00:00Even like if he gives me a compliment, I'm like, yeah, I'm like, pants down.
00:08Relationships are constantly growing and evolving, and sex does that too.
00:12It ebbs and flows as we grow up, as we deal with change, as we face the shit that life
00:17throws at us.
00:18Like all things, finding balance with your partner is key.
00:21This is how to love.
00:23How many times a week do you guys have sex now?
00:25I don't know, maybe once a week or like four to five times a month.
00:30Yeah.
00:31For him, it would be every day.
00:33For me, it will be every other day.
00:35But I'm tired a lot of the time.
00:37And we were supposed to do that thing too, where we were supposed to like have sex every day for
00:41like a month.
00:42I think that was like a Refinery29 thing that we saw.
00:45And Angel was like, oh, this is great.
00:47We should try this.
00:48We had day one, and there was not even a day two.
00:51We can start.
00:51It was literally like, like grand opening, grand closing, you know?
00:56Please.
00:57That's like, that's a hard question because it's always different.
01:00One if I'm lucky.
01:01No, because you know what the thing is when you're together for a really long time, it just depends on
01:05what's going on in your life.
01:06Yeah.
01:07We kind of like hit like hard times, like for both of us.
01:10So because women are so emotional and their sex drive so depends on everything kind of aligning.
01:15But she was in a really bad mental state, so it made sense.
01:20Like I didn't take it that personally, but I was also like, are we doomed to the lesbian bed death?
01:26Like, you know what I mean?
01:27No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
01:29How has sex changed the longer that you've been together?
01:33No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:52I didn't want to try because she was very depressed
01:56from the loss of her brother.
01:58New York City is a very exhausting place to live in.
02:02I work in production.
02:03A lot of those days are very early and very long.
02:07So by the time I get home, I'm just, I'm literally exhausted.
02:10I just wouldn't be as enthused.
02:12It's not fair to me, it's not fair to him.
02:14You know, so just the lifestyle has changed.
02:17I think personally I was a little selfish about it,
02:20but now it's more of like, alright, let me please her again,
02:25let me make sure she's satisfied first, you know.
02:28It's awesome.
02:28So it's been working out and I think that puts her in the mood more for next time.
02:35How do you guys show affection in other ways then?
02:38If you're not having sex as much,
02:41what are the ways that you guys show affection to one another?
02:43I don't know, sometimes you'll just come up and like give me a kiss.
02:46You don't do that that often, so whenever you do it,
02:49it like makes me really happy.
02:50It reminds me of like our relationship and you know,
02:55like how much I mean to you.
03:18If you could describe your sex life now in one word, what would it be?
03:25Say it.
03:26No, no.
03:27Say it.
03:28I was going to say struggle.
03:30I mean that's how I would describe our sex life.
03:33That's not how I would describe our sex.
03:35I don't want to say violent because violent is not.
03:38Yeah, I would have to agree like when we have sex now,
03:40it's usually like we have a lot of energy to give to that moment
03:44because we haven't maybe had it in a while.
03:46So we just kind of like, you know, sorry neighbors.
03:51Don't say raw.
03:52Do not say raw.
03:54It's definitely exciting.
03:57We're like exploring new things.
03:59It's fun.
04:00It's really fun.
04:01Getting to that point where there's no judgment.
04:04That's the goal.
04:05You know, that's that beautiful little space that you have in a relationship.
04:09It's that, you know, that little bubble, like one unit together.
04:13I'm getting emotional over here.
04:14I know.
04:15I'm getting emotional.
04:15I'm like, like.
04:16You know, it's.
04:17I love it so much.
