00:00So, we need to convince ourselves, we need to really convince ourselves that yes, I want to change, change is
00:10good, change is desirable and change has to be brought about.
00:14Right. This is something that some of you may have experienced that when we are, you know, like we were
00:21talking about anger or any other negative emotion. So, at one point in time, we are very convinced that yes,
00:28this needs to be changed or we need to work on it.
00:32But, after a few days and after, you know, or after a while, this conviction goes away. So, what do
00:41you think happens? What takes away this conviction? Justification, yes.
00:47We justify our anger. We justify our anger. Meaning that I make a resolve that fine, I will not be
00:53angry and, you know, I will try my best to be calm and I try to act on it.
01:01And, what happens is that after three, four days, someone comes and, you know, says something nasty to me and
01:13I get very angry and I do remember somewhere my resolve that I am in fact working on not being
01:20angry.
01:21But, as he very rightly said, I end up justifying it. I say that no, this one context is really,
01:28really bad, you know, and something has to be done. I can't be quiet and, you know, I go back
01:36to the same old way once again.
01:37Yelling, shouting, yelling, shouting, you know, doing these things. We need to be really 100% convinced that a particular
01:47emotion is problematic, dysfunction, not bad. No emotion is bad but it is dysfunction, it's problematic and we need to
01:56be 100% convinced.
01:58Only then we will, you know, wish to change, we will work hard towards change and change will happen. Without
02:04this conviction, the change is not going to happen.
02:07Exactly.
