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Alethia Tucker - Jolease Enterprises
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Join Coach Alethia Tucker as she brings conversation, resources, and wisdom around the things that are holding you back from going for your best. She'll talk everyday life and career and hold dialogue designed to dig deep and identify your passions. There are levels to this! We all have dreams and now is our time to level up.
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Join Coach Alethia Tucker as she brings conversation, resources, and wisdom around the things that are holding you back from going for your best. She'll talk everyday life and career and hold dialogue designed to dig deep and identify your passions. There are levels to this! We all have dreams and now is our time to level up.
Listen in to episodes from Thought For Thursday, Leveling Up the Podcast and the Journey Share Community
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00:03New day, new way, turn it up, lean in 15 minutes, let the change begin
00:19Busy life, big dreams, so much noise in your ears
00:24We cut straight through, make the next step clear
00:30Thought for Thursday, real talk, real tools right now
00:34In 15 we move the dial, simple steps, strong moves, you'll see how
00:41Thought for Thursday, clarity that sticks to your feeling
00:44From insight to action and impact that stays
00:48Thought for Thursday, let's change a day
00:51Hello! Not sure where I went just then, but anyway, welcome!
00:57Happy to have you here on Thought for Thursday
01:01We are just a slight bit late, but we are here nonetheless
01:06And I'm happy to be here with you
01:10Welcome again, just as I've said
01:12You know, Thought for Thursday is the portion of leveling up the podcast
01:19That we bring to you on Thursday evenings
01:22For all of 15 minutes, we come to you
01:25And we tackle a topic that we know is important to you
01:30We tackle a topic that we know may show some pain points for you
01:35And before we're finished, when you leave, after those 15 minutes
01:40You're going to have five tools that you can use
01:43To get on the other side of whatever that dilemma
01:47Whatever that problem, whatever that thing is
01:49That we have decided to tackle tonight
01:51That resonates with you, all right?
01:55So again, welcome, I'm happy to have you here
01:58I teased a bit when we talked about this episode
02:01And I told you that I was going to be talking about clarity and confidence
02:06And it's based on something that I learned over the weekend
02:10While attending the LOSD conference at Harvard University
02:15During the conference, there was a pitch competition
02:19And investors were allowed to hear from those who had products
02:23Who had services, who had businesses
02:25That they wanted to expand, that they wanted to grow
02:31And these people were looking for capital in order to grow that
02:34So much like you would do a sharp tank
02:37It was something like that
02:38And what mesmerized me
02:41And if you read or saw my weekly newsletter
02:43You know that I talked about this a bit
02:46Is what I saw from those people
02:51They knew their product in and out
02:53They had absolutely no thought about
02:59They had thought of everything
03:01They thought about what they had thus far
03:04They thought about where they wanted to go
03:06And the resources they needed in order to grow
03:09And what the potential was
03:11And how things were looking on the market for their topic
03:13And what it is that they had established already
03:16They had statistics for the growth that they had achieved
03:20And statistics for the growth that they could achieve
03:22That they got the backing
03:24They were able to present their product
03:28They were able to present their pitch
03:30And they were able to do it confidently
03:33Because they were clear on what it is that they were seeking
03:38They were clear on what it was
03:40That they were looking to get the backing for
03:45So as we start out tonight
03:47I want to start with a question to you
03:50What are you waiting on?
03:53All right
03:54Or what are you waiting to feel
03:56Before you move?
03:59Confident enough to raise your hand for the promotion
04:02Or confident enough to start the business
04:06Confident enough to say the hard thing out loud
04:08To reinvent your life
04:11Maybe you have told yourself
04:14You know, you'll apply for something
04:16Once you feel more like it is you who's doing it
04:21Or once you feel more like yourself
04:24I've heard people say that
04:26Well, I'm not really me right now
04:27I'm going to wait until I feel a little more like myself
04:30All right
04:31Maybe you're on the edge of a decision
04:33And you're waiting for that feeling
04:35To kind of just show up first
04:37Before you can make that move
04:39And I want to tell you
04:41What I recently watched happen before me
04:45Really is going to change the order
04:48That you've kind of been doing things
04:49I hope at least
04:52I mentioned last week
04:53How many of us are waiting for permission slips
04:55To do what it is that we want to do
04:57When we really need to sign our own permission slip
04:59And give ourselves permission to do it
05:01And stop looking to others
05:03We're no longer, you know, children
05:05Where we have to get our parents' permission
05:07Or someone else's permission to do something
05:09We are the ones who give ourselves the permission
05:15But what we frequently do is
05:18We kind of tell ourselves, you know, caution or patience
05:22Or something of that nature
05:25And maybe we need to be a little more perfect
05:28In what it is that we do
05:30But underneath, it's often kind of fear
05:34That's wearing that disguise, right?
05:36And here's the hard part
05:37For a lot of us, that feeling never fully arrives
05:41Because we're not ready
05:43Because we've kind of got things backwards
05:46And we don't have them in order
05:49So what I saw from these people
05:52Speaking of order
05:54They were confident, all right?
05:57Because they were clear
05:59And that's what I want us to understand
06:02And to grasp the night
06:05Tonight
06:05They gave all the strong reasons
06:07Why the investors should bet on them
06:10And the one who stood out the loudest
06:13And the one who was most polished
06:16Is the one who was absolutely clear
06:20Had done all the research
06:22Had found all the information
06:23Had been working
06:25And had done trials and errors
06:28And found errors
06:29And found what worked
06:30And found what didn't work
06:31So that when they went to present themselves
06:34They were clear
06:38So we've been taught that
06:40The confidence that we have
06:42Is a feeling that you build up
06:44Before you act
06:45But confidence really isn't the starting point
06:49It's the byproduct
06:50It's what clarity sounds like
06:53Once you've said it out loud
06:56So when you know exactly what it is that you need
06:59Exactly what you've done
07:00And exactly, you know, what you're asking for
07:03You don't have to kind of manufacture confidence
07:05You're confident because you know, right?
07:08It shows up kind of on its own
07:11And it's because you're not really guessing anymore
07:14You are the founder
07:16Who has found the information
07:20You know, you are able to manage your nerves
07:23Because you know what you know
07:25Now you may be nervous for other reasons
07:27But it's not because you don't know your product
07:30You don't know what you need
07:33It's not because you're not clear
07:35And clarity doesn't require a degree
07:38Doesn't require a title or permission from anybody
07:42It really just requires you to sit down
07:45And get honest about what you actually know to be true
07:50So for those of you who aren't confident
07:54I want you to consider the fact
07:57Is it really that
07:59Why is it that you're not confident?
08:02Is it because you're not clear?
08:04And if that's the case
08:06Understand that clarity precedes that confidence
08:09And you're able to be so confident
08:11And you're clear on the direction that you want to go
08:14So let's make this practical
08:18I want to give you some information
08:20So grab yourself a journal
08:21Grab yourself some paper
08:22I need you to write for this one
08:24Because the first tool is an exercise
08:26That I want you to do with me right now
08:30All right
08:31So the first tool is a clarity audit
08:37And I know we've talked clarity before
08:39But this is why I want you to understand
08:43What I want you to understand
08:44You can't walk into a room
08:45Real or metaphorical
08:48And ask for something vague
08:50And expect people or yourself to bet on you
08:53All right
08:55How to use it
08:56All right
08:57You want to
08:58What I want you to do right now
09:00Is to take your journal
09:02Right now
09:03And write down three answers
09:05All right
09:06One
09:06What do I actually need to get to my next level?
09:11Not more confidence or more support
09:14A specific thing
09:15What is it that I need?
09:17I need to be clear on the requirements
09:20I need to do this job
09:21I need to be clear on the resources I need
09:24To do this job
09:26A dollar amount
09:27A skill
09:28A conversation
09:29A decision
09:30Okay
09:32Two
09:34What evidence do you have
09:36Okay
09:37That you can perform at this next level?
09:39Now you've heard me
09:41In talking about confidence
09:42And combating those negative naysayers
09:45That kind of like to hang on your earlobe
09:47And get right in your ear
09:49Those voices
09:50That are telling you
09:51You can't do something
09:52You've heard me talking about
09:53Combating those voices
09:55With giving an evidence of what you can do
09:57All right
09:58So what I want you to do right now
10:00Is think about some evidence that you have
10:03That you can perform at the next level
10:05Write that down
10:07The next thing
10:09What is the one ask
10:10That you would make
10:11If someone offered to invest in you today?
10:15What would you ask them for?
10:18You know
10:18And instead of writing
10:19I need to feel ready to start my business
10:21Write
10:21I need three thousand dollars for certification
10:24And one client testimonial
10:27Before I launch
10:28That's clarity
10:31That's what moves you
10:33So again
10:34Write those things down
10:36We did this first tool together
10:38One
10:41What do you actually need
10:42To get to the next level?
10:44All right
10:44What evidence do you already have
10:47That you can perform at that level?
10:49And then
10:50What is the one ask
10:51That you would make
10:52If someone were to invest in you today?
10:55All right
10:55Let's go on to the second one
10:57Because I know
10:58That we have
11:00Fifteen minutes
11:01All right
11:01The one ask
11:05We've talked about that
11:06Just a little bit
11:07But
11:09Vague requests
11:10Kind of get vague responses
11:11And I want you to understand that
11:13So specific requests
11:16Really do get your real response
11:19Right
11:19So
11:21How
11:21I want
11:23Or what I want you to do
11:24Is
11:25Before any meeting
11:26Any negotiation that you go to
11:28Or any hard conversation that you have
11:30Reduce what it is that you want
11:32To one clear sentence
11:34For example
11:35Instead of
11:36I want more responsibility at work
11:38Say
11:38I want to lead the quarter four project
11:41Or
11:42I want to
11:44Make sure that we start a new project
11:46And here is why I believe that
11:49This is what you're doing
11:51When you are making that one ask
11:53You want to be clear
11:55On what it is that you need
11:57All right
11:58Present it
11:59In that way
12:01All right
12:02Let's step back just a second
12:03Because there's one I did want to talk about
12:05Before that
12:06And that's the metrics file
12:07What's the metrics file?
12:10Well
12:10You know
12:11A founder of
12:12Any organization
12:13Thinking back to
12:14Over the weekend
12:15They could speak
12:16You know
12:16With certainty
12:17Because
12:18They had their data on hand
12:20Right
12:20They weren't guessing about the progress
12:22So what you need to do
12:24Is to start keeping an ongoing file
12:26Of your own wins
12:27Your results
12:29And your feedback
12:30So that when the moment comes
12:33To speak for yourself
12:34You're not searching
12:35Under pressure
12:38You've got it in your memory
12:40For example
12:41Every Sunday
12:42You know
12:43Write down one thing you did
12:45Well that week
12:46And even something small
12:47Like handling a
12:48You know
12:49A hard conversation
12:50Calmly
12:51It's not
12:52Big
12:53Earth shattering
12:55Things that we're looking for here
12:56Remember
12:57We are seeking clarity
12:59So that we can grow
13:00And growth often happens
13:02In small increments
13:04They don't often happen
13:05We don't eat the entire elephant
13:07In one bite
13:08Right
13:10All right
13:10So we've talked about
13:11The clarity audit
13:12We've talked about
13:13The metrics file
13:14We've talked about
13:15The one ask
13:16What's something else
13:18What about
13:19Move before
13:21You feel ready
13:23Now what am I talking about
13:25When I say that
13:27Why
13:27Now confidence
13:29Is generated by action
13:31Not by waiting
13:32So
13:33You build it
13:34By doing
13:35The thing
13:36You don't do it
13:38By settling
13:40Or by
13:41Feeling settled
13:42Before you do it
13:43So what I want you to do
13:45Is pick the smallest next step
13:47That you can take
13:48Toward what you want
13:49And take it now
13:50Take it today
13:52Before the feeling
13:53Of
13:53Readiness shows up
13:55Before
13:57Everything
13:58In the boxes
13:59Are checked
14:00Take that
14:01Small step
14:02Send the email
14:03Submit the application
14:05Book the consultation
14:07Do it today
14:08Not once
14:09You feel
14:10Brave enough
14:11To do it
14:12Now what's the last thing
14:14I want you to look at things
14:17Through
14:17The investor
14:19Lens
14:20What am I saying
14:22When I say that
14:24Seeing
14:24Look at yourself
14:26The way an investor
14:27Would force you
14:28Or the way an investor
14:30Would
14:30When you do that
14:32It kind of forces you
14:33To
14:34To
14:34Move from that area
14:36Of being vague
14:38Move from that area
14:39Of vague hope
14:41Into
14:41Really an honest
14:42Evaluation
14:43So ask yourself
14:45If you were deciding
14:47Whether to invest
14:48Your own time
14:50And money
14:52In you
14:53Right now
14:54All right
14:55What would you need
14:56To say
14:56Yes
14:57All right
14:59If you were deciding
15:00Whether to invest
15:02Your time
15:02And your money
15:03In me
15:05In you
15:06Right now
15:07What is it that you
15:08Would need to say
15:09Yes
15:09Think about it
15:11Then go build
15:12That evidence
15:13All right
15:14One piece
15:16At a time
15:16Remember
15:16Small bites
15:18Small steps
15:19Will still take you
15:21On the journey
15:21It will still
15:22Get you there
15:23So
15:24For example
15:25If consistency
15:26Is what
15:26Would convince you
15:27To bet on someone else
15:29Then start there
15:30Show up consistently
15:31For 30 days
15:32And track it
15:33All right
15:34So five things
15:36Five things
15:37Five tools
15:38That are going
15:40To help you
15:41In that area
15:42Of clarity
15:43Five real things
15:44That you can do
15:45To move
15:46And to get you
15:47Going
15:48So that you
15:48Stop waiting
15:50All right
15:51That you are clear
15:53On where it is
15:54You can go
15:54So that when
15:55You start to move
15:57And you understand
15:58And you start
15:59Presenting what it is
16:00That you need
16:01There's no question
16:04You're confident
16:05And you don't
16:06Have a problem
16:07Stepping out there
16:09So what I want
16:10You to walk away
16:11With is you
16:12Don't need to
16:12Feel confident
16:13To take your
16:14Next step
16:14You need that
16:15Clarity
16:15You need to
16:16Get clear
16:17It's something
16:17You can build
16:18Even starting
16:19Today
16:20Right now
16:21Pen
16:22Piece of paper
16:23Regardless of
16:24How you feel
16:26Confidence isn't
16:26The price of
16:27Admission
16:28All right
16:29For reinvention
16:30It's the receipt
16:31You get
16:32After you've
16:33Done the work
16:34Of getting clear
16:35And taking the step
16:36Anyway
16:38So stop getting ready
16:40To get ready
16:42Stop waiting
16:44To feel ready
16:45Go ahead
16:46And get clear
16:47Instead
16:47And let the confidence
16:49Catch up to you
16:50On the way
16:51All right
16:52And listen
16:53We're still doing
16:55The identity shift
16:56Method
16:56All of this
16:59Actually takes
17:00Into account
17:01The clarity
17:02That's needed
17:02To get you
17:03To the next
17:03Level
17:04We see
17:05The clear
17:05Steps
17:06We even
17:06Have solutions
17:07And tools
17:08For you
17:09When you get
17:09In that
17:10Unclear step
17:11When you step
17:11Into that
17:12Gap
17:13That I refer
17:14To in the
17:14Identity shift
17:15Model
17:15If you want
17:17More information
17:18On that
17:18We're getting
17:19Started
17:19Real soon
17:20Make sure
17:21That you
17:22Go here
17:23Find out
17:23More
17:24Find out
17:24The details
17:25And let's
17:26Have a conversation
17:27Because I know
17:29That the method
17:29Works
17:30And I know
17:31The success
17:32And not just
17:33With individuals
17:34But with organizations
17:35And helping you
17:36To get from
17:37The point
17:38Of recognition
17:39To rebuilding
17:40To reorganizing
17:43To releasing
17:43And to rising
17:44It can work
17:47Go out
17:48And be yourself
17:49Authentically you
17:50You're the best
17:51You
17:52The best version
17:53Of you
17:53Out there
17:54Go out
17:54And show it
17:55To something
17:55Make a difference
17:56In what it is
17:57That you do
17:57We need the difference
17:58That only you can make
17:59Make sure
18:01That you're growing
18:01In what you do
18:02Make sure
18:03That you understand
18:04Your worth
18:05And your value
18:06Because it is there
18:08It is there
18:09Despite what the
18:10Little naysaying voices
18:11May be trying to tell you
18:12You are a person
18:13Of great value
18:14You are fearfully
18:15And wonderfully made
18:17I want you to
18:19Always understand that
18:20Make sure
18:21That you go out
18:22Being yourself
18:23Like I said
18:24You're the best
18:24Version of you
18:25That is out there
18:26Take care of yourself
18:28In this world
18:29Where so much
18:31Is going on
18:31And it's so easy
18:33To get lost
18:33And kind of
18:34Lose our way
18:35Make sure
18:36That you do
18:37All that you can
18:38To be your best self
18:40And make sure
18:41Until we see
18:42Each other again
18:43That you do
18:44What's necessary
18:45To stay
18:46To be
18:47And always focus
18:49On being well
18:55New day
18:56New day
19:03New way
19:04Turn it up
19:06Lean in
19:06Fifteen minutes
19:08Let the change begin
19:10Busy life
19:12Big dreams
19:13So much noise
19:15In your ears
19:16We cut straight through
19:17Make the next step
19:18Clear
19:21Thought for Thursday
19:23Real talk
19:24Real tools
19:25Right now
19:26In fifteen
19:27We move the dial
19:28Simple steps
19:30Strong moves
19:31You'll see how
19:32Thought for Thursday
19:33Clarity that speaks
19:34You'll feel it
19:35From insight to action
19:37And
19:37Pack that
19:39Space
19:39Thought for Thursday
19:41Let's change a day
19:43About days
19:43Path of Thursday
19:43To be
19:43In fifteen
19:44In fifteen
19:44In fifteen
19:44In jed