00:00How are you, my dear brothers and sisters? I'm back with you again in this "Knowing to Love" section with these short videos.
00:06that seek to answer the questions of so many people who write to us from all over Latin America.
00:13If you have any questions that I haven't answered in this section, if this is the second season,
00:20We have a first season, so maybe before writing to us, check if I haven't already answered this question.
00:28If you see that I haven't resolved it, then write to us with complete confidence at the email address that is currently appearing on your screen.
00:34so that we can give you an answer in due course and thus help so many people who have doubts about their faith
00:47And through these short videos we want to solve them.
00:50Well, now we have a question from Luis from Quito, Ecuador.
00:58We greet all our brothers and sisters there in Ecuador and ask us,
01:04Father, when a Catholic has a very intimate love experience with another woman who is not his wife
01:11And as a result of that love, a child is born; I believe that at that moment a very great responsibility of love is created.
01:18both towards the son and the mother.
01:22In these cases, I don't think the simple answer should be to just give the child what they need financially to live.
01:30And let her sort it out, as a wife might say, right?
01:35I think this person should, out of love for his son and his wife,
01:39not only to assist her financially, but also emotionally with all the love and support possible
01:47so that the child and that woman can find fulfillment in the fullness of the couple.
01:51Of course, without neglecting the responsibility she has towards her wife and her own children.
01:57I would greatly appreciate your feedback.
02:18What questions, gentlemen?
02:21It's a very important, very interesting question, which we'll be able to answer in two periods.
02:29Because it's a rather complex issue, very important because unfortunately this happens very frequently.
02:40And well, my dear Luis and dear brothers, I appreciate this question.
02:44Well, as I was saying earlier, it's something that happens very frequently.
02:48And I hope that the answer can shed light on the situation for our brother Luis, as well as for so many other people who are living through this experience.
02:55And well, I'll start by saying that the answer to this question is not as simple as it seems.
03:03Well, in the example Luis proposes, there are some morally contradictory situations that cannot be accepted.
03:11I begin by saying that the person is a Catholic who has a very intimate experience of love.
03:17with a woman who is not his wife.
03:21I think that if he truly is a Catholic, then he should never have been attracted to another woman.
03:26and much less to the point of having intimacy with her.
03:30Saying "a very intimate love" is nothing more than a euphemism to mask the sin of adultery.
03:36On this point Jesus is absolutely clear, for he said
03:41Have you heard that it was said?
03:45You shall not commit adultery.
03:48Well, I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman with desire...
03:52He has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
03:56Today we allow friendships with married people
04:00continue down paths that are not typical of truly authentic friends.
04:06Signs of affection or intimacy begin to appear.
04:11that are only typical of marriages.
04:14Therefore, in a short time, they find themselves in situations of sin and even adultery.
04:20These types of attitudes and behaviors create the perfect breeding ground for infidelity.
04:27This is done through these acts that are contrary to the relationship
04:32and to the commitment of fidelity that was previously established with the spouse.
04:36Commitments that were made before God.
04:41This trust and closeness is wrong, even if we initially have very good intentions.
04:47One starts because one wants to support, help, encourage, comfort, listen, give encouragement, etc.
04:54This person is going through a difficult situation, but it's going to get even more complicated.
05:00In other words, it's wrong because we must remember that we already have a total commitment.
05:05towards the person we love and we must honor that commitment.
05:10Additionally, becoming emotionally or romantically involved with other people can easily lead us into inappropriate situations.
05:22neither for us, nor for our spouse, nor for the person with whom we are in the process of becoming involved.
05:30We want to help her, but we're going to end up in a situation that we won't be able to handle afterwards.
05:37If we truly want to please God, we must completely sever this relationship.
05:42and thus avoid the serious consequences that will involve innocent people, such as children.
05:51On the other hand, the relationship from which a child was born was an adulterous relationship, rejected and questioned by Jesus.
06:00However, the child, the product of this relationship, certainly does not have to pay for this sin.
06:07It is the duty of anyone who commits a wrong to remedy the harm caused by their actions and decisions.
06:12Therefore, the father must provide the child with what is necessary for him to grow and develop healthily and properly.
06:23in the economic and emotional aspects as well.
06:27But you cannot maintain a stable and lasting relationship, forbidden by Jesus, with the person with whom you committed adultery.
06:36How could we morally justify, from a Christian perspective, a person leading a double life?
06:42and support two marriages in one way or another?
06:46Is it because he loves them both?
06:49This goes completely against what Christ preached and what is accepted by morality.
06:55As you can see, it's not easy and there certainly has to be a separation from the person with whom the adultery was committed.
07:07All of this is difficult and challenging, but it is the word of God.
07:12And well, we haven't finished yet.
07:14We will continue with this topic in our next segment.
07:17I hope you will join me so we can finish and conclude this delicate and difficult topic which, as I said, sadly happens quite frequently.
07:28Until next time, and thank you for joining us.
07:47Thank you!
