00:00Hello, dear brothers and sisters. Welcome back to Knowing in order to Love.
00:05We are finishing up resolving a very interesting issue regarding premarital relationships.
00:11a topic that our sister Marisela has suggested to us,
00:16which asks us why sexual relations outside of marriage are not allowed,
00:23with boyfriends, friends, etc.
00:30And well, to conclude, we will say that when the bride and groom, or young people in general,
00:47They fail to discover the heart of their partner, so they remain focused on the superficial.
00:52on the surface, in what their senses bring them.
00:56Sex is very appealing, like warm cookies.
01:00But they damage the couple's relationship, even more so in marriage.
01:05Many couples enter marriage without knowing each other's hearts.
01:09The only thing they had time for was to get to know her body.
01:14And this, over time, wears down and deteriorates.
01:18This happens especially in men, who are by nature more selfish.
01:22And if the woman doesn't help him overcome his selfishness, he will end up making her suffer a lot.
01:30In this way, courtship becomes an encounter not of two hearts seeking each other,
01:35that understand each other, that love each other, but in two bodies that desire each other.
01:41Consequences.
01:42Marriage will be based on sex.
01:47The problem is that sex is too weak to sustain a lifelong relationship.
01:52When sexual stimulation decreases, they begin to distance themselves.
01:57And since they have no other point of contact than the bed, the marriage usually fails.
02:03Just to give you an idea of the effects of this problem,
02:07I'm telling you that of the marriages that are presented before the ecclesiastical tribunal
02:11so that its cause of annulment may be reviewed,
02:13More than 70% have had premarital relations.
02:19This gives us a constant.
02:22As you can see, it's more than a moral and religious issue,
02:25which of course it is, because it violates a sacred commandment of our Lord,
02:31but it has very profound human consequences
02:37which God has willed that we not experience
02:42And He wanted to warn us with the sixth commandment, telling us,
02:49Don't do it, don't do it, because the day you do it you will die, you will suffer.
02:56In men, sexual relations, in addition to procreation,
03:00which is one of its main values
03:03and that in premarital relationships there is no or should not be any,
03:07because this will bring even more devastating consequences for the couple,
03:12It has the objective of complementarity,
03:15something that doesn't happen in a dating relationship or a friendship,
03:19which makes it a selfish act, not an act of love as you say.
03:23on both sides that they are only seeking pleasure.
03:27If we do this in this way, we would be
03:30only like animals in which the sexual relationship
03:34It has no other meaning than procreation.
03:38In humans, it's something that plans, that communicates love,
03:43that unites, that generates human life,
03:46But for all these effects and elements inherent to the relationship to occur,
03:51It must be performed within the framework of marriage.
03:54This is what God thought when He created us different, oriented and capable of love and procreation.
04:01I know that the temptation of youth, and well, also of not just youth, is strong,
04:07But if we want to live not only in grace, but in deep peace with God,
04:13that helps us to live according to his plan,
04:16We must work on resignation.
04:18For this purpose, prayer and our voluntary penitential practices are the most powerful weapons.
04:25to combat something that is very beautiful,
04:29but it requires certain conditions to be as God intended.
04:34Saint Paul tells us,
04:35Everything is permitted to me, but not everything is beneficial.
04:41We must wait for sexual pleasure to be a true gift from God to the couple.
04:47and not a fruit that, like Adam and Eve, they snatch from the hands of the devil,
04:53a fruit that rots in our hands without us ever fully enjoying it.
04:58As you can see, my dear sister,
05:01The intimate relationship between lovers, far from being a real expression of love,
05:06It is selfishness, even if it is coated with a veneer of love.
05:10True love is shown in renunciation.
05:15I don't know if this will clear up your doubt a little.
05:18It's a mysterious subject, as you can see, because it has to do not only with pleasure,
05:22but with the person's entire life.
05:25It cannot be used for playing or for fun.
05:28It's a very serious matter.
05:30Here, above all, he comes in.
05:32Do I believe in God or not?
05:36If God tells me this is wrong,
05:38even though I don't quite understand why it's bad,
05:41I believe him, I love him, and I obey him.
05:46And although I really like warm cookies,
05:50I'm not going to eat them.
05:52I hope this helps us all
05:55and to always walk in obedience to the law.
05:59Well, that's all for this catechesis.
06:02See you at our next meeting.
06:04Until then.
06:15Until next time!
