
00:28:56the way they are disciplining
00:28:58that is not right
00:29:01and why they are right
00:29:02I tell you that parents
00:29:04like we have talked about earlier
00:29:06are genuinely very overworked
00:29:08we talked about
00:29:10that consumerism is so bad
00:29:11it is so bad
00:29:12it is so bad
00:29:12it is so bad
00:29:13it is so bad
00:29:14jobs are so demanding
00:29:15so they are genuinely stressed
00:29:17I would not blame them for that
00:29:18you know it is a genuine
00:29:20very valid stress
00:29:22and what is this valid stress
00:29:24is that they don't have time and patience
00:29:28parenting is also about a lot of patience
00:29:32that if you have to discipline the child
00:29:35and discipline the child
00:29:36day one
00:29:36when the child is born
00:29:38the first form of disciplining
00:29:40is to make a schedule
00:29:41you know
00:29:42so disciplining starts from actually day one
00:29:44you know
00:29:45but disciplining
00:29:46is a way to do
00:29:48in that
00:29:49you have to be very patient
00:29:51You have to be very calm
00:29:53you know because
00:29:53when you go to discipline the child
00:29:56so now the child will retaliate
00:29:58unruled
00:29:59no one wants to be controlled
00:30:00so one thing is
00:30:01you have to be very patient
00:30:03secondly
00:30:04you need to have
00:30:05a bond of love and trust
00:30:08that the child
00:30:09feels like the disciplining
00:30:12you are doing
00:30:13they are doing
00:30:13for growth
00:30:14or well-being
00:30:15they are not doing
00:30:16for frustration
00:30:17or you are not doing
00:30:19that you have a bad day in office
00:30:20or you have a bad day with a spouse
00:30:22or you have to have some difficulty
00:30:23or you have to have a bad day
00:30:25you know
00:30:26so the fact is that
00:30:27sometimes parents
00:30:28are understand that
00:30:30that they don't have discipline
00:30:32and then they also understand
00:30:35that
00:30:36the children understand
00:30:37the children are often
00:30:37like
00:30:37it is
00:30:39when they are in a good mood
00:30:40they don't say anything
00:30:41so the day they are in the office
00:30:43they are in the office
00:30:45they come to look at
00:30:48tell them how many marks
00:30:48tell them what they did
00:30:50and then they are in the back
00:30:51If you read this non-stop then the elders also know the thing, the parents also know the thing, hence the guilt
00:30:57It feels like this, that's why I have said it before.
00:31:01The solution is that time dena pension bahut rakhani and pension mein jaa the to parents thay were
00:31:08question ko aap schedule kaha aap shachage jaanych aap pass question jase main aapko apna exam par tahu hai mera
00:31:18ThankFly Flexible Var
00:31:31In these, I feel disgusted and I feel that yes, if I get a divorce from my daughter
00:31:37If I want to day or talk to her or spend time with her then I have her during the day.
00:31:42Why did he wake up with so much free time?
00:32:08He goes very wrong, but you scold him first and then you
00:32:13I bought Jung Food from Swiggy and I ate it because of this and I keep repeating it many times.
00:32:25I have made sure that in all these things you have time and patience.
00:32:30Sir, I cannot pass it, I cannot ignore it, I need time and patience, without that it cannot happen.
00:32:36We understand the difference between right feeling and guilt, but parenting is limited to pampering and disciplining.
00:32:42Ltd. is not but
00:33:00Primar Butt Liked This Suscrime The Kind Ajab This Will Go Jareth Potya
00:33:28I have seen this and I would also like to say that no parent should abuse their child in this way.
00:33:36wants to
00:33:38No one wants to do this, when a child is born, every parent likes it.
00:33:42And everyone wants to do the best for their child.
00:33:45But parents generally become abusive because
00:33:51that you have some underlying eggnog mental illness
00:33:55Or that their own childhood was so traumatic
00:34:00That further you want that in the maintenance of asco there is a lot of material in it.
00:34:06I say some Jannus, some say Jannus, some want to do Mahababh, some go away.
00:34:14And this is if the child is
00:34:20I will keep my parents' talk to the present people who will tell you about Wanna O
00:34:26Chahare Dushent Karne Wale Ve Feshiv Karne Wale Rahi Chine Hahne Par Film Noa Bye
00:34:37And if the master gets used to it then he should increase the size of the child.
00:34:57That he says a lot has happened in his mind, she has completely destroyed his mind.
00:35:06How did I forget and its long term effects are very serious.
00:35:13First of all, the child should have a very complete self-consent that I am weak, I am sick, I am not good.
00:35:20If someone grows up with this then when they think that I am no good, then
00:35:27So he will neither study well nor will he do well in his work.
00:35:41Vocabulary and concentration child does not get to learn anything in life
00:35:47You need to do anything to be in the present when you daydream in the past
00:35:55No land
00:36:15So it happens that these mite children then become such that when they grow up, they become very
00:36:25There is too much aggression, there is too much violence, it feels so wrong if you hurt a child.
00:36:30abust feeling is saying this
00:36:36I will show you how you hit me, how you screamed, I will show you how you hit me, one day you will know
00:36:42Song Hum Dekhenge It is necessary that we will also see that day whose promise is so Ichik whatever abuse
00:36:48Traumatized humans for this
00:37:05Because the biggest problem that arises is that in this lifetime of unstable sad relationship, either the child gets abused.
00:37:14This leads to a relationship where the partner dominates and controls him.
00:37:19The one who does the relationship and if this happens then it becomes a big game here, then it means if
00:37:23Because of the scenario, if the traumatization was for one year or five years,
00:37:32For the children, Pachpal had said that Bachpal Bach
00:37:46I was a little bitch when I was a little bitch
00:37:50Now this is the second question in this fear friendship and abuse zone that we are reflecting upon
00:37:55hmm
00:37:56Now this might be some kind of a helping hand for
00:37:59people and parents who have faced some kind of abusive
00:38:03childhood
00:38:04who are now going through towards parenting and they don't want to repeat whatever happened with them, those traumatic ideas
00:38:11So I want you to tell me that
00:38:14Abusive parents
00:38:15Why do they become abusive?
00:38:17And why do they not become?
00:38:19What other options have they got?
00:38:20I think why they became
00:38:22It doesn't happen in the hands of the parents
00:38:23I feel that they become unconsciously
00:38:27Look, any child who is abused
00:38:29When they become a parent
00:38:30In his mind it is that
00:38:32If my child doesn't have any pain
00:38:34I will give him a good childhood
00:38:35I think every parent
00:38:37In the past
00:38:38Is it very clear
00:38:41At that point in time
00:38:42That I don't have to do this
00:38:44But
00:38:48Abuse
00:38:50Abuse
00:38:51It is a terrible experience
00:38:52that it changes you
00:38:55You are not in control
00:38:57So those who are abused
00:38:58They are
00:39:02intense negative emotions
00:39:03Because
00:39:04Because
00:39:04Their mood will be very bad
00:39:06Short-tempered
00:39:08Aggressive
00:39:08And like I said
00:39:10In parenting
00:39:11Patients
00:39:12Should be full
00:39:13Without
00:39:14Patients
00:39:14I can't do it
00:39:15So the problem is that
00:39:18Parents
00:39:20Abuse yourself
00:39:21intense negative emotions
00:39:24They are always on a short fuse
00:39:26Because of their own wounded past
00:39:28That they don't have any patience
00:39:30They don't have any patience
00:39:31They don't even need to
00:39:33Like even to get it
00:39:33Not that they don't want it
00:39:36It's beyond them
00:39:37They don't have it in them
00:39:39They don't have it
00:39:40They need to be very happy
00:39:42Huge anfing
00:39:46There the problem arises that you want to do it well but the child is even a little difficult.
00:39:51He is defiant, he is not agreeing, he is stubborn, he is adamant, you will speak to him lovingly twice, the third time he will tell you,
00:39:58You'll just blast, how can I not believe, how can I not believe, should I hit you?
00:40:03How do you not believe it, it comes in a big flow, because you dos unmentionable emotions, secondly what happens is that some
00:40:09Those who are very extreme abusers, this problem starts somewhere from their childhood, because when
00:40:15of a child
00:40:19The second thing you should do is to get the child from where will the problem arise, it reflects that the child goes to his
00:40:35In Mand, they start isolating themselves from the applicant, they think that I will become their brother because you are such a person.
00:40:42Banuga, what ujita
00:40:44Now I am going to show it to Mahshuh, he feels that because it is so weak, so wound, it feels so soft when
00:40:49He feels that in this role he will be seen only in screaming and killing, so here
00:40:55since a
00:40:55Unconscious intimation becomes the unstoppable pursuit of life, and it will come into your romantic relationship and your marriage as well.
00:41:04If the child comes then it means that these things are played very unconsciously.
00:41:09I would say that people do not do things willingly, no one does it as per their wish, even if we do it, but in that
00:41:14It will take hard work, a lot of hard work and that hard work of Peepal Kaid, I will also say that it is not that you will work for two days
00:41:20I thought that if you work hard every day then you will get this result.
00:41:34Achithar apni badashan va khrabh ki milan bat rahud is walen pahle jane karete here you for thaarya
00:41:53Ghar yeh kar hai aapko aur de nid sit.
00:42:02Whatever is in your destiny, you will get it, so parenting should be done with this feeling, but the person who is himself unloved,
00:42:10He is wounded, he has been beaten, how will he reach such an evolved stance, he will think this, first
00:42:16I will think about it from day to day
00:42:16He is not loving me, he has loved me, so I have seen many parents from here.
00:42:22That means, you know, people with abusive fathers, whose fathers abused them, later they became abusive fathers.
00:42:31Whose mother shot ten
00:42:34She did not love me, she did not love me and later she herself became an abusive mother, even though she did not want to.
00:42:39Since it does not have a cocoon or pawn, a person has many other things which are very difficult to do and many
00:42:44I have been loving him a lot, that
00:43:00when you just like this video and show some support to us this can be
00:43:04interesting because parents are always to it takes two people to create a child
00:43:10if one parent is abusive and the other is not what should this other parent do
00:43:15if abuse is ochreschlenthen the parent mentally sane is a job in that
00:43:21is a lot bigger the hard work has to do with the work is to do much more
00:43:25and how to do the work obviously first
00:43:27So he has to put his heart and soul into stopping abuse and in this he has to remember this simple rule that
00:43:36There is no justification for abuse
00:43:39Whenever you tell the abuser that you scold and hit and yell and treat the child like this then he will say
00:43:43Hey, I do a little bit of Sahi or the child is so difficult, see or my life is so sad or
00:43:50This is the problem, I work hard on it
00:43:54It is all right that it cannot happen, nobody is challenging that, nobody is confronting that, but that is not
00:44:01Justify abuse, stop it immediately, tell this to the sane parent in a loud, clear, firm voice.
00:44:09Is
00:44:09Don't say it in anger, I want to say it firmly, so stop it immediately, as soon as you start.
00:44:16I should do it as much as I can in my childhood, it would be very good if once I follow that pattern
00:44:20It is very difficult to set it.
00:44:38If it happens then it will be fine. I would also tell the other partner that the problem with you is my mental stress.
00:44:42That's why it has become abusive or has it become worse than any other in your life because of my hijab?
00:44:49Thousand lakh crore product
00:45:03If you don't want to get into justification then why not do it?
00:45:13You are not very happy with it or abuse and you will have to work hard on yourself, so this is you
00:45:25Cross One Akh Gar F
00:45:29This family also keeps on complaining from behind that this is not a problem at all, it is not that, oh dear.
00:45:34Thing Meaning
00:45:35Now this is the main method but it is to separate it from other methods in legal help.
00:45:42Now but you up you what that propel is the one that is being legal now Bhad mlen par do
00:45:46It is a separate legal entity, it is legal, but the one with two applications, this one is a little more complicated, that one is a big attacker.
00:45:52Vidu can't do anything
00:46:09So, you are ready to accept his family and are ready to learn the treatment from him.
00:46:27need weeks
00:46:28When the seeds of your seeds were planted, even if they were not ready, we were very helpless in this matter.
00:46:35I have to continue my marriage, what should I say to the world or leave it.
00:46:39you need to save the child
00:46:41you need to
00:46:41Only then will the child be able to live, only then will he get the courage, otherwise he will have to think that
00:46:45This abuse, beating and abuse is life.
00:46:49So Madhab, who is a sane parent, has a huge role in this.
00:46:53Especially when the abusive parent is the breadwinner, then the matter becomes even more difficult.
00:47:01It is very difficult if you watch this video, there is no direct answer in this but I think that still if you watch it
00:47:10Parental abuse is also with you, I think you should not be afraid, if you want another person, he is also the bread winner but
00:47:14There is no point in this
00:47:30Choisar chahiye hona chahiye hona bahut minat hai mein sepresiyog in me slasha to shona then i a chia chuchle
00:47:39When in a sapswash then this thitrataye agar aaj toh unne koi to tadman koi mein ke vahi bin
00:47:44And why did I not hear any words?
00:47:59I have seen a lot, such things do not happen in our India, I also had very high marks.
00:48:04So that means that
00:48:05Jana princhishya nahi hoti humein indians prem ko ektani me aur us princhim kar aakh toh yeh vischaya kahra
00:48:11This is the view that the child is not happy with such a thing that even if he is not happy, the child is here that I am in trouble.
00:48:17I am here, you give me fish
00:48:20you have to listen to that, you have to trust that
00:48:23somehow we just cross this heavy stuff
00:48:25Pattai Kadar, the wound of friendship and the gap of friendship
00:48:28Everything we discussed in Inti Inquests
00:48:30But parenting is just a control game, isn't it?
00:48:33that I controlled you
00:48:34Another tension also comes along with the companion
00:48:36That tension is that my parents' dreams
00:48:39And what my dreams
00:48:41Now I have to bridge these in this life time.
00:48:44Otherwise it will be my life or waste.
00:48:50So Pulkit Sir
00:48:52This is a fight between doctor engineer versus dancer actor.
00:48:57I'll explain this a little bit in the next section called
00:49:02Parents' Dreams vs Children's Dreams
00:49:05Yehets Diskta
00:49:07These are my bodies you have written
00:49:11Parents want their child to become their own, in which they become
00:49:14Become an Activist
00:49:15I became a Bhatiya but it is said that I became a YouTuber. Tale
00:49:23This new shift, this complete interior shift, was it always there, is it something new?
00:49:29I think shift
00:49:30So look it was always there because as I said no if the child
00:49:44The extension that nature has given you is that each and every one of you is very beautiful.
00:49:51Like
00:49:53You have been given a life in your hands, you actually have to focus on that life and see to it
00:50:01In which way that life can grow beautifully, then
00:50:08I think the only duty or work of parents is to be loving and guiding.
00:50:15He is a good supporter, a good guru and a good observer, and whatever else he has unfulfilled dreams, he fulfils them himself.
00:50:22Do it according to me
00:50:34He has not even done this life yet, I will go into it again, they are also like this in this
00:50:40We go then life is there adir bhur is there me aksara hoong kyunki yeh do wah prtrung ka tho
00:50:47Emphasis Tha Bahaut Proof Do
00:50:50I have made a vow that I can overcome my ego.
00:50:54Look at this think, that is why children make it straw, they love their parents so much.
00:51:00So it becomes clear that there are so many particles that it causes a lot of discomfort.
00:51:16You should understand that this was a negative thinking, that if you do this then you will be very
00:51:2516thIN, UK
00:51:28That many life me aise idea ko se vich yah ab to imprimatur in ea not imprimatur is ne
00:51:36Talk to your child's face, it is not important that your father wanted you to become a doctor or your mother wanted you to become a doctor.
00:51:41If you wanted to be a dancer, you
00:51:44This is not the top, this is not the normal life, this is normal, puncture
00:51:49Is,
00:51:50Inko kamaf share hai, thik thang way mein settle hain,
00:51:55And if you have a good bond with your parents and they are taking care of you, then don't let this guilt get you down.
00:52:02should be given
00:52:02I should tell you that if I get rid of the children's anal then I should hide it which will take root from the unit.
00:52:10If you don't want to get a good result, do something near the temple.
00:52:32Person and of from Veera Dhirah Aflig Dekiye Fel Appligeti Is Ise Kisi Ne Rahale Ko Apke Liye Tha To
00:52:40Today is for this, so for this one, you are so many, he is so many
00:52:46Parshuj's own grain is constantly being fed to me.
00:52:52That if whatever the parents did for them is the same as what they are doing for their parents today.
00:52:58It does not occur to anyone that many such people become doctors.
00:53:00Doctor engineer Badar dancer actor if he doesn't talk to his parents properly then it is of no use.
00:53:06that you have settled down and so
00:53:08Parents matter, so even if your children grow up, no matter what you do, just focus on bond.
00:53:14How to keep that bond alive, yes keep it alive, not Adhiya and see, this is also our life
00:53:20Let's talk about the bicycle that same tie
00:53:35So okay, forget that Papa says that you will make a big name, it did not happen, it did not happen to me.
00:53:40It seems that even the names of great people would have been very philosophical about this and if you look at history, history
00:53:47The entire history of the period
00:54:01Ours you are afraid that there are many so what is this Saduniya there to come from blood is this a
00:54:05Nahi Ghante Gaye Par Dalegong Farhad Nahi Hone Livat Liye Bhut Me Chote Hain Poord She Didgi Me Paretya
00:54:26I could not become my daughter's
00:54:56I will keep making it
00:54:57I saw what I had done to my son.
00:54:59so he's teaching other kids
00:55:02but the father-son relationship is
00:55:06you can sense it doesn't exist
00:55:08The Americans should also consider this
00:55:11That's what I'm spinning
00:55:12A narcissistic pleasure, isn't it?
00:55:13That this is my son, so this is Perence
00:55:15That my son became this
00:55:19became an I.S. officer
00:55:20Became an actor, became a doctor
00:55:22So this is narcissistic happiness.
00:55:23That's just fine, I thought.
00:55:25The real happiness is that it is not Bond
00:55:27If you love a child
00:55:45If it became
00:55:49If it became
00:55:50So we've forgotten those fundamentals.
00:55:51that we will not pay attention to that relationship
00:55:54We will focus on how to make it that way.
00:55:56Maybe just accepting
00:55:57the grace of being the parent
00:55:59right
00:56:00I say there is a lot of grace in this
00:56:02Those who don't want children
00:56:04Kids, they get pushed around so much
00:56:06Where do you not go
00:56:07I think that whoever becomes a parent, he will experience this a lot.
00:56:14It's a matter of grace
00:56:16and I think you should have a lot of gratitude
00:56:18towards the divine, the nature
00:56:20and towards the child
00:56:21It is the child who made us parents.
00:56:23So keep that gratitude in mind.
00:56:26And approach parenting in the same spirit.
00:56:28right so dreams to
00:56:30became clear
00:56:31Go to IIT or make reels
00:56:33it's completely up to the child and to the parents'
00:56:35consent
00:56:36The question now becomes this
00:56:38How parents raise their children in their own style
00:56:40One could be that
00:56:43helicopter style
00:56:44I am hovering around
00:56:46or drone style
00:56:47I am hovering around and following you everywhere wherever you are
00:56:50this is one style
00:56:52and other is like
00:56:53whatever you want to do
00:56:54you want to do, you want to do, you want to die, you want to die
00:56:56you want to go to bed
00:56:58you want to go to bed
00:57:02these two kinds of
00:57:04these two styles of parenting
00:57:05we are going to explore in this next section
00:57:08both are okay
00:57:09your son is your life
00:57:11your son is your child
00:57:12how are you?
00:57:14both are okay
00:57:18so tell me
00:57:18which one
00:57:19which one
00:57:19which kind of parent
00:57:20the drone parent
00:57:22or the
00:57:24do anything parents
00:57:25which one creates more
00:57:26long term damage
00:57:27I am not talking short term damage
00:57:29I think I see
00:57:30Both are very extreme styles.
00:57:33you know and I think both
00:57:35both
00:57:35which one creates a lot of
00:57:37long term damage
00:57:37how?
00:57:39because if you are a drone style
00:57:41you are behind it
00:57:42you are doing a movement
00:57:43you are doing a spoon feed
00:57:45you are going to panic
00:57:47so you will never give that space
00:57:50that you find yourself
00:57:52and build yourself
00:57:54that will always
00:57:55it will always be a weak
00:57:56crippled child
00:57:57you know
00:57:58I have seen such cases
00:58:01in your own work
00:58:02you have seen some of those
00:58:02in real life
00:58:03that they call a problem
00:58:05they call to a problem
00:58:05they call to a problem
00:58:09That mother and father guide with great joy, they feel that it is our work, it is our great contribution that now
00:58:16I will guide you till now and sacrifice it is a mistake that till now the child feels that he is an adult, he should be 16.
00:58:21At the age of 17, 18, he should be able to understand Mosley things.
00:58:29And also tachide ko abhi and ye pripal child va dyav stin ven lagay avyav diven varvi tak vidid
00:58:35This is the first step towards helping the child in his apprenticeships and also helping his sister in his friendships.
00:58:59For this, you actually need a lot of guidance about what is right and what is wrong.
00:59:05You need support, you need comfort, you need to, you need to be there, so
00:59:12many times when you need to talk to someone and figure out things you know
00:59:15yeah of course huh to free range this is what happens is that the child moves on his own
00:59:20He often takes lives from very strange places and he also has no life.
00:59:27How can one live with maturity, you know wisdom doesn't come, come on, be a little street smart.
00:59:32Who will think that I did it this way, I did it that way, one has to live life with wisdom.
00:59:36Being street smart and the thing that I've done is jack of all trades ina this too
00:59:42Aga
00:59:42If he goes to handle it, he will never learn to live life with wisdom and live a good life, then this is what should happen.
00:59:50Needed
00:59:50It is not a matter of one style that this is my style, this is wrong.
01:00:07And this is dynamic, this change will keep happening, we have to pay more attention to this situation.
01:00:13Leave it to you
01:00:14This is how it has to be done on stage, there is no big set formula in it, this is a very interesting thing.
01:00:20People who read a lot of books on printing
01:00:36I say that if you sit and listen to a book by a personality like me, what he is saying
01:00:42And today he is saying something to you, something about art that will really confuse you.
01:00:45unless you have your own sense you need to develop your own sense
01:00:48Develop your sense by taking inputs, do not blindly follow any book or expert, no one knows.
01:00:55your child no one knows you no one knows your child you know
01:00:58No one knows what will be right for your child or your situation.
01:01:04What would be correct in
01:01:05maybe we can put it in this way maybe with age starting off like a drone parent and then slowly
01:01:12as the child age is you know leaving things to him or her
01:01:17see again that should not be what we don't have to fix it in any life stage because in childhood
01:01:22you have to leave it in a lot of places you have to leave it in a lot of places
01:01:35So you have to leave it open from the beginning and keep in mind that it is very situation specific and you have to constantly look at it.
01:01:41That said what to do
01:01:42right
01:01:43And one style is not to be adopted at all, people say that we are free style.
01:01:46We are drone style too
01:01:48balancing
01:01:49balancing
01:01:50This style while this will not happen
01:01:52I have known this from the beginning and it is my great desire to kill you.
01:02:05Other pairs of parsuche na hai prasuche that pata thudina first sucha luche I need to suchhna what to do here
01:02:10Is
01:02:10He is so lazy that he is so busy that he is doing this and he is so happy that he wants to become one.
01:02:16Ya nahi bana hai ya lagta hai kyun peentiban khivet ki tut sutri sam creo lagakesh disdha hai toh kyun
01:02:22Becoming a human being is very important to you.
01:02:29I'll tell you why, personal growth, personal growth, I have seen it from my experience, because
01:02:34that before I was too much self-focused, you know, everything was about me, you know,
01:02:39and I am also because I am only child, so only child is very focused on me, so I was
01:02:43I'm also very focused on myself,
01:02:46and that is a good and bad way, you have a good and bad way, but I think the day
01:02:54I became a father,
01:02:55I have seen it very automatically, that focus was very focused on me, and that was important for my own
01:03:02growth,
01:03:03otherwise, my life is the same, I, me, myself, you know, so that is one of the stages of life,
01:03:12aging, growth,
01:03:14naturally goes on, naturally goes on, the fun thing is that now I have to say to any other person,
01:03:18fight, creator or donkey could ever call uncle, there must be no trouble, I have seen it,
01:03:23and those parents because that Victor you've raised the糖 personally, how do you want to be
01:03:27older, our uncle went on, Jai, the dear uncle, Jai, what do you want to do, as you are pretty
01:03:29young, what you have said to me, you may have never asked uncle, a big uncle would for me,
01:03:35one of the things I have said, I have never ever asked where uncle will be, both mixed in
01:03:35my uncle, okay, but if you know someone who has either son, or someone who has one son as an
01:03:38uncle,
01:03:38you will be your nearest father and uncle is, yes, that's what I mean, you can get into abortion,
01:03:43Let's take you to give because you take it from live on the app, let's go to big childhood
01:03:54You have friends there who give the money but there is a balance between what you are getting and what is happening.
01:04:00Romantic Relationships and Marriage
01:04:12There was a coup in the beginning of Shayari where a man does not get happiness and despite his hard work he does not get it.
01:04:18I met this girl and she was still a child, I just wanted to do that much and my friends would be happy.
01:04:24I felt like such a sbishtishki parent
01:04:41Stiles, how to raise a child.
01:04:45Now we are just equating them with today's challenge in this next question.
01:04:51So what is the toughest challenge today's generation faces when it comes to parenting?
01:04:55Something that most people don't talk about, the challenge.
01:04:59Like phone is an issue, screen time, stress and everything.
01:05:02Is there anything that we have left out?
01:05:04I think the biggest challenge is information overload.
01:05:11You know, I mean, when parents become a child, there is so much of information, so much, there is a
01:05:18whole sea of information.
01:05:20That you can read the child, read the child, read the child, read the child.
01:05:23And I see that people read a book and think about it, and watch a video and think about it.
01:05:29They listen to someone else, they say that someone's big old man says that they should do it, and they
01:05:33think about it.
01:05:34So there is a big confusion and chaos.
01:05:36And this problem comes when you have a lot of information.
01:05:38Because you don't know what is right, what is wrong, what will work, what will not work.
01:05:43So I think this is also very important.
01:05:46Look, this is because our life is constant, that there is a lot of information.
01:05:49But I think, you should listen to everyone.
01:05:52But make your instinct and finally do it yourself.
01:05:55You know, don't follow anyone blindly.
01:05:57You should see, you should listen to this, you should listen to this.
01:06:00And always see the behavior of your child.
01:06:04If you are doing something from that, there is a benefit or a benefit.
01:06:07If you are a benefit, you should be a big expert in the world,
01:06:11or a big parenting book, just keep it aside.
01:06:15Let your child be the teacher, you know.
01:06:17That's what I would say.
01:06:18Interesting, no?
01:06:18Thank you.
01:06:19Jhal Jhal