00:09the question that never gets answered. Overthinking feels like work. That is what
00:16makes it so hard to stop. It has the shape of problem solving, you are concentrating,
00:22considering angles, taking it seriously. It feels responsible. But there is a difference
00:28between thinking and circling, and it shows up in one place. Thinking arrives somewhere.
00:35Circling does not. Jesus asked a question that has never been answered. Can any one of you by
00:41worrying add a single hour to your life? Nobody has managed it. Not once. Worry has never added an
00:49hour, solved a problem, or changed an outcome. It only rehearses. And rehearsing costs something.
00:56Every hour spent inside a conversation that has not happened is an hour you are not living in the
01:03one in front of you. The people in the room get whatever is left over. So here is a way
01:10to tell
01:10the difference, and it takes about ten seconds. Ask, what would I do differently if I knew the
01:17answer right now? If there is a real action, send the message, make the call, prepare the thing,
01:23then this is thinking, and you can go and do it. If the honest answer is nothing, I would just
01:28feel
01:29better, then this is not a problem being solved. It is a loop, and loops do not have exits. They
01:35have
01:36to be stepped out of. Stepping out is not the same as not caring. You can take something seriously and
01:43still refuse to rehearse it forty times. Today's step. Next time a thought comes back for the third time,
01:50ask what you would actually do differently if you had the answer. Then either do that one thing or name
01:56it as a loop and let it be a loop.
