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00:00How's it going? Well, once again, to wrap this up a bit, shall we? We've been seeing
00:20So there is a force within us that pushes us towards selfishness, that we have a
00:27A materialistic world that fuels my selfishness, and that selfishness is the force that will end
00:36destroying my marriage, because selfishness opposes love and ends up destroying, like
00:46We saw it in our last video; it ends up destroying the "us." It's the "us" that
00:51At the end of life, it makes us one and allows us to enjoy each other's joys, and also
00:57of their sorrows. It makes us truly feel part of the other person. I was telling them these things.
01:05Terrible marriage cases, right? I was saying how there are very few couples, two or
01:12Three, who are happy in old age, right? That little old lady who's with the little old man and they see each other
01:18They're cute and they're seen kissing and going out together and walking together, when they've already left and you
01:24You suddenly see them on trips, right? People aged 65, 70 or older who are truly
01:31You see them happy, not those people who are like, "Oh, talk to your dad," or whatever.
01:36Hey, dude, what's up with this? I mean, they sometimes put up with it their whole lives and they're not...
01:44They're not happy, are they? And what's going on? You, who are watching this video right now,
01:51No, Father, it won't happen to us, it won't happen to me, look, I love this woman
01:57Even so, I would jump off the balcony right now for her and she for me, it's not going to happen to me.
02:04I would ask them, "Are you sure it won't happen to you?" That's how everyone started, I mean, nobody.
02:12She would marry her enemy; nobody would get married if they weren't, well, let's say, somewhat convinced.
02:20He loves her, right? Or wants to love her. The problem is, can we sustain this for more than two weeks?
02:30Or two months, or two years? Can we sustain it for our entire lives? And be truly happy?
02:40Because if right now, I imagine that you're happy with your girlfriend or boyfriend, you'll get married
02:47To be even happier. And if this is true, then you'll be happier every day, won't you?
02:56Because you're happier now than when you first started dating, and that's why you've decided to get married.
03:01Wouldn't it be the same in marriage? And why isn't its function that way?
03:05Because the devil is an enemy of this and will try by all means to make your selfishness grow.
03:16He's going to put you in a difficult position, and today he's going to put a lot in front of you to make this fail.
03:22At the beginning, in our first video, I introduced you to these three great enemies, right?
03:26The issue of sex, on the other hand, the issue of shopping, and on the other hand, the issue of addictions, right?
03:33So you think, no, it won't happen to me. Well, don't be so sure, will you?
03:42In other words, unfortunately, a significant portion of our young people today build their lives on very fragile foundations.
03:52which, obviously, will spoil them.
03:56The real cause of failure, my brothers, is the lack of God in your marriages.
04:01In what I've told you about my work in court,
04:09I saw so many cases, how many? I don't know, but a thousand, more than a thousand, I don't know exactly how many, so many.
04:1633 years seeing cases, marriages.
04:19And I have found two common elements.
04:24One, which is not the case in all instances, that is, there are marriages that fail anyway,
04:29But in almost all cases, in a good number of cases, it is having sex before marriage.
04:36That is a cause that appears in a large number of the cases I saw.
04:40But I saw cases where, like the first case I told you about, they hadn't had relationships and they failed.
04:48But there is another one that is, or was, in all of them that I saw over 33 years.
04:56The absence of God in his life.
04:59One or both.
05:03With a relationship that is either very weak or nonexistent.
05:06They don't go to mass, they don't confess, they don't take communion, they don't read the Bible, they have no relationship with God.
05:16And God, brothers, God is the source of love.
05:22If we do not have a good relationship with God, we have a very high chance of failing.
05:30But very high.
05:31Because selfishness will win.
05:33You know it, because you are already experiencing it.
05:39Hey, come with me, let's go.
05:40No, it's just that I have one with some friends.
05:43There's Carlitos.
05:46That's total selfishness.
05:47Okay, so let's go, shall we?
05:49There are many things that are working right now.
05:51So they are keeping us in this relationship.
05:56But as a married couple.
05:58Things change.
05:59I tell them a lot in these talks.
06:02Married life has nothing to do with dating life.
06:08It's something else.
06:10Dating is certainly an exercise.
06:13Where we can more or less assess and have some points that balance each other out.
06:19But married life, that's another story.
06:25So, if we don't have a good relationship with God right now as a couple...
06:32If everyone says no, well, then yes, I do believe in God.
06:37But you don't really know God.
06:41You do not feed on God.
06:43You don't have a relationship with God.
06:45You have no fear of God.
06:47Well then, this isn't going to work, believe me.
06:50It's not going to work.
06:51And if it works, then they'll go for it.
06:55Until finally, well, we'll continue with him.
07:00We didn't get divorced, but oh well.
07:04I recently made some good friends.
07:05Good friends.
07:07The man came to talk to me.
07:12To say, look, I want you to know, right?
07:15But, well, look, it's been almost a year now that we've been living as friends.
07:24We moved back to our rooms about six or seven months ago.
07:27Each one already, already, this one, their children already married, etc.
07:33And, he says, we have a good relationship.
07:36But things have already become tense.
07:38So I came to tell you that, well, I'm going to separate from her.
07:42So, okay, we're going to sign the divorce papers.
07:46I'm going to move to another house.
07:47We are good friends.
07:48We handle it well.
07:50We handle kids' issues very well.
07:52In other words, their children are already married.
07:55Then, sparks.
07:58To end life like this, right?
08:02What happened there?
08:03Unfortunately, the absence of God.
08:11Often, the absence of God in the beginnings of marriage.
08:18Very serious mistakes that are made due to the lack of God in the first years of marriage
08:23that will have repercussions throughout your life.
08:28And that sometimes they are incurable.
08:31In other words, there is no way to heal them anymore.
08:36There really has to be a miracle.
08:38But there needs to be a great deal of cooperation from both sides.
08:42And sometimes, even so, in cases that I see, I say, wow, how difficult, right?
08:49Because hearts are left deeply wounded.
08:51That's why I told them that love, love doesn't go away.
08:55We killed him badly.
08:56And then, those stabs, those wounds we inflict on our spouse,
09:03We can't always get them back, can we?
09:08So, that's why it's important that now, as you are about to begin your lives,
09:14Now that they are finishing preparing their lives for marriage,
09:20Check these things out, guys.
09:25Because it's more difficult once you're married.
09:29Life gets complicated much more easily.
09:32It's best to start now with everything that can help us in married life.
09:40And one of them is making the decision to live a life firmly rooted in the Lord.
09:47We won't function without her.
09:50Because life is constantly changing.
09:54The sacrament, the sacrament of us, operates as...
10:00Look, I'm going to show you this little graph that, well, I always try to make into something.
10:04It's like illustrating some things, isn't it?
10:07If you look at this graph, you'll see that the teeth on the two parts don't match perfectly.
10:15Almost, many of them are.
10:16In other words, there is a yes and there is an I.
10:18So, you've now found someone who more or less fits in with you.
10:24But not perfectly.
10:26And then there's a little peak that...
10:28Because there's no hole there for this beak to fit into.
10:35And it itches, and it itches, and it itches, and it itches.
10:38Until you say...
10:39Hey, that's enough.
10:41Well.
10:42The grace of the sacrament, to illustrate it in some way,
10:46It serves as a dock.
10:48So, life goes on, right?
10:50Oh, and there were some problems, and the issue of the economy, and the children, and no, and if the permits, and no the permits.
10:56And if the in-laws, and not the in-laws, are moving.
11:02No problem.
11:04The grace of the sacrament will keep them together, right?
11:09It's like something that sticks to us, unites us, but isn't rigid; it allows for negotiation.
11:17that understanding, that light, which at a given moment, makes me give way to one side or the other,
11:25so that this doesn't, bam! break.
11:29We don't have this.
11:30God is not present in us.
11:34The sacrament, I'm using this same image,
11:36Imagine it's a rubber that, when it doesn't have, well, the oil, well, it becomes rigid, it becomes hard.
11:48And bam! It breaks.
11:50So, it always has to be good, I'll put it that way, right?
11:54Greased, it needs to be moistened, call it what you want,
11:58so that it is soft enough to act as a spring.
12:02If it gets tough, that's as far as you'll go.
12:05So, that's the great secret of marriage.
12:11That is why we must be firmly rooted in the Lord.
12:16And there are several elements that are the great pillars,
12:20They are like three great pillars on which you have to build your marriage.
12:26The word of God, prayer, and sacramental life.
12:33Because?
12:33Because happiness is a path that must be followed.
12:38But along the way you will encounter many obstacles.
12:41And suddenly you come across a rock.
12:44And what happens if you're walking along the road in the dark?
12:49Well, you'll realize there's a rock when I have a broken nose.
12:52Pah! Ow!
12:53There was a stone there.
12:56But what if you bring a small lamp?
12:58Ah!
12:59You'll see the stone there.
13:03Yeah?
13:03You need light, and prayer will give you that light.
13:07Yeah?
13:08Through prayer you will see the stone and say,
13:10Hey Carlitos, there's a rock up ahead.
13:12Then you'll approach him calmly.
13:16But well, I have a stumbling block, it's a stone.
13:20And how do I remove that stone?
13:24I jump it, I surround it, I dynamite it.
13:29What do I do about this problem that's arising?
13:33I already saw it.
13:35The prayer allows me to see the problem.
13:37But now I need a manual.
13:39It's called the Bible.
13:40The Bible contains all the problems that can happen in your life.
13:45And the solutions are coming.
13:46God could not send us to war without a rifle.
13:49So, well, he gave us an instruction manual.
13:54Sir, when you come across a stone this size,
13:56of these qualities and from this nothingness,
13:58What it needs is to blow it up.
14:00Oh, Carlitos!
14:02Well, let's go find the dynamite because it says here that he wants to blow it up.
14:06No, when you find a rock like that, it's so big, you won't be able to.
14:09Now, we recommend you avoid it.
14:14No, it's a small stone.
14:17Let the man jump, then, why does he get entangled?
14:22Okay, I'll get my manual out.
14:24I have a problem with my wife, with my children, with my parents, with my in-laws.
14:28So, Lord, what does your word say?
14:32What does your word say?
14:34And there I have the manual.
14:36And well, I know how.
14:37Okay.
14:39I need to move it.
14:43Oh, wow!
14:43Well, but it's really heavy.
14:46What do I do?
14:46Ah, well, I need strength!
14:48Where does the strength come from?
14:50It comes from the sacraments.
14:52There are many decisions that will require a lot of tact.
14:56You already saw the problem.
14:58You already know how to solve it.
15:01But it scares you.
15:03And you don't want to join in?
15:04The sacrament will always give you the strength to overcome it, right?
15:13The Eucharist, primarily, and reconciliation.
15:16To always be in God's grace and to feed on the bread that gives life
15:19These will be the elements that will give strength to your life
15:22so that you can succeed, brother, in your marriage.
15:27And to succeed is to be happy.
15:29A couple that reaches old age happy is a couple that has triumphed.
15:34Saint Paul, when he writes, and with this I want to say goodbye to you,
15:40Saint Paul, at the end of his life, writing to his apostle Timothy,
15:44The second letter, chapter 4, tells him,
15:47I have reached the goal, the end of the road.
15:52I have fought the good fight.
15:55I have kept the faith.
15:57Now all that remains for me is to receive from God the crown He has promised me.
16:02And that's what I'm telling you today, brother.
16:05Fight the good fight.
16:08Reaching the end of the road.
16:10It's going to be a battle.
16:11It's going to be difficult.
16:13But if you keep the love,
16:16The crown will be your happiness and that of your spouse,
16:21that has no name and no price.
16:26In the end, you'll be in heaven, enjoying yourself.
16:30And you will say to the Lord, Lord,
16:33You were right.
16:35With you, everything is possible.
16:38We triumphed.
16:39So, well, then,
16:41I invite you to now look at these three elements
16:45in a detailed way
16:47throughout our training program
16:50so you can know how important they are
16:53and how to experience it as a couple.
16:56Our partners will let each other know.
16:58What have these three elements done and how have they lived?
17:02to achieve complete happiness.
17:04May the Lord bless you
17:06and that you may have a very successful marriage
17:09in which, then, at the end of life
17:11may you be completely happy.
17:14Blessings and enjoy your courtship
17:18and of her marriage.
17:20See you around.