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00:00How are you, my dear brothers and sisters? Well, Father Ernesto María Caro, to continue what
00:20They were already talking with Father Eduardo, Father Lalo already told us a little bit about it.
00:27Regarding the topic of marriage, which we will focus on in this first part of our participation
00:36in this project we have for you to prepare ourselves for the sacrament from the
00:43The spiritual point, which is the most important and the definitive one, because as he rightly said,
00:48I mean, this isn't a contract where, well, we sign another one, renew it, and that's it, right?
00:53In other words, what really happens in the sacrament is something completely spiritual, mysterious,
01:00Because being two, they will begin to truly be only one.
01:05And this, then, is something that God is going to do in you through the sacrament.
01:11However, the church also has a legal aspect,
01:17a part that makes up the form, which is what at a certain moment also distinguishes
01:24to the sacrament, the matter and the form, the form having validity, in such a way that the sacrament
01:30not only be lawful, but also be valid.
01:34And for that, an important part is the presentation.
01:39It's called a marriage presentation because that's where you'll submit your application.
01:44so that the church may marry them, give them the sacrament,
01:49Because ultimately, it is something that the church, as the financial administrator of the sacraments,
01:55Canon law says it gives them to the faithful when they approach to request them, appropriately.
02:02So, this is the presentation.
02:05Here I have this presentation that is used here in the Diocese of Monterrey,
02:09which has been practically standardized, not only throughout our pastoral area,
02:16but it is also being standardized throughout Mexico.
02:21And well, there will be some things that differentiate them.
02:26The Ecclesiastical Tribunal has therefore been very concerned about the number of cases that are being filed,
02:32Father Lalo also spoke to us about this topic, didn't he?
02:38So, you're making a decision that's not just for a little while,
02:41It's not for nothing, it's just that we love each other a lot, we like each other, right?
02:44It is something that implies, therefore, a commitment, which implies knowing exactly what we are going to do.
02:52"And why do we want to do it?" Father Lalo was just telling us.
02:55So, that's something we tried to delve into a bit, to really go deeper into what the presentation is.
03:04The idea in the presentation is to have the general information of each of the bride and groom.
03:13And they will also require, therefore, two witnesses each, who know them,
03:20at least, at least, about five, six or seven years.
03:25In other words, that they get to know them during their single life.
03:28And then now, well, at this moment when they are trying to get married
03:32so that they may bear witness primarily to freedom.
03:37In other words, they are getting married freely, and nobody is pressuring them.
03:41And that you, therefore, have shown before them, well, let's say, certain fundamental skills
03:49and above all also that his Christian life, therefore, is reasonably, therefore, consistent
03:57with the sacrament they are requesting.
03:59This document says more or less the following, right?
04:29It says, before the undersigned, that is, they are going to read it in front of the priest.
04:35He says, before the undersigned, in the presence of God and after having sworn to tell the truth, I state.
04:41First, I am aware that when I ask to celebrate the sacrament of marriage in the Catholic Church,
04:48I want to celebrate a marriage that can only be with the person I marry.
04:53That the marriage I want to celebrate is a sacrament
04:56and I assure you that I will not hide any impediment that stands in the way of this.
05:01Second, therefore, with this reciprocal commitment,
05:05I assure you that I will establish a sacred and unbreakable bond between us.
05:10that no one and nothing during life will be able to destroy.
05:15I wish to create a true community of life and love.
05:17in which we maintain mutual and total fidelity, being there for each other.
05:22I have not set any conditions contrary to the nature, purposes, or essential properties of marriage.
05:31I accept to proceed with a spirit of non-union and to commit myself to educating humanely and Christianly.
05:37to our children in the Catholic Church.
05:40The priest will ask, "Do you agree with all of this?"
05:44And so, ordinarily the couple will respond,
05:48Yes, first the groom will do it, then the bride, or vice versa.
05:52But we're nervous, we don't have much time
05:57and we don't really know what we're going to answer
06:01or what we are signing.
06:04Imagine you are signing the purchase of a house
06:07And you don't read the fine print that says the interest you're going to pay
06:12It's 25% annually and you sign it.
06:17In other words, it means you're going to finish paying for that house.
06:19Well, not you, probably your great-grandchildren will finish paying it off
06:24the billions upon billions of pesos
06:26that after 30 years of paying,
06:29because you'll never have made much progress in capital.
06:32But you signed it, you misread, you didn't know you were signing,
06:37Ah, yes, look, pass it on and boom, and sometimes this happens to us.
06:41So, that's why the idea that the goddess has proposed to us...
06:45It's about having this conversation where you can start having already
06:49a prior reflection on what they are going to read
06:53And when they read it, they'll know exactly what they're saying.
06:58and what they commit to, because this is what will make it valid.
07:02or invalidate their marriage.
07:04So, it's very important, and that's why the presentation
07:08It should ordinarily be done by a deacon
07:12or by a priest, so that we can try to help them
07:17to delve deeper into their answers.
07:19In this exercise we have done,
07:23after reviewing all these elements
07:26which are important in marriage,
07:28We conclude with this part of the presentation
07:31that you will find that, as part of your task,
07:36It will involve resolving some of these issues.
07:39that will have to be exchanged to get to know you a little better.
07:44In an area that is sometimes very personal
07:48and that does not always correspond to the truth of the sacrament
07:54that we want to review.
07:56So, for example, he was just talking to us
07:59of the essential points that they are going to resolve.
08:05They're going to ask them
08:06how long have they known each other
08:11And then they're going to ask them
08:13Do you think you know your boyfriend well enough?
08:18Because?
08:20Why do you think you know him well?
08:23Look, I'm 30 years old, 33 years old
08:27of working in the ecclesiastical court
08:29And in the end, my last 10 years have been as a judge
08:33And it's impressive to see in the statements
08:38of the bride and groom, of the married couple
08:40They are trying to determine whether their marriage was null or not.
08:44and says
08:44Father, it was someone else.
08:47I married someone else
08:49Change?
08:51No
08:51People don't change like that.
08:54That's who we are, but we hide who we truly are.
08:58Why do you think you know it well?
09:02Have you talked it through in depth?
09:04Where does our knowledge often go?
09:07Movies, lunches, dinners, outings
09:10Outings with friends
09:12And sometimes the time we have alone
09:14We dedicate them to kisses
09:16and sometimes for other things
09:17And all of that makes us believe
09:20that we know the other person
09:22Why do you think you know her?
09:25Why do you think you know
09:27The one you're going to marry?
09:32What moves your heart?
09:35Father Lalo was just telling us.
09:36What makes you want to get married?
09:39It's one of the questions the priest will ask you.
09:41So, why do you really want to marry her?
09:46What is your purpose in marrying her?
09:49What is life like in the family?
09:54where you live
09:57And what is her family like?
09:59It is a religious family
10:01very religious
10:02not religious
10:03There are arguments in the family
10:06The parents are divorced
10:08all this, even though it may seem
10:11that does not affect our marriages
10:14because finally
10:15have repercussions
10:17That's what we experienced.
10:18That's what we learned
10:19generally in families
10:22where they have divorced
10:25with greater ease
10:26It's because they already saw
10:27that they got divorced at home
10:29And that's good because it's possible
10:31to remarry
10:32many people today
10:33especially in this new generation
10:35because he has irregular marriages
10:38people who married someone else
10:40then with another
10:40And then, well, I lived with one.
10:42and I lived with another
10:42and this generates
10:45Well, that's a problem.
10:46that we wouldn't want you to live
10:49We got married forever
10:51because God created the sacrament
10:53so that it would become stronger
10:55the union of the two
10:56and could live
10:57all his life
10:59together
11:00They're going to ask you
11:02what is political life like?
11:03and how do you get along
11:04with your family
11:05policy
11:06Do you know them?
11:09Do you know the dad?
11:10to the mother
11:10sometimes
11:11We do everything
11:12from the door outwards
11:13that's where we came from
11:14Let's go to the movies
11:15Let's have dinner
11:15Let's eat
11:16etc.
11:17but really
11:18What is the family like?
11:20of that
11:21the one you're going to marry
11:22Because, well, as they say
11:25and popular sayings
11:26They're always absolutely right.
11:28We also got married
11:30with the family
11:31and the brothers
11:33the sisters
11:34my brothers-in-law
11:35my sisters-in-law
11:35my in-laws
11:37my mother-in-law
11:38how is
11:40They see that a lot of jokes are made
11:43and things like that
11:44about the mother-in-law
11:46who wants to continue
11:47protecting the child
11:48because there are
11:49a link is created
11:51well, very special
11:52among males
11:53the same thing is happening
11:55with you
11:55as boyfriend and girlfriend
11:57But it also happens
11:58in another measure
11:59and in another way
12:00but also with mom
12:02and then
12:03Mom wants to get involved
12:04because she's fond of her mother-in-law
12:06because she wants to stay involved
12:08on the subject of the son
12:10but in the same way
12:11the dad
12:12he wants to keep getting involved
12:14at the wedding
12:15of the daughter
12:16so
12:17we need to have
12:18This is very clear
12:20how we get along
12:22with what openness
12:24can we talk
12:26There are people who
12:28well
12:29He doesn't like her
12:31the groom
12:31or the bride
12:32and they make his life.
12:33checkered
12:34They're going to do it to her.
12:36later too
12:37so
12:38you know well
12:40to your family
12:40policy
12:41This leads us to
12:43to ask ourselves
12:44how mature
12:46do you think
12:47that you already are
12:48to make a commitment
12:50that is for life
12:51Maturity is required
12:54judgment
12:55understand clearly
12:57as he told us
12:58Father Lalo
12:59a little while ago
13:00understand well
13:01What am I doing?
13:03It's a commitment
13:04lifelong
13:05a commitment
13:06that it will bring
13:08for me
13:08many responsibilities
13:11not only
13:12for the children
13:14but with my spouse
13:15particularly
13:17And I need to know this.
13:19And I have to have
13:20the character
13:21the decision
13:22maturity
13:23to say
13:24I'm getting married
13:26I'm going from now on
13:29to participate
13:30of a relationship
13:32different
13:33What are you going to do to me?
13:34well grow
13:36He must help me
13:37to help me grow
13:38in my relationship
13:39with all
13:40the others
13:41that surround me
13:42but particularly
13:43with the person
13:43with whom I am
13:44marrying
13:45so
13:47really
13:48how well is known
13:49boys
13:50these exercises
13:52that we have come
13:53doing
13:53along
13:54of this
13:55from these talks
13:57prenuptial
13:58have intended
14:00a little bit of this
14:00that we get to know each other
14:02some more
14:03and that we understand
14:04with greater clarity
14:05What is marriage?
14:06so that we can
14:07finally
14:08say
14:09Yeah
14:10Yes, I accept you
14:12to you
14:12as my wife
14:13as my husband
14:15in prosperity
14:16and in adversity
14:18in health
14:20and in the disease
14:22and love you
14:24and respect you
14:26for two years
14:27No?
14:30by ten
14:30No
14:31lifetime
14:33siblings
14:34lifetime
14:35one day they will arrive
14:37to become old
14:38It makes me very sad
14:39marriages
14:41where
14:42well
14:43in the end
14:44you say
14:46Why don't they love each other anymore?
14:49Why don't they help each other anymore?
14:50Why are they no longer being treated?
14:52Why are they indifferent?
14:54Are they meant for each other?
14:54when love
14:55It should have been increasing
14:56so
14:57these questions
14:58are important
14:59They're going to be
15:01in the questionnaire
15:01that we are going to provide you
15:03and that is part of
15:04of our
15:05of our training
15:07so that
15:08review it
15:09in company
15:10from your boyfriend
15:11or your girlfriend
15:12and go
15:13trying to see
15:15in which areas
15:16They would still need
15:16make some adjustments
15:18other questions
15:20that come
15:21inside
15:22of the presentation
15:23and that have been added
15:24is
15:24Why do you want to get married?
15:26Through the church?
15:27It's my turn to see
15:28so when
15:29I review
15:31the presentation
15:33because in the presentation
15:34comes
15:34if you go to mass
15:35How often do you go to mass?
15:36etc.
15:37No?
15:37and I find myself
15:38with people
15:39that
15:40well what does it have
15:42years of not going to mass
15:43of not confessing
15:44then I tell him
15:45let's see
15:45Why do you want to get married?
15:46Through the church?
15:49What motivates you?
15:50Father Lalo said
15:51because of the white dress
15:53from the photos
15:55of the church
15:55because it looks
15:56Everything is very nice.
15:57because
15:58he told us
15:59because that's how
16:00it gets used to
16:01in my family
16:01Why you?
16:04Why are you?
16:05Do you want to get married?
16:06Through the church?
16:08the church
16:09It's going to give you
16:09a sacrament
16:10and that sacrament
16:12It's going to give you
16:13a series of thanks
16:14What are the thanks
16:16of the sacrament?
16:17Do you know?
16:18What are the thanks?
16:19of the sacrament?
16:21sacrament
16:21each sacrament
16:22it gives us
16:23different elements
16:24for life
16:25the sacrament
16:26It gives us two
16:27it gives us
16:27wisdom
16:30in order to be able to
16:31educate
16:32and in order to be able to
16:33solve
16:33the multiple
16:35and complex
16:36situations
16:36that are presented to us
16:37in married life
16:38But on the other hand
16:40it gives us
16:40the gift
16:41of a love
16:42which is love
16:44completely faithful
16:45perfect
16:46That's the one he's referring to
16:47Paul in his letter
16:48to the Corinthians
16:49a love that believes everything
16:50everything awaits
16:51It can withstand anything.
16:52a love that never fades
16:54but that's all
16:56Pull if you live in grace
16:57that is to say
16:57if you come to mass
16:58and you confess
16:59and communions and prayers
17:00I'm going to put you
17:01an example
17:02Imagine that right now
17:04that you're getting married
17:05are you going to buy
17:06a refrigerator
17:07and it shows you
17:09a refrigerator
17:10two-door
17:11beautiful
17:11all
17:12and makes ice cubes
17:13and well
17:13all these wonders
17:15It shows you
17:16and it convinces you
17:17and you say
17:17This is
17:18the fridge I want
17:20Very well, sir.
17:21Well, it starts to do it
17:22the order
17:23there the young lady
17:23or the young man
17:24who is helping you
17:25it tells you
17:25And where should I send it?
17:27He says, "Then send it to me."
17:28to the three dogs ranch
17:30Oh dear
17:31the three dogs ranch
17:32and where is it
17:33the three dogs ranch
17:34says no
17:35there then by mamulí
17:36who gets involved
17:36and then he gives it to him
17:37inside
17:37about 6 or 7 kilometers
17:38until a little white house
17:40and then from there
17:40That's another 8 kilometers
17:41inside
17:42Hey friend
17:45and there at the ranch
17:47three dogs
17:47you have
17:48electric light
17:50No
17:51we there
17:52the five-year periods
17:53good dad
17:53Listen
17:54It won't do him any good
17:56It won't do him any good
17:58the fridge
17:58It needs electricity.
18:00first you need
18:01connect it to electricity
18:02and not
18:03It's going to have a refrigerator
18:04marvelous
18:05But if it doesn't have
18:06electric current
18:07It doesn't work
18:07exactly the same
18:10It happens in marriage
18:11two thanks
18:12which are fundamental
18:14imagine
18:15with the topic
18:16fashion
18:17There are Carlitos
18:18It's difficult.
18:21hear
18:21the topic
18:21of fidelity
18:22I tell them
18:23thirty
18:23and three years
18:25in court
18:26They don't tell me about it
18:28it's stuffy
18:30but
18:31but
18:31you live
18:31a life
18:32relationship
18:33strong
18:33with God
18:34It's going to be
18:37very difficult
18:37that your fridge
18:38Pull
18:38if you don't
18:40You are connected
18:41to Mr.
18:41It's not going to work.
18:42they have to be
18:44good Christians
18:46Do you consider yourself
18:50a good Christian
18:51Are you going to mass?
18:54You confess
18:55you take communion
18:56you read the writing
18:58You make an effort
19:00for living
19:01life
19:02that has proposed
19:03the Lord
19:03brother
19:05sister
19:05It's time
19:07before your wedding
19:08After that, it gets really complicated.
19:10things start to get complicated
19:11many things
19:11Start now
19:13because still
19:14They have a time
19:15during this period
19:16dating
19:17what they have left
19:17for a start
19:18to strengthen
19:19his spiritual life
19:20Believe me
19:21It's really difficult.
19:23very difficult
19:24keep
19:25a marriage
19:26above all
19:27at this time
19:27if you don't carry
19:29a relationship
19:30It would be with God.
19:31They're going to fight
19:32lot
19:33They're going to ask them
19:36about responsibilities
19:38and obligations
19:39We read it there
19:42if I am willing
19:43And do you know what they are?
19:43the obligations
19:44It's not just about maintaining
19:45and clean the house
19:46It's about giving her love.
19:48to the couple
19:49It's about making her happy.
19:50I tell them
19:51at weddings
19:52from now on
19:54your main obligation
19:55and commitment
19:56It's about making people happy.
19:57this woman
19:58and you
19:59make happy
19:59this man
20:00That is your commitment
20:01and in that
20:02you will have to apply
20:03your whole life
20:04all your love
20:06because that is
20:07a commitment
20:08make happy
20:09to the other person
20:10and not simply
20:11well take him
20:12money
20:13and everything else
20:14on the topic
20:16of fidelity
20:17It's not about
20:18nothing else
20:19to be faithful to him
20:20and say
20:20well, no
20:21I'm not in a relationship
20:23with no one
20:23sometimes they know
20:24with whom he is faithful
20:25says
20:25total loyalty
20:27says
20:29totally faithful
20:31There are people
20:32There are people
20:32who is unfaithful
20:34to her husband
20:35or to his wife
20:36now the two
20:36who work
20:37because they are fascinated
20:38the work
20:39and then
20:41prefer to stay
20:42to work
20:42and do
20:43and create
20:44and all that stuff
20:44and then they offer them
20:46jobs where
20:47They are going to travel
20:48and all this kind
20:48of topics
20:49Hey, and the wife
20:51and the husband
20:53They never go out
20:55They've already forgotten
20:57be engaged
20:58obviously
21:00that too
21:01is
21:01infidelity
21:03It is a
21:07sacred union
21:08says
21:08the text says
21:09he explained to us
21:11clearly
21:11the father
21:12Eduardo
21:12about
21:14from this
21:15what goes
21:16to occur
21:16It's not a signature
21:18before a notary
21:19nor this
21:21that they are signing
21:22They are signing it
21:23in front of
21:24of God
21:25They are signing it
21:25in front of
21:26of a minister
21:26But this will not be cancelled
21:28nothing
21:28this only
21:29the only thing it tells us
21:30the thing is
21:30if you know
21:32What are you getting into?
21:33if you understand
21:33What is this about?
21:35if you're preparing
21:36if you are a good Christian
21:38Yeah
21:39Well, we see
21:40the
21:40the possibility
21:41so I don't have to wait for you
21:43in two or three
21:44or four years
21:45that
21:46Well, now visit
21:47the ecclesiastical court
21:49No
21:51we want
21:52that your marriage
21:53be
21:53forever
21:55because this
21:56It's a commitment
21:57What are you going to do?
21:58before God
21:59the day you get married
22:01It is a union
22:02sacred
22:03what God joined together
22:05man does not separate them
22:07That's why
22:08we cannot separate it
22:09people then say
22:10father, I want
22:11that the church divorce me
22:12there are no divorces
22:13in the church
22:14There may be nullity
22:16marriage
22:17that is to say
22:17never existed
22:18because they didn't happen
22:19the conditions
22:20so that it would happen
22:21But there's no divorce.
22:23the sacrament
22:25done
22:25that has
22:26all the elements
22:27validity
22:28it is a sacrament
22:30and the church
22:30you can't separate them
22:32because?
22:32because it is a bond
22:34sacred
22:35It's a link
22:36sacred
22:37and finally
22:39well
22:40about the properties
22:42of marriage
22:43Christian
22:43I mean
22:44You say you know
22:45You're going to sign
22:45this paper
22:46that says
22:47that you know
22:48which are
22:49the properties
22:51of marriage
22:52Christian
22:52She didn't explain them anymore.
22:54right now
22:54Father Eduardo
22:56the unit
22:59uniqueness
23:00that is to say
23:00I'm getting married, that's all.
23:01with her
23:01or with him
23:02everything else
23:04excellent
23:05my parents
23:05my friends
23:06how beautiful
23:07Everyone can help me
23:08and we can all receive advice
23:09But things
23:11You two will solve them.
23:12uniqueness
23:13you and I
23:15one thing
23:16and complementarity
23:18We are different
23:20we have become
23:21to complement each other
23:23and from there
23:24the topic
23:25that I explain to them
23:26in the presentation
23:27I tell them
23:27because many people
23:29I mean
23:29these talks
23:30Now they're going to help
23:31a lot
23:32people
23:32when I arrive
23:33to the presentation
23:34It's going to have it soon
23:34all this instruction
23:36which it doesn't have right now
23:37I put them on
23:38this example
23:39which is complementarity
23:41Let's see you
23:42I tell the bride
23:43How many marbles do you have?
23:45no
23:46three
23:47and you
23:47No, I have five.
23:48very good
23:49now
23:50Let's put them all together
23:52very good
23:54you
23:54I tell my girlfriend
23:55how many do you have
23:55three
23:56and five
23:57well, eight no
23:58exact
23:59and you
24:00eight
24:01each one put
24:03everything I had
24:04Some have more than one thing
24:07another has more of something else
24:08But the thing now is
24:09complement each other
24:11You are missing
24:12And I'm missing things
24:14we're going to
24:15complement each other
24:16and this requires
24:17to give
24:19the one
24:19to the other
24:20if we don't realize
24:22each other
24:22we will not be able to
24:24complement each other
24:25and then
24:26marriage
24:27will tend
24:27towards failure
24:29and finally
24:30the last part
24:32which presents us
24:34he
24:34the firm
24:37of the letter of intent
24:39It's about
24:39the topic
24:40of the children
24:41already too
24:42I was playing it
24:43the father
24:44It is about
24:45of one
24:46of the ends
24:47of marriage
24:48It is procreation
24:51so
24:52at this end
24:53of procreation
24:54well we
24:55we have to
24:56be
24:57as he said
24:58clearly
24:59open
25:00to life
25:00how many children
25:02have
25:03well everyone
25:05those of us who can
25:06two
25:07three
25:07four
25:08five
25:08six
25:08seven
25:09Well, I don't know.
25:10those of us who can
25:11how many will we be able to
25:12Well, I don't know.
25:12first let's see
25:13if we can one
25:14There are couples who can't
25:15not one
25:15But it is important
25:17that we see
25:19how many
25:20can
25:21this
25:22They're going to see it
25:23or have you already seen it?
25:24in the conversation
25:25of procreation
25:28And they'll see
25:29which is wonderful
25:30the power to give life
25:31I mean
25:32It's a gift
25:33that the parents
25:34they give him a gift
25:35to the son
25:36and that gift
25:37that they give him
25:38to the son
25:38it will allow you
25:39some day
25:40with the help
25:41of you
25:42and the entire community
25:43reach heaven
25:44and live eternally
25:45with God
25:46then I would like
25:47invite them
25:49we're going to leave them
25:50these questionnaires
25:52there
25:52in their
25:53at work
25:56that they have to do
25:57I invite you
25:58that
25:58fill them
26:00each
26:00for their part
26:01and then
26:02They have to share them
26:03and
26:04try to see
26:05if there are differences
26:07if there are no differences
26:08and what could they do
26:10to improve
26:11all these aspects
26:12that I have mentioned
26:13which are
26:14fundamentals
26:15in life
26:15of a Christian marriage
26:17I wish you
26:19the best
26:19One of the best
26:20that the Lord
26:21bless abundantly
26:23their marriage
26:23and that they be
26:24of marriages
26:25where it already is
26:26the old man
26:27It's already passing
26:28and the old lady
26:29And there goes the old man
26:30and moves his chair
26:31and tells him
26:31my life
26:32You look so beautiful
26:33his heart
26:35still loves her
26:36and keep taking care of her
26:38and continue to protect her
26:40It remains
26:41love
26:42of his life
26:42I wish
26:44and we can arrive
26:45to have again
26:46many marriages
26:48as they existed
26:49a long time ago
26:50and that each time
26:51we see less
26:52because we have left
26:53sideways
26:54the Christian life
26:55that the Lord
26:56May He bless you abundantly
26:57boys
26:58and take it seriously
27:00all this
27:00Because believe me
27:02This depends on it
27:03their happiness
27:04Blessings to you.
27:06See you next time!
27:10Thanks for watching the video.